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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have send out 100s of messages the last few days tell people about myself what I’m into etc and I’m getting no replies af all. All advice would be greatly accomplished regards SD |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
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In one place on your profile out says you're looking for older women but I'm another it says you're after TV/ TS  . Inconsistencies are noticed.
Also search in forums for the endless threads just like this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do you feel the need to send out 100s of mails?... (copy and paste?)
You’re here a couple of weeks, just take a step back and interact with people here on the forums for awhile. You’ll get noticed in a positive way and that will out-weigh all the (unwanted) mails you sent...
Best of luck |
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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago
wherever |
Fill up that profile a little bit. Instead of just blasting messages out there maybe select your target audience and make sure you match what they are looking for and contact them. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have send out 100s of messages the last few days tell people about myself what I’m into etc and I’m getting no replies af all. All advice would be greatly accomplished regards SD"
You're not the same duffer who was here before, are you?
If you're sending out mails telling people what you're into straight away, you're probably not going to get many replies. You need to build up a rapport before wheeling out those kinds of details, so choose your audience, make sure you fit their preferences too, and start politely and in a friendly but not over friendly way. Best of luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't be patronising and say more pictures  but maybe a longer bio.
Also go easy on the messages,you'll only annoy yourself. It's as much luck as anything else here.Well worded messages can get the bin without being read which is part and parcel. Be persistent without being a pest and some day someone will like the look of you and your mail but it can take time.
Also keep active on the forums-it will allow people to see your personality. |
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"Why do you feel the need to send out 100s of mails?... (copy and paste?)
You’re here a couple of weeks, just take a step back and interact with people here on the forums for awhile. You’ll get noticed in a positive way and that will out-weigh all the (unwanted) mails you sent...
Best of luck "
Says the man who keeps sending me "fancy a fuck" messages with cock pics attached  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you feel the need to send out 100s of mails?... (copy and paste?)
You’re here a couple of weeks, just take a step back and interact with people here on the forums for awhile. You’ll get noticed in a positive way and that will out-weigh all the (unwanted) mails you sent...
Best of luck
Says the man who keeps sending me "fancy a fuck" messages with cock pics attached "
I'd say you boys are at it hammer and tongs every day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you feel the need to send out 100s of mails?... (copy and paste?)
You’re here a couple of weeks, just take a step back and interact with people here on the forums for awhile. You’ll get noticed in a positive way and that will out-weigh all the (unwanted) mails you sent...
Best of luck
Says the man who keeps sending me "fancy a fuck" messages with cock pics attached "
why not hook up at least hes put a bit of effort in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do you feel the need to send out 100s of mails?... (copy and paste?)
You’re here a couple of weeks, just take a step back and interact with people here on the forums for awhile. You’ll get noticed in a positive way and that will out-weigh all the (unwanted) mails you sent...
Best of luck
Says the man who keeps sending me "fancy a fuck" messages with cock pics attached "
Ooooh don’t forget the “im passing through your area” messages I keep sending ya   |
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"Why do you feel the need to send out 100s of mails?... (copy and paste?)
You’re here a couple of weeks, just take a step back and interact with people here on the forums for awhile. You’ll get noticed in a positive way and that will out-weigh all the (unwanted) mails you sent...
Best of luck
Says the man who keeps sending me "fancy a fuck" messages with cock pics attached
Ooooh don’t forget the “im passing through your area” messages I keep sending ya "
I'm always at bingo when you send them  |
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"Keep it short and simple...i find a "fancy a fuck" works just fine...good luck anyway buddy
That and ive parked up and we're within a mile .. fancy some cock. That gets me every time "
Sorry about that. I didn't realise I had sent you so many of them  |
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"Keep it short and simple...i find a "fancy a fuck" works just fine...good luck anyway buddy
That and ive parked up and we're within a mile .. fancy some cock. That gets me every time
Sorry about that. I didn't realise I had sent you so many of them "
You know i live them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have send out 100s of messages the last few days tell people about myself what I’m into etc and I’m getting no replies af all. All advice would be greatly accomplished regards SD"
My advice to you OP would be to spent a bit of time updating your profile text, a bit about yourself, a broad overview of what you are looking for, etc. You should also take a few more pics, keep the public ones clean, the profile pic you have is actually a good one.
I'd avoid sending out hundreds of cut and paste type messages too, take your time viewing profiles and when you do message someone a short intro about yourself always helps.
Also get involved in the forums too, they are a great outlet and I've certainly had good response to my inputs there. When I rejoined Fab recently I reached out for advice on my profile and applied it to my own.
