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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
That’s not on them people should be removed from kik or fab if they are freaking ppl out I’d agree also known as stalker/stalking
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the subject of boundaries some people say all the right things building up to a meet only to let themselves down by crossing boundaries defined before play commences . Twice now I have declined to leave a veri after meeting because the guy totally ignored my stated limit and proceeded to do just the fuck what they wanted anyway ! Pay attention to what a lady says if you hope to ever get another meet .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
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Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couldn't agree more I avoid being in kik groups now I don't want randomers messaging me!
Plus not interested means not interested I shouldn't have to explain myself if the person isn't my type and takes offence. |
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I'm definitely not a fan of a random message from someone telling me they saw me at a Shop/store/having coffee.
It's just weird. Especially on the odd occasion when it's from someone you don't know.
What's the point.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely don't mind when people say that they know me or seen me... as long as they're upfront with who they are themselves.
Little games like "I know you but you don't know me" are sadly way too common tho. Instant block |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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It never fails to amaze me how single lads who have never met your wife think its acceptable to kik them without asking, just cause you happen to be in the same group chat. Like how the fook do you even know they are interested in single lads.
Heres a little advice, try talking to them an event that usually works. |
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"I genuinely don't mind when people say that they know me or seen me... as long as they're upfront with who they are themselves.
Little games like "I know you but you don't know me" are sadly way too common tho. Instant block "
Exactly that, I really do not see the point in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never fails to amaze me how single lads who have never met your wife think its acceptable to kik them without asking, just cause you happen to be in the same group chat. Like how the fook do you even know they are interested in single lads.
Heres a little advice, try talking to them an event that usually works."
Its not just single lads that think a group chat is an invitation for a kik pm. Left one group chat last year and had 4 messages within about an hour.
Im a slut though do it fidnt really bother me  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I'm all for respecting boundaries and certainly condemn any serious stalking behaviour however a once off message or even two or three messages on kik or on here can barely be called stalking even if he/she refers to having seen you in a public place.
Stalking is repeated and unwanted contacting, following, monitoring and harrassing of a person.
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place? "
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Probably constitutes mild stalking and slightly pathetic behaviour though. "
Sure you can't blame someone for trying to get in contact with you as long as it's done polite and respectful.
Ok 'the I've seen you' is slightly creepy' but most of the time it due to how much attention you seek yourself on here and and what precautions you have in place. If you're on here with a face pic or pics that make you easy recognisable (tattooes, jewellery etc.) you expose yourself more, if you join x amount of kik groups or your kik name is the same as your fab name you give yourself more exposure etc etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking "
If had exchanged face pic with a guy and was sent a message like that I'd be ok. But if it was a random person I'd be worried. Had a guy message me a few times saying he knew who I was etc that we had chatted on a different site. Said he knew where I worked and know people I worked with. Not a clue who it was. I asked him did he think by telling me all this I was going to agree to meet him? He actually replied yes. He was politely told to f off and was blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
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Happened to us on Saturday night, how do these Morons not see it as creepy, especially the ones (we have to say it, mainly single guys)who know our names but aren't man enough to tell us theirs.
No balls and no brains like they are the qualities I find attractive in a man
Blooooooocccccckkkkkkkk!!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just had a message on here from a pathetic individual implying he knows me!
Seriously what the hell is wrong with people?
No idea what goes on in their sad minds!!
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"Just had a message on here from a pathetic individual implying he knows me!
Seriously what the hell is wrong with people?
No idea what goes on in their sad minds!!
Rant over "
what the fuck is wrong with these ppl that’s not on I’d be fuming if I got that message |
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"It never fails to amaze me how single lads who have never met your wife think its acceptable to kik them without asking, just cause you happen to be in the same group chat. Like how the fook do you even know they are interested in single lads.
Heres a little advice, try talking to them an event that usually works."
This is why we have kik but rarely use it. We used it for chatting before parties and within minutes of saying hi in the group's we had single guys thinking it was okay to spell out there not so gentlemanly intentions. All of course were blocked but it just means we are very wary of un moderated kik groups.
