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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We find social parties are a valuable party of this community. it helps newbies become verified and is a great way to make new fab friends and arrange future play dates without any pressure ... its easier to politely say no at a social than feel awkward after travelling to someones home and not clicking with them the way you'd like to.
Maybe i drift from my point, but organising these events can be costly and very time consuming. therefore is it fair/right for the organiser to profit from such events?
Should organises donate to charity? would you trust organisers if the said they did?
have you arranged a party and been out of pocket as you've been let down by others?
Is it any different than paying for a silver or gold membership to fab .... are organisers simply extending Fab from online to reality?
As an organiser, i feel it is fair to charge. I feel the fee simply reflects the admission fee to a regular city nightclub ...and although gents tickets are usually significantly higher than others, they also have to be limited and is simply a cause of supply and demand.
we look forward to hearing your thoughts, good and bad
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had a problem paying for these events. The cost covers entrance food etc and does nothing to cover the time to organise it...so no issues for me here...with an added thank you for going to the trouble of stringing it all together.  |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
limerick |
Expenses haved to be met however these should be met by equal cost to all who attend it's easy control the amount of single guys by limiting the amount t of tickets avaible to them
Being to one resent event that charged equally across the board and there was no issues of over supply |
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It's not a sin to make a profit considering the time and effort that goes into organising an event. Would never begrudge or complain for paying for a good night and don't understand why some people do bitch about it. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
by a lake with my rod out |
As an organiser of a few m&g and socials. If there are costs incurred then covering costs is normal. I've held a few where I've got the venue free of charge so the event was free. I've no problem with people making a profit I/we try to price it at cost and have given profit to charities |
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"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady. "
You don't have be skinny to be attractive and desirable. Sexiness is a state of mind irrespective of body type. |
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I was at one of these events last year and have no problem at all paying over what's required for a good night..There's a lot of nights out you pay a way more for and there over in less than half the time xx |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
I've no problem paying for a social. As long as that social operates a respectful and balanced pay structure and doesn't simply take the 'shooting fish in a barrel' approach (aka I will because I can) that some operate.
I personally wouldn't consider attending something like that but each to their own. I'm sure many others don't look at life the way I do and have no problem attending.
I hope all attendees have a great time  |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
The first one we went to we paid 50 quid to attend and it was awful. We almost gave up on the scene, thankfully the next week we went to one of Laids and it was free and was feckin awesome.
We have never charged for any of ours. We have organised 6 since on here but we are done with proper ones as the grief we have suffered in last few months has put us off them, we have since decided we will just do random drinks in town like tomorrow night.
It does take a lot of effort to organize but i am good at it and i enjoy it, perhaps if i needed the money i would consider charging but thankfully i don’t. Buying the organiser a drink does help though and is a nice gesture.
If we ever do an event as in a party we will definitely take the cash up front though, this business of collecting on the night is too high risk.
Apologies for my bluntness, i would rather be honest.
Pete
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been to a lot of social events over the last few years and I know the time and effort that goes into organising them. I also know how much it costs to hire a room such as the one you used.
You sold a package as room and entry to M&G. But what you failed to mention was you got the rooms at a cheaper rate than what you sold them as. So you made a good profit in total from the people that bought them from you.
What ever overheads you had there was no reason to charge a couple of people extra money in such a sneaky way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe I will get confidence to go to one soon "
I can't message you as I'm outside your age range, but can I suggest you look at the Midlands mingle, which is a social for curvey ladies and their admirers x organised by great women and always a great crowd. As everyone says attractiveness isn't measured by dress size x but mingle might make you feel comfortable for your first social, which is just a night out x |
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"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady. "
Our Mingles are aimed at plus sized women and their admirers as many of us feel the same as you, especially when attending an event for the first time. Currently, our guests lists are full for the next mingle on Sept 21 as we do have a limit on the numbers attending but we would be happy to put you on the waiting list in case anyone drops out.
To answer the OPs question, we do charge for mingles, using eventbrite to sell tickets in order to ensure that we are not out of pocket on the night. We have also found that this has cut down on no shows and messers.
We charge €10 per person attending - couples buy 2 tickets.
