"What Is That?
Where you have one partner but another playmate "on the side with the knowledge of your partner..."
Polyamory is the ability or capacity to love more than one person at a time. Sometimes seen as the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners involved. it has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship without the jealousy of monogamy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships |
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"The idea of it is incredibly attractive.
Reality is a lot of folk struggle to keep the green eyed monster at bay."
Totally agreed I've seen so many failures over the years  |
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"What Is That?
Where you have one partner but another playmate "on the side with the knowledge of your partner...
Polyamory is the ability or capacity to love more than one person at a time. Sometimes seen as the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners involved. it has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship without the jealousy of monogamy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships"
But often used in swing circles as another avenue to get a shag with little understanding of what it's really about... a relationship. |
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Swinging and poly are usually at odds. By definition one is about relationship commitment and love the other is summed up in 3 letters NSA.
To much confusion arises with some having the idea poly has anything to do with swinging and can only end in disaster. |
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I'm polyamorous and have been living that way for about 6 years now.
I'm happy to answer any genuine questions people may have.
My longest poly relationship was 3 years and ended for reasons nothing to do with jealousy.
I usually choose not to be a primary partner because I like my alone time and autonomy, but I know people who have been having co-habiting poly relationships for decades, some of whom are still in the same one.
Its not swinging but some of us are swingers.
Its not for everybody at all. I think anyone who says either monogamy or non monogamy is more 'natural' is as wrong as anyone who says being straight or gay is more natural. I could never be monogamous, some people could never be poly.
Different strokes and all that |
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"What Is That?
Where you have one partner but another playmate "on the side with the knowledge of your partner...
Polyamory is the ability or capacity to love more than one person at a time. Sometimes seen as the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners involved. it has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship without the jealousy of monogamy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships"
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The idea of polyamorous relationships seem attractive to a lot of people. But polyamory is not polyfuckery, they are relationships, and everything that comes along with a relationship.
One relationship can be hard enough, imagine having several relationships, several sets of emotions and feelings and then your partners have the same. It gets very difficult. It will challenge even the strongest relationships, I'm speaking from experience with poly. |
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"What Is That?
Where you have one partner but another playmate "on the side with the knowledge of your partner...
Polyamory is the ability or capacity to love more than one person at a time. Sometimes seen as the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners involved. it has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship without the jealousy of monogamy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships"
Super explanation. It has worked for me so far. I never understood how you can have love for just one single human being....for a lifetime ! Think of all the missed opportunities for giving and receiving love. Hell on earth. |
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It certainly can be challenging!
Personally, I have found that having other partners to rely on makes it a bit easier on me though. And them having other people to rely on can really take pressure off if I have something big on my plate.
Dealing with a break up for instance, can be a bit easier with a loving partner to help you through it.
Again, just my own experience. It will be different for absolutely everyone! |
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"The idea of polyamorous relationships seem attractive to a lot of people. But polyamory is not polyfuckery, they are relationships, and everything that comes along with a relationship.
One relationship can be hard enough, imagine having several relationships, several sets of emotions and feelings and then your partners have the same. It gets very difficult. It will challenge even the strongest relationships, I'm speaking from experience with poly. "
Would you mind elaborate a bit more on your experience..? Please I’d like to ear you expanding your statement please...I for one would love to be involved whatever the level would be required from one. |
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There’s a programme my 4 wives .
Guy was on the other day and he has 4 seperate houses for all his wives . Nice big houses not small by any means. He has kids with them all but his first wife always has to be happy when he picks other wives . Mental .. and he had 17 kids between the 4 of them.. mad but each to their own . Mrs s |
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"Interesting experience Harry. Would be interested to learn more, however you don't allow men to contact you directly...
Changed my settings so feel free to fire away.
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Thank you for allowing me to send a PM. Appreciate it. |
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"There’s a programme my 4 wives .
