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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore  |
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Not a couple anymore, but my ex partner told me he had swung in the past. He didn't bring it up as a way to get me swinging... It was just an admission. At first I was shocked and needed some time to process, because, like most people being introduced to the subject for the first time, I had preconceptions and wild images in my head. But... I'm a naturally curious person, and even if I think something might not be for me, that doesn't mean I want to judge based on preconceptions and assumptions, so I brought the subject up with him again next time we spoke, told him I wanted to know more, and had my questions ready. He didn't go into graphic details, he didn't give away anyone's secrets, he just gave me a broad outline of his experiences both as part of a couple in the past, and as a single, and we actually had a laugh over some of the notions I'd had in my head about swinging. A week or two later, I decided I'd like to give it a try, and mentioned it to him, and naturally being a man, he thought all his Christmases had come at once and he set up our joint profile that night 
If you've mentioned swinging to your partner and they're uncomfortable even discussing it, they probably will never be comfortable with it and are probably quite resentful every time you even bring up the subject. They may even feel they're being badgered. If your partner is genuinely interested and curious, they'll bring the subject up again themselves  |
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We've been honest with each other about everything from the start. When discussing fantasies one night,Lee said we should try it and I set up a profile on fab the next day  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not a couple anymore, but my ex partner told me he had swung in the past. He didn't bring it up as a way to get me swinging... It was just an admission. At first I was shocked and needed some time to process, because, like most people being introduced to the subject for the first time, I had preconceptions and wild images in my head. But... I'm a naturally curious person, and even if I think something might not be for me, that doesn't mean I want to judge based on preconceptions and assumptions, so I brought the subject up with him again next time we spoke, told him I wanted to know more, and had my questions ready. He didn't go into graphic details, he didn't give away anyone's secrets, he just gave me a broad outline of his experiences both as part of a couple in the past, and as a single, and we actually had a laugh over some of the notions I'd had in my head about swinging. A week or two later, I decided I'd like to give it a try, and mentioned it to him, and naturally being a man, he thought all his Christmases had come at once and he set up our joint profile that night
If you've mentioned swinging to your partner and they're uncomfortable even discussing it, they probably will never be comfortable with it and are probably quite resentful every time you even bring up the subject. They may even feel they're being badgered. If your partner is genuinely interested and curious, they'll bring the subject up again themselves "
Thanks for advise
I’ll never bring it up with her again as I know swinging isn’t for her
Am just curious how it all happened for others |
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"We've been honest with each other about everything from the start. When discussing fantasies one night,Lee said we should try it and I set up a profile on fab the next day
Ya see this is what I taught would have happened  "
Well a lot of things can prevent that,societal norms, attitudes towards promiscuity learned earlier, insecurity about one's appearance,lack of trust in a partner or other insecurities about the relationship, taking time to come around to the idea,to name just a few |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've been honest with each other about everything from the start. When discussing fantasies one night,Lee said we should try it and I set up a profile on fab the next day
Ya see this is what I taught would have happened
Well a lot of things can prevent that,societal norms, attitudes towards promiscuity learned earlier, insecurity about one's appearance,lack of trust in a partner or other insecurities about the relationship, taking time to come around to the idea,to name just a few"
I totally agree with this ... unless both parties are completely in agreement I really don’t believe that swinging is the road to take ... personally I think there are a lot of couples on here who are only taking part to keep their partner happy which in my eyes is all wrong |
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We had some near misses with some hot friends we know in the vanilla world and this led to some fantasizing. In the end we came to the conclusion it might be less complicated to take it online and away from our real lives. It's been an interesting journey with some unexpected twists and turns |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore "
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Op you just need to sit down and watch a swinging comedy or documentary together 
...and say "Can you imagine people do that?" 
...before you know it, she'll have talked you into a threesome & it'll all be her idea!!! 
...& if it doesn't work, you'll be on the sofa for a week
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We've been honest with each other about everything from the start. When discussing fantasies one night,Lee said we should try it and I set up a profile on fab the next day
Ya see this is what I taught would have happened
Well a lot of things can prevent that,societal norms, attitudes towards promiscuity learned earlier, insecurity about one's appearance,lack of trust in a partner or other insecurities about the relationship, taking time to come around to the idea,to name just a few
I totally agree with this ... unless both parties are completely in agreement I really don’t believe that swinging is the road to take ... personally I think there are a lot of couples on here who are only taking part to keep their partner happy which in my eyes is all wrong "
How’s my old friend hope you are keeping well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've been honest with each other about everything from the start. When discussing fantasies one night,Lee said we should try it and I set up a profile on fab the next day
Ya see this is what I taught would have happened
Well a lot of things can prevent that,societal norms, attitudes towards promiscuity learned earlier, insecurity about one's appearance,lack of trust in a partner or other insecurities about the relationship, taking time to come around to the idea,to name just a few
I totally agree with this ... unless both parties are completely in agreement I really don’t believe that swinging is the road to take ... personally I think there are a lot of couples on here who are only taking part to keep their partner happy which in my eyes is all wrong
How’s my old friend hope you are keeping well "
I’m doing good Norman .... I hope your behaving lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mad how someone's partner won't discuss with them the fact they are cheating on them, so guess they should just carry on behind their back.