On fab because of the sheer volume of members we expect some OTT messages going way past stated boundaries but we wouldnt filter out every single guy because of a few plebs. Just a lack of general lack of respect most of the time |
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"Probably constitutes mild stalking and slightly pathetic behaviour though.
Sure you can't blame someone for trying to get in contact with you as long as it's done polite and respectful.
Ok 'the I've seen you' is slightly creepy' but most of the time it due to how much attention you seek yourself on here and and what precautions you have in place. If you're on here with a face pic or pics that make you easy recognisable (tattooes, jewellery etc.) you expose yourself more, if you join x amount of kik groups or your kik name is the same as your fab name you give yourself more exposure etc etc.
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wise words as usual DH, protect your privacy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking "
Really ?? A complete stranger sending you a message saying they've seen you somewhere...  |
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Some people have no respect. It is nice to get a reply even if it's a refusal, you are then in no doubt where you stand. You should not recognise anyone you know or met on Fab unless you have BOTH agreed it would be ok.
What happens on FAB(incl meets M&Gs etc) should stay on FAB |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What is wrong with someone saying they know you. Maybe they do. If you are blinkered and don't converse, you'll not know how they do. Why is the default suspicion?
As for kik. Well, no sympathy. If you join a group or put your kik on your profile, you leave yourself open to contact from randomers. If you've never been on a group, how did they get the kik?
Every gurny winge here is a look at me. You don't like who is messaging you. Be more prudent about who you give your contact details to. Also understand that if you go on groups, they are not private.
Or maybe just block them. It's seems to be a favourite pastime of many in here. So I'm sure you know how it works. |
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"What is wrong with someone saying they know you. Maybe they do. If you are blinkered and don't converse, you'll not know how they do. Why is the default suspicion?
As for kik. Well, no sympathy. If you join a group or put your kik on your profile, you leave yourself open to contact from randomers. If you've never been on a group, how did they get the kik?
Every gurny winge here is a look at me. You don't like who is messaging you. Be more prudent about who you give your contact details to. Also understand that if you go on groups, they are not private.
Or maybe just block them. It's seems to be a favourite pastime of many in here. So I'm sure you know how it works. "
You know you're dead right although I do sense a hint of anger in your response, lack of veris might explain that . Anyway you now have the pleasure of being the first single guy we've blocked. Lighten up a bit, people are just have a simple conversation I'll unblock you later |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is wrong with someone saying they know you. Maybe they do. If you are blinkered and don't converse, you'll not know how they do. Why is the default suspicion?
As for kik. Well, no sympathy. If you join a group or put your kik on your profile, you leave yourself open to contact from randomers. If you've never been on a group, how did they get the kik?
Every gurny winge here is a look at me. You don't like who is messaging you. Be more prudent about who you give your contact details to. Also understand that if you go on groups, they are not private.
Or maybe just block them. It's seems to be a favourite pastime of many in here. So I'm sure you know how it works. "
Harsh but so frickin true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is wrong with someone saying they know you. Maybe they do. If you are blinkered and don't converse, you'll not know how they do. Why is the default suspicion?
As for kik. Well, no sympathy. If you join a group or put your kik on your profile, you leave yourself open to contact from randomers. If you've never been on a group, how did they get the kik?
Every gurny winge here is a look at me. You don't like who is messaging you. Be more prudent about who you give your contact details to. Also understand that if you go on groups, they are not private.
Or maybe just block them. It's seems to be a favourite pastime of many in here. So I'm sure you know how it works. "
On the kik group thing almost all have it in the rules that you should not pm people without asking in chat first.
However I seem to be in a minority of single men who actually respects these rules as the amount of times I've listened to women complaining about unsolicited contact in groups is unreal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is wrong with someone saying they know you. Maybe they do. If you are blinkered and don't converse, you'll not know how they do. Why is the default suspicion?
As for kik. Well, no sympathy. If you join a group or put your kik on your profile, you leave yourself open to contact from randomers. If you've never been on a group, how did they get the kik?
