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As a Dad of a 9yr old, who is currently getting stomach pains, not serious, on a more frequent basis, the subject of discussing periods has come up.
We've found a book written by an Indian lady that's highly recommended and want to have an open and frank discussion with our daughter on the subject.
Any hints and tips that you would proffer on this matter?
Points from both Mums and Dad's welcomed.
Also, anyone who had a positive experience from the discussion which their parents had with them would be appreciated.
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over a year ago
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I just think be very open when chatting. The car is often a good place for chats like that as you’re driving and both looking around rather than at the kitchen table for example. I always keep it relaxed and honest and try to answer any question in an age appropriate. Periods in our house have never been an issue as the kids have always known about them. Just reassure her not to be frightened when she gets her first and make sure she has a ST in her school just in case. |
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Open and honest discussion with your kids on puberty is the only way to go. From an early age my elder daughter was curious about what pads and tampons were for so I told her, when her periods started we talked about it openly in front of her siblings (older brother, younger sister) by the time my youngest started hers, it was just a matter of fact. Children will simply accept what their parents tell them when pre-pubescent, the child will ask whatever questions they want answers to if there is an environment where they feel comfortable. |
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My daughters school had a group chat with the P7 girls about periods with a nurse, so my daughter came home from school with a few questions and quite relaxed about the subject, so when hers started it wasn't a big deal for her...
Kids are very open at that age to discuss things like periods they are young enough that they don't feel embarrassed discussing the subject
That's the easy discussion, what until she is older and has a boyfriend, the birds and the bees talk is harder
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By *itenurse69Couple
over a year ago
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When my daughter was 10 I got her the book "The care and keeping of you" from amazon. It is brilliant it explains very simple why and how your body changes. It also cover topics such as the importance of personal hygeine, mood and feelings. The book is brilliant, after she read it we discussed different questions she had. It also meant she could go back at any point and read it again if anything she needed to know cropped up.
There is also a the care of you 2 book. It's for 14yr + and is about having relationships with boys and sex etc. I will buy it nxt but not until she hits 20 I think lmao   |
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Think the thing that helped mine most was knowing that she wasn’t the only girl having them and being very practical, so she had a special kit (for want of a better word) for school. She was aware of the bins in primary toilets. She knew she could go to the office if any problems. Kept it basic, explained what it was and why it happened with basic biology. Mostly just lots of hugs and reassurance. In a house of boys I think we even became a little closer when it started. Think the whole thing panicked me more than her in the end. |
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My 12 Yo daughter is having cramps fairly regularly too so expecting hers soon enough. We are very open and honest about the whole subject and as they had covered it in school she knew the basics. She's comfortable enough to ask questions so we have to be comfortable answering them. She has a prepacked wash bag with all the essentials she'll need and carries it in her school bag. I find that by talking about it matter of factly seems to reassure her it's perfectly normal. Followed up with lots of hugs!!!! Can never have too many hugs  ! |
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"As a Dad of a 9yr old, who is currently getting stomach pains, not serious, on a more frequent basis, the subject of discussing periods has come up.
We've found a book written by an Indian lady that's highly recommended and want to have an open and frank discussion with our daughter on the subject.
Any hints and tips that you would proffer on this matter?
Points from both Mums and Dad's welcomed.
Also, anyone who had a positive experience from the discussion which their parents had with them would be appreciated.
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guarantee she already heard about them in school. My daughter was 11 when she started but was getting cramps for quite a while . Normally you will notice her breasts starting to develop.. poor girl it can be quite frightening for then at the beginning . Good luck op |
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I am seperated from my eldests mother and she had her first period while with my mother, who frankly is useless! But her mother and I had spoken to her openly and frankly about what was to happen and she coped fine. I was in more of a panic when I rushed back from work. So be honest, open andhide nothing and should be fine. |
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"Im one of three girls with two daughters and a neice. They're all the same age. We told the girls around the same time. Keep it simple and positive... when they're that young you need to make it simple to understand. Reassure her how shes feeling is normal really explain how important good personal hygine is.
Provide her with a peroid box. Underwear, pads, panty liners, treats like new pjs and socks, a novilty hot water bottle. This is a time of huge change for all girls .. comfort her and make sure she is as open to talking to you as she is to mum. Good luck...and ensure the safety of your man cave. Your going to need it  "
Jesus Christ DO NOT forget the chocolate.... |
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"Im one of three girls with two daughters and a neice. They're all the same age. We told the girls around the same time. Keep it simple and positive... when they're that young you need to make it simple to understand. Reassure her how shes feeling is normal really explain how important good personal hygine is.
Provide her with a peroid box. Underwear, pads, panty liners, treats like new pjs and socks, a novilty hot water bottle. This is a time of huge change for all girls .. comfort her and make sure she is as open to talking to you as she is to mum. Good luck...and ensure the safety of your man cave. Your going to need it
Jesus Christ DO NOT forget the chocolate...."
defo the best thing ever lol |
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"Im one of three girls with two daughters and a neice. They're all the same age. We told the girls around the same time. Keep it simple and positive... when they're that young you need to make it simple to understand. Reassure her how shes feeling is normal really explain how important good personal hygine is.
Provide her with a peroid box. Underwear, pads, panty liners, treats like new pjs and socks, a novilty hot water bottle. This is a time of huge change for all girls .. comfort her and make sure she is as open to talking to you as she is to mum. Good luck...and ensure the safety of your man cave. Your going to need it
Jesus Christ DO NOT forget the chocolate.... defo the best thing ever lol"
You dont give her that till the period arrives .... it'll only be ate duhhhhh |
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By *rs AWoman
over a year ago
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Only you know your daughter and what she can digest. be open and honest and make sure she knows it a natural occurrence all girls through to reach womanhood. I had 2 daughters both matured at different ages. I also applaud you for trying to make this easier for your daughter |
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"Im one of three girls with two daughters and a neice. They're all the same age. We told the girls around the same time. Keep it simple and positive... when they're that young you need to make it simple to understand. Reassure her how shes feeling is normal really explain how important good personal hygine is.
Provide her with a peroid box. Underwear, pads, panty liners, treats like new pjs and socks, a novilty hot water bottle. This is a time of huge change for all girls .. comfort her and make sure she is as open to talking to you as she is to mum. Good luck...and ensure the safety of your man cave. Your going to need it
Jesus Christ DO NOT forget the chocolate.... defo the best thing ever lol
You dont give her that till the period arrives .... it'll only be ate duhhhhh "
. Love it rover lol |
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"When my daughter was 10 I got her the book "The care and keeping of you" from amazon. It is brilliant it explains very simple why and how your body changes. It also cover topics such as the importance of personal hygeine, mood and feelings. The book is brilliant, after she read it we discussed different questions she had. It also meant she could go back at any point and read it again if anything she needed to know cropped up.
There is also a the care of you 2 book. It's for 14yr + and is about having relationships with boys and sex etc. I will buy it nxt but not until she hits 20 I think lmao "
I'm going to get this for my 9 year old. Oh they grow up too soon! |
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"Many thanks to all who responded. I feel a lot more relaxed about it after reading your advice and experiences. Hugs, clear, honest open chatting, a little essentials pack and chocolate. Sorted  "
Lots of chocolate...then get some more just in case!! |
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