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It can be wonderful but can be a threat too. One spouse getting emotionally attached to a FwB and may leave the relation - not unheard of. If your opening is limited to sex only ...difficult to stick to it. Sex is intimacy and requires trust to be enjoyable, anything else is rather masturbating on each other’s body . A lots of pro and con to be evaluated |
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over a year ago
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Im the least monogomous person i know, so open relationshiphs have always been the way to go..obviously communication is key, a strong physical and emotional relationship with your partner is essential, and on the social side of things, dont attempt to cover the same interests that your partner has.. |
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OK this will probably sound weird considering our lifestyle here but,,,, no way. I would go absolutely apeshit if Niall was out having sex with other women. I would never even consider the thought of an open relationship.
He feels the same way when it comes to me. Its totally different in the situation of swinging, as we're both there and both enjoying what's happening. Which is why we don't meet separately.
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We swing together and apart. But the apart is sex. Just sex. So its not a relationship. Anything else we do is extra curricular to our own marriage. You need to have a strong trustworthy relationship with no secrets for it too work. X |
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Works for us. We don't actively search for one on ones, in fact we both prefer foursomes, but, for us if it happens it happens. One rule though, full disclosure afterwards. Usually with my cock in her hand as she tells me what she's done  |
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"What is it you mean by open relationship?  like being married and both having a boyfriend and girlfriend on the side?
Or playing separately etc? "
For us, we are very very happy together. We swing, and have a LOT of fun. But if one of us is out and the oppertunity arises for a snog or even a shag, then we go for it. And share details later. Or two weeks ago I ( Jack ) had a mutual friend over for sex. I mentioned it to Sasha, and she said go for it . |
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"What is it you mean by open relationship? like being married and both having a boyfriend and girlfriend on the side?
Or playing separately etc?
For us, we are very very happy together. We swing, and have a LOT of fun. But if one of us is out and the oppertunity arises for a snog or even a shag, then we go for it. And share details later. Or two weeks ago I ( Jack ) had a mutual friend over for sex. I mentioned it to Sasha, and she said go for it ."
Ah yes that's us too and it totally works for us so long may it last. If it was a case of having a boyfriend/girlfriend I'd be unsure because of feelings, families etc etc. But we can only do what we do because of how strong our relationship and trust is with each other so op if it's something you both want and have spoken about it sure why not!! You never know unless you try |
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Iv been in them and they are great if you are both honest with each other, it can actually make your own sex life better. A good book to read is "the ethical slut" its more about poly but it has good tips and scenarios that may come up for You, good luck with it |
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"Thank you everyone this really helps Ure advice is really appreciated "
It worked for me and my ex for a few years. However she fell in love with her b/f. That in itself is not a bad thing, but eventually she chose him as her no 1. I still believe in polyamoury,.. An open relationship... Why say no to love when it turns up?It's better to give love to two people than one.. And to receive from many, rather than one. I think it's the future of male female relationships. So, the open relationship has to have love, lust, desire, and no jealousy. It's common enough.
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By *umPlay69Couple
over a year ago
Near Dungannon |
"OK this will probably sound weird considering our lifestyle here but,,,, no way. I would go absolutely apeshit if Niall was out having sex with other women. I would never even consider the thought of an open relationship.
He feels the same way when it comes to me. Its totally different in the situation of swinging, as we're both there and both enjoying what's happening. Which is why we don't meet separately.
Tina "
Totally agree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not judging in any way just not for us...and it's nothing to do with trust..we came to fab with and both of us agree that we play/socialise as a couple.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone judges...
I can understand thr appeal of and open relationship but not sure how a poly one could ever work long term"
eh....I'm sorry but no we don't,each to their own if they are happy all I ( Mr ) said was it wouldn't suit us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?"
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
otherside of nowhere |
"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others "
Perfect explanation.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others
Perfect explanation...."
sometimes less of a Google explanation is more useful |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others "
thanks Geordie
Open is not that different to swinging then?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others thanks Geordie
Open is not that different to swinging then?
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No I guess it's not  open realtionships are fairly conveniental enough to be honest quite popular among by generation |
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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago
north cork |
"It can be wonderful but can be a threat too. One spouse getting emotionally attached to a FwB and may leave the relation - not unheard of. If your opening is limited to sex only ...difficult to stick to it. Sex is intimacy and requires trust to be enjoyable, anything else is rather masturbating on each other’s body . A lots of pro and con to be evaluated "
100%,could not say any better!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others thanks Geordie
Open is not that different to swinging then?
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A lot of couples who swing will do it together, attend parties, clubs or meets as a couple. Or if one half meets alone then the other is usually aware and has approved who they are going to set.
My experience of an open relationship is that less information is shared and partners meet whoever they want with the understanding consent is not required for each meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others thanks Geordie
Open is not that different to swinging then?
A lot of couples who swing will do it together, attend parties, clubs or meets as a couple. Or if one half meets alone then the other is usually aware and has approved who they are going to set.
My experience of an open relationship is that less information is shared and partners meet whoever they want with the understanding consent is not required for each meet."
Geordie you're better than Google  |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
"Whats rhe difference between an open relationship and a poly relationship?
