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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all....Was told yesterday by a woman that she was not there to be fucked and talked to at the drop of a hat .ha .My side now .. chatting to this woman for past 4 weeks and have met for chat also we txt everyday and she always send me pictures ..so I knew she was free last nite and said I be spontainius and said I asks here would I go out to see her and that's more or less what I got back...I never put her under any pressure to do anything with me and also told her from the start no pressure...so my question is how long should one wait,or was I been pushy to say I go out for a vist after 4 weeks .....  |
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Maybe it was the fact that you made it sound like you'd nothing better to do? She might have felt a bit more open if you'd tried planning a meet for next week, and might have even suggested last night herself if you were free. Spontaneous meets with someone you already play with... Great fun! You already know you enjoy each other and will have a good time... Someone you've only chatted to or met for coffee making a spontaneous suggestion though might just feel like they were at a loose end. A planned meet would be better... And also gives the lady time to prepare  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No you were not, just move on and forget about her.
It will happen again, learn from it and don't let it put you off.
There is plenty of fish in the sea. "
....yea ..thought we getting on well ..ah well it's hard to know if you to nice on here you get nowhere ..maybe I should be a prick from now on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe it was the fact that you made it sound like you'd nothing better to do? She might have felt a bit more open if you'd tried planning a meet for next week, and might have even suggested last night herself if you were free. Spontaneous meets with someone you already play with... Great fun! You already know you enjoy each other and will have a good time... Someone you've only chatted to or met for coffee making a spontaneous suggestion though might just feel like they were at a loose end. A planned meet would be better... And also gives the lady time to prepare "
....yes maybe your right point taken  |
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Guys... There's a lot of negative remarks being made by single men because a woman won't meet at the drop of a hat for play.
Ffs think about it!! All you guys do is shower, maybe shave, and you're out the door. Women rarely have that luxury, everything is a juggling act, and men's expectations are so high, we often put in a lot of time prepping for a meet... waxing, touching-up roots, doing our nails, buying/putting together the right lingerie... And then we have awkward things like menstrual cycles to work around on top of it all. And if she has kids there's even more to consider!!
Just because a woman doesn't have plans on a particular occasion, doesn't mean she is available to meet and play  |
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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago
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"Guys... There's a lot of negative remarks being made by single men because a woman won't meet at the drop of a hat for play.
Ffs think about it!! All you guys do is shower, maybe shave, and you're out the door. Women rarely have that luxury, everything is a juggling act, and men's expectations are so high, we often put in a lot of time prepping for a meet... waxing, touching-up roots, doing our nails, buying/putting together the right lingerie... And then we have awkward things like menstrual cycles to work around on top of it all. And if she has kids there's even more to consider!!
Just because a woman doesn't have plans on a particular occasion, doesn't mean she is available to meet and play "
Exactly this! |
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"....yea ..thought we getting on well ..ah well it's hard to know if you to nice on here you get nowhere ..maybe I should be a prick from now on "
Same thought has crossed my mind occasionally... but then I wouldn't be true to who i am... and we shouldn't have to be pricks just to conform to a perceived notion for anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guys... There's a lot of negative remarks being made by single men because a woman won't meet at the drop of a hat for play.
Ffs think about it!! All you guys do is shower, maybe shave, and you're out the door. Women rarely have that luxury, everything is a juggling act, and men's expectations are so high, we often put in a lot of time prepping for a meet... waxing, touching-up roots, doing our nails, buying/putting together the right lingerie... And then we have awkward things like menstrual cycles to work around on top of it all. And if she has kids there's even more to consider!!
