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"Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. This is so true! " . Drier than an African footpath lmao love it | |||
"Just wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to Fab. This maybe my second or third time being here and I haven’t come remotely close to meeting someone. I know being a single guy I’m always going to be up against it as this is primarily a swinging website, but I can’t understand what it is (single) women want? Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. ANYWAY, I can’t get over the complete contrast that I have had with tinder. I have met scores of girls there and I’d say about 75% of whom I’ve slept with - and I don’t just jump into bed with anyone. While I would like to meet someone for a relationship I see no harm in having fun along the way (hence being on here) but the difference between fab and online dating sites is incredible. Maybe it’s the age profile of women on here (mostly late 30s and above) and they aren’t that interested in younger fellas but I still just don’t get it. I know I’m not the worst looking in the world, look after myself physically, seldom drink, no drugs/smoking etc so I get so confused when I read verifications of some of the better looking girls and the guys that left them look like a monkey’s abortion ![]() ![]() . Ok firstly saying that you might need to lower your standards people will automatically cause uproar and people will jump all over you.... we are all attracted to certain types ... personally if I was single and saw your profile I would just ignore it as you say nothing about yourself. I find the ones that put effort into their profile more intriguing . Yes you are a good looking guy with a fit body but ladies need more than that ... bit of banter / craic etc ... good luck x | |||
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"Just wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to Fab. This maybe my second or third time being here and I haven’t come remotely close to meeting someone. I know being a single guy I’m always going to be up against it as this is primarily a swinging website, but I can’t understand what it is (single) women want? Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. ANYWAY, I can’t get over the complete contrast that I have had with tinder. I have met scores of girls there and I’d say about 75% of whom I’ve slept with - and I don’t just jump into bed with anyone. While I would like to meet someone for a relationship I see no harm in having fun along the way (hence being on here) but the difference between fab and online dating sites is incredible. Maybe it’s the age profile of women on here (mostly late 30s and above) and they aren’t that interested in younger fellas but I still just don’t get it. I know I’m not the worst looking in the world, look after myself physically, seldom drink, no drugs/smoking etc so I get so confused when I read verifications of some of the better looking girls and the guys that left them look like a monkey’s abortion ![]() ![]() Your fairly spot on OP, the nature of this site being what it is, a lot of people here actually meet very infrequently... treat it as an outlet for a bit of banter here on the forum, playing snakes and ladders on the site could be soul destroying, your going to hear the usual merry go round feedback, improve this, change that.. i wouldnt wipe me arse with it to be honest. You come across as fairly self assured and confident, trust your gut instincts, and keep all options open.. | |||
"Am I being too fussy? Do I need to lower standards as (no offence) a lot of girls here are of the bigger/bbw variety" even i took offence by that. I dont get into arguements here and generally let things slide that annoy me, but i feel compelled to say this ..... You wonder why guys find it tough on here??? The ironic thing is that its because of guys like you ![]() ![]() | |||
"Am I being too fussy? Do I need to lower standards as (no offence) a lot of girls here are of the bigger/bbw variety even i took offence by that. I dont get into arguements here and generally let things slide that annoy me, but i feel compelled to say this ..... You wonder why guys find it tough on here??? The ironic thing is that its because of guys like you ![]() ![]() Who, why, what are you getting offended for, the chap had the balls to put it on the forum, with regards to how he finds the site.. | |||
"Just wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to Fab. This maybe my second or third time being here and I haven’t come remotely close to meeting someone. I know being a single guy I’m always going to be up against it as this is primarily a swinging website, but I can’t understand what it is (single) women want? Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. ANYWAY, I can’t get over the complete contrast that I have had with tinder. I have met scores of girls there and I’d say about 75% of whom I’ve slept with - and I don’t just jump into bed with anyone. While I would like to meet someone for a relationship I see no harm in having fun along the way (hence being on here) but the difference between fab and online dating sites is incredible. Maybe it’s the age profile of women on here (mostly late 30s and above) and they aren’t that interested in younger fellas but I still just don’t get it. I know I’m not the worst looking in the world, look after myself physically, seldom drink, no drugs/smoking etc so I get so confused when I read verifications of some of the better looking girls and the guys that left them look like a monkey’s abortion ![]() ![]() Ya but the only thing is he isnt spot on... there is plenty of meetibg going on, its just that it takes effort in one way or another. Be that a really appealling profile, an attractive presense on the forums or attendance at socials. If you dont want to make the effort in any of those then yes Fab is a barron place. But the dismissal of feedback is onmy going to lead to more silence and empty inboxes | |||
