Believe that after a few years of being unattached I could never ever go back to sharing my bed. Oh the joy.
I love my freedom far to much to have a relationship. Well that's my thinking today.
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Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people. |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people."
How many is a small number? |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a small number?"
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual |
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"I did 11 years of not living together, ended up being part of the end of us , but made it easy enough to walk away as we were apart a lot anyway, so hats off to anyone who makes it work  "
That's a long time. But I think when it's time you know. Doesn't make easier though.  |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a small number?
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual"
That's to complex for me  |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual
That's to complex for me "
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual
That's to complex for me
Yeagh right !!! All relationships are complex in one way or another as you know "
I think they get easier the older you get. Probably because from experience you know what you want ,from age you care a little less and are happy in your own skin ,and with your own company. |
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"I did 11 years of not living together, ended up being part of the end of us , but made it easy enough to walk away as we were apart a lot anyway, so hats off to anyone who makes it work
That's a long time. But I think when it's time you know. Doesn't make easier though. "
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Single a long time now and thankfully in that place where I am happy and content with my lot .
Life is good and the occasional top class meet on fab keeps me very happy  |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual
That's to complex for me
Yeagh right !!! All relationships are complex in one way or another as you know
I think they get easier the older you get. Probably because from experience you know what you want ,from age you care a little less and are happy in your own skin ,and with your own company."
I totally agree with you (although I hate saying those words to you  ) We become much better lovers with age because we are unselfish in physical terms, but I find that I have become more mentally selfish, as my tolerance for bullshit is virtually zero. |
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"Can't see myself in a realtionship at the moment... Just been burnt too much and having way to much fun
Lim.....You're only a baby.plenty of time. "
I know exactly so I'll make hay while the sun shines and have some fun |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual
That's to complex for me
Yeagh right !!! All relationships are complex in one way or another as you know
I think they get easier the older you get. Probably because from experience you know what you want ,from age you care a little less and are happy in your own skin ,and with your own company.
I totally agree with you (although I hate saying those words to you ) We become much better lovers with age because we are unselfish in physical terms, but I find that I have become more mentally selfish, as my tolerance for bullshit is virtually zero."
That's it. Unselfish lovers and no bullshit. Not much to ask for. |
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"Complete opposite here  I hate when Mr isn't here, apart from hating my own company I love sharing every part of my days and nights with him 
Although.... Best part of my sleep is when he gets up in the morning and I sprawl across his side of the bed "
Awww I love hearing this. |
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"Single a long time now and thankfully in that place where I am happy and content with my lot .
Life is good and the occasional top class meet on fab keeps me very happy
We're like twins"
Think a meet up and drink are definitely on the cards |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a small number?
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual"
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It's a classic dilemma. "Freedom" vs. commitment. One is not objectively better than the other. Just depends on the individuals. True, you may like your own space and having the freedom to roam at will. But that can make the weekends and holidays seasons and birthdays a bit lonely. Depends where you are in life too. If you are just finished with someone or are looking fwd to being with someone after years on your own.
I don't think any of us really want to end up on our own tho, do we ? Apart from that, I think life is much more enjoyable walking through it with someone who understands you. Life is best lived in relationship with someone - not just in your own head. That's the most important thing. The sexual urge will fade and the body will inevitably fail - it would be good to wake up with someone you love when it gets to that stage - not as a sad lothario hanging out in a pub night after night. |
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"It's a classic dilemma. "Freedom" vs. commitment. One is not objectively better than the other. Just depends on the individuals. True, you may like your own space and having the freedom to roam at will. But that can make the weekends and holidays seasons and birthdays a bit lonely. Depends where you are in life too. If you are just finished with someone or are looking fwd to being with someone after years on your own.
I don't think any of us really want to end up on our own tho, do we ? Apart from that, I think life is much more enjoyable walking through it with someone who understands you. Life is best lived in relationship with someone - not just in your own head. That's the most important thing. The sexual urge will fade and the body will inevitably fail - it would be good to wake up with someone you love when it gets to that stage - not as a sad lothario hanging out in a pub night after night."