We are open and transparent about our costs and will be donating any profit to a charity. We don’t organize mingles to make money, we organize them to give like minded people the opportunity to meet up and have a fun night out.
It takes a lot of time and effort to organize these events and the organizers should not be out of pocket. None of our attendees have had any problem paying €10 to attend. It’s certainly less than you would pay to get into many nightclubs  |
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By *heilsWoman
over a year ago
Midlands |
"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady.
Our Mingles are aimed at plus sized women and their admirers as many of us feel the same as you, especially when attending an event for the first time. Currently, our guests lists are full for the next mingle on Sept 21 as we do have a limit on the numbers attending but we would be happy to put you on the waiting list in case anyone drops out.
To answer the OPs question, we do charge for mingles, using eventbrite to sell tickets in order to ensure that we are not out of pocket on the night. We have also found that this has cut down on no shows and messers.
We charge €10 per person attending - couples buy 2 tickets.
We are open and transparent about our costs and will be donating any profit to a charity. We don’t organize mingles to make money, we organize them to give like minded people the opportunity to meet up and have a fun night out.
It takes a lot of time and effort to organize these events and the organizers should not be out of pocket. None of our attendees have had any problem paying €10 to attend. It’s certainly less than you would pay to get into many nightclubs "
I have seen the organization and the time these ladies have put into arranging the mingle, as I'm sure others who arrange socials do and I have no problem paying a tenner...it's a cheap but great night out to meet others in a comfortable but safe setting. I applaud those who take the time and effort to arrange these nights and I certainly agree it is fair for everyone to pay the same amount...I don't see that single guys should pay more, just limit the number of male tickets... |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
C'est moi Boudoir |
I have attended and organised a few and have no problem with paying for these events as they are a fantastic side of swinging. I know what is involved effort wise and found the paying upfront option limits no show's and keeps number's even. It's a great way of being fair to single guy's by not overcharging them as prepayment does away with the need for over charging anyone.
Having said all that, I agree with Pete above, free casual drinks is also another great option. I co hosted in Kerry recently but we were not messed around with attendance as I sent out a very clear message early in the day stating fab rules apply to fab event's and if you requested and got an invite and didn't turn up it would be logged as a no show. I got all responses back and knew in advance of event who was coming and who was not.
I think donating to a charity is a great idea and would love to see more of it especially to causes that deal with issues that come up on the forum's regularly. |
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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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"We find social parties are a valuable party of this community. it helps newbies become verified and is a great way to make new fab friends and arrange future play dates without any pressure ... its easier to politely say no at a social than feel awkward after travelling to someones home and not clicking with them the way you'd like to.
Maybe i drift from my point, but organising these events can be costly and very time consuming. therefore is it fair/right for the organiser to profit from such events?
Should organises donate to charity? would you trust organisers if the said they did?
have you arranged a party and been out of pocket as you've been let down by others?
Is it any different than paying for a silver or gold membership to fab .... are organisers simply extending Fab from online to reality?
As an organiser, i feel it is fair to charge. I feel the fee simply reflects the admission fee to a regular city nightclub ...and although gents tickets are usually significantly higher than others, they also have to be limited and is simply a cause of supply and demand.
we look forward to hearing your thoughts, good and bad
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Don't see the need for a profit to be made by the host or single guys having to pay more. Any surplus should be donated to charity or carried over to next event. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have held a social in the past and I didn’t feel the need to charge single guys extra or to make a profit on the night. I got the room and food free so all I had to do was pay the dj and for the decorations for the room, but saying that if I had to do it again I would definitely use a prepay option as the amount of people who didn’t pay on the night was ridiculous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can I just clarify something(North here)
Whether someone charges, or not, is not the issue. Openess and transparency, is the issue. I have organised and assisted in organizing, many parties/gatherings, of varied sizes. Did I charge for attending? Yes, if there was a cost to the venue, if not(such as at my home), then absolutely not. Any charge was a straight division of the cost, there was never profit and indeed I even held a Swingers fundraiser, with ALL monies going to a Cancer charity.
If people wish to arrange things for profit, be open about it. It is clear that most of the organiser's that have commented, donate any profit to charity....to question whether they do so, is uncalled for and smacks of desperation to justify someone's own profiteering.
