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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’d like male viewpoints on this , having recently had very graphic introductory mail unsolicited from a guy I asked him if he seriously thought such a mail would be a good intro , he told me that as this site was all about sex and as he wasn’t desperate cos he has a lovely woman in his life already he assumed getting straight to the graphic point was acceptable here . Do many of you guys think this way ? Think a woman here is some sort of sub human who won’t mind being spoken to like she was providing a service .? And if you do agree with his view, have you had success here with this kind of interaction ? I’m not man bashing here , just trying to get my head round it because it seems unlikely in my mind to yield results or meets . |
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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago
Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun |
"I’d like male viewpoints on this , having recently had very graphic introductory mail unsolicited from a guy I asked him if he seriously thought such a mail would be a good intro , he told me that as this site was all about sex and as he wasn’t desperate cos he has a lovely woman in his life already he assumed getting straight to the graphic point was acceptable here . Do many of you guys think this way ? Think a woman here is some sort of sub human who won’t mind being spoken to like she was providing a service .? And if you do agree with his view, have you had success here with this kind of interaction ? I’m not man bashing here , just trying to get my head round it because it seems unlikely in my mind to yield results or meets ."
Wow, you're definitely better off not having anything to do with that subhuman himself. Was it a new profile or old with veris? Surely he'd have realised that the place is not sex on tap if he'd been here more than a week. |
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I don't think the words of one man can represent the entire male population in any way Op. Sounds like he has one very intense fantasy but zero social tact in dealing with women for his fantasy to come to fruition 
Male or female, there are a few rude PEOPLE on Fab. Thankfully there's also some genuine, sound people here too  
So simple lesson here...
"Treat Fabbers well & carry yourself with a bit of class"  |
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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago
Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun |
"New profile yeah , I told him the only success he would have would be if he paid a prostitute . "
And I know there's many reasons for playing while attached and it's definitely a complicated and deeply personal issue, but the way you described him mentioning it definitely doesn't make him sound like a nice fella.
He definitely is better off paying for it if a quick shag is all he wants. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you should not say in a message what your not prepared to say to their face ... cant go too far wrong that way ... even on a swing site women deserve respect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If he has a good woman in his life why would he feel it right to come on the site and treat other women with contempt does he not know the meaning of the word RESPECT |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found op that most married men take this view whether it be men or women they are looking to have sex with. They have intimacy and an emotional connection at home so they just wanna bang some thing. It’s not specific to treating women as sub human they treat everyone like that. At least he was open and honest about it. Most try and charm you first then once they get you to bed turn like that |
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Afraid this place is just a zoo these days, full of eejits on both sides of the gender fence (admittedly my gender is far the worse and I can only apologise on behalf of all the penises here !) who seem to think that because you have signed up here then you are contractually obliged to fuck them... and unfortunately they bring a lot of the good ones down to their level too by the sheer weight of their abusive trite mails.
If only there was an alternative (apart from not swinging!!) I'd be gone in a flash..
Its supposed to be fun and a laugh people...
Rant over, dark corner required... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some very outdated views and contempt on modern women lurking beneath the surface of guys like that. They do seem to have a difficulty telling the difference between sexually strong and liberated women on here and people who are working in prostitution. If their this dehumanizing on here, can you imagine the treatment and abuse they would dish out to people who find themselves having to work as prostitutes.
God help the poor woman that is being taken in by this reptile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Afraid this place is just a zoo these days, full of eejits on both sides of the gender fence (admittedly my gender is far the worse and I can only apologise on behalf of all the penises here !) who seem to think that because you have signed up here then you are contractually obliged to fuck them... and unfortunately they bring a lot of the good ones down to their level too by the sheer weight of their abusive trite mails.
If only there was an alternative (apart from not swinging!!) I'd be gone in a flash..
Its supposed to be fun and a laugh people...
Rant over, dark corner required..."
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By *ack 188Man
over a year ago
Dublin 15 |
"I’d like male viewpoints on this , having recently had very graphic introductory mail unsolicited from a guy I asked him if he seriously thought such a mail would be a good intro , he told me that as this site was all about sex and as he wasn’t desperate cos he has a lovely woman in his life already he assumed getting straight to the graphic point was acceptable here . Do many of you guys think this way ? Think a woman here is some sort of sub human who won’t mind being spoken to like she was providing a service .? And if you do agree with his view, have you had success here with this kind of interaction ? I’m not man bashing here , just trying to get my head round it because it seems unlikely in my mind to yield results or meets ."
it has to be said there are some people with shocking bad attitudes on here but from my perspective to be participating on this site we must have common ground.it's my choice to be here and I accept the pitfalls. The majority here are genuine and its a shame anyone is made to feel uncomfortable . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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While it's always good to show some class the the text he gave you is probably what most men are thinking of doing and what all will do once you get down to business. He's just straight to the point. Most people don't like to hear it but just changing up the words to more polite ones doesn't mean they have different ideas of what they want from you. Not backing him up at all and I definitely wouldn't send something so graphic to a stranger but the other guys are hoping for the same outcome just with polite words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If he has a good woman in his life why would he feel it right to come on the site and treat other women with contempt does he not know the meaning of the word RESPECT"
He thinks he is anonymous because no one met him yet so he can say whatever he wants and in my opinion this fella is unhappy, frustrated and maybe a psycho? 
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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Had a message like that recently and a few before it to but generally most of my messages are from respectful people. A few are pushy but like the one's the op is talking about, I ignore them. In any large group, you will find idiot's that can't handle the situation! Two very good points made already about accepting the pitfalls of the site and enjoying the perk's and also strong sexually liberated women scare some people into neanderthal behaviour. All in a day's fabbing... it's a mixed bag. |
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