Every gurny winge here is a look at me. You don't like who is messaging you. Be more prudent about who you give your contact details to. Also understand that if you go on groups, they are not private.
Or maybe just block them. It's seems to be a favourite pastime of many in here. So I'm sure you know how it works.
On the kik group thing almost all have it in the rules that you should not pm people without asking in chat first.
However I seem to be in a minority of single men who actually respects these rules as the amount of times I've listened to women complaining about unsolicited contact in groups is unreal. "
Almost all? So it's not actually a rule? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For the one who mentioned if i was angry. No. Not at all. I think it's funny that some people get offended so easily these days. Another thing. Do you think being verified is special? If that's your barometer of anything. Well. Good luck. |
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking
Really ?? A complete stranger sending you a message saying they've seen you somewhere... "
well maybe not a complete stranger..i've mailed people before for ages and never met them but seen them around and always let them know I've seen them around,,maybe i'm a creep  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking
Really ?? A complete stranger sending you a message saying they've seen you somewhere...
well maybe not a complete stranger..i've mailed people before for ages and never met them but seen them around and always let them know I've seen them around,,maybe i'm a creep "
They'd rather you lie to them. Truth is a thing of the past to some. |
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking
Really ?? A complete stranger sending you a message saying they've seen you somewhere...
well maybe not a complete stranger..i've mailed people before for ages and never met them but seen them around and always let them know I've seen them around,,maybe i'm a creep
They'd rather you lie to them. Truth is a thing of the past to some."
No, but seriously. If you have never spoke to a person or you tried to speak to them but didn't receive a reply - why even bother letting them know that you've seen them somewhere or even better - you think that you've seen them?
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"For the one who mentioned if i was angry. No. Not at all. I think it's funny that some people get offended so easily these days. Another thing. Do you think being verified is special? If that's your barometer of anything. Well. Good luck."
You just seem a tad passive aggressive that's all. I'm well aware our veries mean f all and we are far from special but they are there none the less. You are also right in saying that people complain or whinge as you put it but how will people learn what is acceptable if it isn't spelled out. It's disappointing that you see people asking for boundaries to be respected as whinging though |
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When I was part of a couple profile on here we would sometimes get the odd message from someone saying they thought they had spotted us.
Once we came out of a Euro Spar and shortly after received a message from someone we'd messaged with before saying that he recognised C from one of our pictures, especially with the dress she was wearing and her figure. Said he was an admirer of ours on Fab but didn't think it would be appropriate to approach us in public. And we saw nothing wrong with that, he was simply trying his chances but was respectful enough to not approach us in public without knowing whether or not it was ok.
On another occasion we were out shopping with C's parents. A guy messaged us saying he was pretty sure he recognised C but decided not approach as he wasn't sure if it was ok or not, especially as there were others with us. Again, nothing wrong with that, was simply trying his luck saying he had spotted us but was respectful enough to not approach us due to not knowing if it would be ok or not.
On another occasion, C and I were in a shopping centre in Belfast having a bite to eat and we had put a social meet up for any person who happened to be about the city centre (if their profile and pics happened to catch our interest).
We started getting messages from a guy. We had said we were in a shopping centre (told him which one) were just finishing a bite to eat but would maybe get a coffee with him after if he were interested. He said that he reckoned he may be in the same shopping centre and thought he had just passed us. He had sussed it out by the way we were looking at our phones and looking around us and giggling.
He actually approached us and first thing he did was offer me a hand shake and introduced himself. That for me made a good first impression. He didn't approach C first or leer over her but shook my hand and chattered to me first and only turned to C and spoke to her once he had ascertained we were ok with it. If we weren't then it was down to us to tell him so, which we would have done.
He was polite and courteous and we ended up going for coffee with him and he made a good enough impression that we probably would have met him again had he not lived so far away.
Yes, he did approach us without getting the total ok from us first but based on that we had a social meet up, and how he saw us reacting on our phones etc and that we weren't with company he weighed it up for himself. We were fine with that.
