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If your partner is very nervous about swinging OP and ' you finally talked her around', then I'd be more worried about her actually considering this lifestyle to please you, and the very real possibility that she could be jumping into something under duress that's not for her . If I were you I'd be taking the time to listen to her reservations about swinging before I'd be asking for tips on here on how to get her started  |
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"If your partner is very nervous about swinging OP and ' you finally talked her around', then I'd be more worried about her actually considering this lifestyle to please you, and the very real possibility that she could be jumping into something under duress that's not for her . If I were you I'd be taking the time to listen to her reservations about swinging before I'd be asking for tips on here on how to get her started "
Well said. This is more about the OP and what he wants rather that what they both want. You run the risk of causing real upset to your partner and serious damage to your relationship . Step back and ask yourself why you want to get into the lifestyle ( I get the feeling you want a threesome to tick a box) but your partner's wishes are more important than your fantasies |
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"No she is more than up for it I Hav put no pressure on her at all.. she is just nervous about getting started into it.."
You might not think you have pressured her OP, but her nervousness smacks of her very likely feeling fear that if she doesn't go along with your fantasies she'll loose you. The advise you got above about being careful of what this could do to your relationship is very very relevant.
When you both set up your couples profile you can gauge how up for it she really is by how she contributes to that profile of her own free will...without any prompting on your part OP.
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"If your partner is very nervous about swinging OP and ' you finally talked her around', then I'd be more worried about her actually considering this lifestyle to please you, and the very real possibility that she could be jumping into something under duress that's not for her . If I were you I'd be taking the time to listen to her reservations about swinging before I'd be asking for tips on here on how to get her started "
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