Wishing you the very best in your future Fabbing OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be patient. You have to engage people in conversation. A simple hello how are you is more likely to get a response than sending a long detailed message about yourself. Start out short and sweet and let the conversation grow from there.
Just imagine if somebody walked up to you in a bar or cafe and saying hi then immediately launched into a speech about themselves... it might be a little weird and off putting compared to somebody saying "hi how are you?"
Once you meet someone and they verify you it will get better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP my advice would be... Read the persons profile. Make your message witty & fun. Try & make it stand out. If you read the profile try & pick something out it lets the person know uve at least looked at the profile. As a previous poster said join in the forums ... Good luck . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Constructively speaking from an objective point of view.
Your profile is very very light on detail. You have to sell yourself here and on fab where the single vastly overwhelms every other demographic yours is exceptionally bland in comparison to some of the more well verified gents on here.
As stated above.. get involved in the forums. Try attend any meet and greets even if vanilla to get to know folks. Being verified even from a m&g will certainly help you.
Try help people out in the forums where you can. You'd be surprised who lurks the forums without posting. I've had countless people mail me over the years initiating contact sparked from forum topics.
Do not send dick pics unless specifically asked.
Do send a face pic if comfortable with it.
Be mannerly.
Don't treat the ladies as if they are free prostitutes.
Stand out from the crowd.
Don't send copy/paste mails. They are painfully obvious to read and shows the person sending has not made an effort to tailor the message being sent.
Do not have the expectation of fucking people morning, noon and night. Doesn't work like that for 99.673% on here according to pew research.
By sending 100s of mails you are casting your net wide yes but it also shows you are not selective in your fishing and are willing to put your hook in any available prospect.
Fabswingers isn't like shopping at lidl. It's most succesful members realise there is success to be had by playing it patient and in turn getting the right meets.
Swinging over 10 years and I can say it is worth sticking around if you play your cards right. It's not so common single males get a royal flush after only a couple of weeks. |
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"Royal flush..... I don't know how to play poker..... do u want to teach me ......"
Don't know how to play, ehhhh?
Big stakes game happening this weekend, come I'll teach you. Mwhahah....oops (mwahahahahaha!!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constructively speaking from an objective point of view.
Your profile is very very light on detail. You have to sell yourself here and on fab where the single vastly overwhelms every other demographic yours is exceptionally bland in comparison to some of the more well verified gents on here.
As stated above.. get involved in the forums. Try attend any meet and greets even if vanilla to get to know folks. Being verified even from a m&g will certainly help you.
Try help people out in the forums where you can. You'd be surprised who lurks the forums without posting. I've had countless people mail me over the years initiating contact sparked from forum topics.
Do not send dick pics unless specifically asked.
Do send a face pic if comfortable with it.
Be mannerly.
Don't treat the ladies as if they are free prostitutes.
Stand out from the crowd.
Don't send copy/paste mails. They are painfully obvious to read and shows the person sending has not made an effort to tailor the message being sent.
Do not have the expectation of fucking people morning, noon and night. Doesn't work like that for 99.673% on here according to pew research.
By sending 100s of mails you are casting your net wide yes but it also shows you are not selective in your fishing and are willing to put your hook in any available prospect.
Fabswingers isn't like shopping at lidl. It's most succesful members realise there is success to be had by playing it patient and in turn getting the right meets.
Swinging over 10 years and I can say it is worth sticking around if you play your cards right. It's not so common single males get a royal flush after only a couple of weeks."
Can we copy and paste this to every single guy who posts on the forums about what they are doing wrong ..??
Thank you for the lengthy detailed information.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constructively speaking from an objective point of view.
Your profile is very very light on detail. You have to sell yourself here and on fab where the single vastly overwhelms every other demographic yours is exceptionally bland in comparison to some of the more well verified gents on here.
As stated above.. get involved in the forums. Try attend any meet and greets even if vanilla to get to know folks. Being verified even from a m&g will certainly help you.
Try help people out in the forums where you can. You'd be surprised who lurks the forums without posting. I've had countless people mail me over the years initiating contact sparked from forum topics.
Do not send dick pics unless specifically asked.
Do send a face pic if comfortable with it.
Be mannerly.
Don't treat the ladies as if they are free prostitutes.
Stand out from the crowd.
Don't send copy/paste mails. They are painfully obvious to read and shows the person sending has not made an effort to tailor the message being sent.
Do not have the expectation of fucking people morning, noon and night. Doesn't work like that for 99.673% on here according to pew research.