An event with a venue, a live band, treat bags for the ladies and a collection for deserving charities, as well as donating any profit to charity, takes as much organizing(and more) than any other. A venue on a Friday night, a spotify playlist(or similar) and misrepresenting costs of hotel rooms, is not on a par.....it is purely a for profit exercise.
That's the only point I wish people to be aware of, then they can make an informed choice |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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Regular swing clubs and night clubs have different overheads so I don't think it's an accurate reflection to compare them with one off or occasional event price's. Also as mentioned several times there is no need to overcharge any one group more than others. I have never agreed with different pricing at event's. |
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By *heilsWoman
over a year ago
Midlands |
"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady. "
I felt the same until I arrived, alone knowing no one at an early Mingle type event...I got to know a few people through it and have gone to a good few since, they have grown to be a very popular and well attended night out aimed at the curvier lady.. you should definitely put ur name down for a cancellation xxxx |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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The main reason UK clubs have the skewed payment system is they are open to the public (via membership etc) and a higher cost puts puts off a lot of single guys. Where as if you control the guest list you control the number of any demographic turning up there's no need to discourage via pricing. If you need to charge more to cover costs then just have an average price per person |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
South Dublin Area |
Thanks Madame x
If you arrange a private room, food, a dj etc. of course you have overheads and if you wanna make enough to cover a hotel room and a few drinks for the evening for you and a partner I get that but if taking the piss money wise, expect some backlash whoever you are.
And let me say once again, everyone should pay the same, single lads are getting the hole rode off them and not in a good way |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks Madame x
If you arrange a private room, food, a dj etc. of course you have overheads and if you wanna make enough to cover a hotel room and a few drinks for the evening for you and a partner I get that but if taking the piss money wise, expect some backlash whoever you are.
And let me say once again, everyone should pay the same, single lads are getting the hole rode off them and not in a good way "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks Madame x
If you arrange a private room, food, a dj etc. of course you have overheads and if you wanna make enough to cover a hotel room and a few drinks for the evening for you and a partner I get that but if taking the piss money wise, expect some backlash whoever you are.
And let me say once again, everyone should pay the same, single lads are getting the hole rode off them and not in a good way "
Agree wholeheartedly with first bit and can only imagine the effort you two would put into anything you arranged. The instance that stirred us into commenting(on another thread) is not just someone enjoying a few pennies of profit, as it involved a deliberate deceit, for profit.
The single guy debate is one I struggle with, having attended many events and Clubs, both in Swinging and Fet circles, as a single guy.
I advocated a single guy pays as a couple and single ladies do not pay approach. My personal belief was that this was fair but I do see the arguments against it. |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"Thanks Madame x
If you arrange a private room, food, a dj etc. of course you have overheads and if you wanna make enough to cover a hotel room and a few drinks for the evening for you and a partner I get that but if taking the piss money wise, expect some backlash whoever you are.
And let me say once again, everyone should pay the same, single lads are getting the hole rode off them and not in a good way
Agree wholeheartedly with first bit and can only imagine the effort you two would put into anything you arranged. The instance that stirred us into commenting(on another thread) is not just someone enjoying a few pennies of profit, as it involved a deliberate deceit, for profit.
The single guy debate is one I struggle with, having attended many events and Clubs, both in Swinging and Fet circles, as a single guy.
I advocated a single guy pays as a couple and single ladies do not pay approach. My personal belief was that this was fair but I do see the arguments against it."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single guys should not be charged any different to ladies end of. We host parties and charge just enough to cover the rented property, all the food & drink we provide and yes sometimes at a loss. I don't think any host should deliberately set out to host a social or party as a profit making excercise, if you make a few quid from everyone turning up ie at a private party (rarely happens) then well and good but bleeding people to line your pocket then no this is unfair in the lifestyle |
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The main reason I stopped organising parties was the fact that people were very slow or reluctant to pay their share of apt costs.
It got to the stage I was being hit with the costs on a regular basis and it just made it too risky for me to keep hoping people would pay their share and I wouldn’t be left with the bill.