It's swinging with not swinging without!!
Just curious as to what advice you expected to get from this post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore "
I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom. |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom."
How did you draw that conclusion? |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom."
Dunno who you've been talking to but I'll call bullsh*t on that one. . I think that often longterm couples who are really solid and satisfied in their marriage, sexually and otherwise get into swinging precisely because they are happy and comfortable to share eachother and push sexual boundaries even further - without jealousy. And not because of any deficiency. I actually think swinging can be like a shared hobby for some couples. (like golf, but with more balls)
And ain't nothing unhealthy about that! |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom."
Where on earth do theses people come out of...  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
Dunno who you've been talking to but I'll call bullsh*t on that one. . I think that often longterm couples who are really solid and satisfied in their marriage, sexually and otherwise get into swinging precisely because they are happy and comfortable to share eachother and push sexual boundaries even further - without jealousy. And not because of any deficiency. I actually think swinging can be like a shared hobby for some couples. (like golf, but with more balls)
And ain't nothing unhealthy about that! "
Perfectly put..... |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
Where on earth do theses people come out of... "
Don't stoop to it folks.
He couldn't satisfy MaryAnn and is bitter  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
Where on earth do theses people come out of...
Don't stoop to it folks.
He couldn't satisfy MaryAnn and is bitter "
Your right of course....just too reactionary tonight... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
Where on earth do theses people come out of...
Don't stoop to it folks.
He couldn't satisfy MaryAnn and is bitter "
I big cock Maryann not able to look after.She look for small cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion?"
Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home. "
Do you know the in’s and out’s of the op’s personal life???? I’d say the answer to that is no so why do you feel you have the right to question anyone??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home.
Do you know the in’s and out’s of the op’s personal life???? I’d say the answer to that is no so why do you feel you have the right to question anyone?? "
It's simple if your getting enough at home why travel. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We've been honest with each other about everything from the start. When discussing fantasies one night,Lee said we should try it and I set up a profile on fab the next day
Ya see this is what I taught would have happened
Well a lot of things can prevent that,societal norms, attitudes towards promiscuity learned earlier, insecurity about one's appearance,lack of trust in a partner or other insecurities about the relationship, taking time to come around to the idea,to name just a few
I totally agree with this ... unless both parties are completely in agreement I really don’t believe that swinging is the road to take ... personally I think there are a lot of couples on here who are only taking part to keep their partner happy which in my eyes is all wrong
How’s my old friend hope you are keeping well
I’m doing good Norman .... I hope your behaving lol"
Good to hear
I always behave you should know that
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home.
Do you know the in’s and out’s of the op’s personal life???? I’d say the answer to that is no so why do you feel you have the right to question anyone?? It's simple if your getting enough at home why travel."
Very happy at home and I have respected my partners decision...
who said I was travelling away from home I was just curious how it happened for other couples
My partner know I am on here doesn’t mean I am going around meeting people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home.
Do you know the in’s and out’s of the op’s personal life???? I’d say the answer to that is no so why do you feel you have the right to question anyone?? It's simple if your getting enough at home why travel.
Very happy at home and I have respected my partners decision...
who said I was travelling away from home I was just curious how it happened for other couples
My partner know I am on here doesn’t mean I am going around meeting people "
I don't recall saying you travelling away from home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home. "
You clearly have no idea into how swinging works for couples, so I think it's best you close your mouth and open your mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home.
You clearly have no idea into how swinging works for couples, so I think it's best you close your mouth and open your mind "
Yes I know well what it's about didn't I already explain it above. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home.
You clearly have no idea into how swinging works for couples, so I think it's best you close your mouth and open your mind Yes I know well what it's about didn't I already explain it above."
Stop digging yourself a hole and grow up, this site is for adults |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
How did you draw that conclusion? Why would you be bothered with someone else if you getting what you need at home.
You clearly have no idea into how swinging works for couples, so I think it's best you close your mouth and open your mind Yes I know well what it's about didn't I already explain it above.
Stop digging yourself a hole and grow up, this site is for adults "
Me digging how did you come to that conclusion. I said what I think and i an't changing my mind. |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom."
You poor deluded little man.. |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
You poor deluded little man.. "
He’s a bit like u two lol |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
You poor deluded little man..
He’s a bit like u two lol"
Oh big balls on you!
Make a comment and immediately UNLOS
Gobshite! |
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"Just wondering where or how did it begin for couples to start swinging with your partner...
it’s a total no no for my missus and won’t even discuss it anymore I would think with most it probably started when one of them wasn't able to satisfy the other in the bedroom.
You poor deluded little man..
He’s a bit like u two lol
Oh big balls on you!
Make a comment and immediately UNLOS
Gobshite!"
Agree |
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