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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are phones ruining friendships and relationships?
I resently went out for a friend's birthday. There were 6 of us having dinner. Now while I had my phone woth me I wasn't on it constantly but everyone else at the table was. They were constantly taking pics of everything from the their drinks to dessert. When they weren't taking photos they were scrolling mindlessly through their phones. They missed half the conversation. I just sat there thinking what's the point.
As for my friends husband well he never left his phone out of his hand. He came across as irritated every time someone tried to include him in a conversation. My friend didn't seem to notice either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Out of interest, what age bracket are we talking about here? So many people are obsessed with taking photos of their meals for Instagram or snapchat. Shockingly bad |
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"Are phones ruining friendships and relationships?
I resently went out for a friend's birthday. There were 6 of us having dinner. Now while I had my phone woth me I wasn't on it constantly but everyone else at the table was. They were constantly taking pics of everything from the their drinks to dessert. When they weren't taking photos they were scrolling mindlessly through their phones. They missed half the conversation. I just sat there thinking what's the point.
As for my friends husband well he never left his phone out of his hand. He came across as irritated every time someone tried to include him in a conversation. My friend didn't seem to notice either. "
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Double edged sword really..
Phones & technology are allowing people to get together who normally wouldn't have just a generation ago. A 24 y/o male  out meeting a 50 something female  would've been rare a few years ago 
However, phones are definitely killing social interaction & the ability to have even a 10 minute uninterrupted convo with someone 
...not to mention how phones have groomed a narcissistic culture of "Look at what I ate for my breakfast" or "just got a papercut" 
In the words of the great John Lennon "Strange days indeed"  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Out of interest, what age bracket are we talking about here? So many people are obsessed with taking photos of their meals for Instagram or snapchat. Shockingly bad "
Ages ranged from 28 to 35 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are phones ruining friendships and relationships?
I resently went out for a friend's birthday. There were 6 of us having dinner. Now while I had my phone woth me I wasn't on it constantly but everyone else at the table was. They were constantly taking pics of everything from the their drinks to dessert. When they weren't taking photos they were scrolling mindlessly through their phones. They missed half the conversation. I just sat there thinking what's the point.
As for my friends husband well he never left his phone out of his hand. He came across as irritated every time someone tried to include him in a conversation. My friend didn't seem to notice either. "
No I dont think phones are soley to blame. The group jist sound terrible to go out with to be honest.
I habe had nights out with simular people and I have had nights lut woth people who enjoy the moment and the company they are in.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's like going to a concert and watching the entire thing through a tiny phone screen as you record it rather than immersing yourself in the experience as it happens "
Yah that's my point. I really don't get it. What happened to living in the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a no device around the dinner table rule at home, or when out, kids included. We "try" to limit the amount of time ours spend on phones or tablets. But we also use it to our advantage too. Bad behaviour and attitude have consequences. We've found saying you wont get this or wont get that has little or no effect on them, but "ok thats 10mins less on your evening time allowance online" or "keep it up and we will see what happens this evening" works wonders.
The modern day equivalent of going to bed with no supper |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have a no device around the dinner table rule at home, or when out, kids included. We "try" to limit the amount of time ours spend on phones or tablets. But we also use it to our advantage too. Bad behaviour and attitude have consequences. We've found saying you wont get this or wont get that has little or no effect on them, but "ok thats 10mins less on your evening time allowance online" or "keep it up and we will see what happens this evening" works wonders.
The modern day equivalent of going to bed with no supper "
I'd he the same at home. They are allowed very little screen time and when naughty I reduce the screen time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have a no device around the dinner table rule at home, or when out, kids included. We "try" to limit the amount of time ours spend on phones or tablets. But we also use it to our advantage too. Bad behaviour and attitude have consequences. We've found saying you wont get this or wont get that has little or no effect on them, but "ok thats 10mins less on your evening time allowance online" or "keep it up and we will see what happens this evening" works wonders.
The modern day equivalent of going to bed with no supper
I'd he the same at home. They are allowed very little screen time and when naughty I reduce the screen time. "
I’m totally dreading when my kids get older |
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By *rishgstarMan
over a year ago
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Be responsible guys, people are runing their own lives by choosing their phones.. dont blame the inanimate object or substance like governments and institutions want to.. if you see someone on their phone and you think its not right open your mouth and enjoy the connection of debate, its easy to judge afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It pisses me off no end. The art of conversation is in decline. Phones have a place and are useful but not when someone is trying to talk to you. If the electricity went off, young people wouldn’t have a clue what to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are phones ruining friendships and relationships?
I resently went out for a friend's birthday. There were 6 of us having dinner. Now while I had my phone woth me I wasn't on it constantly but everyone else at the table was. They were constantly taking pics of everything from the their drinks to dessert. When they weren't taking photos they were scrolling mindlessly through their phones. They missed half the conversation. I just sat there thinking what's the point.
