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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
I'm only 2 weeks in so not sure what my opinion will have to offer, but I would hope someone would just put me right there and then and let me down gently as opposed to just blocking me of stopping any chat abruptly. I think that would be only fair and respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Reply be honest with them but put it nicely of course and wish them well
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Sometimes can feel a bit brutal lol but I suppose in the long run it's probably the best option x |
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I'm sure honesty is the best policy but..... a reply saying no thank you gets you called all the names under the sun. I can only imagine what would happen if you told them they weren't your type. Tough choice.  |
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Be nice about it but tell them the truth
We know we're not gonna be everyone's cup of tea on here and we accept that. We'd prefer those people to be honest with us. It saves time.
In that mindset we do the same and tell people if we're attracted or not
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Reply be honest with them but put it nicely of course and wish them well
Sometimes can feel a bit brutal lol but I suppose in the long run it's probably the best option x"
Can be done nicely if wirded rightly.but honesty is best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d rather be ghosted personally... ignorance is bliss "
Snap 
But I don't find face pics reliable and that's why I prefer to meet blind.
I've had some pics sent to me which did the sender no favours. Their personality attracted me to meeting them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
All be honest but in a nice way, something simple as sorry but just not my type |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had two people on here honest enough to tell me they wern't interested, i think its the best way personally, no hard feelings or awkwardness, even if its not the easiest thing to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally for me I'd rather not know either lol
But hey, everyone is different!
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yeah but fitblondie you’re a babe so you don’t have to worry bout that too much haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally for me I'd rather not know either lol
But hey, everyone is different!
yeah but fitblondie you’re a babe so you don’t have to worry bout that too much haha"
Well you can't be everyone's cup of tea! We all get rejected sometimes lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
Why do you have to be brutally honest? Or is been honest brutal? Is there a difference? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think half the threads that go up here, he called me this, she called me that, are as a result of poor communication through messaging, i dont think its too difficult to treat people with some dignity and respect, while still letting them know you dont find them attractive to "you"..
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I think it could be the brutallity of trust been abused in a strange definition.
To exchange something in this space which is ... “sacrad”.
To then be... well for a lack of better terminology.
“Shat on.”
Makes it appear more cut throat that... I guess you could say any other part of the anatomy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
Am brutally honest straight out with it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x
Why do you have to be brutally honest? Or is been honest brutal? Is there a difference? "
I think being honest is quite brutal as you are rejecting someone based purely off a few pictures. Maybe others have a better acceptance for rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be brutally honest, no point in lying to someone, if you don't find them attractive just say it you do nothing for someone by not telling the truth"
Yeah Lim
But being told you have a face that would stop a clock is not doing anyone a favour either
Do maybe less of the brutal honesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be brutally honest, no point in lying to someone, if you don't find them attractive just say it you do nothing for someone by not telling the truth
Yeah Lim
But being told you have a face that would stop a clock is not doing anyone a favour either
Do maybe less of the brutal honesty"
Okay like not insulting honest because that's just horrible but you should feel the need to pussy foot around things because you might upset someone, at the end of the day you can't please everyone and someone will get upset but never lead them on.
I guess I meant be honest but not like insulting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think honestly is best and being polite. Id be gutted if I sent a face pic and got blocked, I know im not the best looking though  What would you want OP if you sent a face pic?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Btw when I say brutally honest, I don't mean to be nasty to someone. It's a figure of speech lol"
i got the message loud n clear (backs outa the room real slow )  |
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Best to be honest...
Yes, it can sting a little as no one wants to be "rejected" 
...but the worst is someone stringing another person along with zero interest of meeting as that's just playing childish headgames...
Honestly is the best Fab policy!
Best say No if not keen  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most times honesty is the best policy. One time after nicely saying sorry not interested a few times I got told I was a fat slag who fucked half the site......
This was from someone who had been verifed 19 times! So obviously nice when its a yes but another story when its a no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most times honesty is the best policy. One time after nicely saying sorry not interested a few times I got told I was a fat slag who fucked half the site......
This was from someone who had been verifed 19 times! So obviously nice when its a yes but another story when its a no."
That's pathetic just cause you said no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually don't reply. Sometimes I explain if they seem really naive and shouldn't be sending face pics. I once or twice felt sorry and replied with pics in solidarity...but said no. |
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"Most times honesty is the best policy. One time after nicely saying sorry not interested a few times I got told I was a fat slag who fucked half the site......
This was from someone who had been verifed 19 times! So obviously nice when its a yes but another story when its a no.
That's pathetic just cause you said no"
Judging by your 4 public pics.......yum ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
Yeah I’m renowned for being blunt....you just have to go honest fitblonde...
