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By *eebaw OP Man
over a year ago
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HI fellow fabbers taught its only right of me to post a message to apologise for some of my actions over the past few year ie not showing up to events or meets that i had said i would. I should have took some of yer advice and took a break and got my life on track at that stage but sopose i cant turn back time and do that so iv been takeing a break the past few months and got sorted and am hopeing to get back on here and back to events socials and parties and meet up with old and new friends if you all are willing to give me a second chance .
So a massive sorry from _eebaw . |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events. |
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By *eebaw OP Man
over a year ago
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events."
Yup I know too well i should have just took break and not put my name down and thats why Iv posted this thread to apoligise for doing so hopefully member cant accept my apology there are some great members includeing you who run very well run events  |
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over a year ago
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events."
The guy put himself out publicly on forums and apologised to all affected. Personally I think that takes a lot of strength and courage. I'm sure he knows how his actions affected other people and I'm also quite sure he doesn't need to be told of same  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events.
The guy put himself out publicly on forums and apologised to all affected. Personally I think that takes a lot of strength and courage. I'm sure he knows how his actions affected other people and I'm also quite sure he doesn't need to be told of same "
Completely agree with this. He has spoken publicly before about mental health issues, a little bit of understanding goes a long way when someone is brave enough to reveal their vulnerabilities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events.
The guy put himself out publicly on forums and apologised to all affected. Personally I think that takes a lot of strength and courage. I'm sure he knows how his actions affected other people and I'm also quite sure he doesn't need to be told of same "
Well to be fair he was active enough on the forums before he started pulling no shows so he already knew of the impact it had before hand from forum threads.
An apology doesnt automatically excuse all poor behaviour.
Also the poster you are replying too wasnt exactly scathing just pounted out that it does have an effect on everyone.
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"Your life and your health are far more important than not showing up for a few Fab events.
I'm sure the organisers will understand and give you another chance.
Glad to hear you're doing better."
well said _orguy !!jeeze we are all very quick to jump the gun here nobody knows what anyone is dealing with so if you can't say anything nice don't say nothing at all !!!  |
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Empathy .... walk a mile in my shoes then judge me. Mental heath issues alters a persons ability to judge clearly. An apology does draw a line under things. Theres bigger issues in life then someone not turning up. The guys explained his situation more then once, hes apologised... as they day never ever knock someone down if you can build them up. |
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events.
The guy put himself out publicly on forums and apologised to all affected. Personally I think that takes a lot of strength and courage. I'm sure he knows how his actions affected other people and I'm also quite sure he doesn't need to be told of same "
Posting anonymously on an anonymous swinging site takes strength and courage does it?
God give me feckin strength ....
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Bee ur health is more important and we have spoke about it in the past... Small steps and u will get there... Easy urself back slowly... Glad to hear ur on the mend.... Look forward to catching up with u at some social events soon. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The importance of mental health is seriously undervalued (despite what the media might portray).
We all go through hard times @BeeBaw, so don’t be so hard on yourself. Letting people down my not attending their event isn’t the end of the world and while I understand it’s frustrating from an organiser point of view, give the lad a break.
For anyone suffering, just remember that someone out there is going through the same thing. It’s just important to remember that we all need to be a bit kinder to each other and to ourselves.
Sending hugs to anyone who’s been through a hard time of anyone trying to get through it. X |
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"The importance of mental health is seriously undervalued (despite what the media might portray).
We all go through hard times @BeeBaw, so don’t be so hard on yourself. Letting people down my not attending their event isn’t the end of the world and while I understand it’s frustrating from an organiser point of view, give the lad a break.
For anyone suffering, just remember that someone out there is going through the same thing. It’s just important to remember that we all need to be a bit kinder to each other and to ourselves.
Sending hugs to anyone who’s been through a hard time of anyone trying to get through it. X"
Couldn't agree more .. self care is something we all need |
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events."
As party organisers we all have to deal with single guys who don’t show and last min change of plans bull, its having the respect to let them know in time that you can’t make an event is key, everyone knows there’s only a certain amount of single guys spaces it’s easy say awe it will be grand but it’s actually not it’s so hard getting a good mix at a party or event and I would say if your asking to attend only ask if your sure you can attend, never waste anyone’s time it’s not fair on the hosts or the guests |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events.
As party organisers we all have to deal with single guys who don’t show and last min change of plans bull, its having the respect to let them know in time that you can’t make an event is key, everyone knows there’s only a certain amount of single guys spaces it’s easy say awe it will be grand but it’s actually not it’s so hard getting a good mix at a party or event and I would say if your asking to attend only ask if your sure you can attend, never waste anyone’s time it’s not fair on the hosts or the guests "
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events.