I’m happy to go to events, either paid or free as it’s a lot less hassle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady. "
You'd certainly catch my attention if I saw you, beautiful. |
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1 - i dont think single men should be charged more for a social..its simply a money making racket..ticket numbers can be set at a certain number per group regardless of the price.
2 - people have no problem paying to attend a venue that has been hired by hosts, if the social is advertised as having a dj and a reduced hotel price if booked through the host. If it turns out the hotel was cheaper to book direct with and the hosts were scamming attendees then ppl have a right to complain.If the dj is a playlist, again, not on.
3 - if the hosts wait until everyone has arrived then leave without barely speaking to anyine, not on.
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"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady.
You don't have be skinny to be attractive and desirable. Sexiness is a state of mind irrespective of body type. "
Well said, most men prefare curves |
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"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady.
You don't have be skinny to be attractive and desirable. Sexiness is a state of mind irrespective of body type.
Well said, most men prefare curves"
No they don't. There are stunning slim average curvy & large ladies. Everyone is entitled to their preference. "Skinny" shaming and bashing is ridiculous on here now. How do you know what most men prefer? |
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Ours have always been free of charge. Knowing the inside information makes it's easy to get things free .. but I've been to ones that charge a little amount and I've had no issue with that either always great nights  |
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Anytime ive went in past to socials never had a problem with what ever the charge is always a good nite and great to meet some more people but just havent had the time lately as work most weekends . But will get back to them in the winter months |
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"I have held a social in the past and I didn’t feel the need to charge single guys extra or to make a profit on the night. I got the room and food free so all I had to do was pay the dj and for the decorations for the room, but saying that if I had to do it again I would definitely use a prepay option as the amount of people who didn’t pay on the night was ridiculous. "
i really enjoyed that nite and didnt have a problem paying a few quid and thanks again for the invite all the best mick x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady. "
Shouldn't be an obstacle in attending. Many of us adore curvy ladies |
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By *heilsWoman
over a year ago
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"I would love to go to one of these events but don't think I would have the confidence as I am not a skinny lady.
Shouldn't be an obstacle in attending. Many of us adore curvy ladies "
Ah clever....hahaha
But you are dead right, she is a beautiful lady and having sexy curves should not keep her from attending such events! Great way of makikng contacts and new friends x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"1 - i dont think single men should be charged more for a social..its simply a money making racket..ticket numbers can be set at a certain number per group regardless of the price.
2 - people have no problem paying to attend a venue that has been hired by hosts, if the social is advertised as having a dj and a reduced hotel price if booked through the host. If it turns out the hotel was cheaper to book direct with and the hosts were scamming attendees then ppl have a right to complain.If the dj is a playlist, again, not on.
3 - if the hosts wait until everyone has arrived then leave without barely speaking to anyine, not on.
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Good morning, interesting thread, I have never attended an exchange party, I would like to have the opportunity, I am a single man, although I have requested to be included in the list, they never respond to me. I have no problem paying, each event involves man hours of work and expenses of the meeting place. Please keep me in mind for a party.
Cordially, Carlos
PD: It is true that singles, who have not yet attended parties, we lack positive checks. |
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As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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and run them bloody well |
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
and run them bloody well "
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
and run them bloody well
Aww thank you "
When is the next one? And can we go? |
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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And thats the difference between the OP and other groups that host |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I organise partys in my house because i enjoy hosting and the crack at such events i do not charge for attending overnight stay breakfast or bbq if weather is good. going to socials can be an expensive night out if u have to pay for accommodation in the likes of dublin my guests bring their own drink and nibbles to share and i supply mixers and ice i would not attend a function where guys have to pay more than ladies so have only being to vanilla on singles night |
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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Nothing but good things I hear about your M&G I'm defently looking forward to my first one when it happens in Belfast and knowing somthing gos towards a good cause makes me happy
Keep up the good work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks Madame x
If you arrange a private room, food, a dj etc. of course you have overheads and if you wanna make enough to cover a hotel room and a few drinks for the evening for you and a partner I get that but if taking the piss money wise, expect some backlash whoever you are.
