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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You'll have no problem finding someone. But what harm if go by yourself at the same time Fuck em"
I normally wouldn't mind. But his family now judge me for been a single mum and keep saying to me I will do no better than my ex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't need the approval of his wife or his sister. People can be shitty to each other for myriad reasons.
You are leaving them get to you which is what they want. Regardless of bringing a hot lad for the sake of it you would know the truth and ultimately it is only yourself you need to be happy for .
Indulging in the negative mindset of bringing someone to piss someone off isn't fair on the guy who invited you to the wedding.
A plus 1 is there as a crutch if you are feeling socially awkward. It isn't there as a revenge mechanism.
Go yourself.. glam up.. get your hair done. Walk in smile wide with a glint in your eye.
The confidence to be there by yourself is much more of a thorn in the side than a fake date as turning up on your own shows you are happy with who you are both to them and most importantly to yourself.
If it seems too much just leave the wedding off would be my advice.
Hope you enjoy yourself if you go ! |
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"You don't need the approval of his wife or his sister. People can be shitty to each other for myriad reasons.
You are leaving them get to you which is what they want. Regardless of bringing a hot lad for the sake of it you would know the truth and ultimately it is only yourself you need to be happy for .
Indulging in the negative mindset of bringing someone to piss someone off isn't fair on the guy who invited you to the wedding.
A plus 1 is there as a crutch if you are feeling socially awkward. It isn't there as a revenge mechanism.
Go yourself.. glam up.. get your hair done. Walk in smile wide with a glint in your eye.
The confidence to be there by yourself is much more of a thorn in the side than a fake date as turning up on your own shows you are happy with who you are both to them and most importantly to yourself.
If it seems too much just leave the wedding off would be my advice.
Hope you enjoy yourself if you go ! "
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Don’t have shame about your position in life or about going by yourself...
I rarely ever bring someone as a +1 because it shows solidarity in yourself.
That you don’t need a crutch.
Go and blow the dance floor apart and be the life and soul... they’ll all wish they were in your shoes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you are really sure his future wife does not like you and as his family are nasty to you then, politely decline the invitation. Don't go. Instead, have a nice special day out for yourself and your own child who you love and who loves you. Or, indulge in a Spa day for yourself. And feck them!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't for the life of me see why you would attend at all. If the groom is such a friend why does he let his family treat you like shit? Why would you continue acquaintance with these people, let alone waste an entire day with them? Life is too short for that bullshit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone else just said why would you bother going at all? Wedding's are very expensive between money in a card, dolling yourself up and the day itself. Why waste all that money on people you don't even like and that are horrible to you  keep your money spend it on a great day out for you and your child. If he was such a good friend he wouldn't be allowing them treat you like shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with the guys above, why would you spend the effort, energy and money to give a shit about what some people think about you, let alone trying to change their perception of you..let them off, seriously.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't for the life of me see why you would attend at all. If the groom is such a friend why does he let his family treat you like shit? Why would you continue acquaintance with these people, let alone waste an entire day with them? Life is too short for that bullshit. "
Absolutely agree....don’t stoop to their level. Politely decline saying that you have a prior engagement. Leave them to their pathetic life and go do something you like to do. Don’t ever be afraid of them talking about you.....idol minds...idol gossip. You’re way better than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go on your own or bring a mate, who gives a f*** what anyone else thinks. Go enjoy yourself and look if you really want to piss someone off ride your ones brother or something 
I wouldn't be too concerned about what people think, if you are happy the way you are then nothing else should matter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do not stay in the company of people i do not like be them family or so called friends life is too short so i deffo would not bodder going if it was me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tough one, but I would think that you owe it to your friend to be there and the big question is why the others don't "approve" of you .... Maybe there is a threat or jealousy lurking behind all this, and therefore by not going is pissing your friend off and giving his Mrs the opportunity to talk bad of you to him.... I would think that you go and behave like a true friend and not allow them more ammo..... Oh, and take a fabber if it'll ease any pressure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would so piss any respectable establishment off, ill help if needs be lol
You only need to look at me haha"
^^^^^^^^
here is your answer..
looks like a seriously cool guy, you could enjoy the day and make jaws drop all at once.. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it’s a childhood friend, you owe to him for the sake of your friendship to go. Who cares if his wife to be or family like or approve of you. You were invited by your friend, therefore you should go. It doesn’t matter a fuck if you are a single mother or a married mother, you are a mother and someone liking you or not liking you will never change that. Bring a chap with you, go to the Church or whatever, onto the reception, conduct yourself in a quiet manner, enjoy yourself and slip off out of the place by half eleven without a word while everyone else is off their faces. Why cause a fuss or try and upstage her on her day. Anyway, go, have a great time and get to know the chap your bringing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I should be there for him he is mmore like a brother to me than a friend. His girlfriend couldn't deal and can't deal with how close we were. We slept in the same bed if we stayed in each other's houses. If would never bother us seeing each other naked. He cleaned up my drinking messes and slagged me after. When I was down he always picked me back up and I done the same for him till she came along. His sister is just bat shit crazy doesn't talk to 90% of the people in the village (she fell out with me cause I got sick and couldn't be her bridesmaid for her wedding, I am godmother to her child and I still send her presents for birthday Christmas and every first she does). All my friends will be there at the wedding so I'd like to bring someone no one knows to create gossip because they will gossip either way.
The village will gossip it should of been me and him, girl next door thing, best friends sense we could pick each other noses not even our own!
Others will gossip I am on my own has she no other friends she can bring or is she holding out for her ex.
Others will gossip I went.
Will gossip if I don't go.
So why shouldn't I give them something to gossip about
I know its confusing and messy
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I should be there for him he is mmore like a brother to me than a friend. His girlfriend couldn't deal and can't deal with how close we were. We slept in the same bed if we stayed in each other's houses. If would never bother us seeing each other naked. He cleaned up my drinking messes and slagged me after. When I was down he always picked me back up and I done the same for him till she came along. His sister is just bat shit crazy doesn't talk to 90% of the people in the village (she fell out with me cause I got sick and couldn't be her bridesmaid for her wedding, I am godmother to her child and I still send her presents for birthday Christmas and every first she does). All my friends will be there at the wedding so I'd like to bring someone no one knows to create gossip because they will gossip either way.
The village will gossip it should of been me and him, girl next door thing, best friends sense we could pick each other noses not even our own!
Others will gossip I am on my own has she no other friends she can bring or is she holding out for her ex.
Others will gossip I went.
Will gossip if I don't go.
So why shouldn't I give them something to gossip about
I know its confusing and messy
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So what if they gossip? Why let yourself down just to please them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When is it? Ill get the suit ready  . Make sure who ever you bring you actually get along with and have a connection. Will be alot easier to enjoy the night. A meet or two beforehand might be advisable |
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By *umonme1977Man
over a year ago
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You go with a fine guy and they will be saying it won't last. Next time they see you he won't be around and it will be " told you so" my advice is go on your own or with a good friend enjoy the day/night, be nice and friendly to them all and don't be worrying or give a shite what they think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People will talk no matter what you do ... Just don't have your best mate joining in or thinking bad of you.... As per my previous post, it would seem his Mrs is jealous of your bond, so fuck her and her insecurities, he's your friend |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"People will talk no matter what you do ... Just don't have your best mate joining in or thinking bad of you.... As per my previous post, it would seem his Mrs is jealous of your bond, so fuck her and her insecurities, he's your friend"
I think this is the winner as the op is bi fuck the new missus and then fuck ur friend in front of her  |
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