By sending 100s of mails you are casting your net wide yes but it also shows you are not selective in your fishing and are willing to put your hook in any available prospect.
Fabswingers isn't like shopping at lidl. It's most succesful members realise there is success to be had by playing it patient and in turn getting the right meets.
Swinging over 10 years and I can say it is worth sticking around if you play your cards right. It's not so common single males get a royal flush after only a couple of weeks."
Short and sweet and works a treat NOT |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Girls can spot a cut and paste message a mile off. In fact ive often seen the same one few times, thats when I just block sender. Its not about quantity its quality that counts. Also I think new guys joining think its a site for easy shag, its far from it. A lot of work sometimes goes in beforehand! Try to attend socials first, get your face known works I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Girls can spot a cut and paste message a mile off. In fact ive often seen the same one few times, thats when I just block sender. Its not about quantity its quality that counts. Also I think new guys joining think its a site for easy shag, its far from it. A lot of work sometimes goes in beforehand! Try to attend socials first, get your face known works I think "
wise words |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can we copy and paste this to every single guy who posts on the forums about what they are doing wrong ..??
Thank you for the lengthy detailed information.
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Thank you for your kind words. I don't know why there isn't a sticky thread with such information to assess for newbies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can we copy and paste this to every single guy who posts on the forums about what they are doing wrong ..??
Thank you for the lengthy detailed information.
Thank you for your kind words. I don't know why there isn't a sticky thread with such information to assess for newbies. "
Well way I see it,at least they are asking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Awkward for him, not me
Maybe the answer to this one when robbing others profile pics dont get caught ??
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Exactly Rover!! He wasn’t exactly trying to lie low was he  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Thought this thread would of been removed as the ope account is suspended
Maybe he has just blocked us all and his account isn’t actually suspended?
This is a mystery wrapped in an enigma"
It depends on the fab crime, abuse results in deleting, stealing pics means profile ends on bumper track. |
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"Thought this thread would of been removed as the ope account is suspended
Maybe he has just blocked us all and his account isn’t actually suspended?
This is a mystery wrapped in an enigma
It depends on the fab crime, abuse results in deleting, stealing pics means profile ends on bumper track. "
You think hes figured out what hes doing wrong yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you "
So you Post about me do you. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you So you Post about me do you."
I'm only saying you keep us company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you So you Post about me do you.
I'm only saying you keep us company. "
Not sure I would fit in very well in certain company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics...  "
You don't but then again it could just as well be you . |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... "
I've no monstercock.... unfortunately the things i could do with it I can only dream about |
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you ."
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics ."
Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you |
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you "
That's the idea.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
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You know all the tricks of the trade. |
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade."
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that "
Would you do tricks for free. |
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free."
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
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So my since of humor isn't as good as yours. |
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
So my since of humor isn't as good as yours."
Theres difference between a sense of humour and being nasty. That's was nasty. I'll leave you with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
So my since of humor isn't as good as yours."
Ah come on where are all the spelling experts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
So my since of humor isn't as good as yours.
Theres difference between a sense of humour and being nasty. That's was nasty. I'll leave you with that. "
That's the problem with people here can't take a joke except when it suits them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
So my since of humor isn't as good as yours. Ah come on where are all the spelling experts."
Grow up would you...nobody likes a troll  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
So my since of humor isn't as good as yours. Ah come on where are all the spelling experts.
Grow up would you...nobody likes a troll "
You don't realize how funny that sounds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
So my since of humor isn't as good as yours. Ah come on where are all the spelling experts.
Grow up would you...nobody likes a troll You don't realize how funny that sounds."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would the keyboard warriors have to post about if there wasn't people like the op to keep them amused.
We still have you
Ohhhh how do we know you didn't use his pics... You don't but then again it could just as well be you .
Nah I'd set up a female profile . Id use some skinny chicks pics . Dead right you are no one would ever think it was you
That's the idea.
You know all the tricks of the trade.
I'll call myself Tricky Trickster. Thanks for that Would you do tricks for free.
Don't get nasty now...I was having a bit of fun with you.
So my since of humor isn't as good as yours. Ah come on where are all the spelling experts.
Grow up would you...nobody likes a troll You don't realize how funny that sounds.
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Got something in your eyes mate. |
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By *K430Man
over a year ago
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"I have send out 100s of messages the last few days tell people about myself what I’m into etc and I’m getting no replies af all. All advice would be greatly accomplished regards SD"
Don't know what you're into man but if you've sent hundreds and gotten no replies , it might be time to revisit the content |
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