It's all about context and what the person says and how he behaves. As DH says, it's down to us to protect our privacy to the extent we want it to be protected.
You do get a few creeps though. Some who will say they have just spotted you and say something crude which would usually just be ignored.
On one occasion we got messages from someone who noticed that we were under a mile away and wondered if we were in the same hotel as him.
We had said we were staying in a hotel in Belfast but wouldn't say which one.
C asked for a face pic and didn't find him at all attractive. Stated politely but clearly that we weren't interested. After our meal C and I were sitting in the hotel lobby enjoying drinks when the same guy (recognised him from the face pic) sat at the sofa located a short distance across from us with his drink and kept staring/eyeing C up. THAT, we found quite creepy. At one point when I stepped out to have a smoke I could see through the window and thought he was about to make an approach but he didn't which was a smart move because he would have been told that we had stated we weren't interested and that he was being rude to make an approach after us stating no interest.
Context. It is all about context. |
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"Some people need to build a bridge and get over themselves.
Can I apply for the tender. I've built two bridges before and both are still standing, I want cash up front "
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking
Really ?? A complete stranger sending you a message saying they've seen you somewhere...
well maybe not a complete stranger..i've mailed people before for ages and never met them but seen them around and always let them know I've seen them around,,maybe i'm a creep
They'd rather you lie to them. Truth is a thing of the past to some.
No, but seriously. If you have never spoke to a person or you tried to speak to them but didn't receive a reply - why even bother letting them know that you've seen them somewhere or even better - you think that you've seen them?
What exactly is it suppose to achieve? "
There is a big difference from having mailed someone before and a first message. |
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So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
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"For the one who mentioned if i was angry. No. Not at all. I think it's funny that some people get offended so easily these days. Another thing. Do you think being verified is special? If that's your barometer of anything. Well. Good luck.
You just seem a tad passive aggressive that's all. I'm well aware our veries mean f all and we are far from special but they are there none the less. You are also right in saying that people complain or whinge as you put it but how will people learn what is acceptable if it isn't spelled out. It's disappointing that you see people asking for boundaries to be respected as whinging though"
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking
Really ?? A complete stranger sending you a message saying they've seen you somewhere...
well maybe not a complete stranger..i've mailed people before for ages and never met them but seen them around and always let them know I've seen them around,,maybe i'm a creep
They'd rather you lie to them. Truth is a thing of the past to some.
No, but seriously. If you have never spoke to a person or you tried to speak to them but didn't receive a reply - why even bother letting them know that you've seen them somewhere or even better - you think that you've seen them?
What exactly is it suppose to achieve?
There is a big difference from having mailed someone before and a first message."
Indeed there is.
I think first message is okay, as long as that someone does introduce himself properly.
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
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Unfortunately this is it.
Some do some they don't.
I'm more worried about my kids n what this will mean to them!
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over a year ago
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"This subject has been talked to death before,but apparently it has to be talked about some more.
Please respect people's boundaries.
Do not send unsolicited Kik messages,then get annoyed when you don't get the response you want.
Or send random messages saying you've seen said person on the street or seen their profile on Facebook.
It's also called being a stalker.
Is it? I think if someone sees someone in the street or online and sends a message isn't stalking. As for kik. Unsolicited? How was the kik username attained in the first place?
Tend to agree with you i see no problem sending a message saying i think i saw you today on such and such street..its not stalking if you only message once..only becomes stalking or harrassment if its constant bombardment or if you show up in person at their home or work place..now thats stalking
Really ?? A complete stranger sending you a message saying they've seen you somewhere...
well maybe not a complete stranger..i've mailed people before for ages and never met them but seen them around and always let them know I've seen them around,,maybe i'm a creep
They'd rather you lie to them. Truth is a thing of the past to some.
No, but seriously. If you have never spoke to a person or you tried to speak to them but didn't receive a reply - why even bother letting them know that you've seen them somewhere or even better - you think that you've seen them?
What exactly is it suppose to achieve?
