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Is it acceptable or childish to “block” if people don’t rely to message.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi
Just curious.. if you message someone politely to say hi ( couples for us mainly) or old friends and they don’t reply? Is this to be taken as a brush off ..... my natural reaction is to block the profile as we’ve obviously no attraction there and I don’t want them perving my pics  .... is blocking childish ????
Sometimes hubby reads messages before me but we mark as unread until we can reply ( other words till I reply !!)
I’d always read a message and send a quick polite one back, with a “ chat later “ to sign off so we don’t have message ping pong.
Mrs K xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't block them if someone doesn't reply but I would leave a private note.
If they're still looking at your profile after not replying, there's a possibility of a msg from them & wouldn't it be sweeter to say 'no thanks' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would block them as it has being read and deleted. Or if its read and not deleted we waith for a few days if no reply we just block them them.
It dont cost anything to have manners "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I simply block. They've shown that they're not interested so there's little point wasting time remessaging. Saves any of their updates flashing up in front of you too, no pint in window shopping something you can't have.
Spend the time on those who are and continue making fab a fun place for yourself.
There's never too many to block and new ones appear too  |
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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago
Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun |
I wouldn't block straight away, as sometimes it just takes a while for people to reply, or for the chat to start to properly flow.
At the moment, I'm talking to an amazing girl from the black site, and the start of the chat was extremely rocky, as I pretty much didn't say anything much different to anyone else so wasn't standing out.
Now the conversation is flowing easily and it definitely looks like it'll be more than just play partners/one night stand as we're so compatible with everything, not just sex.
I don't believe in pestering people but I say try 2 or 3 times to be sure, as long as there's a good amount of time between them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't block them if someone doesn't reply but I would leave a private note.
If they're still looking at your profile after not replying, there's a possibility of a msg from them & wouldn't it be sweeter to say 'no thanks'
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We do this as I know I have clicked into a message but got distracted by something and not returned to reply for a day or so.
Always give them the benefit of doubt.
We try and be polite to everyone. 
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"Hi
Just curious.. if you message someone politely to say hi ( couples for us mainly) or old friends and they don’t reply? Is this to be taken as a brush off ..... my natural reaction is to block the profile as we’ve obviously no attraction there and I don’t want them perving my pics .... is
Sometimes hubby reads messages before me but we mark as unread until we can reply ( other words till I reply !!)
I’d always read a message and send a quick polite one back, with a “ chat later “ to sign off so we don’t have message ping pong.
Mrs K xx "
I didn't know you could mark as unread........ we do that one of us will open read & wait till other replays  |
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"I wouldn't block straight away, as sometimes it just takes a while for people to reply, or for the chat to start to properly flow.
At the moment, I'm talking to an amazing girl from the black site, and the start of the chat was extremely rocky, as I pretty much didn't say anything much different to anyone else so wasn't standing out.
Now the conversation is flowing easily and it definitely looks like it'll be more than just play partners/one night stand as we're so compatible with everything, not just sex.
I don't believe in pestering people but I say try 2 or 3 times to be sure, as long as there's a good amount of time between them."
An amazing girl from the “black site”
What’s the “black site” |
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By *-ManMan
over a year ago
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My thinking would be to save the blocks for the a-holes. If a message is unread or no reply received then that could just be someone having a quick look on a bus or in work with the intention of replying later on.....but they forget |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have taken a note of this as i am not very active in the summer months with my other hobbys but do occasionally read messages sent and do not mean any offence by not replying |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
C'est moi Boudoir |
Your profile op so fab how it suits you to do so. I don't think blocking non responses are going to narrow down your chances when it's only to filter out people who are not interested in taking things further. |
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I personally wouldn't block anyone for not replying to a message I've often read a message and fully intended to reply later when I got a chance and then forget ... sometimes I'm not on fab for weeks at a time as regards who looks at
Our pictures it don't bother me there is a reason we have friends only pictures i think just because people dont reply they shouldn't be blocked |
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By *K430Man
over a year ago
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"We would block them as it has being read and deleted. Or if its read and not deleted we waith for a few days if no reply we just block them them.
It dont cost anything to have manners
Agree 100%
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The “private note “ comment is a good point. Sometimes we’d look at a profile and we’d see that we’d exchanged mail over a year ago.... then your thinking , what were we chatting about before!!!! So making notes is a great idea. ....
I always try to reply to messages quickly ( I’ll say try because I bet I’ve missed some and they’ll post here )..... I suppose it depends on how people use their messages for fab. Some people just send out loads and see if they get a reply but I’m like others that only message if a profile really catches my eye! ...... |
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Hi k.
Only a fool wouldn't message you guys back, you've been responsible for some of our best swing nights.
However, and I'm sure a lot of couples are like us doing long shifts. Where we only meet for a couple of hours and then it's bedtime, one of us reads it and leaves it to the other to respond the following day.
Or if it involves hotels or long road trips maybe two or three days...
I wouldn't let a little delay upset you, they might not answer strait away but I bet they're thinking about you...
Ollie x ( yeah she's still making me sign my posts) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I messaged someone recently, read but no reply next day. I was a bit too kean maybe but I don't contact new people too often and I didn't want to let this person slip by so msgd again...both very polite btw. Got blocked. Fair enough, I get the message now and accept that it's easier and sometimes nicer to block someone rather than reply negatively.