And let me say once again, everyone should pay the same, single lads are getting the hole rode off them and not in a good way "
Totally agree with you Pete. Having arranged small social gatherings with another fab fem we discovered they are better craic and less stressful than organising bigger events. I also agree in relation to the charge for male & fem which should be equal |
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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Now this is the type of party I would go to, with the right attitude. I have same philosophy with events such as races. I will go to those runs which are not run for profit, that the fee covers costs or fee goes towards a good cause, and not for organisers gain . lilred |
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Anytime I've run anything it's always been a free event however if I was to occur costs I would ensure they where covered and any excess donated to charity.
As for pricing I'd take X amount per head. A 10 per person so a couple pays 20 and singles pay ten, to get the balance then you just limit your numbers. It's how alot of people I know do it |
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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago
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"Thanks Madame x
If you arrange a private room, food, a dj etc. of course you have overheads and if you wanna make enough to cover a hotel room and a few drinks for the evening for you and a partner I get that but if taking the piss money wise, expect some backlash whoever you are.
And let me say once again, everyone should pay the same, single lads are getting the hole rode off them and not in a good way
Totally agree with you Pete. Having arranged small social gatherings with another fab fem we discovered they are better craic and less stressful than organising bigger events. I also agree in relation to the charge for male & fem which should be equal "
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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Come on guys we need another good night out |
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
Come on guys we need another good night out "
Just confirming a venue this week then we will be posting the date. |
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I have a question for OP....how do you vett unverified people before they attend one of your socials?
If ye wont meet unverified people? Why do you expect others to? |
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"I have a question for OP....how do you vett unverified people before they attend one of your socials?
If ye wont meet unverified people? Why do you expect others to?"
Oooo.... good question.
Very Jeremy Paxman!
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"I have a question for OP....how do you vett unverified people before they attend one of your socials?
If ye wont meet unverified people? Why do you expect others to?
Oooo.... good question.
Very Jeremy Paxman!
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Only shorter, the opposite sex and way better looking |
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By *aura66Woman
over a year ago
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
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Been to several of these events . Just the best organised & attended. Exciting news  |
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"Maybe I will get confidence to go to one soon "
I'd love to speak to you privately about this as I have an issue not similar but has to do with confidence. Its not something I'd like to post here and i cannot message you. Hopefully we can chat.
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
and run them bloody well "
I second that! Time for another one ladies? |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
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"As most of you know we organise M&G's in Belfast. We charge a flat rate across the board. Why should single male pay more than a single female?
Any profit we make always goes to a charity, we also give any Fab member the an invitation to come along with us when the donations are being handed over, to whichever our chosen charity is.
The last one we had went to the homeless in Belfast and we had over 250 personal hygiene items donated, by all who attended. We where totally overwhelmed by everyone's generosity, so was the charity that it went to.
On a few occasions we have been also able to get people discount on certain hotels which we have also passed onto Fab members. They phoned up themselves and booked it under their own names with the discount code we had given them. So they themselves could compare and see that they where getting a genuine discount!
We run M&G's because we genuinely enjoy running them,not for profit and yes you do get people that mess you around or don't turn up but that's all part an parcel of running anything in life, not just a M&G.
Come on guys we need another good night out
Just confirming a venue this week then we will be posting the date. "
Excellent!! I await that date with great interest. Ye have always ran fun events |
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Pity this has happened... Derry needs more socials.... but thankfully the forums allow us to see exactly what should happen at these and how they should be run!
#justmyoponion |
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"Never been to one 
first time for everything lol
As long as they are more than just a coffee meet ffs lol- maybe babycham and nuts sprinkled with polite conversation ?"
could stretch to blt wine and a sausage roll dunno about sensible conversation but always polite lol |
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"Never been to one
first time for everything lol
As long as they are more than just a coffee meet ffs lol- maybe babycham and nuts sprinkled with polite conversation ?
could stretch to blt wine and a sausage roll dunno about sensible conversation but always polite lol "
Sounds good enough for me |
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"Have no issues paying for this obviously there can be costs involved so why should organiser incur these they are already giving their time and effort to organise it "
The issue is not about paying to cover costs, it's about deceiving people and creaming off a profit....simples. You pay into a Club, you know it's for commercial gain. 'Swingers' arranging a social/party, you expect it to be about the lifestyle, not about making a profit. |
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