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"Anyone any experience of using fetlife "
It's a great way to see what's going on in the world, and realise that you're not the only one with that fetish you never dared talk about. But, I've never met anyone off Fet, ..although, there is a monthly meeting, held in Dublin , and it's promoted there.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be very cliquey and there wouldn’t be as much interaction as here but it’s good for a source if information. Kind of like Facebook unless you have friends on it you won’t have much interaction |
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"It can be very cliquey and there wouldn’t be as much interaction as here but it’s good for a source if information. Kind of like Facebook unless you have friends on it you won’t have much interaction "
I am not a Facebook fan it guess if its full of kink it would different ?? |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Either on fet or fab at least reply to all those that took the time out of their lives to reply to ur op not just the females that replied in the hope u might strike up a conversation. A little sissy sub like u should be kneeling in the middle saying thank u sir/Madame as each member pisses on u  |
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"Either on fet or fab at least reply to all those that took the time out of their lives to reply to ur op not just the females that replied in the hope u might strike up a conversation. A little sissy sub like u should be kneeling in the middle saying thank u sir/Madame as each member pisses on u "
You never know I might like that situation |
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"Anyone any experience of using fetlife
Try it for yourself then you can judge for yourself.
Happy to try it. Was really just wondering if I would be wasting my time "
Yes.. you will. It’s very difficult to connect on there. |
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over a year ago
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"Anyone any experience of using fetlife
Try it for yourself then you can judge for yourself. "
I was on it for a bit not my thing but you should give it a whirl for yourself it’s the only way you’re gonna know |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Either on fet or fab at least reply to all those that took the time out of their lives to reply to ur op not just the females that replied in the hope u might strike up a conversation. A little sissy sub like u should be kneeling in the middle saying thank u sir/Madame as each member pisses on u
You never know I might like that situation "
From a quick glance at ur profile I bet u dream of it
Why not spell out the fantasy on there u never know u might get lucky |
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By *ts artMan
over a year ago
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"Anyone any experience of using fetlife
Try it for yourself then you can judge for yourself.
Happy to try it. Was really just wondering if I would be wasting my time
Yes.. you will. It’s very difficult to connect on there. "
Can't believe you had trouble connecting a minx |
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It's decent. I'd say I ended up talking to more people on there than on here.
Cliquey and you will get hounded worse than on here if they don't like you.
It's also probably a bit more dangerous than this site, I know several girls who joined up fresh bambis, had some abusive thing against their will happen, or got beaten too hard too fast, and logged off and never came back, without the community giving a shit, and they will watch it happen to new people over and over and say nothing.
But I made great friends on there. |
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Give it a go. Keep in mind it's more of a social networking site, it's hard to search for people you're looking for online. So it can feel clique-y as people us it to keep in contact with friends they've met at munches, events etc.
Really recommend some of the munches, read through the events tab and for sure there will be one you're interested in. |
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By *eys00Man
over a year ago
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"Give it a go. Keep in mind it's more of a social networking site, it's hard to search for people you're looking for online. So it can feel clique-y as people us it to keep in contact with friends they've met at munches, events etc.
Really recommend some of the munches, read through the events tab and for sure there will be one you're interested in."
You had me at munch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone any experience of using fetlife "
Yes - I have a profile there, have met some wonderful friends via the site. I'm surprised more Fab users aren't on there! |
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By *P_80Man
over a year ago
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I was on it for a while as I have a particular little kink so I thought I'd see what it was like.
It's ok for connecting with like minded individuals and I've had a few chats with some cool people, men and women, but I wouldn't be depending on it to get a meet unless you are already in on the scene as, just like on here, you need to show that not only are you genuine, but also that you can be trusted.
Just because you have a fetish and someone else has the same one, doesn't make getting a meet any easier.
It's no easier than here, in fact I would say it's probably harder.
But having said all that, it is quite nice to chat with people with similar interests so if you're content with just that, then by all means sign up and see what it has to offer.
You never know where it might lead. |
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If you want to be reminded you're on an tiny island its great.
They spend half their life writing about sex instead of having it, they allow people they would normally never meet to worm their way into their lives by reading stuff they write and not actually getting to know them. It's full of predators I know 2 people who had sex forced on them and left the site. Most of the women are prostitutes dressed in latex.
