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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? |
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"Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? "
I think it's not that they're not allowed, it's just that single males often don't turn up, even when they have managed to secure an invite to a club or social. I've attended events in Dublin where only 2 or 3 single males out of 30 or 40 invited actually showed up. Invites for club nights and events are usually balanced, but you can't control who decides not to show. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's a singles event posted for March just down the forums.   "
No way deadly tho I was hoping it be 2 guys to 1 girl scenario ha so we have a good choice lol greedy |
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"There's a singles event posted for March just down the forums.
No way deadly tho I was hoping it be 2 guys to 1 girl scenario ha so we have a good choice lol greedy "
Hopefully there will be plenty of single men there  |
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I've been dying for a singles night at Vanilla and I can't go to this one, devo!
What another poster said is correct (I've heard), it's tough to get single guys to turn up even if they put the effort in to get an invite. Seems mad but it's true! |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? "
The amount of couples that moan about there being too many single lads at Vanilla and you come on here an contradict them.
Theres loads of single men profiles on here but fuck all that actually have the bottle to go to events on their own and to be honest i dont blame them. I wouldn’t do it if i was single.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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is the problem that many single guys & some singel women, are actually keyboard warriors, fantastists that get of on the chase, the messages, the being wanted...its like a porn fantasy, lots of people wanting you, telling you what they will do ... but going to a meet would just end the dream ... & of course the real person wont match their fake photos, much less their personality matching their online persona.
& if you are attached, then by not meeting your not really cheating |
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"Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? The amount of couples that moan about there being too many single lads at Vanilla and you come on here an contradict them.
Theres loads of single men profiles on here but fuck all that actually have the bottle to go to events on their own and to be honest i dont blame them. I wouldn’t do it if i was single.
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Yeah I defo don't think I'd go alone without a gang of friends - maybe that's the difference, single guys who get invites can't really bring pals whereas single women can! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? The amount of couples that moan about there being too many single lads at Vanilla and you come on here an contradict them.
Theres loads of single men profiles on here but fuck all that actually have the bottle to go to events on their own and to be honest i dont blame them. I wouldn’t do it if i was single.
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Just us odd few diamonds in the rough
I do think preportionatily the numbers at well known events tend to be a good even mix due to organisers knowing how to invite and what numbers to be expected from them |
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I'll go look at that date in the forum.
I'm single and did go to the school night all on my own but found it awkward as mainly couples however I still had a brilliant time as didn't just sit in the corner, I mingled to an acceptable degree.
I went to a singles social in athlone recently and I loved it knowing everyone was approachable. It's definitely a great idea |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? The amount of couples that moan about there being too many single lads at Vanilla and you come on here an contradict them.
Theres loads of single men profiles on here but fuck all that actually have the bottle to go to events on their own and to be honest i dont blame them. I wouldn’t do it if i was single.
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Aww stop you
You know I’m greedy and just like to have my pick ha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'll go look at that date in the forum.
I'm single and did go to the school night all on my own but found it awkward as mainly couples however I still had a brilliant time as didn't just sit in the corner, I mingled to an acceptable degree.
I went to a singles social in athlone recently and I loved it knowing everyone was approachable. It's definitely a great idea"
I have been as well but find it mainly cpls not that many guys and in forums it seams all single male places full. If they don’t turn up why not double the allowance
Ha as the saying goes it’s better to be looking at it rather than it ha cock wise ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Afraid it’s true a lot of “single” men don’t want to be seen by someone that might know the wife. Some rather low key meet and greets to the club too. Then a lot of single lads are there as part of couples for the night too as plus ones. |
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By *aidRXTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? The amount of couples that moan about there being too many single lads at Vanilla and you come on here an contradict them.
Theres loads of single men profiles on here but fuck all that actually have the bottle to go to events on their own and to be honest i dont blame them. I wouldn’t do it if i was single.
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Thanks   Hahahahaha
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Ok so just wanted to clarify how we work our single male allocation.
We check how many cpls we have on list who play with single guys, we then check how many single girls we have and then work how many single guys we will invite and add about 5 as we know a few tend to not turn up.
I understand the point of some girls saying they want 2 to 1 so they have a choice however on normal nights a lot of cpls arent comfortable with a lot of single guys and then realistically how many guys is each girl going to play with?? The others are just left hanging around. That works for greedy girls nights but not for standard night.
It is also trying to get the right guys. Some guys are great on one on one meets however are not used to the club / group scene.
This why we are trying to organise nights to suit everyone.
We are always open to suggestions and if some girls ever want to organise a greedy girls night we are more than open to discussion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so just wanted to clarify how we work our single male allocation.