Nevertheless, when I'm blocked, I block back. |
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"Hi
Just curious.. if you message someone politely to say hi ( couples for us mainly) or old friends and they don’t reply? Is this to be taken as a brush off ..... my natural reaction is to block the profile as we’ve obviously no attraction there and I don’t want them perving my pics .... is blocking childish ????
Sometimes hubby reads messages before me but we mark as unread until we can reply ( other words till I reply !!)
I’d always read a message and send a quick polite one back, with a “ chat later “ to sign off so we don’t have message ping pong.
Mrs K xx "
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I can remember messaging a couple for some MFM fun but I got deleted  No big deal...
Then, a few weeks later on their status updates she wrote that she "was taking care of their FAB profile that particular night" So I messaged again only to be welcomed by a very cordial response leading to a two extremely memorable & steamy meet
So I guess it could depend on how the recipents day is going , is "he" or "she" answering messages, do they block delete and yes, how alluring is your actual message. So, I wouldn't block immediately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to block if they have messaged a few times asking the same thing after I have said no thankyou. Do tell them I'm blocking to save them messaging again and why "
See if people just said things like that and replied then maybe people wouldn't send loads of messages. I know women probably get loads and loads of messages but even a reply would let lads know that they aren't interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to block if they have messaged a few times asking the same thing after I have said no thankyou. Do tell them I'm blocking to save them messaging again and why
See if people just said things like that and replied then maybe people wouldn't send loads of messages. I know women probably get loads and loads of messages but even a reply would let lads know that they aren't interested "
Problem with this though, is if the person isn't a site supporter then they don't know if they've msgd the person before.
I've told the same person 4 times now that I don't meet married men & told him this is the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time telling him that. He doesn't remember because he's not a site supporter so isn't told on my profile, which he obviously hasn't read. Apparently he's now separated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
Just curious.. if you message someone politely to say hi ( couples for us mainly) or old friends and they don’t reply? Is this to be taken as a brush off ..... my natural reaction is to block the profile as we’ve obviously no attraction there and I don’t want them perving my pics .... is blocking childish ????
Sometimes hubby reads messages before me but we mark as unread until we can reply ( other words till I reply !!)
I’d always read a message and send a quick polite one back, with a “ chat later “ to sign off so we don’t have message ping pong.
Mrs K xx "
To be honest i think its a bit childish to block for that reason,theres plenty of times its taken us a week or more to reply to people for a multiple of reasons...not being online for a few days or have a big amount of messages to get thru etc and other people "especially other couples" tend to not be online all the time or have a similar situation like yours just without the message of "chat later"
But at the same time who cares,you guys do what you feel you should,and thats perfectly fine just imo i think you could be missing out on some sound people or hookups etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to block if they have messaged a few times asking the same thing after I have said no thankyou. Do tell them I'm blocking to save them messaging again and why
See if people just said things like that and replied then maybe people wouldn't send loads of messages. I know women probably get loads and loads of messages but even a reply would let lads know that they aren't interested "
I think the lack of a reply is generally a good indicator. The fourth or fifth message doesn't help your cause. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a message is read and deleted i usualy block so as down the line i don't accidently send another message to same person."
Yeah that’s what I would be thinking, I would use the block button more as a tool to eliminate people who probably aren’t interested in us.... I’d hate to message someone I’d messaged before and had no reply. ...... people would think I’m a stalker . ... private notes it is in future. |
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"I tend to block if they have messaged a few times asking the same thing after I have said no thankyou. Do tell them I'm blocking to save them messaging again and why
See if people just said things like that and replied then maybe people wouldn't send loads of messages. I know women probably get loads and loads of messages but even a reply would let lads know that they aren't interested
I think the lack of a reply is generally a good indicator. The fourth or fifth message doesn't help your cause."
Aye, but the ones after that start to get into her head and you're sure to score.  |
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I don't like to bother people, but the site tells you if you sent a message before if you go to send a second.
I mean I didn't block someone for saying I was ugly and not their type in a reply. I just wished them luck, but then they wanted to add me to kik after some back and forth, but I cant remember who they are, point is, I don't care, but do block if I think I am bothering someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to block if they have messaged a few times asking the same thing after I have said no thankyou. Do tell them I'm blocking to save them messaging again and why
See if people just said things like that and replied then maybe people wouldn't send loads of messages. I know women probably get loads and loads of messages but even a reply would let lads know that they aren't interested
Problem with this though, is if the person isn't a site supporter then they don't know if they've msgd the person before.
I've told the same person 4 times now that I don't meet married men & told him this is the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time telling him that. He doesn't remember because he's not a site supporter so isn't told on my profile, which he obviously hasn't read. Apparently he's now separated "
Ah right yeah good point. It's hard to remember who you messaged if you're not a sit supporter |
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What I find on occasion is like others have said, message is read but reply happens several days later, so no I wouldn't block because they didn't reply. However what I do find annoying is when I message someone politely, not annoyingly but a message with a bit of effort, then its deleted and I'm blocked, like fair enough if the initial message was vulgar or crude message, now that I don't get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If that happens to me it means they have read my message probably looked at my profile and i am not not what they are looking for so they block as a way to filter messages saves me messaging them again by mistake simple |
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"If that happens to me it means they have read my message probably looked at my profile and i am not not what they are looking for so they block as a way to filter messages saves me messaging them again by mistake simple"
Yep probably, plus from talking to other ladies on here and hearing the shite they receive in messages, no wonder some are fast with the block button. |
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