There is a big difference from having mailed someone before and a first message.
Indeed there is.
I think first message is okay, as long as that someone does introduce himself properly.
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over a year ago
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
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The thing is though, everyone's rules are different, and subject to change, when they feel like it and if they feel like..Unsolicited kiks from strangers you don't fancy are against the rules, unsolicited kiks from strangers who are hotties are within the rules..some people don't have rules! Or boundaries...some are only learning the rules as they go along..I'm not justifing people who don't take no for an answer but it's all part of this thing..it's not all screaming orgasms and sexy fun..The Block option is King ultimately |
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
The thing is though, everyone's rules are different, and subject to change, when they feel like it and if they feel like..Unsolicited kiks from strangers you don't fancy are against the rules, unsolicited kiks from strangers who are hotties are within the rules..some people don't have rules! Or boundaries...some are only learning the rules as they go along..I'm not justifing people who don't take no for an answer but it's all part of this thing..it's not all screaming orgasms and sexy fun..The Block option is King ultimately "
My teenagers can get the concept that not everyone online is your friend and that they should be careful with personal information I cannot for the life of me understand why so many adults struggle to fathom it. |
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
The thing is though, everyone's rules are different, and subject to change, when they feel like it and if they feel like..Unsolicited kiks from strangers you don't fancy are against the rules, unsolicited kiks from strangers who are hotties are within the rules..some people don't have rules! Or boundaries...some are only learning the rules as they go along..I'm not justifing people who don't take no for an answer but it's all part of this thing..it's not all screaming orgasms and sexy fun..The Block option is King ultimately
My teenagers can get the concept that not everyone online is your friend and that they should be careful with personal information I cannot for the life of me understand why so many adults struggle to fathom it. "
Yeah cause they are growing up with sensible parents!
Our generation invented the platforms but have no way of controlling them!
Look what's going on in Limerick with snapchat! |
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over a year ago
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
The thing is though, everyone's rules are different, and subject to change, when they feel like it and if they feel like..Unsolicited kiks from strangers you don't fancy are against the rules, unsolicited kiks from strangers who are hotties are within the rules..some people don't have rules! Or boundaries...some are only learning the rules as they go along..I'm not justifing people who don't take no for an answer but it's all part of this thing..it's not all screaming orgasms and sexy fun..The Block option is King ultimately
My teenagers can get the concept that not everyone online is your friend and that they should be careful with personal information I cannot for the life of me understand why so many adults struggle to fathom it.
Yeah cause they are growing up with sensible parents!
Our generation invented the platforms but have no way of controlling them!
Look what's going on in Limerick with snapchat!"
What's happening in Limerick??  |
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
The thing is though, everyone's rules are different, and subject to change, when they feel like it and if they feel like..Unsolicited kiks from strangers you don't fancy are against the rules, unsolicited kiks from strangers who are hotties are within the rules..some people don't have rules! Or boundaries...some are only learning the rules as they go along..I'm not justifing people who don't take no for an answer but it's all part of this thing..it's not all screaming orgasms and sexy fun..The Block option is King ultimately
My teenagers can get the concept that not everyone online is your friend and that they should be careful with personal information I cannot for the life of me understand why so many adults struggle to fathom it.
Yeah cause they are growing up with sensible parents!
Our generation invented the platforms but have no way of controlling them!
Look what's going on in Limerick with snapchat!
What's happening in Limerick?? "
Some form of fight club, attacking each other or random people in the street and videoing it. |
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Snapchat group promoting random assaults and fights apparently.
From thejournal.ie
"GARDAÍ HAVE URGED anyone who has been the victim of random assaults in the Limerick and Clare areas to come forward and make a statement so they can launch an official investigation.
Local Fianna Fáil councillor Cathal Crowe requested gardaí to investigate a Snapchat ‘fight club’ that is showcasing both organised fights between teenagers and random attacks on young people.
The Snapchat group allegedly features boys fighting girls, unsuspecting young people being attacked on the street by gangs of youths, as well as other violent incidents.
