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A true submissive..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does such a thing exist? For me, this is the unicorn, but pretty much every woman i've met that claims to be submissive is really just a play submissive, they enjoy dom/sub play but then revert to normality. My question is, do true submissives actually exist or is it just not sustainably in everyday life? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way? "
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him |
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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him "
Is that what being submissive is? Sounds like being a door mat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Is that what being submissive is? Sounds like being a door mat "
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him "
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive. |
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"Does such a thing exist? For me, this is the unicorn, but pretty much every woman i've met that claims to be submissive is really just a play submissive, they enjoy dom/sub play but then revert to normality. My question is, do true submissives actually exist or is it just not sustainably in everyday life?"
Yes they very much exist. True ones are rare but they exist. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive. "
Both? I asked a question???? |
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive.
Both? I asked a question???? "
I meant her and her friend.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive. "
It does sound like her friend is truely submissive, and it also sounds like her Dom is abusing that submissiveness |
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive.
It does sound like her friend is truely submissive, and it also sounds like her Dom is abusing that submissiveness"
You think...
I found some D/S relationships become stale and it becomes something like above where the sub is used like a door mat.
Also my own personal view is best D/S relationships are ones where the Dom/Domme has at one point been submissive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive.
It does sound like her friend is truely submissive, and it also sounds like her Dom is abusing that submissiveness
You think...
I found some D/S relationships become stale and it becomes something like above where the sub is used like a door mat.
Also my own personal view is best D/S relationships are ones where the Dom/Domme has at one point been submissive. "
I dont think you need to have been a sub to truely understand how a submissive mind works, ive always been dominant and i like to think ive always treated the submissive in my care with respect. A real Dom/Domme understands that a submissive is something to be cherished and valued |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive.
It does sound like her friend is truely submissive, and it also sounds like her Dom is abusing that submissiveness
You think...
I found some D/S relationships become stale and it becomes something like above where the sub is used like a door mat.
Also my own personal view is best D/S relationships are ones where the Dom/Domme has at one point been submissive. "
 you mean a switch? I like this type myself . Also I think for it would be just role play not eevery dayou life just the bedroom I. |
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive.
It does sound like her friend is truely submissive, and it also sounds like her Dom is abusing that submissiveness
You think...
I found some D/S relationships become stale and it becomes something like above where the sub is used like a door mat.
Also my own personal view is best D/S relationships are ones where the Dom/Domme has at one point been submissive.
I dont think you need to have been a sub to truely understand how a submissive mind works, ive always been dominant and i like to think ive always treated the submissive in my care with respect. A real Dom/Domme understands that a submissive is something to be cherished and valued"
Of course, that's just my opinion. But seeing it from both sides has immense value. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Believe me ,you've both got the wrong idea of a submissive.
It does sound like her friend is truely submissive, and it also sounds like her Dom is abusing that submissiveness
You think...
I found some D/S relationships become stale and it becomes something like above where the sub is used like a door mat.
Also my own personal view is best D/S relationships are ones where the Dom/Domme has at one point been submissive.
I dont think you need to have been a sub to truely understand how a submissive mind works, ive always been dominant and i like to think ive always treated the submissive in my care with respect. A real Dom/Domme understands that a submissive is something to be cherished and valued
Of course, that's just my opinion. But seeing it from both sides has immense value. "
Your opinion is spot on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Couldn't agree more, a person who's been a submissive has a better understanding of what's involved.
Also a true D/S relationship is equal like any other relationship should be. You will find abusive relationships in all walks of life, if one is found in a D/S relationship it's automatically stereotyped as what a D/S relationship is like. This is furthest from the truth. If that makes sense.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Couldn't agree more, a person who's been a submissive has a better understanding of what's involved.
Also a true D/S relationship is equal like any other relationship should be. You will find abusive relationships in all walks of life, if one is found in a D/S relationship it's automatically stereotyped as what a D/S relationship is like. This is furthest from the truth. If that makes sense.."
