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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So fellow knowledgeable fabbers....
Is it possible to just be a good sub in the bedroom but not outside?
Or does a "good sub" have to play that part in their daily life?
Hopefully I'm making sense 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some live it. 24/7 some don’t they keep it for the bedroom only. If I was to identify as anything I’d be a Brat I like to be challenged into submitting but that’s the bedroom only. Depends on the relationship |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some live it. 24/7 some don’t they keep it for the bedroom only. If I was to identify as anything I’d be a Brat I like to be challenged into submitting but that’s the bedroom only. Depends on the relationship "
That describes me totally, definitely a brat  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some live it. 24/7 some don’t they keep it for the bedroom only. If I was to identify as anything I’d be a Brat I like to be challenged into submitting but that’s the bedroom only. Depends on the relationship
That describes me totally, definitely a brat "
It’s fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a reason a certain website has a box you tick called "just for the bedroom".
Many folks keep things strictly for the bedroom but that doesn't make what they are doing any less right than someone who lives it 24/7 |
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As with anything there's no one true way. Indeed, I tend to run from anyone who insists there is as each relationship is different and so are the dynamics and agreements. That said, while 24/7 is not for me, in well established relationships there will generally be aspects of my earned submission/dominance that enter everyday life. |
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"Some live it. 24/7 some don’t they keep it for the bedroom only. If I was to identify as anything I’d be a Brat I like to be challenged into submitting but that’s the bedroom only. Depends on the relationship "
Oh I like the idea of being a brat lol |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
by a lake with my rod out |
"I believe a good sub will constantly be at the their doms call and do whatever is required of them be it sexual acts or mundane chores.
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Mundane chores?? Right I'm going to get me a sub anyone fancy cutting grass ing maybe some laying of a patio??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I believe a good sub will constantly be at the their doms call and do whatever is required of them be it sexual acts or mundane chores.
Mundane chores?? Right I'm going to get me a sub anyone fancy cutting grass ing maybe some laying of a patio??? "
I need a new patio |
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"I believe a good sub will constantly be at the their doms call and do whatever is required of them be it sexual acts or mundane chores.
Mundane chores?? Right I'm going to get me a sub anyone fancy cutting grass ing maybe some laying of a patio??? "
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"Some live it. 24/7 some don’t they keep it for the bedroom only. If I was to identify as anything I’d be a Brat I like to be challenged into submitting but that’s the bedroom only. Depends on the relationship "
This is my take..... life and bedroom ate separate but I enjoy been bratty ... the rewards are too good not to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think most subs have a bratish side to them..... "
Deffo not there’s those that are subby subs completely submit which is deffo not for me. Each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My sub has been in training for almost 2 years, and she's still a little brat. No matter how hard I spank her, I'd almost swear she likes it  "
love it |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
by a lake with my rod out |
"I believe a good sub will constantly be at the their doms call and do whatever is required of them be it sexual acts or mundane chores.
Mundane chores?? Right I'm going to get me a sub anyone fancy cutting grass ing maybe some laying of a patio???
I need a new patio "
Me too maybe we can share a sub?. Lol |
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By *ohnandGemCouple
over a year ago
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"I believe a good sub will constantly be at the their doms call and do whatever is required of them be it sexual acts or mundane chores.
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Idiotic post, proven by the fact that they've gone unlos.
Put down fifty shades of grey and do some research. |
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If you're sub outside the bedroom, then you're just weak.
If you're dom outside of the bedroom, then you're just a control freak.
There is no reason but to strive to be perfectly balanced human outside of the bedroom. |
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"If you're sub outside the bedroom, then you're just weak.
If you're dom outside of the bedroom, then you're just a control freak.
There is no reason but to strive to be perfectly balanced human outside of the bedroom."
They are silly comments. |
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"In the bedroom iv no problem and at Times am sub to Mrs S...when she wants....outside of the bedroom we are equal partners"
Dom/sub relationships are equal partners full stop. It's just a different kind of relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the bedroom iv no problem and at Times am sub to Mrs S...when she wants....outside of the bedroom we are equal partners
Dom/sub relationships are equal partners full stop. It's just a different kind of relationship. "
we are very much equal partners just with that switch side in the bedroom that she is the boss when she wants to be and I'm hers as she sees fit. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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It's hard to beat a good brat but if that what it takes then that what should be done
All jokes aside the role of sub /dom is outlined by the contract entered into by both partners when setting out on the road to discovery |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
limerick |
"I believe a good sub will constantly be at the their doms call and do whatever is required of them be it sexual acts or mundane chores.
Mundane chores?? Right I'm going to get me a sub anyone fancy cutting grass ing maybe some laying of a patio??? "
Mc Carthy may have some objections to u laying a patio that's his territory |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So fellow knowledgeable fabbers....
Is it possible to just be a good sub in the bedroom but not outside?
Or does a "good sub" have to play that part in their daily life?
Hopefully I'm making sense
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In my opinion sub/dom is in a way a blanket statement . Within that you you a have many roles and other subsequent labels none of which conform to any strict guidelines as such.
So yes it is possible
And no they most certainly do not .
What's more important here is that are you both happy in the way you are playing now. And to actually communicate with each other about what you each want and need and adjust accordingly
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends on the dynamic that is set up between dom and sub and the rules that have been agreed upon "
Agree, I have had different arrangements with different subs as per their and mine particular requirements or level of submission. S
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"So fellow knowledgeable fabbers....
Is it possible to just be a good sub in the bedroom but not outside?