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"Just wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to Fab. This maybe my second or third time being here and I haven’t come remotely close to meeting someone. I know being a single guy I’m always going to be up against it as this is primarily a swinging website, but I can’t understand what it is (single) women want? Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. ANYWAY, I can’t get over the complete contrast that I have had with tinder. I have met scores of girls there and I’d say about 75% of whom I’ve slept with - and I don’t just jump into bed with anyone. While I would like to meet someone for a relationship I see no harm in having fun along the way (hence being on here) but the difference between fab and online dating sites is incredible. Maybe it’s the age profile of women on here (mostly late 30s and above) and they aren’t that interested in younger fellas but I still just don’t get it. I know I’m not the worst looking in the world, look after myself physically, seldom drink, no drugs/smoking etc so I get so confused when I read verifications of some of the better looking girls and the guys that left them look like a monkey’s abortion ![]() ![]() Having being on both the difference is when ladys go on tinder they have made up their mind they want to go on dates and chat to people within a week of being on tinder you would have a date on fab people are looking for different qualities in a guy and wait until they see a profile that matches what they are looking for there is merit in both sites depends on what u are looking for | |||
"Just wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to Fab. This maybe my second or third time being here and I haven’t come remotely close to meeting someone. I know being a single guy I’m always going to be up against it as this is primarily a swinging website, but I can’t understand what it is (single) women want? Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. ANYWAY, I can’t get over the complete contrast that I have had with tinder. I have met scores of girls there and I’d say about 75% of whom I’ve slept with - and I don’t just jump into bed with anyone. While I would like to meet someone for a relationship I see no harm in having fun along the way (hence being on here) but the difference between fab and online dating sites is incredible. Maybe it’s the age profile of women on here (mostly late 30s and above) and they aren’t that interested in younger fellas but I still just don’t get it. I know I’m not the worst looking in the world, look after myself physically, seldom drink, no drugs/smoking etc so I get so confused when I read verifications of some of the better looking girls and the guys that left them look like a monkey’s abortion ![]() ![]() Its obviously more effort than the guy is prepared to put into it..you may have found your niche here, and more power to you..i appreciate the time required to invest in this process, but its not for everybody, or the fainthearted for that matter. I think the quicker some people realise this the better, for all involved on this site.. | |||
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"Am I being too fussy? Do I need to lower standards as (no offence) a lot of girls here are of the bigger/bbw variety even i took offence by that. I dont get into arguements here and generally let things slide that annoy me, but i feel compelled to say this ..... You wonder why guys find it tough on here??? The ironic thing is that its because of guys like you ![]() ![]() for me the shape of someones body is irrelevant. Though there has to be a physical attraction, If a BBW has a similar sense of humour, similar personality, similar interests and similar sexual tastes i will be absolutely attracted to her on the flip side, if a slim, woman with big boobs who could be a model had no personality and thought the world evolved around her. I absolutely would not be attracted to her. You agree and think hes "spot on" for saying to persue larger women would be lowering standards, thats your opinion. Mine opinion just differs from you both thats all | |||
"Am I being too fussy? Do I need to lower standards as (no offence) a lot of girls here are of the bigger/bbw variety even i took offence by that. I dont get into arguements here and generally let things slide that annoy me, but i feel compelled to say this ..... You wonder why guys find it tough on here??? The ironic thing is that its because of guys like you ![]() ![]() Lets be clear here, these are the OPs words your referring to.. if that is how he finds the site im not going to disagree with him..proportionally speaking, excuse the pun, he may very well be right that the majority of the ladies are, curvy, bbw, overweight, call it what you may. I dont hold the same outlook as the OP, but i respect his right to voice opinion..And, yes, i have no doubt what so ever, that some men here will have sex with others, for all sorts of reasons,and attraction Not being to the forefront of their decisions.. | |||
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"To be honest you get a better chance of fucking a CD/TV/TS than a real women. Nothing wrong with being Fab straight lool.....most straight-ish guys here know that term. Broaden your sexual horizon and you'll be laughing in no time ![]() ![]() ![]() Nothing like a bit of self promotion ![]() | |||
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"It's times like these where I feel there should be an Agony Aunt part in the forums. ![]() I volunteer, but I warn you I take no BS or whining ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
" Lets be clear here, these are the OPs words your referring to.. if that is how he finds the site im not going to disagree with him..proportionally speaking, excuse the pun, he may very well be right that the majority of the ladies are, curvy, bbw, overweight, call it what you may. I dont hold the same outlook as the OP, but i respect his right to voice opinion..And, yes, i have no doubt what so ever, that some men here will have sex with others, for all sorts of reasons,and attraction Not being to the forefront of their decisions.." actually saying he was spot on were your words. Suggesting you agree, Just saying. You are right, Its great we can all voice our opinions but with that comes the right to disagree........which i do ![]() | |||