We check how many cpls we have on list who play with single guys, we then check how many single girls we have and then work how many single guys we will invite and add about 5 as we know a few tend to not turn up.
I understand the point of some girls saying they want 2 to 1 so they have a choice however on normal nights a lot of cpls arent comfortable with a lot of single guys and then realistically how many guys is each girl going to play with?? The others are just left hanging around. That works for greedy girls nights but not for standard night.
It is also trying to get the right guys. Some guys are great on one on one meets however are not used to the club / group scene.
This why we are trying to organise nights to suit everyone.
We are always open to suggestions and if some girls ever want to organise a greedy girls night we are more than open to discussion. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok so just wanted to clarify how we work our single male allocation.
We check how many cpls we have on list who play with single guys, we then check how many single girls we have and then work how many single guys we will invite and add about 5 as we know a few tend to not turn up.
I understand the point of some girls saying they want 2 to 1 so they have a choice however on normal nights a lot of cpls arent comfortable with a lot of single guys and then realistically how many guys is each girl going to play with?? The others are just left hanging around. That works for greedy girls nights but not for standard night.
It is also trying to get the right guys. Some guys are great on one on one meets however are not used to the club / group scene.
This why we are trying to organise nights to suit everyone.
We are always open to suggestions and if some girls ever want to organise a greedy girls night we are more than open to discussion. "
Aww I know ye guys are great and I love getting invited to vanilla don’t get me wrong but as you said I’m probably wrong but a few extra guys be so nice. |
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As a single guy who regularly attends Vanilla. The club policy meets the needs for all guests. It must be s nightmare selecting genuine guys who won't ruin the night for others thinking they can fuck who they want.ive been in UK clubs where there is no limit and guys really let themselves down |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so just wanted to clarify how we work our single male allocation.
We check how many cpls we have on list who play with single guys, we then check how many single girls we have and then work how many single guys we will invite and add about 5 as we know a few tend to not turn up.
I understand the point of some girls saying they want 2 to 1 so they have a choice however on normal nights a lot of cpls arent comfortable with a lot of single guys and then realistically how many guys is each girl going to play with?? The others are just left hanging around. That works for greedy girls nights but not for standard night.
It is also trying to get the right guys. Some guys are great on one on one meets however are not used to the club / group scene.
This why we are trying to organise nights to suit everyone.
We are always open to suggestions and if some girls ever want to organise a greedy girls night we are more than open to discussion. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In fairness to Vanilla, its very hard to know who will and who wont turn up on the night. I have had to cancel myself last year due to bereavement but let them know straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got my Paddy's Day 'outfit' and all so I best not see that go to waste. Looking forward to meeting ye all there. I guess it does take a bit of bottle to show up as a single lad but I'm OK with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you cant ever please people EVER!
as a single guy I would find it very very expensive the trip to Vanilla as there is never guarantee, as it should be of course but if you go you will find that there is little to no single women or if they are ?well they come as a pre made couple ! so not really single that night at least ! while it's much harder for a single guy ! you can spend 400 euros easily for 1 night and not even yout own hand looks at you !  i guess that's why you won't find that many singles , saying i have gone to some parties and its a sausage fest! |
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"I think you cant ever please people EVER!
as a single guy I would find it very very expensive the trip to Vanilla as there is never guarantee, as it should be of course but if you go you will find that there is little to no single women or if they are ?well they come as a pre made couple ! so not really single that night at least ! while it's much harder for a single guy ! you can spend 400 euros easily for 1 night and not even yout own hand looks at you ! i guess that's why you won't find that many singles , saying i have gone to some parties and its a sausage fest!"
It's not a brothel, there should never be guarantees. Vanilla is no more expensive that a regular night out. |
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"I think you cant ever please people EVER!
as a single guy I would find it very very expensive the trip to Vanilla as there is never guarantee, as it should be of course but if you go you will find that there is little to no single women or if they are ?well they come as a pre made couple ! so not really single that night at least ! while it's much harder for a single guy ! you can spend 400 euros easily for 1 night and not even yout own hand looks at you ! i guess that's why you won't find that many singles , saying i have gone to some parties and its a sausage fest!"
€400?? How much are you drinking? Hotel is €80-€90 & it's €40 on the door. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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hotels are usually €120 and up in dublin, include travelling , food , entrance, tolls , drink! and you will quickly see money going up!
2) to the poster that said is not a brothel and there is no guarantees! i never said there was ! and that was not the point ! it was more directed as why many single guys drop out!
also i would like to make clear is not a direct reflection on the club , the club is actually a fine place , well run and organised ! |
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"hotels are usually €120 and up in dublin, include travelling , food , entrance, tolls , drink! and you will quickly see money going up!