Or does a "good sub" have to play that part in their daily life?
Hopefully I'm making sense
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You can be what you want when you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're sub outside the bedroom, then you're just weak.
If you're dom outside of the bedroom, then you're just a control freak.
There is no reason but to strive to be perfectly balanced human outside of the bedroom."
Quiteca generalisation, and frankly utter bullshit. My little is a sub outside the bedroom, dhe is also intelligent, professionally successful and more than capable of taking care of hersrlf. Your statments expose you as judgmental, insulting and frankly, a bit thick |
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By *ts artMan
over a year ago
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"If you're sub outside the bedroom, then you're just weak.
If you're dom outside of the bedroom, then you're just a control freak.
There is no reason but to strive to be perfectly balanced human outside of the bedroom.
Quiteca generalisation, and frankly utter bullshit. My little is a sub outside the bedroom, dhe is also intelligent, professionally successful and more than capable of taking care of hersrlf. Your statments expose you as judgmental, insulting and frankly, a bit thick"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Threads like this always turn negative because of pure ignorance and kink shaming. As long as people are happy and respectful of each other who gives a flying f what they’re into?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They are silly comments.
Sure, but you probably like indecisive wrecks?"
No far from it...we know what we like....as most on this thread do...we just don't pass judgment on things we know little about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They are silly comments.
Sure, but you probably like indecisive wrecks?No far from it...we know what we like....as most on this thread do...we just don't pass judgment on things we know little about."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it |
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it "
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin "
Im definately not domme....dont think so anyway!.
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin
Im definately not domme....dont think so anyway!.
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I didn't THINK so either... lol.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin
Im definately not domme....dont think so anyway!.
I didn't THINK so either... lol.."
So im just into good sex...lolol |
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin
Im definately not domme....dont think so anyway!.
I didn't THINK so either... lol..
So im just into good sex...lolol "
In meant I didn't think I was Dominant. Sorry I'm confusing everyone... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin
Im definately not domme....dont think so anyway!.
I didn't THINK so either... lol..
So im just into good sex...lolol
In meant I didn't think I was Dominant. Sorry I'm confusing everyone... "
Im pretty ignorant about the whole dom sub thing tbh.
Open to exploring the idea |
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin
Im definately not domme....dont think so anyway!.
I didn't THINK so either... lol..
So im just into good sex...lolol
In meant I didn't think I was Dominant. Sorry I'm confusing everyone...
Im pretty ignorant about the whole dom sub thing tbh.
Open to exploring the idea "
When it's good it's good but finding a kindred spirit is tough. Try everything at least once |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest and admit I know very little nor have experienced dom/sub senarios.
Would I like to try it.....possibly, though it would take a good dom as I am very strong willed.
I won't knock it till I have tried it
Maybe you're NOT the sub. Just sayin
Im definately not domme....dont think so anyway!.
I didn't THINK so either... lol..
So im just into good sex...lolol
In meant I didn't think I was Dominant. Sorry I'm confusing everyone...
Im pretty ignorant about the whole dom sub thing tbh.
Open to exploring the idea
When it's good it's good but finding a kindred spirit is tough. Try everything at least once"
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To answer your question OP, yes I do think it is possible to restrict the D/S dynamic to the bedroom.
However the D/S relationship involves such a huge degree of trust and engagement on a physical, emotional and psychological level, that it does inevitably extend beyond the bedroom (but with the right person only in a positive way). |
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"Where is the best place to find out more about this?
Very interested to see what its all about.
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Make sure you don't find a Mr. Grey wannabe. Way too many out there at the moment. I'm sure there is a website dedicated to the FETishLIFEstyle COMmunity but, don't rush into it take your time and go at a pace that you're comfortable with. Also never do anything you're unsure about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where is the best place to find out more about this?
Very interested to see what its all about.
Make sure you don't find a Mr. Grey wannabe. Way too many out there at the moment. I'm sure there is a website dedicated to the FETishLIFEstyle COMmunity but, don't rush into it take your time and go at a pace that you're comfortable with. Also never do anything you're unsure about."
I will take my time researching it. It might not be me lol but I never do anything I am not sure about.
Im not sure I could relinquish my will to someone else tbh lol
Nor vice versa.
I do think it would take the right person though. Someone who knows what hes doing and that I can take seriously and not laugh. Lol
Thanks for your good advice xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah it takes a lot of trust to be done right and can't be done through a random meet. (Despite what some will say) I've been in D/S relationships and trained subs in the past (bratty ones are the most fun) but it's 100% down to trust. And remember set guidelines and a safe word. Apparently supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is a good one "
I think it might be an interesting thing to try. But as you say it is a big trust thing and important to choose the right person and feel safe with them.
It will be a wee bit of homework for me to research.
Ps: good safe word but you keep it as I wouldnt want to be a copy cat! x |
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"Yeah it takes a lot of trust to be done right and can't be done through a random meet. (Despite what some will say) I've been in D/S relationships and trained subs in the past (bratty ones are the most fun) but it's 100% down to trust. And remember set guidelines and a safe word. Apparently supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is a good one "
Excellent advise my fab hubby. |
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"Yeah it takes a lot of trust to be done right and can't be done through a random meet. (Despite what some will say) I've been in D/S relationships and trained subs in the past (bratty ones are the most fun) but it's 100% down to trust. And remember set guidelines and a safe word. Apparently supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is a good one
Excellent advise my fab hubby. "
Thanks wifey |
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