"It's times like these where I feel there should be an Agony Aunt part in the forums. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() It needs a womans voice as well ... ill be fabs agony aunt too ![]() | |||
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"It's times like these where I feel there should be an Agony Aunt part in the forums. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() What good are you as an agony aunt then? ![]() | |||
"It's times like these where I feel there should be an Agony Aunt part in the forums. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Clarity of thought and a low bullshit threshold ![]() | |||
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"Thank ya all kindly for the feedback. I know I may have come across as shallow, ignorant and even mysoginistic; but that was just me giving my honest thoughts on fab. I’m not going to hold back in that regard and I make no apologies for that. I guess tinder probably works for me better, I was really just trying to tease out whether there were fellas similar to myself and what their experiences were here on Fab. When I set up tinder it was for a bit of craic and maybe see if I could find myself a relationship, when I set up fab it was to have fun along the way. Maybe if I do stay on fab I could tweak my approach to women (how I do not know - whether it’s a short hello or a full paragraph it seems to get automatically deleted either way) and yes I can fill out my profile again, it did have a good bit that i deleted as I’m not really looking anymore, for the time-being at least and I don’t see the point right now in having anything on it. I also don’t see the issue with getting verified, surely everyone has or can get Snapchat, I don’t understand see what the big deal is with setting up an account and showing the person who you are - takes all of 3 minutes!" Theres a system in place and it works. Under no circumstances would i start setting up snapchat accounts for anyone especially someone who casually describes themselves as misogynistic. Sometimes if there's an issue one needs to look at themselves first. What comes across is a sense of entitlement and a complete lack of effort. Maturity is whats needed above all else. | |||
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"Just wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to Fab. This maybe my second or third time being here and I haven’t come remotely close to meeting someone. I know being a single guy I’m always going to be up against it as this is primarily a swinging website, but I can’t understand what it is (single) women want? I'd bang ye Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. ANYWAY, I can’t get over the complete contrast that I have had with tinder. I have met scores of girls there and I’d say about 75% of whom I’ve slept with - and I don’t just jump into bed with anyone. While I would like to meet someone for a relationship I see no harm in having fun along the way (hence being on here) but the difference between fab and online dating sites is incredible. Maybe it’s the age profile of women on here (mostly late 30s and above) and they aren’t that interested in younger fellas but I still just don’t get it. I know I’m not the worst looking in the world, look after myself physically, seldom drink, no drugs/smoking etc so I get so confused when I read verifications of some of the better looking girls and the guys that left them look like a monkey’s abortion ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Get yourself to a few meet and greets, people judge your whole character by a face pic here so I find a social or meet and greet the best bet as I take a brutal pic, good luck anyway hope ya get sorted" Trust me, when your personality and approach are on point - face picture doesn't really matter that much as long you don't have anything seriously wrong with it.. | |||
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"Get yourself to a few meet and greets, people judge your whole character by a face pic here so I find a social or meet and greet the best bet as I take a brutal pic, good luck anyway hope ya get sorted Trust me, when your personality and approach are on point - face picture doesn't really matter that much as long you don't have anything seriously wrong with it.. " Or a beard ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I’ve been banned from Tinder twice, shortly after joining. It seems i may never have mastered how to partake in it on my short time there... ![]() How do you get banned from tinder? | |||
"I’ve been banned from Tinder twice, shortly after joining. It seems i may never have mastered how to partake in it on my short time there... ![]() Maybe banned is the weong word. Ejected may be more accurate and my account closed by them. As i understand it, youre not allowed to say you are looking just for hook ups in your profile text. Also, topless pics for men seem to be a no go. I was in the USA when i created the profiles. | |||
"I’ve been banned from Tinder twice, shortly after joining. It seems i may never have mastered how to partake in it on my short time there... ![]() Dirty dog ![]() | |||
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"Just shag a fatty, get the green tick and don’t being it up again ![]() speculate to accumulate lol jokes!!! ![]() | |||
"Just wondering what I am doing wrong when it comes to Fab. This maybe my second or third time being here and I haven’t come remotely close to meeting someone. I know being a single guy I’m always going to be up against it as this is primarily a swinging website, but I can’t understand what it is (single) women want? Yeah to be honest tinder is pretty is to have consistent sex on or meets if not sex....maybe too easy but not as private as here. Apparently adding them without having previously spoken is rude, sending winks get ignored, and most women have a prerequisite set of procedures that have to be adhered to when sending the first message (face pic, politeness etc) which I totally get. Thing is, most girls don’t reply to messages, they delete them straight away or If they do reply it’s like pulling hens teeth or they’re drier than an African footpath. They don’t want interact at all and it’s like constantly fighting a losing battle.. ANYWAY, I can’t get over the complete contrast that I have had with tinder. I have