If I’m being honest here, I think your top drawer and out of my league.....?????? |
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By *ilf46Man
over a year ago
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Just be honest and polite and leave it at that , if the profile appeals to you and the face doesn't no point in delaying the inevitable I pefer to be upfront and polite rather than 'your not my type ' text and then the block lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I guess just be honest with it. Never know when one might keep sending messages on the context that you may not be replying as girls do get loads of messages in their inbox and don’t reply to everyone. Cheers xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well i had a guy hound me to meet him i kept telling him no he would throw a sulk then came back on tonight told me i was a time waster and what am i doing here if i not meeting i got annoyed with him and then he blocked me |
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By *shoreMan
over a year ago
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I have sent my face to a good few and some have come saying.....sorry your not our type,that seems like a nice way of saying not interested,and im ok with it....its when i send a face photo and get blocked....thats annoying |
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By *inale.xMan
over a year ago
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I'd agree with the below statement. But no need to to be brutal about very much in life, I think.
"I accept if I’m not the type they’re looking for, it’s natural to judge a book by its cover.
I continue to chat because I’m interested in people "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally think you can be honest and tell someone they are not your type in a nice way.
There are some on fab with big egos...likewise some with lesser, more fragile egos.
Basically treat others as you would like to be treated.
And it is worth realising that looks alone do not maketh a person!
Sermon over |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x
Why do you have to be brutally honest? Or is been honest brutal? Is there a difference?
I think being honest is quite brutal as you are rejecting someone based purely off a few pictures. Maybe others have a better acceptance for rejection. "
It's not really rejection. That's something from a broken relationship. It's just a preference thing. So people shouldn't be offended by not been someone's cup of tea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you when you send someone your face pic, they tell you they like what they see...then proceed to never talk to you again yet are constantly online!?
You have to be thickskinned at times on a site like this, but I thought that was really weird. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Brutal honesty might be a bit harsh. A gentle honest let down is better we think. No need to twist the knife but a block or no reply is a little harsh too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I be honest. Also prefer people being honest with me. Everyone should be mature enough to accept your not everyones cup of tea. If i get rejected i tell them thanks & wish them well . |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
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I'd definitely be honest. Not 'brutally' honest maybe. I'd try not to be too brutal. But I'd say if I'm not interested.
I'd certaintly respond though. I hate when you converse with a profile and it comes to a time to swap face pics and your face pic results in silence  . |
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Agree honesty is the best policy, especially if the chat has led to face pics.
A simple sorry but I'm not really feeling it goes along way. We are all grown ups. If the reaction is negative the block button is always handy..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
tell them straight we all have different taste but honesty goes a long way , if they take offence theb block ! I would like to think most people would be ok with it
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I would say reply politely. Feel free to block if needs be but if you make yourself clear you shouldnt have to.
When someone doesn't reply, the fear is real. You would be thinking, does she know me outside of here?
Is it someone from work.
A simple, sorry your not my type usually puts that at ease
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prefer honesty all day long..if someone isn’t attracted and tells me they’re not interested it’s end of for me..I’ll say thanks for the message and take care..because you may try write again thinking of she might not of seen it and then your becoming a nuisance..so always for me honesty.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You just have to be honest. That way they can forget about it and move on. I don't think people will be too disheartened if its done immediately. No harm no foul. It's still not a nice thing for either party but it shows you're a good person for having a conscience about it! |
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Kinda don't get this. Now, firstly, I'd never usually send a face pic for quite a while, as you can imagine. By the time I would trust the person, I would have been chatting for a while, probably have been having a good laugh, gotten to the Friends stage on here, by which time you both know what the other 90% of their physical looks are and are still chatting.
At that point, when you exchange face pics, they are less relevant. You've found a connection, of sorts, are mentally syncing with them and probably getting a little of a sexual buzz.
Even if I didn't get "turned on" by their face, I'd still meet for a coffee, as we obviously have a bit of a click for each other.
Not saying I've never said no but, if I've got a bit of click with someone, their face matters that little bit less.
Or am I weird?
Ok, no need to answer that last one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kinda don't get this. Now, firstly, I'd never usually send a face pic for quite a while, as you can imagine. By the time I would trust the person, I would have been chatting for a while, probably have been having a good laugh, gotten to the Friends stage on here, by which time you both know what the other 90% of their physical looks are and are still chatting.
At that point, when you exchange face pics, they are less relevant. You've found a connection, of sorts, are mentally syncing with them and probably getting a little of a sexual buzz.
Even if I didn't get "turned on" by their face, I'd still meet for a coffee, as we obviously have a bit of a click for each other.
