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50 Shades of Gray . Classic or Crap ??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I haven't read it , but I have noticed the influence of this book . Who's read it ? Who's liked it ? Who's hated it ?? ( If you're looking a good read I'd recommend (A Fine Balance , Rohyinton Mistry) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Heard extracts the writting reminded me of some 6th year essays I attempted (quality not content wise).
But fuck it she found a market and ran with is so more power to here.
I like shite b movies so I am not gonna judge |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Heard extracts the writting reminded me of some 6th year essays I attempted (quality not content wise).
But fuck it she found a market and ran with is so more power to here.
I like shite b movies so I am not gonna judge"
I hear you , some people really get caught up with the stuff , Have you seen Gattica ?? No judgement here , just curiosity . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From someone who comes from the Bdsm scene, the books where a double edged soward, yea it sent a lot of people our way but it gave them totally unreasonable ideas of what it's all about, it put the idea of bdsm in people's minds but from my point of view it's a story of an abused woman, she's pressured into changing herself to suit his needs rather than learning and growing herself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read the first, started the second and it got binned after the first few chapters
It was a novelty at the start then they seemed to try and stretch out something that was already becoming dated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The books were way better than the movies but you have to take them with a pinch of salt, unfortunately lots didn't and had the unrealistic views of how a dom/sub relationship should be. There are so many better books on the market if that's the kind of thing you want to read  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"From someone who comes from the Bdsm scene, the books where a double edged soward, yea it sent a lot of people our way but it gave them totally unreasonable ideas of what it's all about, it put the idea of bdsm in people's minds but from my point of view it's a story of an abused woman, she's pressured into changing herself to suit his needs rather than learning and growing herself"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The books were way better than the movies but you have to take them with a pinch of salt, unfortunately lots didn't and had the unrealistic views of how a dom/sub relationship should be. There are so many better books on the market if that's the kind of thing you want to read "
For example? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read them all, liked the first, the next 2 read like they were written in a hurry.
They opened people up to the idea of there being more to their sexuality than they realised. That is never a bad thing.
Some 'aaaah ok, that makes sense now' moments 
I tried to get my ex to read them, he wasn't having any of it. |
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"I haven't read it , but I have noticed the influence of this book . Who's read it ? Who's liked it ? Who's hated it ?? ( If you're looking a good read I'd recommend (A Fine Balance , Rohyinton Mistry)"
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I tried reading the book and couldn't get past the first chapter as I thought that the author was trying to impress rather than actually telling a story 
A much better book is by a Dublin woman, KATIE COLLINS  called CAN YOU KEEP A SECRET? which is based on a real life swingers account of the Dublin swinging scene about 15 years ago 
An easy to read & all round great story  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would completely agree with this reply. As someone who has been invoked with BDSM for some time, I tried to read the books to see what all the fuss was about, but didn’t find them particularly well written.
That said, she did find an audience that were captivated (no pun intended) by the books, so well done to her.
As somebody who enjoys BDSM play, I agree that these books were a double edged sword for the community. It attracted a lot of newbies to the scene, but often with unrealistic and naive expectations, and often these newbies were preyed on by folks who use BDSM to satisfy their personal gratification for rough sex.
That said, by attracting newbies to the scene, the books have made those of us who are involved in BDSM be more articulate when chatting with these new folks, taking time to provide more of an insight as to the reality of D/s. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would completely agree with this reply. As someone who has been invoked with BDSM for some time, I tried to read the books to see what all the fuss was about, but didn’t find them particularly well written.
That said, she did find an audience that were captivated (no pun intended) by the books, so well done to her.
As somebody who enjoys BDSM play, I agree that these books were a double edged sword for the community. It attracted a lot of newbies to the scene, but often with unrealistic and naive expectations, and often these newbies were preyed on by folks who use BDSM to satisfy their personal gratification for rough sex.
That said, by attracting newbies to the scene, the books have made those of us who are involved in BDSM be more articulate when chatting with these new folks, taking time to provide more of an insight as to the reality of D/s."
Thanks for the input , |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a pile of unreal shite. poorly written and badly researched. if you want an actual book about bdsm check out evie hunters books and tara sue mee's books. btw evie hunter is irish and knows what she is actually talking about |
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God-awful, badly written tripe. The story of a 20-something year old virgin (see... unbelievable already lol), meeting an experienced Dom, dabbles a little bit in his world, but ultimately turns the big bad Dom vanilla. By the end of it all they're about as BDSM as any couple who happens to have a few toys and a spare room 
Sadly, from my point of view the books/films misinformed a generation of mildly curious people, and now very few know the distinction between B&D and S&M. I got random idiots who assumed I'm into pain and humiliation sending me graphic messages simply because I've a few bondage pics on my profile, or that I'm a dominatrix and am open to throwing on a pair of thigh-high boots and whipping them silly without having exchanged more than a handful of messages. Not to mention the self-styled Doms who haven't grasped that a sub-Dom dynamic is a mutually respectful relationship built over time and with trust, and instead use threats of physical harm or indeed self-harm as short-cuts to gaining control.
In short, I think the books/films did more damage than good. People view them as a 'how to' rather than works of fiction and don't bother to inform themselves properly.
For genuine BDSM folk who haven't already got a partner, or are looking for a new partner, it must be so disheartening dealing with all the misinformed wannabes! |
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I read the first chapter and gave up. It's not a true representation of a D/s relationship by any stretch of the imagination. Unfortunately it has brought a unnerving amount of wannabe Doms to the surface. Not for everyone but taken seriously a D/s relationship is a beautiful thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"God-awful, badly written tripe. The story of a 20-something year old virgin (see... unbelievable already lol), meeting an experienced Dom, dabbles a little bit in his world, but ultimately turns the big bad Dom vanilla. By the end of it all they're about as BDSM as any couple who happens to have a few toys and a spare room
Sadly, from my point of view the books/films misinformed a generation of mildly curious people, and now very few know the distinction between B&D and S&M. I got random idiots who assumed I'm into pain and humiliation sending me graphic messages simply because I've a few bondage pics on my profile, or that I'm a dominatrix and am open to throwing on a pair of thigh-high boots and whipping them silly without having exchanged more than a handful of messages. Not to mention the self-styled Doms who haven't grasped that a sub-Dom dynamic is a mutually respectful relationship built over time and with trust, and instead use threats of physical harm or indeed self-harm as short-cuts to gaining control.
In short, I think the books/films did more damage than good. People view them as a 'how to' rather than works of fiction and don't bother to inform themselves properly.
For genuine BDSM folk who haven't already got a partner, or are looking for a new partner, it must be so disheartening dealing with all the misinformed wannabes!"
Thanks PD , It did seem to unleash a lot of wannabe's , lol |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
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Having had a D/s relationship for the last 20 years and long been a participant in the kink scene I can say that these stories are just a shadow of reality.
A more accurate book in this genre and true literature is ‘The Story of O’ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having had a D/s relationship for the last 20 years and long been a participant in the kink scene I can say that these stories are just a shadow of reality.
A more accurate book in this genre and true literature is ‘The Story of O’"
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"Ack people take the books to literally, it's nothing more than an erotic romance, a dirty book for the girls, nothing more than that"
This, but also it validated the fantasies of millions of women. I don't accept the argument that the book is the cause of dim doms, they have always existed. Possibly reports about 50SOG may have attracted males with a sexualized or a domineering view of kink (although I think they are more likely to have been influenced by pornsites aimed at males than badly written female erotica). However I think half of the people in kink like their kink sexualized and domineering and don't see how they own behaviour may be viewed by outsiders.
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