Also if you are new to the site they will disregard all of your opinions, even if it is perfectly sound opinion like "a rope should be untied or cut if it causes numbness in an area", they will honestly tell you to go fuck yourself, because many of them have hurt people doing ties and think its a personal attack on them.
If you're new and you say you're into rope play, they will report you to the police and you will be investigated, but the active members of the scene known to have abused people are never investigated.
Basically, treat it as if you were in coppers with a bunch of people into dangerous sex.
Or if you want to rough fuck 18/20 year old girls with daddy issues its great |
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"I'm on it and it's the place for every fetish and fantasy possible "
I am on it too and I find it very good.
Unfortunately there is no verification system in place and you cannot see who has visited you.
I would say, Fab and Fet complement each other and a few people I know and I've met, use both. |
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over a year ago
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"If you want to be reminded you're on an tiny island its great.
They spend half their life writing about sex instead of having it, they allow people they would normally never meet to worm their way into their lives by reading stuff they write and not actually getting to know them. It's full of predators I know 2 people who had sex forced on them and left the site. Most of the women are prostitutes dressed in latex.
Also if you are new to the site they will disregard all of your opinions, even if it is perfectly sound opinion like "a rope should be untied or cut if it causes numbness in an area", they will honestly tell you to go fuck yourself, because many of them have hurt people doing ties and think its a personal attack on them.
If you're new and you say you're into rope play, they will report you to the police and you will be investigated, but the active members of the scene known to have abused people are never investigated.
Basically, treat it as if you were in coppers with a bunch of people into dangerous sex.
Or if you want to rough fuck 18/20 year old girls with daddy issues its great"
This.
More issues than Vogue. Deleted my profile after a month. |
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I would say that if you just want to meet people nsa then your better off here. But if you are very into kink or have some niche fetishes/you'd like to learn more about kink/fetishes then fetlife is a great place to learn.
It's very similar to Facebook in its profile layout, timeline, and friending system but the events are fun and there's a munch for every interest.
I like it a lot and would recommend it. |
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"I would say that if you just want to meet people nsa then your better off here. But if you are very into kink or have some niche fetishes/you'd like to learn more about kink/fetishes then fetlife is a great place to learn.
It's very similar to Facebook in its profile layout, timeline, and friending system but the events are fun and there's a munch for every interest.
I like it a lot and would recommend it. "
ditto?? Although I’m a fet addict |
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I had a look at it and some of the stuff is a bit too intense for my liking. The photos of sub/Dom relationships and like daddy/daughter relationships and stuff were just way too much for me  each to their own I guess but  |
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Been on and off it for years. It was one of the main reasons I bought a camera and started snapping at home and the first time Some one else took photos of mrs the photographer had and I think still has a profile on fet.
For creative ideas it's hard to beat and from a kink point of view it offers every thing except verification and that's the soul reason we wouldn't use it in the same way as fab. Its a great site when you know what you want from it but it's not for the faint hearted |
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"I had a look at it and some of the stuff is a bit too intense for my liking. The photos of sub/Dom relationships and like daddy/daughter relationships and stuff were just way too much for me each to their own I guess but "
when you look into it properly it’s not so different from a vanilla relationship |
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over a year ago
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"Been on and off it for years. It was one of the main reasons I bought a camera and started snapping at home and the first time Some one else took photos of mrs the photographer had and I think still has a profile on fet.
For creative ideas it's hard to beat and from a kink point of view it offers every thing except verification and that's the soul reason we wouldn't use it in the same way as fab. Its a great site when you know what you want from it but it's not for the faint hearted "
Oòoooh I'm in love with your photos guys  |
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"Been on and off it for years. It was one of the main reasons I bought a camera and started snapping at home and the first time Some one else took photos of mrs the photographer had and I think still has a profile on fet.
For creative ideas it's hard to beat and from a kink point of view it offers every thing except verification and that's the soul reason we wouldn't use it in the same way as fab. Its a great site when you know what you want from it but it's not for the faint hearted
Oòoooh I'm in love with your photos guys "
Thanks but it's all her. I just throw baby oil at her and press the go button on my camera  |
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"Been on and off it for years. It was one of the main reasons I bought a camera and started snapping at home and the first time Some one else took photos of mrs the photographer had and I think still has a profile on fet.