As for my friends husband well he never left his phone out of his hand. He came across as irritated every time someone tried to include him in a conversation. My friend didn't seem to notice either. "
I'm pretty sure I've heard this story before lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be responsible guys, people are runing their own lives by choosing their phones.. dont blame the inanimate object or substance like governments and institutions want to.. if you see someone on their phone and you think its not right open your mouth and enjoy the connection of debate, its easy to judge afterwards"
I'd always say to my friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They can be a great thing cause with the internet allows people to interact that other way their paths would never meet .
Now on a night out with friends or a meal it's pure lack of consideration for the other people around |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have a rule in the house, no phones during dinner or family time i.e. movies or days out.
out for a meal i would consider it completely rude to be on your phone especially if people are having a convo during it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have rules when im out in restaurant or with friends no phone and any time i see one taking one out i mention Anti Social phones are defo destroing peoples life"
 agree... I hate phones oht on a social nite ... emergency calls only |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People look at theirs phone and think others have a better life than them, instead of living their own life. "
So true. They don't realise that people only show you what they want you to see. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think a sign of a great night out is not a single photo to remember it by. You should be too busy having fun to be on your phone "
Love this and it's so true. It better to be in the moment. |
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By *P_80Man
over a year ago
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It's an addiction plain and simple.
If you need to look at your phone when hanging out with friends then you have a problem.
I don't mean checking when you get a message,I mean when you can't just forget about your phone.
I saw a couple out for a meal recently and both of them were looking at their phones between courses.
The problem isn't the phones, it's who's using them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's an addiction plain and simple.
If you need to look at your phone when hanging out with friends then you have a problem.
I don't mean checking when you get a message,I mean when you can't just forget about your phone.
I saw a couple out for a meal recently and both of them were looking at their phones between courses.
The problem isn't the phones, it's who's using them."
It's crazy really. I have friend who lets her son on his phone all the time. He will litterly sit on his phone while eating. I know it shouldn't but it drives me nuts |
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By *ocforuMan
over a year ago
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"It's an addiction plain and simple.
If you need to look at your phone when hanging out with friends then you have a problem.
I don't mean checking when you get a message,I mean when you can't just forget about your phone.
I saw a couple out for a meal recently and both of them were looking at their phones between courses.
The problem isn't the phones, it's who's using them.
It's crazy really. I have friend who lets her son on his phone all the time. He will litterly sit on his phone while eating. I know it shouldn't but it drives me nuts"
I use to have a go at my ex over the phone I'd say to her normal people eat with a knife and fork not a phone and fork |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's an addiction plain and simple.
If you need to look at your phone when hanging out with friends then you have a problem.
I don't mean checking when you get a message,I mean when you can't just forget about your phone.
I saw a couple out for a meal recently and both of them were looking at their phones between courses.
The problem isn't the phones, it's who's using them.
It's crazy really. I have friend who lets her son on his phone all the time. He will litterly sit on his phone while eating. I know it shouldn't but it drives me nuts"
My kids are allowed to watch 30mins tv each day, phone or tablet only if required. They prefer to spend the free time outside than at home.
These days parents allow their children to watch tv or movies at very early age... I've seen few days ago at the airport just few months baby (less than a one year old!) was watching the movie in tablet. Horrible!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are phones ruining friendships and relationships?
I resently went out for a friend's birthday. There were 6 of us having dinner. Now while I had my phone woth me I wasn't on it constantly but everyone else at the table was. They were constantly taking pics of everything from the their drinks to dessert. When they weren't taking photos they were scrolling mindlessly through their phones. They missed half the conversation. I just sat there thinking what's the point.
As for my friends husband well he never left his phone out of his hand. He came across as irritated every time someone tried to include him in a conversation. My friend didn't seem to notice either. "
I agree.. phones are a nightmare st times. People are becoming very introvert!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's an addiction plain and simple.
If you need to look at your phone when hanging out with friends then you have a problem.
I don't mean checking when you get a message,I mean when you can't just forget about your phone.
I saw a couple out for a meal recently and both of them were looking at their phones between courses.
The problem isn't the phones, it's who's using them.
It's crazy really. I have friend who lets her son on his phone all the time. He will litterly sit on his phone while eating. I know it shouldn't but it drives me nuts
My kids are allowed to watch 30mins tv each day, phone or tablet only if required. They prefer to spend the free time outside than at home.
These days parents allow their children to watch tv or movies at very early age... I've seen few days ago at the airport just few months baby (less than a one year old!) was watching the movie in tablet. Horrible! "
Oh I know what you mean. I watched a kid throwing his mother's phone the other day and every time she picked it up and handed it back to him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"a lot of young kids are far to young to be on computers . their mind gets poisoned from them. "
Oh I'd have to agree with you. I've seen kids as young as 7 with their own phones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"a lot of young kids are far to young to be on computers . their mind gets poisoned from them.
Oh I'd have to agree with you. I've seen kids as young as 7 with their own phones."
A woman in work bought her 10 year old an iPhone X for Christmas. Shockingly bad |
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