Not saying I've never said no but, if I've got a bit of click with someone, their face matters that little bit less.
Or am I weird?
Ok, no need to answer that last one "
But what if she had no teeth,cleft palate,was extremely crossed eyed,the inside of nose had caved in like that actress from easterners,had a extra ear growing out of her forehead and toes where her ears should be 
Would you still feel the same  |
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"Kinda don't get this. Now, firstly, I'd never usually send a face pic for quite a while, as you can imagine. By the time I would trust the person, I would have been chatting for a while, probably have been having a good laugh, gotten to the Friends stage on here, by which time you both know what the other 90% of their physical looks are and are still chatting.
At that point, when you exchange face pics, they are less relevant. You've found a connection, of sorts, are mentally syncing with them and probably getting a little of a sexual buzz.
Even if I didn't get "turned on" by their face, I'd still meet for a coffee, as we obviously have a bit of a click for each other.
Not saying I've never said no but, if I've got a bit of click with someone, their face matters that little bit less.
Or am I weird?
Ok, no need to answer that last one
But what if she had no teeth,cleft palate,was extremely crossed eyed,the inside of nose had caved in like that actress from easterners,had a extra ear growing out of her forehead and toes where her ears should be
Would you still feel the same "
Yeah, we all have limits, point taken  |
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
Personally its nice to receive I am not their type message or a block and delete then I don't end up wasting their time and mailing again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you do when chatting to someone, they send you face pics and you're not attracted to them? Don't reply, block them or are you brutally honest that you're not attracted? Would like to hear what other people do x "
be honest but not rude..."sorry you're not my type" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you should tell them straight up, don't leave them wondering "
I say no i dont want to meet i cant be bruatally honest some men sulk and abuse wen u turn them down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always best to be honest.. No point leading someone on whether ur male or female.. We,re all meant to be adults at the end of the day.. Each person has their own type.. Xx |
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If its someone I'd been chatting to for a while and that happened I'd like to think I'd let them down gently (and would hope to be treated the same way by others). If someone sends me an unasked for facepic after a couple of messages though I'd probably be more direct. Either way I'm not going to pity-shag anyone  |
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"One that gets me is; swap face pics here, all good.. swap kik, then radio silence.. "
That amuses me too.... They beg and pull out all the stops to get added on kik.. And then the conversation just dries up. My theory is that some view getting added on kik as an indication that they're definitely 'in there' and just panic because they realise they can't actually lick like Lassie/breathe through their ears/look anything like the face pic they sent you... |
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Yes we r all the same in this big world we all have types and we get chatting swap face pictures I all ways send my picture first some don't even send one back your blocked lol but that's ok that's my answer lol if I get a picture back from the woman am chatting with and am not attracted to her I will tell her am sorry but your not my type and I wish u the best on fab thanks for the chat |
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I was told my face was ugly on here. Got a wink, sent a message with face pic.
Got a reply back saying sorry but I was ugly.
Replied wishing them well in finding what they were looking for.
They replied saying they were sorry if it came across rude, its just they can find so many guys better looking than me easily.
I replied saying that was nice, it would make finding someone with a nice body that they found handsome easier.
Then they asked to add me on kik.
Long story short, I guess it depends on the person. I get called handsome all the time so if someone thinks I am ugly then oh well.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find a lot of the women on here are a lot pickier than they should be (no harm in it, I’m the same so I can’t really talk).
You see photos of their partners and think, I’m slimmer, more tan, more muscular and bigger down below than him, surely she’s bound to have some attraction to me??
Now I know there’s more to connecting with people on fab that just liking the look of their pics but it’s incredibly hard as a single guy to make any sort of headway on here. I’m probably at the younger end of the membership on here but even with girls around my age they’re still pretty reluctant to engage.
Its my third time on fab and my gold membership ends today. I’ve maybe got talking to a handful of women in that time but met none. Compare that to tinder where I’ve met scores of women. I’m not sure I’ll come back  |
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"I find a lot of the women on here are a lot pickier than they should be (no harm in it, I’m the same so I can’t really talk).
You see photos of their partners and think, I’m slimmer, more tan, more muscular and bigger down below than him, surely she’s bound to have some attraction to me??
Now I know there’s more to connecting with people on fab that just liking the look of their pics but it’s incredibly hard as a single guy to make any sort of headway on here. I’m probably at the younger end of the membership on here but even with girls around my age they’re still pretty reluctant to engage.
Its my third time on fab and my gold membership ends today. I’ve maybe got talking to a handful of women in that time but met none. Compare that to tinder where I’ve met scores of women. I’m not sure I’ll come back "
that pretty much sums it up to a tee |
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