For creative ideas it's hard to beat and from a kink point of view it offers every thing except verification and that's the soul reason we wouldn't use it in the same way as fab. Its a great site when you know what you want from it but it's not for the faint hearted
Oòoooh I'm in love with your photos guys
Thanks but it's all her. I just throw baby oil at her and press the go button on my camera "
Ones without baby oil are just as hot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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meant to reply to this yesterday but alas life gets in the way
yup it's a great site for exploring the fetish here in ireland. will give you information on events and our closest munch.
for the naysayers of it maybe give it some time. also it isn't full of predators (most of been ed out of the scene bar one or two and they are well known and most newbies are warned of them) or people who call the cops on you (know of only one instance of this and wasn't for someone doing rope) or prossies in latex (yes it has pro dommes but they are not allowed to often sexual services)
in essence it's a community site not a hook up site although some will try use it for just that. a few fabbers are on there already that we know. |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
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Fetlife is not a swing site.
Most kinksters do not swing.
Yes, there are swingers on the site who define themselves as such but in few ways can you compare it to Fab.
Most people join as individual not as couples, so in this way it is similar to Facebook.
The site is excellent for finding out what is going on in your area, anywhere in the world and for putting you in touch with people with similar predilections.
The photography is often a cut above Fab and the writing very personal and articulate.
If, as a single guy, you're looking to hook up then I would advice to look elsewhere.
We have met many people through Fet but always as a couple and mostly not for sex.
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over a year ago
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Been on it for quite a while. Not the most user friendly set up but once you get the hang of it it’s good for getting to know locals who are interested in the same sort of stuff. I see it largely as a learning platform also. |
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Some of the photos, videos and writings on Fet are amazing.
The quality of the amateur porn beats the shit out of many well established websites.
The human sexuality has so many dimensions.
Fet life might be one of the few places where so much of it has been shared in a better form, for everyone to enjoy.
We've discovered mind blowing stuff.
We found ourselves many times experimenting and feeling positive and happy, that our own sexuality is just the norm for hundred others. |
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"Some of the photos, videos and writings on Fet are amazing.
The quality of the amateur porn beats the shit out of many well established websites.
The human sexuality has so many dimensions.
Fet life might be one of the few places where so much of it has been shared in a better form, for everyone to enjoy.
We've discovered mind blowing stuff.
We found ourselves many times experimenting and feeling positive and happy, that our own sexuality is just the norm for hundred others."
couldn't put it better ourselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like it.
Less judgemental forums
More freedom of speech
And I even ended up meeting a few people "
i think the less judgemental forums thing is more to do with the fact there aren't really forum per se but more groups for specific interests. Less comedy acts on there as well thankfully as you get your fill of the wannabe comedians on here at times and the pointless points to that effect |
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"Some of the photos, videos and writings on Fet are amazing.
The quality of the amateur porn beats the shit out of many well established websites.
The human sexuality has so many dimensions.
Fet life might be one of the few places where so much of it has been shared in a better form, for everyone to enjoy.
Couldn’t agree more
A x
We've discovered mind blowing stuff.
We found ourselves many times experimenting and feeling positive and happy, that our own sexuality is just the norm for hundred others."
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Yes fet life is amazing! N a member there long before i joined here and still an active member there. I have alot of friends there and the parties & munches are great and are more regular than on here. |
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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago
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"It's like anything, you get out of it what you put into it. Site is a bit hard to navigate. But maybe that's because I'm old. "
I found this too and took me a long time to get chatting to people there. But it gets easier with time, like all things. |
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I've been a not very active member of Fet for years, but plan to broaden my adventures, so, as its a world wide community I'm trying to find like minded kinksters. My profile name is TantraTouch, contacts welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone any experience of using fetlife Fet doesn’t work here there are not many people .. catch a flight go to London every first Sunday of the month Lam market good place to meet people "
loads of people down here in the republic. monthly events as well. cheaper then a flight to london too |
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"It's like anything, you get out of it what you put into it. Site is a bit hard to navigate. But maybe that's because I'm old.