Just because a woman doesn't have plans on a particular occasion, doesn't mean she is available to meet and play "
You expect me to shower for every meet? |
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"Maybe it was the fact that you made it sound like you'd nothing better to do? She might have felt a bit more open if you'd tried planning a meet for next week, and might have even suggested last night herself if you were free. Spontaneous meets with someone you already play with... Great fun! You already know you enjoy each other and will have a good time... Someone you've only chatted to or met for coffee making a spontaneous suggestion though might just feel like they were at a loose end. A planned meet would be better... And also gives the lady time to prepare
This sums up what I was thinking  "
I think i get what op was getting at... would i be right in thinking it's a case of damned if you do and damned if you dont. If op did not ask if she might like to meet... she might have thought - he's not really interested or he's only here to chat! Next!! I think is fair enough to ask... to show interest get the ball rolling to possibly sort a planned meet when she could. Us guys as strange az it might seem are not obvlious to the efforts some women go to for a meet but it does sound like the reply could have been more subtle to be fair and maybe more cnstructive instead of what sounds like a 'bark' back reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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4 weeks of chat and you've met for coffee and continue to chat?..you suggest a meet and get a rude response..if she'd said 'can't tonight because of x,y,z but maybe on another date, I'd say she was interested in meeting you...but based on what you've said..I don't think she is, but likes the chats..move on if you are looking for a meet or stay and chat if you are getting something positive out of it... |
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"4 weeks of chat and you've met for coffee and continue to chat?..you suggest a meet and get a rude response..if she'd said 'can't tonight because of x,y,z but maybe on another date, I'd say she was interested in meeting you...but based on what you've said..I don't think she is, but likes the chats..move on if you are looking for a meet or stay and chat if you are getting something positive out of it..."
See now that's constructive and spot on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guys... There's a lot of negative remarks being made by single men because a woman won't meet at the drop of a hat for play.
Ffs think about it!! All you guys do is shower, maybe shave, and you're out the door. Women rarely have that luxury, everything is a juggling act, and men's expectations are so high, we often put in a lot of time prepping for a meet... waxing, touching-up roots, doing our nails, buying/putting together the right lingerie... And then we have awkward things like menstrual cycles to work around on top of it all. And if she has kids there's even more to consider!!
Just because a woman doesn't have plans on a particular occasion, doesn't mean she is available to meet and play "
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"No you were not, just move on and forget about her.
It will happen again, learn from it and don't let it put you off.
There is plenty of fish in the sea. ....yea ..thought we getting on well ..ah well it's hard to know if you to nice on here you get nowhere ..maybe I should be a prick from now on "
Ah no..... continue being nice |
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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi all....Was told yesterday by a woman that she was not there to be fucked and talked to at the drop of a hat .ha .My side now .. chatting to this woman for past 4 weeks and have met for chat also we txt everyday and she always send me pictures ..so I knew she was free last nite and said I be spontainius and said I asks here would I go out to see her and that's more or less what I got back...I never put her under any pressure to do anything with me and also told her from the start no pressure...so my question is how long should one wait,or was I been pushy to say I go out for a vist after 4 weeks ..... "
You wait untill it's time that suits both to meet. One week, one month, one year who knows but there I'd no time limit on it. |
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I think it also depends on how long she has been on site for and how experienced she is with swinging.. We are totally new to all this and although very exciting, the thought of a meet is also absolutely terrifying!.. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quit whinging about it mate. Everyone entitled to say no or yes as they please whether male or female or couple or tv or ts. Nobody is beholden to a meet no matter how long chatting. Seriously how many threads by whingers does there have to be to get this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" we often put in a lot of time prepping for a meet... waxing, touching-up roots, doing our nails, buying/putting together the right lingerie..."
We do?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all....Was told yesterday by a woman that she was not there to be fucked and talked to at the drop of a hat .ha .My side now .. chatting to this woman for past 4 weeks and have met for chat also we txt everyday and she always send me pictures ..so I knew she was free last nite and said I be spontainius and said I asks here would I go out to see her and that's more or less what I got back...I never put her under any pressure to do anything with me and also told her from the start no pressure...so my question is how long should one wait,or was I been pushy to say I go out for a vist after 4 weeks ..... "
Move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all....Was told yesterday by a woman that she was not there to be fucked and talked to at the drop of a hat .ha .My side now .. chatting to this woman for past 4 weeks and have met for chat also we txt everyday and she always send me pictures ..so I knew she was free last nite and said I be spontainius and said I asks here would I go out to see her and that's more or less what I got back...I never put her under any pressure to do anything with me and also told her from the start no pressure...so my question is how long should one wait,or was I been pushy to say I go out for a vist after 4 weeks ..... "
It does sound a bit harsh...... I think if I had been chatting that long and had also had a coffee with you I would be trying to arrange to meet again.... unless of course life and work gets in the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I think it depends on whether you've got game and to what degree!!!!!
There are many of us who don't text Well, we will struggle.
Personally I do great in person but still haven't succeeded on fab |
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