This is to any grandparents on here
I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait 
As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby
But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark
My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.
I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother
Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??
Tina  |
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Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever! |
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"Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever! "
Well she lives with me Rosy so the dinners are a certainty anyway  thanks for your comment xx
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Tina
I lived at home when had my son and my parents were a great support but they left me to it but if I needed help all I had to do was ask. So just sit her down and tell her.
Congrats on been a yummy granny you will love it and be an amazing Gran xx |
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"Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever!
Well she lives with me Rosy so the dinners are a certainty anyway thanks for your comment xx
Tina "
Lucky girl Tina having her Mammy so close to hand. Best of luck and enjoy the joy that it brings x |
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I'm not a parent or a granparent but really it just sounds like you need to actually tell her you want to be as supportive as possible witgout overstepping the mark.
At the end of the day its the dynamic betweem you two that will decide what is ok and what isnt.
I have friends with kids and the granparents seem way too overbearing but the parents love it.
Main thing is that your daughter knows its ok to tell you when she thinks your doing too much
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You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.
Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x |
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"I'm not a parent or a granparent but really it just sounds like you need to actually tell her you want to be as supportive as possible witgout overstepping the mark.
At the end of the day its the dynamic betweem you two that will decide what is ok and what isnt.
I have friends with kids and the granparents seem way too overbearing but the parents love it.
Main thing is that your daughter knows its ok to tell you when she thinks your doing too much
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The dinners is a really good idea - they really helped a few years ago when my daughter was born! Don’t be afraid to take over feeding or nappy changing as she that will give her more confidence around you. Enjoy it |
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We have an amazing relationship. I've always told my kids they can come to me about anything.
But my daughter is my only girl, and we just have this connection. We always have.
I've told her I'm here for her for everything she may need
You're all right, I just need to relax and enjoy my grandbaby and let my daughter come to me if she's feeling unsure about anything.
I was looking at it from my perspective as a young first time mother and the feeling of (for want of a better word) inadequacy when told I shouldn't be doing a certain thing "that way"
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I stayed with my mum for the first 6 weeks after having mine and having her cook and washing all those tiny clothes was a godsend. It gave me a chance to bond with the baby and enjoy the whole experience.
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"I'm not a parent or a granparent but really it just sounds like you need to actually tell her you want to be as supportive as possible witgout overstepping the mark.
At the end of the day its the dynamic betweem you two that will decide what is ok and what isnt.
I have friends with kids and the granparents seem way too overbearing but the parents love it.
Main thing is that your daughter knows its ok to tell you when she thinks your doing too much
Well is there no end to your talents. "
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"This is to any grandparents on here
I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait
As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby
But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark
My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.
I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother
Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??
Tina "
Tina congrats to both of you, you will be a great Granny just as you were a Mammy. Go with the flow and what ever comes up deal with it in sensable calm manner. |
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"Well I think help in little ways. When I had my first baby I was totally overwhelmed. The Mammy cooked up a whole load of dinners and put them in the freezer. It was best gift ever! "
That's exactly what I did when I became a grandfather for the first time in June. Small practical things make a huge difference |
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Thank you all so much for your kind comments
You've helped calm me down a lot and see I just need to be there for her, the way I had planned to
I just started over thinking I guess and got myself wound up, and slightly panicked, that I'd go overboard with the help
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"This is to any grandparents on here
I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait
As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby
But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark
My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.
I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother
Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??
Tina "
Tell her ull do the night feeds, she will be delighted  , on a serious note, congratulations on becoming a grand parent, we had Mrs crazy daughter and her twins live with us for a year, ur better of leaving her to it as she will want to rear her child her way , she will ask for help when she needs it, the main thing is she knows yer there for her when she needs a hand
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"You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.
Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x"
Thanks Geordie xx
That's what my panic was, I was afraid that I might be a bit too helpful and make her feel the same way I did  |
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"This is to any grandparents on here
I'm about to become a grandmother for the first time in about 2/3 weeks, I seriously cannot wait
As excited as I am I'm also terrified. I want to help my daughter as much as I can with her baby
But I don't want her to feel like I'm overstepping the mark
My own mam was a great help, but in her way she sometimes made me feel like what I was doing wasn't good enough.
I really don't want to ever make my daughter feel like that. I know she's going to be an amazing mother
Is there an approach to help but not seem like an interfering busybody??
Tina
Tell her ull do the night feeds, she will be delighted , on a serious note, congratulations on becoming a grand parent, we had Mrs crazy daughter and her twins live with us for a year, ur better of leaving her to it as she will want to rear her child her way , she will ask for help when she needs it, the main thing is she knows yer there for her when she needs a hand
Mr crazy "
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"You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.
Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x
Thanks Geordie xx
That's what my panic was, I was afraid that I might be a bit too helpful and make her feel the same way I did "
Nooo. You know exactly how to play it. Delighted for you x |
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"You have the advantage of having the experience with your own mother... Remember how that felt and you will do great. Supportive but not smothering.
Delighted for you btw! Exciting times. Enjoy x
Thanks Geordie xx
That's what my panic was, I was afraid that I might be a bit too helpful and make her feel the same way I did
Nooo. You know exactly how to play it. Delighted for you x"
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