As party organisers we all have to deal with single guys who don’t show and last min change of plans bull, its having the respect to let them know in time that you can’t make an event is key, everyone knows there’s only a certain amount of single guys spaces it’s easy say awe it will be grand but it’s actually not it’s so hard getting a good mix at a party or event and I would say if your asking to attend only ask if your sure you can attend, never waste anyone’s time it’s not fair on the hosts or the guests "
only takes seconds to cancel
No shows with no cancellation are awful for hosts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem with putting your name down for events and either not showing or cancelling last minute is that you take a space that someone else could have had its tough enough for single guys to get invites to events.
As party organisers we all have to deal with single guys who don’t show and last min change of plans bull, its having the respect to let them know in time that you can’t make an event is key, everyone knows there’s only a certain amount of single guys spaces it’s easy say awe it will be grand but it’s actually not it’s so hard getting a good mix at a party or event and I would say if your asking to attend only ask if your sure you can attend, never waste anyone’s time it’s not fair on the hosts or the guests "
This. And more. |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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You cant blame all lifes problems on mental health, its an easy route to take. Hopefully _eebaw has learned from this and will make more of an effort in the future to attend things because as Laid said, when he cancels last minute to events he’s taking the space of another single lad who would only be glad to take it.
As they say, the proof of the pudding will be in the eating. |
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Hopefully it does not affect your ability to have no strings sex with people.
I find saying sorry the easiest thing in the world but I realise for a lot of people it's hard, and its very brave of them to say it. |
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"HI fellow fabbers taught its only right of me to post a message to apologise for some of my actions over the past few year ie not showing up to events or meets that i had said i would. I should have took some of yer advice and took a break and got my life on track at that stage but sopose i cant turn back time and do that so iv been takeing a break the past few months and got sorted and am hopeing to get back on here and back to events socials and parties and meet up with old and new friends if you all are willing to give me a second chance .
So a massive sorry from _eebaw . "
no need to apologise. Life's problems, personal problems are alot bigger fish to fry then a little meet and greet on an online site. I'm sure some people use this site to try and forget lifes problems and then those problems weigh them further down, cancelling Is the least of your worries. Hope all is behind you and hit 2019 with a bang. Bottom line. We havnt a clue what's going on in people's everyday lives, not one iota of a clue |
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By *eebaw OP Man
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies people and thanks for the advice from the genuine posters and thanks to the cheeky ones too.
By no means am i looking for sympathy on this post or anything like it I’m being genuine and Just saying sorry for being a prick and sorry for not showing up. Hopefully I get the chance to prove that I’m a Genuine lad as before this rough patch I attended some great nights socials kk’s and parties and made food friends .
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"Thanks for the replies people and thanks for the advice from the genuine posters and thanks to the cheeky ones too.
By no means am i looking for sympathy on this post or anything like it I’m being genuine and Just saying sorry for being a prick and sorry for not showing up. Hopefully I get the chance to prove that I’m a Genuine lad as before this rough patch I attended some great nights socials kk’s and parties and made food friends .
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"Thanks for the replies people and thanks for the advice from the genuine posters and thanks to the cheeky ones too.
By no means am i looking for sympathy on this post or anything like it I’m being genuine and Just saying sorry for being a prick and sorry for not showing up. Hopefully I get the chance to prove that I’m a Genuine lad as before this rough patch I attended some great nights socials kk’s and parties and made food friends .
Food friends... lol... Just to lighten the mood... we all go through shite we Just need to b there for each other
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By *eebaw OP Man
over a year ago
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"You cant blame all lifes problems on mental health, its an easy route to take. Hopefully _eebaw has learned from this and will make more of an effort in the future to attend things because as Laid said, when he cancels last minute to events he’s taking the space of another single lad who would only be glad to take it.
As they say, the proof of the pudding will be in the eating. "
Id agree and disagree with the statment of people useing mental health as an easy route to take yes by all means some do but on the oppsite side of the fence people dont speek out or get the help they need cause they think people will thing they are ‘useing’ it as a cop out or to gain attention
Sorry for ranting. But yea i totaly agree with what laid said and I know there are limited spaces for guys at events and I do be privileged to gain an invite so heres to the future and i will prove if i say il be there i will.
What kinda pudding are we talkin pete and gemma ?  |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"You cant blame all lifes problems on mental health, its an easy route to take. Hopefully _eebaw has learned from this and will make more of an effort in the future to attend things because as Laid said, when he cancels last minute to events he’s taking the space of another single lad who would only be glad to take it.