Guy was on the other day and he has 4 seperate houses for all his wives . Nice big houses not small by any means. He has kids with them all but his first wife always has to be happy when he picks other wives . Mental .. and he had 17 kids between the 4 of them.. mad but each to their own . Mrs s"
I've been in a couple poly relationships. What that man is saying bares some truth in the first one is the one who maybe finds it hardest as she or he has to shift from only one to share irrespective. The others join an existing relationship where priority was to that other. So I understand why he says about his fist having to be kept always happy. It's also most likely in his make up to keep the others happy too....And he has that gift.. Many don't though many like the concept. Contrary to what some say it's not completely natural. 1000s of years...Maybe 15000 where society formed aprotection for family unit for the best of society ad a whole. Before any with religious hangups or church hang ups or an thing like that jump in... Read a bit about societal history and anthropology on this first as this was brought in way before religion encouraged it. Societal structure brought it in to give semblance of control and togethernes and protection to girls after puberty and older single ladies whose late mate (husband) had no brother to to take and protect her from r*pe or general common use. |
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"Is it still polygamy if the wife doesn't know about a few girlfriends? "
I guess one needs to ask a few questions:
1. Is it based upon mutual love and sharing?
2. Is it based upon mutual trust.
3. Poly is associated with openess and inclusively but in a loving trustworthy relationship.
I think you've answered your own question when you said... 'doesn't know'.
Swinging isn't being Poly. Poly is much more exclusiv. |
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As I said to someone recently, I noticed a big difference when I stopped dating monogamous women. No matter how amazing she may be, I know that it won't last long if we arent on the same page with our preferred relationship style.
I can imagine that trying to convince a naturally monogamous partner to go non monogamous would be very tricky.
Worth noting as well that very few of my poly friends are as sexual as most of us. In fact I have a couple of asexual poly friends, so it really is about the relationship first and foremost. |
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"As I said to someone recently, I noticed a big difference when I stopped dating monogamous women. No matter how amazing she may be, I know that it won't last long if we arent on the same page with our preferred relationship style.
I can imagine that trying to convince a naturally monogamous partner to go non monogamous would be very tricky.
Worth noting as well that very few of my poly friends are as sexual as most of us. In fact I have a couple of asexual poly friends, so it really is about the relationship first and foremost."
The relationship.
That's why I said earlier the poly and swing have little in common. Most of those on here that like the idea probabably haven't understood it's all about relationships and trust. Fab is mostly about taking, getting for self. Number 1. |
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"It’s something we are actively exploring at present. The openness and honesty it brings to our relationship is having an impact on all aspects of life.
Won’t stop us swinging too though lol "
That is well said... I love that. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Is it still polygamy if the wife doesn't know about a few girlfriends?
I guess one needs to ask a few questions:
1. Is it based upon mutual love and sharing?
2. Is it based upon mutual trust.
3. Poly is associated with openess and inclusively but in a loving trustworthy relationship.
I think you've answered your own question when you said... 'doesn't know'.
Swinging isn't being Poly. Poly is much more exclusiv."
I was taking the piss.
I know what it is. In the past I was in a poly relationship. |
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"It’s something we are actively exploring at present. The openness and honesty it brings to our relationship is having an impact on all aspects of life.
Won’t stop us swinging too though lol "
It's something we tried and was a little easier as I (Anglo) was in the UK. It worked up to a point but when I came home we had to concentrate on our primary relationship.
We are now looking at it again, with a single female, but the polyamourous unicorn is even harder to find than the swinging variety.
Happy to chat to any females or couples about their thoughts or experiences.
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"What Is That?
Where you have one partner but another playmate "on the side with the knowledge of your partner...
Polyamory is the ability or capacity to love more than one person at a time. Sometimes seen as the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners involved. it has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship without the jealousy of monogamy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships"
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Each to their own...but it wouldn't be for me,hard enough to juggle one, I'd be exhausted...besides I wouldn't want to inflict myself on any other man, one martyr is enough my better half deserves the Nobel peace prize! |
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately polyamorous relationships are illegal in Ireland. "
that isn’t true. Bigamy or polygamy ..meaning being married to more than one spouse is illegal . Polyamorous relationships are not subject to any law which may prohibits that.
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
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"As I said to someone recently, I noticed a big difference when I stopped dating monogamous women. No matter how amazing she may be, I know that it won't last long if we arent on the same page with our preferred relationship style.
I can imagine that trying to convince a naturally monogamous partner to go non monogamous would be very tricky.
Worth noting as well that very few of my poly friends are as sexual as most of us. In fact I have a couple of asexual poly friends, so it really is about the relationship first and foremost.
The relationship.
That's why I said earlier the poly and swing have little in common. Most of those on here that like the idea probabably haven't understood it's all about relationships and trust. Fab is mostly about taking, getting for self. Number 1."