I found this too and took me a long time to get chatting to people there. But it gets easier with time, like all things. "
Exactly! I’m only just getting into it so still still figuring the site out. Haven’t chatted to many, but those I have seem clicky then here can be at times
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I am more active on fetlife than here. The 'Dublin Scene' can be a bit difficult to navigate, you need to have your wits about you. There absolutely are 'predators' on there and on here. But if you are a responsible adult who tends to not take everything at face value you'll be fine. Some of the events are fun and you can meet great people. I've met a small selection of great people and a large selection of not so great people. It's a networking site and as such it's not really for hook ups, though you can find those at events. Things are easier if you know someone already established on the scene as it is cliquey. Have fun! |
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"If you want to be reminded you're on an tiny island its great.
They spend half their life writing about sex instead of having it, they allow people they would normally never meet to worm their way into their lives by reading stuff they write and not actually getting to know them. It's full of predators I know 2 people who had sex forced on them and left the site. Most of the women are prostitutes dressed in latex.
Also if you are new to the site they will disregard all of your opinions, even if it is perfectly sound opinion like "a rope should be untied or cut if it causes numbness in an area", they will honestly tell you to go fuck yourself, because many of them have hurt people doing ties and think its a personal attack on them.
If you're new and you say you're into rope play, they will report you to the police and you will be investigated, but the active members of the scene known to have abused people are never investigated.
Basically, treat it as if you were in coppers with a bunch of people into dangerous sex.
Or if you want to rough fuck 18/20 year old girls with daddy issues its great"
Rubbish. |
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"If you want to be reminded you're on an tiny island its great.
They spend half their life writing about sex instead of having it, they allow people they would normally never meet to worm their way into their lives by reading stuff they write and not actually getting to know them. It's full of predators I know 2 people who had sex forced on them and left the site. Most of the women are prostitutes dressed in latex.
Also if you are new to the site they will disregard all of your opinions, even if it is perfectly sound opinion like "a rope should be untied or cut if it causes numbness in an area", they will honestly tell you to go fuck yourself, because many of them have hurt people doing ties and think its a personal attack on them.
If you're new and you say you're into rope play, they will report you to the police and you will be investigated, but the active members of the scene known to have abused people are never investigated.
Basically, treat it as if you were in coppers with a bunch of people into dangerous sex.
Or if you want to rough fuck 18/20 year old girls with daddy issues its great
Rubbish. "
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"It's dead  "
I thought it would be easier to find someone who would love a older cleaning sub. But I keep getting asked for payment. You get asked if you want to clean you say yes. And next you get pay me .And then they block you or you get fools trying to please her attacking you.oh yes if you go to a certain groups party and tell someone no thanks. They all block you because they scared of not being asked to other parties. Never mind the fact that you complained about saying no all day long. |
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"Anyone any experience of using fetlife Fet doesn’t work here there are not many people .. catch a flight go to London every first Sunday of the month Lam market good place to meet people
loads of people down here in the republic. monthly events as well. cheaper then a flight to london too"
I loved going to a certain BDSM party every month but i the one time I went alone I got beat up walking from the car. Plus it's a pain driving all the way down you can't drink driving home early in the morning a pain.And as a single TV I felt alone in the club. |
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"If you want to be reminded you're on an tiny island its great.
They spend half their life writing about sex instead of having it, they allow people they would normally never meet to worm their way into their lives by reading stuff they write and not actually getting to know them. It's full of predators I know 2 people who had sex forced on them and left the site. Most of the women are prostitutes dressed in latex.
Also if you are new to the site they will disregard all of your opinions, even if it is perfectly sound opinion like "a rope should be untied or cut if it causes numbness in an area", they will honestly tell you to go fuck yourself, because many of them have hurt people doing ties and think its a personal attack on them.
If you're new and you say you're into rope play, they will report you to the police and you will be investigated, but the active members of the scene known to have abused people are never investigated.
Basically, treat it as if you were in coppers with a bunch of people into dangerous sex.
Or if you want to rough fuck 18/20 year old girls with daddy issues its great
Rubbish. "
This really is a load of rubbish! There have been plenty of workshops for Shibari, Newaza, Kinbaku etc up in Belfast recently and in Dublin from well known enthusiasts like Dave & Clover, Anna, Stella etc.to Colston and show lots more than just tying a few knots. Even though some charge a nominal fee there are alot that are FREE i might add, something you dont hear often on here, but anyway i digress....