As they say, the proof of the pudding will be in the eating.
Id agree and disagree with the statment of people useing mental health as an easy route to take yes by all means some do but on the oppsite side of the fence people dont speek out or get the help they need cause they think people will thing they are ‘useing’ it as a cop out or to gain attention
Sorry for ranting. But yea i totaly agree with what laid said and I know there are limited spaces for guys at events and I do be privileged to gain an invite so heres to the future and i will prove if i say il be there i will.
What kinda pudding are we talkin pete and gemma ? "
Sticky Toffee... |
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I dont think most ppl understand the different levels of mental health its so diverse and one in particular which is anxiety. Some one very close to me has anxiety and it can and has stopped her from living the life she desires.. anxiety can prevent you from leaving the house last minute to any event it's totally beyond someone's control and can have devastating effects on that person when they just can't make it out the door..
Yes I get the frustration of last minute no shows and cancellations but some genuine ppl can't help it. Can just invite an extra dude or 2 to cover the no shows... Bee I dont need your apology and I would still invite you to any further socials.. I hope 2019 proves a better yr for you all round...
So many ppl so quick to judge on here it's fab not our daily life. It's not the Be all and end all... |
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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago
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"I dont think most ppl understand the different levels of mental health its so diverse and one in particular which is anxiety. Some one very close to me has anxiety and it can and has stopped her from living the life she desires.. anxiety can prevent you from leaving the house last minute to any event it's totally beyond someone's control and can have devastating effects on that person when they just can't make it out the door..
Yes I get the frustration of last minute no shows and cancellations but some genuine ppl can't help it. Can just invite an extra dude or 2 to cover the no shows... Bee I dont need your apology and I would still invite you to any further socials.. I hope 2019 proves a better yr for you all round...
So many ppl so quick to judge on here it's fab not our daily life. It's not the Be all and end all..."
Well said and I totally agree. Glad you are back on track Bee. From organising socials myself believe me there's always someone ready and willing to take your place x |
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"HI fellow fabbers taught its only right of me to post a message to apologise for some of my actions over the past few year ie not showing up to events or meets that i had said i would. I should have took some of yer advice and took a break and got my life on track at that stage but sopose i cant turn back time and do that so iv been takeing a break the past few months and got sorted and am hopeing to get back on here and back to events socials and parties and meet up with old and new friends if you all are willing to give me a second chance .
So a massive sorry from _eebaw . no need to apologise. Life's problems, personal problems are alot bigger fish to fry then a little meet and greet on an online site. I'm sure some people use this site to try and forget lifes problems and then those problems weigh them further down, cancelling Is the least of your worries. Hope all is behind you and hit 2019 with a bang. Bottom line. We havnt a clue what's going on in people's everyday lives, not one iota of a clue "
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"HI fellow fabbers taught its only right of me to post a message to apologise for some of my actions over the past few year ie not showing up to events or meets that i had said i would. I should have took some of yer advice and took a break and got my life on track at that stage but sopose i cant turn back time and do that so iv been takeing a break the past few months and got sorted and am hopeing to get back on here and back to events socials and parties and meet up with old and new friends if you all are willing to give me a second chance .
So a massive sorry from _eebaw . "
Dont be a soft lad..you should have gone to them parties and gone balls deep in them old women flaps |
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I suffer from terrible anxiety and depression. Its a horrible illness. U could have days where u feel perfectly fine and then wake up next day unable to function completely outta nowhere. The smallest thing becomes a massive problem to someone with this illness. U cant control it. I myself have cancelled plans last min with fanily and friends due to just not having the physical energy to try and interact with ppl. Its mentally and physically exhausting. People are far to quick to judge in this day and age. Untill youve gone through this struggle unself you will never know how hard it is. Fab is a way to try escape reality and have fun. But sometimes its becoming a bit to serious. He apologised for his actions which is extremely hard for anyone to do. He plans on trying better but you some times you need to give ppl a break. Looking forward to meeting you at singles social _eebaw. Best of luck.Ally xx |
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Some people on this site are very gullible, some very manipulative, it takes all sorts i suppose...i seen the previous anxiety thread play out 4 or 5 months ago i believe. I thought then it was a strategy the op was using, bait if you like.. i remember at that time people were highlighting your no shows at events too op..You were not very open to taking on peoples concerns at that time, but hey ho...another approach can be very productive,particularly at this time of the year |
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Ive chatted with you before on a kik group and found you a lovely person and a great laugh . Life is not easy at times we all struggle from time to time but there is always someone to talk about diffrent things going on in life all the best mate and always here for a chat with anyone all the best boris |
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By *eebaw OP Man
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"I dont think most ppl understand the different levels of mental health its so diverse and one in particular which is anxiety. Some one very close to me has anxiety and it can and has stopped her from living the life she desires.. anxiety can prevent you from leaving the house last minute to any event it's totally beyond someone's control and can have devastating effects on that person when they just can't make it out the door..