I think thsts a bit of a generalisation, there are many excellent dom/dommes who've never been submissive. Empathy is the real requirement |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im a switch, have been in a D/s relationship being the sub, I was owned. Unfortunately the relationship didn't last but that's how things role sometimes. Every relationship is unique, each person brings their own individuality and experience. Empathy is important to any relationship from both sides for it to work well. Communication is also crucial, especially in a D/s one. I agree with big blonde domme. Having been a sub and being a switch I understand ,from my own perspective, what I look for when I'm domming. |
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Been a true submissive is not about dropping everything for for man as a true dom respects life and play boundaries.
In play one can be truly submissive, let go and just allow him to take control of your body and mind.
In real life there's jobs, family and friends as well as homes to run and bills to pay. The real life me and sub me are two very very different people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im a switch, have been in a D/s relationship being the sub, I was owned. Unfortunately the relationship didn't last but that's how things role sometimes. Every relationship is unique, each person brings their own individuality and experience. Empathy is important to any relationship from both sides for it to work well. Communication is also crucial, especially in a D/s one. I agree with big blonde domme. Having been a sub and being a switch I understand ,from my own perspective, what I look for when I'm domming."
Im not disagreeing with you, what you're saying is true from your perspective. But you cant say that the same understanding cant be achieved by a D/S couple who have a deep ubderstanding of eachother and can communicate their needs and desires |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think we're both in agreement with each others point of view. Like any relationship, once the avenues of communication are clearly open anything can be achieved once it's what both parties want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does such a thing exist? For me, this is the unicorn, but pretty much every woman i've met that claims to be submissive is really just a play submissive, they enjoy dom/sub play but then revert to normality. My question is, do true submissives actually exist or is it just not sustainably in everyday life?"
this explains a lot  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does such a thing exist? For me, this is the unicorn, but pretty much every woman i've met that claims to be submissive is really just a play submissive, they enjoy dom/sub play but then revert to normality. My question is, do true submissives actually exist or is it just not sustainably in everyday life? this explains a lot "
And what does it explain exactly? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are true submissives as there are true dominants who truly respect and care for their submissive. Real life does cause obstacles at times meaning 24/7 maybe practically difficult but in the right relationship, can make it work. Lilred  |
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"True submissive"
Someone who is not just submissive in the bedroom, like in the secretary film? Who will wear what you want when, drop everything and do whatever you say, will eat 3 peas on a plate for dinner if you tell her to?
Yeah they do exist, but like in that film, they are normally broken girls. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""True submissive"
Someone who is not just submissive in the bedroom, like in the secretary film? Who will wear what you want when, drop everything and do whatever you say, will eat 3 peas on a plate for dinner if you tell her to?
Yeah they do exist, but like in that film, they are normally broken girls."
Is that not more a master/slave relationship than Dom/sub. I am sub and am not 'broken' and I would think a Dom that demands sub to only eat 3 peas is not a 'true' dominant but a 'bully'. I am a sub and have as much control in the relationship as my master. A true D/s relationship is satisying and respectful  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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""True submissive"
Someone who is not just submissive in the bedroom, like in the secretary film? Who will wear what you want when, drop everything and do whatever you say, will eat 3 peas on a plate for dinner if you tell her to?
Yeah they do exist, but like in that film, they are normally broken girls.
Is that not more a master/slave relationship than Dom/sub. I am sub and am not 'broken' and I would think a Dom that demands sub to only eat 3 peas is not a 'true' dominant but a 'bully'. I am a sub and have as much control in the relationship as my master. A true D/s relationship is satisying and respectful "
Perfectly and eloquently described.. |
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"There are true submissives as there are true dominants who truly respect and care for their submissive. Real life does cause obstacles at times meaning 24/7 maybe practically difficult but in the right relationship, can make it work. Lilred "
This is perfectly put |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Yes they do exist. I have a friend who's submissive and she drops everything to please him.
She drops everything? In what way?
We could be shopping or just hanging out and she could have to leave to d something for him
Is that what being submissive is? Sounds like being a door mat "
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If you are lucky enough to meet a true Dom/Domme you will know it. They respect your boundaries and know exactly how far they can push you. For me it's the mental stimulation/torture is more than half the battle. That alone coz push me over the edge. I become totally submissive with the right person. Then you come across the wannabes who think they know everything and you never feel fully under their spell |
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