As mentioned here, it probably is a bit harder to crack the clique but it's really well worth it. The social side of it is far better than here. But it does cover a far wider spectrum than here.
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"Very good for information. Hard to get invited to anything unless someone knows you and recommends you."
How so? Munches are public events you just need to attend a meet and greet with the munch organisers. Nimh is a public event as is Goddessa. So invites not necessary for what are good nights out |
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"Very good for information. Hard to get invited to anything unless someone knows you and recommends you.
How so? Munches are public events you just need to attend a meet and greet with the munch organisers. Nimh is a public event as is Goddessa. So invites not necessary for what are good nights out "
As I said it wasn't easy getting a meet and greet with organisers. I had messaged a few times requesting this. It put me off. |
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"Very good for information. Hard to get invited to anything unless someone knows you and recommends you.
How so? Munches are public events you just need to attend a meet and greet with the munch organisers. Nimh is a public event as is Goddessa. So invites not necessary for what are good nights out
As I said it wasn't easy getting a meet and greet with organisers. I had messaged a few times requesting this. It put me off."
I have found that's its easy to get invited to a munch. But the organiser has to choose the venue to match the attendance, and as they are discreet affairs the venue is carefully chosen. I can understand that there might need to be a cap on invites for that reason, but keep trying cos they're a great way to meet people. |
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"Very good for information. Hard to get invited to anything unless someone knows you and recommends you.
How so? Munches are public events you just need to attend a meet and greet with the munch organisers. Nimh is a public event as is Goddessa. So invites not necessary for what are good nights out
As I said it wasn't easy getting a meet and greet with organisers. I had messaged a few times requesting this. It put me off.
I have found that's its easy to get invited to a munch. But the organiser has to choose the venue to match the attendance, and as they are discreet affairs the venue is carefully chosen. I can understand that there might need to be a cap on invites for that reason, but keep trying cos they're a great way to meet people. "
Was on fet life for 18 months with no success untill a fab lady friend messaged them and the next day I had an invite. It just put me off so just use it as information which suits me fine. Went to the Belfast rope group once. |
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"Very good for information. Hard to get invited to anything unless someone knows you and recommends you.
How so? Munches are public events you just need to attend a meet and greet with the munch organisers. Nimh is a public event as is Goddessa. So invites not necessary for what are good nights out
As I said it wasn't easy getting a meet and greet with organisers. I had messaged a few times requesting this. It put me off."
don't know how it's run up there but any munch here has a meet and greet with the munch organisers before the munch for newbies. this includes even events like nimh. |
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"Very good for information. Hard to get invited to anything unless someone knows you and recommends you.
How so? Munches are public events you just need to attend a meet and greet with the munch organisers. Nimh is a public event as is Goddessa. So invites not necessary for what are good nights out
As I said it wasn't easy getting a meet and greet with organisers. I had messaged a few times requesting this. It put me off.
don't know how it's run up there but any munch here has a meet and greet with the munch organisers before the munch for newbies. this includes even events like nimh. "
Yeah thats the way they are in dublin. The workshops in belfast were different as you know yourself Sunday world are always looking for front page stories. So they are all done on the day, you accept the invitation and be in a certain area and them an hour before we were told were it was being hosted. Fortunately they are more easily organised down in the free state  |
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"Very good for information. Hard to get invited to anything unless someone knows you and recommends you.
How so? Munches are public events you just need to attend a meet and greet with the munch organisers. Nimh is a public event as is Goddessa. So invites not necessary for what are good nights out
As I said it wasn't easy getting a meet and greet with organisers. I had messaged a few times requesting this. It put me off.
don't know how it's run up there but any munch here has a meet and greet with the munch organisers before the munch for newbies. this includes even events like nimh.
Yeah thats the way they are in dublin. The workshops in belfast were different as you know yourself Sunday world are always looking for front page stories. So they are all done on the day, you accept the invitation and be in a certain area and them an hour before we were told were it was being hosted. Fortunately they are more easily organised down in the free state "
Not all munches have a Meet&Greet or are run in the same way. The mid-week coffee & lunch social is more relaxed: no dress codes, no lectures... Just people sharing a joke or some stories over lunch.
Next one is this Thursday. |
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