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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m curious girls how many of you would be comfortable with this situation.
Chatting on here then chat moves to kik. Arranging coffee meet and you decide to break one of your rules and allow it to happen at your home.
You then decide that it’s not a good idea and ask to meet at a coffee shop, explaining your reasons for wanting this i.e safety etc
Guy refuses to meet unless it’s at my house which I refuse him on.
So....was he right to insist, considering I said it was ok originally or was I right to suggest meeting in public when I felt uncomfortable about it?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have the right to change your mind.
Breaking your own rules sometimes works sometimes it doesn't.
But safety should always come first.
As for him being insistent,nah, move along.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks girls.
I was actually beginning to think that I had done the unthinkable by not allowing him to come here. The guilt trip was laid on my quick thick xx |
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You go with your gut op and don't feel pressured to meet in your home which is your home and for safety reasons I would advise no one to meet someone First in your home. I would say lucky escape if he now wishes to cancel cause of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a male perspective, I think you were totally 100% right if the guy in question can't understand that, he's got a problem perhaps when he thought it was coffee at yours he was expecting much more than coffee perhaps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You go with your gut op and don't feel pressured to meet in your home which is your home and for safety reasons I would advise no one to meet someone First in your home. I would say lucky escape if he now wishes to cancel cause of it "
That’s the thing......I NEVER do that and when I realised that agreeing to it was making me really uncomfortable I spoke up.
He just made me feel like I was wrong |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From a male perspective, I think you were totally 100% right if the guy in question can't understand that, he's got a problem perhaps when he thought it was coffee at yours he was expecting much more than coffee perhaps."
I think perhaps your right and that’s what maybe caused him to react as he did.
Lesson learned.....stick to my rules!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a male perspective, I think you were totally 100% right if the guy in question can't understand that, he's got a problem perhaps when he thought it was coffee at yours he was expecting much more than coffee perhaps.
I think perhaps your right and that’s what maybe caused him to react as he did.
Lesson learned.....stick to my rules!!
Correct and right Miss |
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"Thanks girls.
I was actually beginning to think that I had done the unthinkable by not allowing him to come here. The guilt trip was laid on my quick thick xx "
I had a bad house call experience, so now, I verify as much as I can before the coffee meet, which is always in a hotel . And be prepared to change your mind, so have a plan if the meet isn't going well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You do what makes you comfortable don't let him push you into meeting at home if you aren't happy with it. If he was a real gentleman he would understand and not push you on this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Block him and put it down to a lucky escape. How do you think he would have taken "thanks but no thanks" when in was in your house. "
Your absolutely right and it was the first thing I thought about when he resisted |
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He probably assumed that your house meet would result in sex and when you wanted to change to a coffee shop he figured he'd not be getting the sex and so tried to force the issue.
Sounds like a bit of a tool. Regardless of gender, if someone asks to change venue you should respect that and go along with it. If the person also explains why they want the change then even more so should it be respected.
His loss, you stick to your guns and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He probably assumed that your house meet would result in sex and when you wanted to change to a coffee shop he figured he'd not be getting the sex and so tried to force the issue.
Sounds like a bit of a tool. Regardless of gender, if someone asks to change venue you should respect that and go along with it. If the person also explains why they want the change then even more so should it be respected.
His loss, you stick to your guns and move on "
Agree 100%
Op did the right thing. |
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"I’m curious girls how many of you would be comfortable with this situation.
Chatting on here then chat moves to kik. Arranging coffee meet and you decide to break one of your rules and allow it to happen at your home.
You then decide that it’s not a good idea and ask to meet at a coffee shop, explaining your reasons for wanting this i.e safety etc
Guy refuses to meet unless it’s at my house which I refuse him on.
So....was he right to insist, considering I said it was ok originally or was I right to suggest meeting in public when I felt uncomfortable about it?? "
. Most certainly not , you do what feels right and the fact that he couldn’t understand you changing your mind says it all...move on from him... I’m not getting a good vibe ... safety always xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone!!
So glad I made the decision to not go through with bringing him to my home. As several of you have said....it’s never a good idea to have someone over that you’ve never met....especially meeting someone from this site! Lesson truly learned!!
To be honest it has made me think about girls that wouldn’t have had the confidence to say no. How easily it is to be manipulated into something you don’t want. Sometimes people are very clever at the way the say things.....making you feel stupid and foolish for considering your safety.
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"Thanks everyone!!
So glad I made the decision to not go through with bringing him to my home. As several of you have said....it’s never a good idea to have someone over that you’ve never met....especially meeting someone from this site! Lesson truly learned!!
To be honest it has made me think about girls that wouldn’t have had the confidence to say no. How easily it is to be manipulated into something you don’t want. Sometimes people are very clever at the way the say things.....making you feel stupid and foolish for considering your safety.