2) to the poster that said is not a brothel and there is no guarantees! i never said there was ! and that was not the point ! it was more directed as why many single guys drop out!
also i would like to make clear is not a direct reflection on the club , the club is actually a fine place , well run and organised !"
The hotel everyone stays at is 90 euro max - I've stayed multiple times. 400 euro is a ridiculous exaggeration. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hotels are usually €120 and up in dublin, include travelling , food , entrance, tolls , drink! and you will quickly see money going up!
2) to the poster that said is not a brothel and there is no guarantees! i never said there was ! and that was not the point ! it was more directed as why many single guys drop out!
also i would like to make clear is not a direct reflection on the club , the club is actually a fine place , well run and organised !
The hotel everyone stays at is 90 euro max - I've stayed multiple times. 400 euro is a ridiculous exaggeration. "
no it is not i stayed same hotel and i paid €120 without breakfast! 50 of petrol as i live in clare , 40 for food , 20 taxi, 10 in tolls , 40 club , 50 drinks all adds up and while granted is not a fortune is still a fair bit and just to drive my point home " That might discourage single guys from going! |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"hotels are usually €120 and up in dublin, include travelling , food , entrance, tolls , drink! and you will quickly see money going up!
2) to the poster that said is not a brothel and there is no guarantees! i never said there was ! and that was not the point ! it was more directed as why many single guys drop out!
also i would like to make clear is not a direct reflection on the club , the club is actually a fine place , well run and organised !
The hotel everyone stays at is 90 euro max - I've stayed multiple times. 400 euro is a ridiculous exaggeration. no it is not i stayed same hotel and i paid €120 without breakfast! 50 of petrol as i live in clare , 40 for food , 20 taxi, 10 in tolls , 40 club , 50 drinks all adds up and while granted is not a fortune is still a fair bit and just to drive my point home " That might discourage single guys from going! "
What about all the single lads from Dublin? |
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"hotels are usually €120 and up in dublin, include travelling , food , entrance, tolls , drink! and you will quickly see money going up!
2) to the poster that said is not a brothel and there is no guarantees! i never said there was ! and that was not the point ! it was more directed as why many single guys drop out!
also i would like to make clear is not a direct reflection on the club , the club is actually a fine place , well run and organised !
The hotel everyone stays at is 90 euro max - I've stayed multiple times. 400 euro is a ridiculous exaggeration. no it is not i stayed same hotel and i paid €120 without breakfast! 50 of petrol as i live in clare , 40 for food , 20 taxi, 10 in tolls , 40 club , 50 drinks all adds up and while granted is not a fortune is still a fair bit and just to drive my point home " That might discourage single guys from going! What about all the single lads from Dublin?"
Also, you don't have to drink or stay. Obviously if you live far away, yeah. But it's entirely possible to drive there, pay your entry and drive home. You don't have to spend a fortune to attend if you really want to go. |
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On the rare occasion that I have a free Saturday night, I've gone to a few socials and clubs.
I'm not really a party/dancing person & I don't drink so mingling & chatting makes me feel a bit awkward. Add to that a big no no for a lot of people, I'm married. I always tell the event organisers beforehand but the rest of the people there will assume I'm single. Do I chat & mingle & say nothing about being married? But then if things get intimate they will feel they've been lied to or deceived. Should I tell people straight off that I'm married & risk a barrage of abuse & possibly causing an unpleasant scene at the event.
Mostly I've gone for the third option, stay away.
Apart from the above, I've been to events with 20-30 couples, 20-30 single ladies & 10-15 single guys. As the night goes on it always seems to be couples pairing off with couples or single ladies & maybe 3 or 4 of they guys will have interest from 1 or more couples or single ladies and the rest of the guys are left standing.
That's just how it goes. For the couples & single ladies who don't want to meet single guys it will seem like there were too many single guys there. For those who are interested in single guys, most of them will have met one, or if he's a really lucky guy he'll be invited to join an MFF or group.
No one is ever going to strike the perfect balance of couples, single ladies & single guys, we'll just have to live with it.
It is nerve wrecking to go to these events alone, regardless of whether your a single lady or a single guy. I'm sure even couples find it nerve wrecking, and not just their first time.
Hopefully I will get to visit the Vanilla Club someday, who knows who I might meet |
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I've attended _he vanilla club once or twice as single and yes it is frightening walking in. One it very hard to just walk up and start chatting as most cpls will be in groups and you don't want to intrude. You sometimes feel Stuiped Stand there alone. But I would do it all again without worry as the cpls I've met from it make that leap of faith worth it. |
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"I've attended _he vanilla club once or twice as single and yes it is frightening walking in. One it very hard to just walk up and start chatting as most cpls will be in groups and you don't want to intrude. You sometimes feel Stuiped Stand there alone. But I would do it all again without worry as the cpls I've met from it make that leap of faith worth it."