Open is just sex with others
Poly is more intense... Emotional attachment to others thanks Geordie
Open is not that different to swinging then?
A lot of couples who swing will do it together, attend parties, clubs or meets as a couple. Or if one half meets alone then the other is usually aware and has approved who they are going to set.
My experience of an open relationship is that less information is shared and partners meet whoever they want with the understanding consent is not required for each meet."
ahh that makes sense thanks |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"It can be wonderful but can be a threat too. One spouse getting emotionally attached to a FwB and may leave the relation - not unheard of. If your opening is limited to sex only ...difficult to stick to it. Sex is intimacy and requires trust to be enjoyable, anything else is rather masturbating on each other’s body . A lots of pro and con to be evaluated 100%,could not say any better!"
I don't think the risk of getting emotionally attached to another person is any higher than in an conventional relationship, it normally happens when there are cracks in the existing relationship.
As for the masterbating on each other's bodies  , get off your high horse, good sex isn't reserved for couples only. |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
"It can be wonderful but can be a threat too. One spouse getting emotionally attached to a FwB and may leave the relation - not unheard of. If your opening is limited to sex only ...difficult to stick to it. Sex is intimacy and requires trust to be enjoyable, anything else is rather masturbating on each other’s body . A lots of pro and con to be evaluated 100%,could not say any better!
I don't think the risk of getting emotionally attached to another person is any higher than in an conventional relationship, it normally happens when there are cracks in the existing relationship.
As for the masterbating on each other's bodies , get off your high horse, good sex isn't reserved for couples only. "
only saw that now about masturbating, i guess you singles would wanna leave here as you obviously aint getting anything out of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It can be wonderful but can be a threat too. One spouse getting emotionally attached to a FwB and may leave the relation - not unheard of. If your opening is limited to sex only ...difficult to stick to it. Sex is intimacy and requires trust to be enjoyable, anything else is rather masturbating on each other’s body . A lots of pro and con to be evaluated 100%,could not say any better!
I don't think the risk of getting emotionally attached to another person is any higher than in an conventional relationship, it normally happens when there are cracks in the existing relationship.
As for the masterbating on each other's bodies , get off your high horse, good sex isn't reserved for couples only. only saw that now about masturbating, i guess you singles would wanna leave here as you obviously aint getting anything out of it"
I think us singles are doing pretty well  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"It can be wonderful but can be a threat too. One spouse getting emotionally attached to a FwB and may leave the relation - not unheard of. If your opening is limited to sex only ...difficult to stick to it. Sex is intimacy and requires trust to be enjoyable, anything else is rather masturbating on each other’s body . A lots of pro and con to be evaluated 100%,could not say any better!
I don't think the risk of getting emotionally attached to another person is any higher than in an conventional relationship, it normally happens when there are cracks in the existing relationship.
As for the masterbating on each other's bodies , get off your high horse, good sex isn't reserved for couples only. only saw that now about masturbating, i guess you singles would wanna leave here as you obviously aint getting anything out of it"
I quite enjoy my masturbating meets. |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
"It can be wonderful but can be a threat too. One spouse getting emotionally attached to a FwB and may leave the relation - not unheard of. If your opening is limited to sex only ...difficult to stick to it. Sex is intimacy and requires trust to be enjoyable, anything else is rather masturbating on each other’s body . A lots of pro and con to be evaluated 100%,could not say any better!
I don't think the risk of getting emotionally attached to another person is any higher than in an conventional relationship, it normally happens when there are cracks in the existing relationship.
As for the masterbating on each other's bodies , get off your high horse, good sex isn't reserved for couples only. only saw that now about masturbating, i guess you singles would wanna leave here as you obviously aint getting anything out of it
I quite enjoy my masturbating meets. "
haha brilliant |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are peoples thoughts on them"
I'm assuming you're talking of polyamorous relationships and not couples meeting singles for additional sex. After all true poly involves love and commitment. Now there may be varying restrictions to which different couples put in place too. Look and search in the Lounge or Forums over the water as there are many involved. You're more likely to get better information there. True poly puts aside entitlement to any one individual which is something to consider. I've been in a poly relationship and it worked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think if you can you should look at the recent BBC series starring Toni Colette called Wanderlust it does look at the cautionary tale in open relationships !!"
I watched it! Didn't portray the whole scenario through rose tint d glasses, that's for sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The key word is is a Relationship and all that entails. Like any relationship some work and some don't. There are many who wouldn't advocate marriage and there are many who do. Some see through rose tinted glasses, some through clear lenses and some badly scratched. Like most things the success depends upon much upon the input. |
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By *ixpackCouple
over a year ago
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This would not be for us. I couldn't sit at home watching the tv or go to work while she heads out on a date or off for sex etc..neither could she.
The fun in swinging is we do it together..sometimes I just watch her play or we both play with singles n couples but we are always both involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the happy balance is somewhere between monogamy and an open relationship.
I don't date guys but if I was seeing a bi woman, I would happily let her see other woman. I would feel selfish if I was to deprive her of sex with another woman.
But as I am a voyeur, I would let her fuck guys of her choosing as long as I was there to watch, maybe join in, maybe clean up 
If she saw guys without me being present it would be a big no-no for me and probably be a red card offence! |
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