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. We all jump in with excitement and then think after so at least you realized it was not a good idea so respect my lady xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks everyone!!
So glad I made the decision to not go through with bringing him to my home. As several of you have said....it’s never a good idea to have someone over that you’ve never met....especially meeting someone from this site! Lesson truly learned!!
To be honest it has made me think about girls that wouldn’t have had the confidence to say no. How easily it is to be manipulated into something you don’t want. Sometimes people are very clever at the way the say things.....making you feel stupid and foolish for considering your safety.
. We all jump in with excitement and then think after so at least you realized it was not a good idea so respect my lady xx"
Ahhh thank you xx |
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"Thanks everyone!!
So glad I made the decision to not go through with bringing him to my home. As several of you have said....it’s never a good idea to have someone over that you’ve never met....especially meeting someone from this site! Lesson truly learned!!
To be honest it has made me think about girls that wouldn’t have had the confidence to say no. How easily it is to be manipulated into something you don’t want. Sometimes people are very clever at the way the say things.....making you feel stupid and foolish for considering your safety.
. We all jump in with excitement and then think after so at least you realized it was not a good idea so respect my lady xx
Ahhh thank you xx "
xxx |
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"Thanks everyone!!
So glad I made the decision to not go through with bringing him to my home. As several of you have said....it’s never a good idea to have someone over that you’ve never met....especially meeting someone from this site! Lesson truly learned!!
To be honest it has made me think about girls that wouldn’t have had the confidence to say no. How easily it is to be manipulated into something you don’t want. Sometimes people are very clever at the way the say things.....making you feel stupid and foolish for considering your safety.
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Fair play to you OP! Never let anyone bully you into doing something youre not comfortable with!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks girls.
I was actually beginning to think that I had done the unthinkable by not allowing him to come here. The guilt trip was laid on my quick thick xx "
You shouldnt feel guilty or made to feel guilt.
Its your home and if you dont feel comfortable with a meet thir then its ok .
In my eyes you have to do what you think is best for you and he shouldnt have a problem meeting in a coffed shop . |
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"You go with your gut op and don't feel pressured to meet in your home which is your home and for safety reasons I would advise no one to meet someone First in your home. I would say lucky escape if he now wishes to cancel cause of it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stick to your own gut feeling or boundaries and you won’t go far wrong , there are too many pushy men here who try to push their luck on women despite being told . I have met several who disregarded my preference when it came to it and I refused to verify them and also told other females of their pushy behavior . |
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By *ajobMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks everyone!!
So glad I made the decision to not go through with bringing him to my home. As several of you have said....it’s never a good idea to have someone over that you’ve never met....especially meeting someone from this site! Lesson truly learned!!
To be honest it has made me think about girls that wouldn’t have had the confidence to say no. How easily it is to be manipulated into something you don’t want. Sometimes people are very clever at the way the say things.....making you feel stupid and foolish for considering your safety.
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Whatever happened to meeting ppl in a public place for coffee?
safer for everyone and the perfect chance to leave em high n dry OP..then block em asap....btw thats a real lame thing do...but ive been told and experianced 1st hand this MO of yours...if you are genuine in meeting folk...do it...its not that difficult...fab would be a better place if ppl were genuine |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks everyone!!
So glad I made the decision to not go through with bringing him to my home. As several of you have said....it’s never a good idea to have someone over that you’ve never met....especially meeting someone from this site! Lesson truly learned!!
To be honest it has made me think about girls that wouldn’t have had the confidence to say no. How easily it is to be manipulated into something you don’t want. Sometimes people are very clever at the way the say things.....making you feel stupid and foolish for considering your safety.
Whatever happened to meeting ppl in a public place for coffee?
safer for everyone and the perfect chance to leave em high n dry OP..then block em asap....btw thats a real lame thing do...but ive been told and experianced 1st hand this MO of yours...if you are genuine in meeting folk...do it...its not that difficult...fab would be a better place if ppl were genuine"
If you are referring to our coffee meet some months ago? I contacted you and I certainly don’t have you blocked?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything"
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online. |
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By *ajobMan
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online. "
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m curious girls how many of you would be comfortable with this situation.
Chatting on here then chat moves to kik. Arranging coffee meet and you decide to break one of your rules and allow it to happen at your home.
You then decide that it’s not a good idea and ask to meet at a coffee shop, explaining your reasons for wanting this i.e safety etc
Guy refuses to meet unless it’s at my house which I refuse him on.
So....was he right to insist, considering I said it was ok originally or was I right to suggest meeting in public when I felt uncomfortable about it?? "
I'm curious as to why you would even think you might be wrong in this circumstance and need validation? |
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"I’m curious girls how many of you would be comfortable with this situation.
