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over a year ago
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Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??"
In fairness you should read some of the shite they receive and the volume of messages. They would need to hire an assistant to reply to all even if it is just no thanks. If they like you they will respond. No point getting worked up about it. Move on until you impress someone |
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??
In fairness you should read some of the shite they receive and the volume of messages. They would need to hire an assistant to reply to all even if it is just no thanks. If they like you they will respond. No point getting worked up about it. Move on until you impress someone "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have just under 700 messages still to read in my inbox and the majority of them are ridiculous and undeserving of a reply. But even if I was to reply to every message just because the sensitive sender might get his feelings hurt, do you have any idea how long that would take? And then there is the abuse I'm inviting just by being friendly. Because a lot of men that send me ridiculous messages also can't take no for an answer. So add on some more time for blocking all of them.
It doesn't take much to put yourself in someone elses position and maybe if you had of given that a go first and seen that it's not a personal attack to have a message deleted you wouldn't have wrote this forum post that honestly will get you no sympathy. It just paints you as a bit of a moan tbh.
Could I have put it nicer? Yep. But I'm busy so sorry not sorry.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??"
No reply no interest im afraid is the norm. A thanks but not intetested isnt accepted as a answer in majority of cases.ur here three months only relax enjoy the chats.the rest will follow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no one owes anyone a reply, just because you send a message just not mean a person has to reply to you, we agree with the comments here, unfortunately we were too polite at the start and replied to every message even if it was to say thank you for the message but not interested, in most cases that lead to more messages and sucked into conversations we did not want to be in out of politeness and in quite a few cases it lead to being told that we are idiots to not be interested and in a few cases, more than we would like to admit, it turned nasty with comments being made about both of us that are completely unfair and uncalled for, so now we reply to the messages that interest us and delete the rest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you can see OP, most of the women here are inundated with mail (thanks to the huge ratio of Male/Female)....
Theres a poster here with 700 mail! 
Can you imagine how long it would take to reply to everyone who mailed her??
Let’s round it up to 1min to write a reply to each of her messages, that’s 700 mins!
(Ok we all know there’s 60 mins in an hour, so that would make it approx 11.6666667hrs to clear that amount)
That’s a lot of time in someone’s day just to have ‘manners’ to keep someone else happy 
Or,
Just read the site FAQ where it states that ‘no reply is a response’ (happy days for all) 
You’re welcome,
Professor Foo
Now I’d better reply to all MY mail after that...
(Bollox to that, bulk delete) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As you can see OP, most of the women here are inundated with mail (thanks to the huge ratio of Male/Female)....
Theres a poster here with 700 mail!
Can you imagine how long it would take to reply to everyone who mailed her??
Let’s round it up to 1min to write a reply to each of her messages, that’s 700 mins!
(Ok we all know there’s 60 mins in an hour, so that would make it approx 11.6666667hrs to clear that amount)
That’s a lot of time in someone’s day just to have ‘manners’ to keep someone else happy
Or,
Just read the site FAQ where it states that ‘no reply is a response’ (happy days for all)
You’re welcome,
Professor Foo
Now I’d better reply to all MY mail after that...
(Bollox to that,t bulk delete) "
Another Spokesperson for the ladies on fab. |
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??"
Personally I would just suck it up and move on ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm new as a single here but was on recently as a couple so know to well how the site works, I know only to well on a night I can charm the ass off the ladies on a night out, it's also true there's alot of ladies here I'd pass by on a night out(no offence) but the reality is its not a night out and it's kind of a woman's fantasy world here.
Its an escape where they can fulfill their fantasies, and good for them! And it's not going to be reversed anytime soon .. And I think unfortunately we need more rain to wash the throll from under the bridge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have just under 700 messages still to read in my inbox and the majority of them are ridiculous and undeserving of a reply. But even if I was to reply to every message just because the sensitive sender might get his feelings hurt, do you have any idea how long that would take? And then there is the abuse I'm inviting just by being friendly. Because a lot of men that send me ridiculous messages also can't take no for an answer. So add on some more time for blocking all of them.