Well put its how i feel |
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There are many ways to have a relationship, and some very attractive alternatives. I'm not for buying house together, living in societies idea of coupled - dom. I love my freedom, and having many kinds of relationships at the same time. So, my coffee +chat buddies, my massage buddies, my adventuring buddies, etc. And the very special one I have sex with. |
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"There are many ways to have a relationship, and some very attractive alternatives. I'm not for buying house together, living in societies idea of coupled - dom. I love my freedom, and having many kinds of relationships at the same time. So, my coffee +chat buddies, my massage buddies, my adventuring buddies, etc. And the very special one I have sex with. "
Sounds like a good balance - I just wouldn't have the time-management skills for all that tho lol |
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"There are many ways to have a relationship, and some very attractive alternatives. I'm not for buying house together, living in societies idea of coupled - dom. I love my freedom, and having many kinds of relationships at the same time. So, my coffee +chat buddies, my massage buddies, my adventuring buddies, etc. And the very special one I have sex with. "
Do you think couples only hang out together?, Most of the ones I know, including ourselves, have friends and activities that don't include the other person. |
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"Relationships come in various guises. I too like my nocturnal freedom of having my bed all to myself. But I also like having certain relationships both sexual and otherwise with a small number of people.
How many is a small number?
Combining the two types of relationships less than 10 with currently 1 sexual
Busy man "
Not that busy smart arse |
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Life is good and the occasional top class meet on fab keeps me very happy
We're like twins
Think a meet up and drink are definitely on the cards "
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"There are many ways to have a relationship, and some very attractive alternatives. I'm not for buying house together, living in societies idea of coupled - dom. I love my freedom, and having many kinds of relationships at the same time. So, my coffee +chat buddies, my massage buddies, my adventuring buddies, etc. And the very special one I have sex with.
Do you think couples only hang out together?, Most of the ones I know, including ourselves, have friends and activities that don't include the other person. "
Exactly. I was glad I had my own set of friends when I separated. |
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"You cant have your cake and eat it.
Maybe you can if you find out how to make polyamory or non-monogamy work. Don't think it would be for me though.
Or how to make cake "
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"There are many ways to have a relationship, and some very attractive alternatives. I'm not for buying house together, living in societies idea of coupled - dom. I love my freedom, and having many kinds of relationships at the same time. So, my coffee +chat buddies, my massage buddies, my adventuring buddies, etc. And the very special one I have sex with.
Do you think couples only hang out together?, Most of the ones I know, including ourselves, have friends and activities that don't include the other person.
Exactly. I was glad I had my own set of friends when I separated."
You find out very quickly who your friends are in those circumstances. |
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"It's a classic dilemma. "Freedom" vs. commitment. One is not objectively better than the other. Just depends on the individuals. True, you may like your own space and having the freedom to roam at will. But that can make the weekends and holidays seasons and birthdays a bit lonely. Depends where you are in life too. If you are just finished with someone or are looking fwd to being with someone after years on your own.
I don't think any of us really want to end up on our own tho, do we ? Apart from that, I think life is much more enjoyable walking through it with someone who understands you. Life is best lived in relationship with someone - not just in your own head. That's the most important thing. The sexual urge will fade and the body will inevitably fail - it would be good to wake up with someone you love when it gets to that stage - not as a sad lothario hanging out in a pub night after night."
Well said. But it's hard to find someone who thinks like you. It's not impossible though. Some lovely happy couples on here. |
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"There are many ways to have a relationship, and some very attractive alternatives. I'm not for buying house together, living in societies idea of coupled - dom. I love my freedom, and having many kinds of relationships at the same time. So, my coffee +chat buddies, my massage buddies, my adventuring buddies, etc. And the very special one I have sex with.
Do you think couples only hang out together?, Most of the ones I know, including ourselves, have friends and activities that don't include the other person.
Exactly. I was glad I had my own set of friends when I separated.
You find out very quickly who your friends are in those circumstances. "
You certainly do. I guess I was lucky ,I didn't lose any friends or in-laws. Just don't see them as often. But still close. |
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