Chatting on here then chat moves to kik. Arranging coffee meet and you decide to break one of your rules and allow it to happen at your home.
You then decide that it’s not a good idea and ask to meet at a coffee shop, explaining your reasons for wanting this i.e safety etc
Guy refuses to meet unless it’s at my house which I refuse him on.
So....was he right to insist, considering I said it was ok originally or was I right to suggest meeting in public when I felt uncomfortable about it?? "
I wouldn't go near him only a total twat would insist on going to someone else's house you have had a lucky escape it could have got nasty for you. The only bad pert is you can't name this guy on here so nobody else gets put in such an uncomfortable position. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw"
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m curious girls how many of you would be comfortable with this situation.
Chatting on here then chat moves to kik. Arranging coffee meet and you decide to break one of your rules and allow it to happen at your home.
You then decide that it’s not a good idea and ask to meet at a coffee shop, explaining your reasons for wanting this i.e safety etc
Guy refuses to meet unless it’s at my house which I refuse him on.
So....was he right to insist, considering I said it was ok originally or was I right to suggest meeting in public when I felt uncomfortable about it??
I'm curious as to why you would even think you might be wrong in this circumstance and need validation?"
Because I had said it was ok initially. I wondered if I was unreasonable changing my mind |
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By *ajobMan
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman "
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see"
I can’t see your profile either and it tells me you have me blocked lol. Can you click on my name, when it gives the message that you can’t view.....click on the bit that says block list and just check you don’t have me blocked please. |
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By *ajobMan
over a year ago
Newtownabbey |
"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see"
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
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It’s ok I knew what you meant lol |
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By *ajobMan
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
It’s ok I knew what you meant lol "
Ive no one in my block list lol u def arent there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
It’s ok I knew what you meant lol
Ive no one in my block list lol u def arent there"
Lol did you click on the bit that says “blocked user” and just double check?? |
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By *ajobMan
over a year ago
Newtownabbey |
"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
It’s ok I knew what you meant lol
Ive no one in my block list lol u def arent there
Lol did you click on the bit that says “blocked user” and just double check?? "
Yep...nowt there...u must have single male profiles blocked if im not on your block list |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
It’s ok I knew what you meant lol
Ive no one in my block list lol u def arent there
Lol did you click on the bit that says “blocked user” and just double check??
Yep...nowt there...u must have single male profiles blocked if im not on your block list"
Ok I’ll contact admin and see if they can sort it as I don’t understand or know what else to do. I’ve checked my block list over and over. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
It’s ok I knew what you meant lol
Ive no one in my block list lol u def arent there
Lol did you click on the bit that says “blocked user” and just double check??
Yep...nowt there...u must have single male profiles blocked if im not on your block list
Ok I’ll contact admin and see if they can sort it as I don’t understand or know what else to do. I’ve checked my block list over and over. "
Did you get me unblocked?? I can see you now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If anybody on here insisted anything that I wasn't comfortable with,they'd be history!...What else might he INSIST on once he was in your home!  "
I know.....lesson learned  |
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
It’s ok I knew what you meant lol
Ive no one in my block list lol u def arent there
Lol did you click on the bit that says “blocked user” and just double check??
Yep...nowt there...u must have single male profiles blocked if im not on your block list
Ok I’ll contact admin and see if they can sort it as I don’t understand or know what else to do. I’ve checked my block list over and over.
Did you get me unblocked?? I can see you now "
*sniff* is this all building towards a happy ending?
Anyone else gripped to see if he'll invite her for a coffee again?  |
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"U do...i never heard anything
Please check your block list as you aren’t on mine.
I have never and would never leave anyone standing for anything. I hid my profile for a few months and wasn’t online.
I click on your username...i cant view profile....do youve either me blocked...or admin has your account froze or youve left...none in my block list btw
Same thing happens when I click on yours. I’ve checked and re checked my block list and you are DEFINITELY not on it.
You never did anything on me so I had no reason to block you anyway. You were always the gentleman
I was yes....that is who i am...if you cant see my profile and i can see yours then i dunno what is up but as far i know your profile only exists on this forum for my profile to see
Btw i cant see your profile when i click onto it lol spell check needed
It’s ok I knew what you meant lol
Ive no one in my block list lol u def arent there
Lol did you click on the bit that says “blocked user” and just double check??
Yep...nowt there...u must have single male profiles blocked if im not on your block list
Ok I’ll contact admin and see if they can sort it as I don’t understand or know what else to do. I’ve checked my block list over and over.
Did you get me unblocked?? I can see you now
*sniff* is this all building towards a happy ending?
Anyone else gripped to see if he'll invite her for a coffee again? "
Me too. I just hope its not at her house!! |
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