met scores of girls there and I’d say about 75% of whom I’ve slept with - and I don’t just jump into bed with anyone. While I would like to meet someone for a relationship I see no harm in having fun along the way (hence being on here) but the difference between fab and online dating sites is incredible. Maybe it’s the age profile of women on here (mostly late 30s and above) and they aren’t that interested in younger fellas but I still just don’t get it. I know I’m not the worst looking in the world, look after myself physically, seldom drink, no drugs/smoking etc so I get so confused when I read verifications of some of the better looking girls and the guys that left them look like a monkey’s abortion ![]() ![]() . Yeah to be honest tinder is pretty is to have consistent sex on or meets if not sex....maybe too easy but not as private as here. I haven’t met anyone here yet or had much of a chat so the jury’s out on fab yet but I haven’t given it enough time yet | |||
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"You sound like your up your own arse....saying your probably wouldn't meet a lot of people on here. A lot of young single guys can't perform with another Male there ie hubby. It's not what you got but what you do with it. Also you're profile is lacking doesn't make you stand out. And yes this is a swinging site not a dating site. In my opinion singles shouldn't be on here unless looking to play with couples not just one to one hook ups" It's more a sex site going by the activity. Swinging is a much smaller part than many are led to believe. Far more singles meeting and couples meeting a single than swapping going on. Could be wrong of course. | |||
" It's more a sex site going by the activity. Swinging is a much smaller part than many are led to believe. Far more singles meeting and couples meeting a single than swapping going on. Could be wrong of course." I think couples meeting a single definitely falls into the swinging category, couples might not go around shouting about it, but there’s definitely lots of playing going on. | |||
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"Fab is pretty shite. Compared to lowly MSN chat; I must have met 60 women a year. No coffee bollocks. No months of chat going nowhere . No pics exchanged. Just here’s my address; come and fuck me. So I did. " Your a busy man all those woman and your still here. | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. " In a nutshell ![]() | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. " I'm obviously doing something wrong than I've never considered myself having a monopoly on here and I fall into the fat and short category! | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. I'm obviously doing something wrong than I've never considered myself having a monopoly on here and I fall into the fat and short category! " I’m fairly certain you could post a status asking for a meet tonight and get 100 messages, easily! A guy does the same and nothing. He might get 10 views from other guys. | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. " Have you fucked someone off fab that you wouldnt if you met them in a club? Fact is women have always had the power in relation to us wanting what they have. Be that on fab or in a club/pub. | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. Have you fucked someone off fab that you wouldnt if you met them in a club? Fact is women have always had the power in relation to us wanting what they have. Be that on fab or in a club/pub. " Yes. That’s how I got my green tick ![]() | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. Have you fucked someone off fab that you wouldnt if you met them in a club? Fact is women have always had the power in relation to us wanting what they have. Be that on fab or in a club/pub. Yes. That’s how I got my green tick ![]() Right well thats my whole argument blown nevermind.... Just in relation to the posting a meet... If you got a guy and a girl to stand up in a dj box at a club and announce that they will be taking someone home for the night ya know the girl is getting more offers... its human nature its no that Fab jas warpped it | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. I'm obviously doing something wrong than I've never considered myself having a monopoly on here and I fall into the fat and short category! I’m fairly certain you could post a status asking for a meet tonight and get 100 messages, easily! A guy does the same and nothing. He might get 10 views from other guys. " I have posted a meet before and I got one reply from a guy I had politely turned before. So not all of us women have a monopoly | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. Have you fucked someone off fab that you wouldnt if you met them in a club? Fact is women have always had the power in relation to us wanting what they have. Be that on fab or in a club/pub. Yes. That’s how I got my green tick ![]() I agree that’s its not just fab, it’s in the real world too. I was just relating to fab, that’s all. | |||
"Women hold a monopoly on fab. Fat/skinny, tall/short, dark/light, they have what guys want and they can pick and choose with whom they want to be with-more so than, say, meeting in a pub/club etc I’d say some guys wouldn’t give a second look at some women in a club that they’ve slept with on fab and they same goes for women. It’s really simple. Accept it and move on. If you’re not attracted to someone a polite no thank you will do. I'm obviously doing something wrong than I've never considered myself having a monopoly on here and I fall into the fat and short category! I’m fairly certain you could post a status asking for a meet tonight and get 100 messages, easily! A guy does the same and nothing. He might get 10 views from other guys. I have posted a meet before and I got one reply from a guy I had politely turned before. So not all of us women have a monopoly" Ok, I accept your point and take it on board. It would’ve been one more reply than I would’ve got! Sounds like the dudes in Sligo need to up their game ![]() | |||
" Yes. That’s how I got my green tick ![]() Wow, what a gent ![]() | |||
" Yes. That’s how I got my green tick ![]() ![]() Never said I was a gent nor have I pretended to be ![]() ![]() | |||