It doesn't take much to put yourself in someone elses position and maybe if you had of given that a go first and seen that it's not a personal attack to have a message deleted you wouldn't have wrote this forum post that honestly will get you no sympathy. It just paints you as a bit of a moan tbh.
Could I have put it nicer? Yep. But I'm busy so sorry not sorry. "
Was hoping for a reply like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile? |
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile? "
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol"
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive "
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though |
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
Smart move lol!
I use the winks. No point adding to the volume of mails. Let the lovely lady know youre interested and of you get a reply! Great!
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though"
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??"
Speak for yourself some of us don't do the chasing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??
Speak for yourself some of us don't do the chasing. "
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers "
Ahaha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers "
I must change that especially since when I'm having a sneaky one in the garage |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers
I must change that especially since when I'm having a sneaky one in the garage "
Forgot to add, I'm now awaiting your reply with impatience  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers
I must change that especially since when I'm having a sneaky one in the garage
Forgot to add, I'm now awaiting your reply with impatience "
Be left waiting as nothing has changed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers
I must change that especially since when I'm having a sneaky one in the garage
Forgot to add, I'm now awaiting your reply with impatience
Be left waiting as nothing has changed "
Burned.. I mean my finger |
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??"
A girl I know signed up during the summer. She recieved over 200 messages in the first hour on Fab so it's just impossible for ladies to reply to everyone |
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??"
Do you reply to every single email you recieve in your daily life including the spam mail business ad mails with thanks but no thanks... no you don't why because no reply is no interest. The very same rule applies here too. Why is that so hard for ppl to understand.. it does happen to the girls too we just don't moan about it we move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers
I must change that especially since when I'm having a sneaky one in the garage
Forgot to add, I'm now awaiting your reply with impatience
Be left waiting as nothing has changed "
wana fuck? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers
I must change that especially since when I'm having a sneaky one in the garage
Forgot to add, I'm now awaiting your reply with impatience
Be left waiting as nothing has changed wana fuck?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reply to most emails I receive and sometimes take the back lash of abuse from my 'no thanks' reply!
I delete those that haven't bothered to read my profile first. Why should I read their email and reply to them when they haven't bothered their hoop reading a profile?
I hope youre prepared for the onslaught of mail youre about to get lol
I use my filters wisely, cuts back on the amount of email I receive
I read your profile.. Still deleted my mail, didn't take offence though
Nor me when your profile states that you won't meet smokers
I must change that especially since when I'm having a sneaky one in the garage
Forgot to add, I'm now awaiting your reply with impatience
Be left waiting as nothing has changed wana fuck?
Again "
and again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??"
Just in 1hr since I've created the profile my mailbox was full of messages. Did I read them all? Yes. How many people got a message back? Many but not all of them. Can you imagine it? I don't think so. Please don't say that most of us women are rude... We just don't have time to reply for all messages we received. Next time if you didn't get an answer just try with another lady. Read the profiles carefully and be patient.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do I feel that there is such a lack of manners on this site? I should say i have chatted to a few really nice ladies here but the men have to do the chasing while building the ego of some of the ladies on here who just delete your mail without even as much as a thanks but no thanks. I wonder how would you girls would feel if it was the other way around??
Do you reply to every single email you recieve in your daily life including the spam mail business ad mails with thanks but no thanks... no you don't why because no reply is no interest. The very same rule applies here too. Why is that so hard for ppl to understand.. it does happen to the girls too we just don't moan about it we move on. "
That’s a great way of putting it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's a typical example of what happens when you reply to a message. I should have just deleted and not responded
Fuckwit "Sex meet thurs morning..."
ME "Last time I checked I wasn't a unpaid sex worker so I certainly won't be having a sex meet with you ever.."
Same Fuckwit one day later "Hiya fancy a meet this week n see wat happens x"
Me "No thanks as I outlined earlier"
Fuckwit " No need to be such a cock tease"
Me "Welcome to the block list sweetie"
Sometimes by replying you just get more grief. Some men handle rejection politely and with grace and some throw their toys out of the cot.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's a typical example of what happens when you reply to a message. I should have just deleted and not responded
Fuckwit "Sex meet thurs morning..."