Crowe claimed that the videos show heads being kicked and jumped on.
Despite the seemingly large number of assaults, gardaí have told TheJournal.ie that no official complaints have been made to officers." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
The thing is though, everyone's rules are different, and subject to change, when they feel like it and if they feel like..Unsolicited kiks from strangers you don't fancy are against the rules, unsolicited kiks from strangers who are hotties are within the rules..some people don't have rules! Or boundaries...some are only learning the rules as they go along..I'm not justifing people who don't take no for an answer but it's all part of this thing..it's not all screaming orgasms and sexy fun..The Block option is King ultimately
My teenagers can get the concept that not everyone online is your friend and that they should be careful with personal information I cannot for the life of me understand why so many adults struggle to fathom it.
Yeah cause they are growing up with sensible parents!
Our generation invented the platforms but have no way of controlling them!
Look what's going on in Limerick with snapchat!
What's happening in Limerick??
Some form of fight club, attacking each other or random people in the street and videoing it. "
Happy slapping but more sinister! |
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"So to sum it all up...
Veris mean nothing.
Burning bridges is a thing of the past.
Stalking is a normal thing nowadays.Espeacially on social media.
And because you are in a public kik group chat means no rules should be follow.
Well isn't that just dandy.
Let's just not follow any rules whatsoever then.
The thing is though, everyone's rules are different, and subject to change, when they feel like it and if they feel like..Unsolicited kiks from strangers you don't fancy are against the rules, unsolicited kiks from strangers who are hotties are within the rules..some people don't have rules! Or boundaries...some are only learning the rules as they go along..I'm not justifing people who don't take no for an answer but it's all part of this thing..it's not all screaming orgasms and sexy fun..The Block option is King ultimately "
I like this approach |
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"Some people have no respect. It is nice to get a reply even if it's a refusal, you are then in no doubt where you stand. You should not recognise anyone you know or met on Fab unless you have BOTH agreed it would be ok.
What happens on FAB(incl meets M&Gs etc) should stay on FAB"
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"Some people have no respect. It is nice to get a reply even if it's a refusal, you are then in no doubt where you stand. You should not recognise anyone you know or met on Fab unless you have BOTH agreed it would be ok.
What happens on FAB(incl meets M&Gs etc) should stay on FAB
Agree"
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"Yes OP sending kik messages randomly is a huge no no..I'm actually thinking of changing my kik name...huge pet hate of mine  "
In fairness it was a rookie mistake on our part using the same name in more than one place so I should have been more careful. Live and learn |
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"Yes OP sending kik messages randomly is a huge no no..I'm actually thinking of changing my kik name...huge pet hate of mine "
I had to change mine recently as some delightful man decided to share my Kik with everyone on his snapchat quoting ... ‘if u want a ride download Kik and message her - u can thank me later ... his exact words!!!
The joys of fab |
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"Yes OP sending kik messages randomly is a huge no no..I'm actually thinking of changing my kik name...huge pet hate of mine
I had to change mine recently as some delightful man decided to share my Kik with everyone on his snapchat quoting ... ‘if u want a ride download Kik and message her - u can thank me later ... his exact words!!!
The joys of fab "
What a prick. Should have shared his Kik around gay networks saying "if you want a ride....."
See how he likes it. |
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"Yes OP sending kik messages randomly is a huge no no..I'm actually thinking of changing my kik name...huge pet hate of mine
I had to change mine recently as some delightful man decided to share my Kik with everyone on his snapchat quoting ... ‘if u want a ride download Kik and message her - u can thank me later ... his exact words!!!
The joys of fab
What a prick. Should have shared his Kik around gay networks saying "if you want a ride....."
See how he likes it. "
That would have been a brilliant response!! |
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"Yes OP sending kik messages randomly is a huge no no..I'm actually thinking of changing my kik name...huge pet hate of mine "
Sometimes people like an answer.boys throw their toys out Of Their pram men shrug it off!
But god does love a Trier
But offensive texts, block. |
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