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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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found elsewhere but an interesting question ... discuss
"My friend and her husband haven't had sex in a year. She thinks they've definitely lost the desire for each other. They're more like brother and sister. Do you think it's game over in a marriage once the sex has gone?" |
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By *squaredCouple
over a year ago
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Depends why sex has gone, it isn't always the end. However if communication also goes the same way as sex - it is the end.
I know A sexual couples that are very happy & healthy where sex has never been a thing.
I know couples who have lost their mojo in that area but have found other ways to express their love.
And of course I know a few who lost interest in bed, stop talking & there the writing was on the wall, with no hope of reconciliation as they stopped talking & didn't look for reason mojo was lost. |
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"Depends why sex has gone, it isn't always the end. However if communication also goes the same way as sex - it is the end.
I know A sexual couples that are very happy & healthy where sex has never been a thing.
I know couples who have lost their mojo in that area but have found other ways to express their love.
And of course I know a few who lost interest in bed, stop talking & there the writing was on the wall, with no hope of reconciliation as they stopped talking & didn't look for reason mojo was lost. "
Agreed. Communication is key factor  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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anyways No sex = Game over. it's only a matter of time! communication is very important but only goes so far! but touch is equally if not more important! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends very much why the sex is gone. If there are other issues in the relationship they may be causing resentment on one or both sides, these need to be addressed first.
Also, long-term relationships can go stale, caught up in the everyday dross of work and parenting, people forget to see what it was about the other that first attracted them and forget to have fun together and talk about their feelings, hopes and dreams. It takes effort to regularly check in with each other and maybe recalibrate if things have gone awry. Or sex can start to feel like just another chore at the end of a long day instead of being a fun reconnection. Unimaginative sex is another reason why interest can wane.
This is why marriage is called work. Long term relationships are like most other things in life, you get out what you put in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know when I was at a point that I wasn't happy in my marriage, I didn't even want to sleep in the same bed as my ex husband and certainly had no desire for sex with him....
But I think in a strong relationship they will work around the sex issues as other factors in life can be the cause of lost sexual desires... |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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You can love someone without having sex and you can have sex with someone you don't love.
On here most likely everyone will tell you how important sex is for them and in a relationship. However I'm sure there is plenty of peeps outside fab who don't rate sex as crucial to keep a relationship going. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can love someone without having sex and you can have sex with someone you don't love.
On here most likely everyone will tell you how important sex is for them and in a relationship. However I'm sure there is plenty of peeps outside fab who don't rate sex as crucial to keep a relationship going. "
I think the issue is that both partners need to be happy with the amount/quality of sex in the particular relationship. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"You can love someone without having sex and you can have sex with someone you don't love.
On here most likely everyone will tell you how important sex is for them and in a relationship. However I'm sure there is plenty of peeps outside fab who don't rate sex as crucial to keep a relationship going.
I think the issue is that both partners need to be happy with the amount/quality of sex in the particular relationship."
Of course, once it's imbalanced there's a problem. |
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