ME "Last time I checked I wasn't a unpaid sex worker so I certainly won't be having a sex meet with you ever.."
Same Fuckwit one day later "Hiya fancy a meet this week n see wat happens x"
Me "No thanks as I outlined earlier"
Fuckwit " No need to be such a cock tease"
Me "Welcome to the block list sweetie"
Sometimes by replying you just get more grief. Some men handle rejection politely and with grace and some throw their toys out of the cot.
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Aaaaaaagh that magical phrase "see what happens" makes my skin crawl. Such a turn off
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"“Sex meet this thurs”
Iv been sending the wrong opening message all this time!!
Thanks for the tip! "
You were probably forgetting to attach a cock pic to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's a typical example of what happens when you reply to a message. I should have just deleted and not responded
Fuckwit "Sex meet thurs morning..."
ME "Last time I checked I wasn't a unpaid sex worker so I certainly won't be having a sex meet with you ever.."
Same Fuckwit one day later "Hiya fancy a meet this week n see wat happens x"
Me "No thanks as I outlined earlier"
Fuckwit " No need to be such a cock tease"
Me "Welcome to the block list sweetie"
Sometimes by replying you just get more grief. Some men handle rejection politely and with grace and some throw their toys out of the cot.
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Haha that's who all the women are chatting to. No wonder none are answering this lad |
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"Here's a typical example of what happens when you reply to a message. I should have just deleted and not responded
Fuckwit "Sex meet thurs morning..."
ME "Last time I checked I wasn't a unpaid sex worker so I certainly won't be having a sex meet with you ever.."
Same Fuckwit one day later "Hiya fancy a meet this week n see wat happens x"
Me "No thanks as I outlined earlier"
Fuckwit " No need to be such a cock tease"
Me "Welcome to the block list sweetie"
Sometimes by replying you just get more grief. Some men handle rejection politely and with grace and some throw their toys out of the cot.
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Feck me, I've always wondered how strange and ludicrously deluded some of the msgs get.
It's the problem of a private verble communication medium? Think of the way ppl behave on twitter etc, face to face it would never happen.
I guess it's the miss match of personalities that have access to each other... Like some guy who for whatever reason ended up in his bedroom wanking and playing the PlayStation all day, next he's looking at sexy pics on an anonymous website! That opening line is only gonna go one way....
Ppl are on for so many different reasons, some guy's are socially inept and fantasise about meeting a hot girl, some girls might be just looking for likes on photos to boost confidence, some people are just highly sexed or looking to explore pleasure that society has deemed to be immoral... Yada Yada - just need to match up with the right ppl and fab should not be anyone's only outlet for human intimate interaction.
No point in burying our heads in the sand either, if a "fuckwit" or socially inept guy sees an oh so sexy pic of a hot woman even if he had a few braincells to rub together at this stage it's all gone south and he completely believes that this woman is on all fours waiting for him to call over!
The flipside I guess is when a girl puts up a really hot pic, she knows it's a sexual display for whoever looks at it and it must be satisfying / exciting to be told you look good on some level?
Personally I love to admire and I guess get aroused by a beautiful woman but often wondered if you were someone who sex was unobtainable for would it be a good thing.
Kinda like porn I guess, twisting reality for people who are unable to distinguish fantasy and reality.
700 tho, let's face it how many guys get past single digits ffs |
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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago
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I used to message guys first all the time. Sometimes didn’t get a response. Didn’t cry bout it. Moved on and didn’t monitor my sent items obsessively either. That’s just strange like. |
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"I used to message guys first all the time. Sometimes didn’t get a response. Didn’t cry bout it. Moved on and didn’t monitor my sent items obsessively either. That’s just strange like. "
I have a solution! Delete your profile and start all over again, message me and I'll think about responding, but if I don't at least you'll get over me and move on |
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