Yes I get the frustration of last minute no shows and cancellations but some genuine ppl can't help it. Can just invite an extra dude or 2 to cover the no shows... Bee I dont need your apology and I would still invite you to any further socials.. I hope 2019 proves a better yr for you all round...
So many ppl so quick to judge on here it's fab not our daily life. It's not the Be all and end all...
Well said and I totally agree. Glad you are back on track Bee. From organising socials myself believe me there's always someone ready and willing to take your place x"
Hopefully get to experience all the good things im hearing about your events beeja in the new year  |
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By *eebaw OP Man
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"You cant blame all lifes problems on mental health, its an easy route to take. Hopefully _eebaw has learned from this and will make more of an effort in the future to attend things because as Laid said, when he cancels last minute to events he’s taking the space of another single lad who would only be glad to take it.
As they say, the proof of the pudding will be in the eating.
Id agree and disagree with the statment of people useing mental health as an easy route to take yes by all means some do but on the oppsite side of the fence people dont speek out or get the help they need cause they think people will thing they are ‘useing’ it as a cop out or to gain attention
Sorry for ranting. But yea i totaly agree with what laid said and I know there are limited spaces for guys at events and I do be privileged to gain an invite so heres to the future and i will prove if i say il be there i will.
What kinda pudding are we talkin pete and gemma ? Sticky Toffee... "
I was thinking something of a more moist than sticky |
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"I dont think most ppl understand the different levels of mental health its so diverse and one in particular which is anxiety. Some one very close to me has anxiety and it can and has stopped her from living the life she desires.. anxiety can prevent you from leaving the house last minute to any event it's totally beyond someone's control and can have devastating effects on that person when they just can't make it out the door..
Yes I get the frustration of last minute no shows and cancellations but some genuine ppl can't help it. Can just invite an extra dude or 2 to cover the no shows... Bee I dont need your apology and I would still invite you to any further socials.. I hope 2019 proves a better yr for you all round...
So many ppl so quick to judge on here it's fab not our daily life. It's not the Be all and end all..."
So much this... Any self-respecting professional event planner factors in no-shows and slightly overbooks... if your party falls flat because of one or two no-shows then it's best to re-think your strategies.
Frankly I'd rather have someone NOT show up than be forced to attend out of some misplaced sense of guilt and have a shit time.
And if money is an issue, there's always EventBrite reservations to cover basic costs. |
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By *eijaWoman
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"I dont think most ppl understand the different levels of mental health its so diverse and one in particular which is anxiety. Some one very close to me has anxiety and it can and has stopped her from living the life she desires.. anxiety can prevent you from leaving the house last minute to any event it's totally beyond someone's control and can have devastating effects on that person when they just can't make it out the door..
Yes I get the frustration of last minute no shows and cancellations but some genuine ppl can't help it. Can just invite an extra dude or 2 to cover the no shows... Bee I dont need your apology and I would still invite you to any further socials.. I hope 2019 proves a better yr for you all round...
So many ppl so quick to judge on here it's fab not our daily life. It's not the Be all and end all...
Well said and I totally agree. Glad you are back on track Bee. From organising socials myself believe me there's always someone ready and willing to take your place x
Hopefully get to experience all the good things im hearing about your events beeja in the new year "
Beeja lol that's a first did we get married??  |
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By *eebaw OP Man
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"I dont think most ppl understand the different levels of mental health its so diverse and one in particular which is anxiety. Some one very close to me has anxiety and it can and has stopped her from living the life she desires.. anxiety can prevent you from leaving the house last minute to any event it's totally beyond someone's control and can have devastating effects on that person when they just can't make it out the door..
Yes I get the frustration of last minute no shows and cancellations but some genuine ppl can't help it. Can just invite an extra dude or 2 to cover the no shows... Bee I dont need your apology and I would still invite you to any further socials.. I hope 2019 proves a better yr for you all round...
So many ppl so quick to judge on here it's fab not our daily life. It's not the Be all and end all...
Well said and I totally agree. Glad you are back on track Bee. From organising socials myself believe me there's always someone ready and willing to take your place x
Hopefully get to experience all the good things im hearing about your events beeja in the new year
Beeja lol that's a first did we get married??
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