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By *s ParisWoman
over a year ago
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I'm in a poly relationship 5yrs now mff and it works beautifully my partner's enjoy swinging together as a couple together but I do not but I have no problem waving them off on meets. They tell me everything they are doing and communication is the key in any kind of relationships |
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"I'm in a poly relationship 5yrs now mff and it works beautifully my partner's enjoy swinging together as a couple together but I do not but I have no problem waving them off on meets. They tell me everything they are doing and communication is the key in any kind of relationships "
So then the 3 of you live together and all sleep in the same bed ?
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"Unfortunately polyamorous relationships are illegal in Ireland.
Being married to more than one person is illegal but being in a relationship??? "
This Anglo
Poly isn't illegal at all.. But being married to more than one other is. |
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" What Is That?
Where you have one partner but another playmate "on the side with the knowledge of your partner...
Polyamory is the ability or capacity to love more than one person at a time. Sometimes seen as the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners involved. it has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy. People who identify as polyamorous believe in an open relationship without the jealousy of monogamy; they reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships
Plagiarism"
Copy and paste actually, I never claimed it as my own writing  |
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"Yeah, that's what I have going on. ^^ been like that with my current partner for...4+ years?  "
Fair play, doesn't seem to be many places online to find like minded people who openly identify as poly. |
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"Yeah, that's what I have going on. ^^ been like that with my current partner for...4+ years?
Fair play, doesn't seem to be many places online to find like minded people who openly identify as poly. "
And do you all live together ? |
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"Yeah, that's what I have going on. ^^ been like that with my current partner for...4+ years?
Fair play, doesn't seem to be many places online to find like minded people who openly identify as poly.
And do you all live together ?"
Lol, No though I have had a girlfriend live with us, though she had no interest in my partner. Polyamory doean't nessarily mean we're always on the hunt too. also, me and him have very different taste |
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"Yeah, that's what I have going on. ^^ been like that with my current partner for...4+ years?
Fair play, doesn't seem to be many places online to find like minded people who openly identify as poly.
And do you all live together ?
Lol, No though I have had a girlfriend live with us, though she had no interest in my partner. Polyamory doean't nessarily mean we're always on the hunt too. also, me and him have very different taste "
Haha ok have always thought and loved the idea having another woman living with is preferably a Bisexual lady   .
Butt with having young kids and narrow minded family it may stay a dream for now ...
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"Yeah, that's what I have going on. ^^ been like that with my current partner for...4+ years?
Fair play, doesn't seem to be many places online to find like minded people who openly identify as poly.
And do you all live together ?
Lol, No though I have had a girlfriend live with us, though she had no interest in my partner. Polyamory doean't nessarily mean we're always on the hunt too. also, me and him have very different taste
Haha ok have always thought and loved the idea having another woman living with is preferably a Bisexual lady .
Butt with having young kids and narrow minded family it may stay a dream for now ...
Mr dirty xx "
I wish you the best of luck! Remember jealousy is healthy, and should be talked about...calmly ^^ |
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"Yeah, that's what I have going on. ^^ been like that with my current partner for...4+ years?
Fair play, doesn't seem to be many places online to find like minded people who openly identify as poly.
And do you all live together ?
Lol, No though I have had a girlfriend live with us, though she had no interest in my partner. Polyamory doean't nessarily mean we're always on the hunt too. also, me and him have very different taste
Haha ok have always thought and loved the idea having another woman living with is preferably a Bisexual lady .
Butt with having young kids and narrow minded family it may stay a dream for now ...
Mr dirty xx
I wish you the best of luck! Remember jealousy is healthy, and should be talked about...calmly ^^"
Do you think jealousy would still be an issue if all are living and sleeping together . |
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"Yeah, that's what I have going on. ^^ been like that with my current partner for...4+ years?
Fair play, doesn't seem to be many places online to find like minded people who openly identify as poly.
And do you all live together ?
Lol, No though I have had a girlfriend live with us, though she had no interest in my partner. Polyamory doean't nessarily mean we're always on the hunt too. also, me and him have very different taste
Haha ok have always thought and loved the idea having another woman living with is preferably a Bisexual lady .
Butt with having young kids and narrow minded family it may stay a dream for now ...
Mr dirty xx "
I lived with my ex and our girlfriend for 7 years in the same house |
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No experience with this but have often fantasized about it with my hubby and another bi lady. In my mind we'd all sleep in the same bed everynight, share everything! Then there's the bonus of another adult to help run the house lol Don't know how we'd explain it to the kids, extended family etc tho so i reckon it'll remain a fantasy. |
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