Very hard for a single girl to just walk in also but they done seam to let people down like men |
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"I've attended _he vanilla club once or twice as single and yes it is frightening walking in. One it very hard to just walk up and start chatting as most cpls will be in groups and you don't want to intrude. You sometimes feel Stuiped Stand there alone. But I would do it all again without worry as the cpls I've met from it make that leap of faith worth it.
Very hard for a single girl to just walk in also but they done seam to let people down like men "
?? agree how hard it is for a woman to attend alone I've have had one or two ladies I know ask if I would attend with them just so they feel at ease. The last time I was in the vanilla remember having a chat with v and she was saying 5 men were no shows so it don't help when it happens.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've attended _he vanilla club once or twice as single and yes it is frightening walking in. One it very hard to just walk up and start chatting as most cpls will be in groups and you don't want to intrude. You sometimes feel Stuiped Stand there alone. But I would do it all again without worry as the cpls I've met from it make that leap of faith worth it.
Very hard for a single girl to just walk in also but they done seam to let people down like men
?? agree how hard it is for a woman to attend alone I've have had one or two ladies I know ask if I would attend with them just so they feel at ease. The last time I was in the vanilla remember having a chat with v and she was saying 5 men were no shows so it don't help when it happens.
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So maybe that’s why I do feel like there is none there ha they just don’t show up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The hosts of any one of these clubs go to a lot of bother to make sure these nights are a success which take a lot of there time also there are pre drinks to make people comfortable to get to know people attending |
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By *on11Man
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"The hosts of any one of these clubs go to a lot of bother to make sure these nights are a success which take a lot of there time also there are pre drinks to make people comfortable to get to know people attending "
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Add in the Kik chat for the banter beforehand too! |
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"The hosts of any one of these clubs go to a lot of bother to make sure these nights are a success which take a lot of there time also there are pre drinks to make people comfortable to get to know people attending
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Add in the Kik chat for the banter beforehand too!"
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By *on11Man
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"The hosts of any one of these clubs go to a lot of bother to make sure these nights are a success which take a lot of there time also there are pre drinks to make people comfortable to get to know people attending
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Add in the Kik chat for the banter beforehand too!whoops forgot that "
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lol, how can you, she who directs will be annoyed!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The hosts of any one of these clubs go to a lot of bother to make sure these nights are a success which take a lot of there time also there are pre drinks to make people comfortable to get to know people attending
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Add in the Kik chat for the banter beforehand too!whoops forgot that
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lol, how can you, she who directs will be annoyed!!!"
I will make it up too her in rvc the 23rd whoop whoop |
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By *on11Man
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"The hosts of any one of these clubs go to a lot of bother to make sure these nights are a success which take a lot of there time also there are pre drinks to make people comfortable to get to know people attending
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Add in the Kik chat for the banter beforehand too!whoops forgot that
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lol, how can you, she who directs will be annoyed!!!I will make it up too her in rvc the 23rd whoop whoop "
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lol, I bet that you will! RVC time is getting closer ......... |
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"Have a singles night lots of single men even more than women so there is a choice?
Don’t get me wrong I love the club love couples but I find there is defo not enough single men allowed
Is this just me? "
Funny as your profile say you prefer to meet married men  .
I have to say the organiser of the club do a great job at balancing the numbers of guest's.
It dose sound like you are looking for a gready girls nite 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so just wanted to clarify how we work our single male allocation.
We check how many cpls we have on list who play with single guys, we then check how many single girls we have and then work how many single guys we will invite and add about 5 as we know a few tend to not turn up.
I understand the point of some girls saying they want 2 to 1 so they have a choice however on normal nights a lot of cpls arent comfortable with a lot of single guys and then realistically how many guys is each girl going to play with?? The others are just left hanging around. That works for greedy girls nights but not for standard night.
It is also trying to get the right guys. Some guys are great on one on one meets however are not used to the club / group scene.
This why we are trying to organise nights to suit everyone.
We are always open to suggestions and if some girls ever want to organise a greedy girls night we are more than open to discussion. "
I Attended as a single guy first time at Valentines night. Was very nervous and you just have to be brave and walk up to people and introduce yourself. Pre drinks is a great ice breaker. Hope to attend a singles night next time but not 29th.
Set up and organising is excellent and obviously a tried and tested formula.... they are also open to improvements.
End of the day.... get an invite and turn up. Especially first time. Won’t regret it as an experience |
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