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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do we judge on looks only and miss out on the good ones?
Ive always thought i wasnt a person who judges but not so sure now after being on here and other sites...my "normal" type is not always someone others would be attracted to...they tend to be cuddly like myself...but i suppose thats me judging on looks isnt it....interested to hear what people think...is there need for genuine attraction in swinging or is that for dating sites? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I find weird about myself is that if I see a beautiful woman I automatically think she's a good person, kind hearted etc....
We all judge on first appearance without even realising but the main thing is to give people a chance regardless of how they look. Some people have rough heads and sound common and are fantastic people, some are well spoken and presented are a bad people. |
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I think I read that we make our mind up about someone within the first 10 seconds of seeing them, or something like that.
The good thing about Fab is that you can get a sense of a person through their profile and forum posts, so have an inkling about what they're like, as well as their looks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was looking for a relationship.i would be looking for.more than looks.
Here....looks most definitely.
Couldn't have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to. |
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"I think I read that we make our mind up about someone within the first 10 seconds of seeing them, or something like that.
The good thing about Fab is that you can get a sense of a person through their profile and forum posts, so have an inkling about what they're like, as well as their looks."
Totally right Mr Dunboyne
I am sure you have also experienced some messages on Fab from people who were not what they proported to be. This certainly happens to me quite a few times on a previous couples profile |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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While appearance play's a bit of a role if I can't interact with the person on some level then it's a no. As for the cold messages that jump straight to the assumption that I will party/play based on one message...makes me laugh. Sharp wit, good banter, intelligent seduction of word's are my main turn on backed up with a person who is respectful of me and themselves in action and appearance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is superficial we do have to go mainly on pics of just body parts and the odd message but it's sex so it's mainly body attraction and types. As a larger lady I wouldn't match alot of what men here want as it's the fantasy they strive for here  |
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"While appearance play's a bit of a role if I can't interact with the person on some level then it's a no. As for the cold messages that jump straight to the assumption that I will party/play based on one message...makes me laugh. Sharp wit, good banter, intelligent seduction of word's are my main turn on backed up with a person who is respectful of me and themselves in action and appearance. "
Oh Madame looking hot as always 
We couldn't agree with you more conversation is given respect is earned xx |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
C'est moi Boudoir |
"While appearance play's a bit of a role if I can't interact with the person on some level then it's a no. As for the cold messages that jump straight to the assumption that I will party/play based on one message...makes me laugh. Sharp wit, good banter, intelligent seduction of word's are my main turn on backed up with a person who is respectful of me and themselves in action and appearance.
Oh Madame looking hot as always
We couldn't agree with you more conversation is given respect is earned xx"
Aww hello you two sexy peep's
Been to long, hopefully catch up with you properly soon Xx |
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"While appearance play's a bit of a role if I can't interact with the person on some level then it's a no. As for the cold messages that jump straight to the assumption that I will party/play based on one message...makes me laugh. Sharp wit, good banter, intelligent seduction of word's are my main turn on backed up with a person who is respectful of me and themselves in action and appearance.
Oh Madame looking hot as always
We couldn't agree with you more conversation is given respect is earned xx
Aww hello you two sexy peep's
Been to long, hopefully catch up with you properly soon Xx"
As always would be our pleasure sexy lady xx  |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol "
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point?"
I wasn't talking about you I didn't even read your comments tbh was a joke tho not very good one seems  |
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point? I wasn't talking about you I didn't even read your comments tbh was a joke tho not very good one seems "
Who doesn’t love a 6pk thou horny I’ll have Carlsberg please |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point? I wasn't talking about you I didn't even read your comments tbh was a joke tho not very good one seems
Who doesn’t love a 6pk thou horny I’ll have Carlsberg please "
yes wouldn't mind 6 pack of Budweiser then can work on my summer bod lol |
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point? I wasn't talking about you I didn't even read your comments tbh was a joke tho not very good one seems
Who doesn’t love a 6pk thou horny I’ll have Carlsberg please yes wouldn't mind 6 pack of Budweiser then can work on my summer bod lol "
Ah that’s full of gas  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point? I wasn't talking about you I didn't even read your comments tbh was a joke tho not very good one seems
Who doesn’t love a 6pk thou horny I’ll have Carlsberg please yes wouldn't mind 6 pack of Budweiser then can work on my summer bod lol
Ah that’s full of gas "
okay carlsberg it is I'd drink any beer to be fair  |
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point? I wasn't talking about you I didn't even read your comments tbh was a joke tho not very good one seems
Who doesn’t love a 6pk thou horny I’ll have Carlsberg please yes wouldn't mind 6 pack of Budweiser then can work on my summer bod lol
Ah that’s full of gas okay carlsberg it is I'd drink any beer to be fair "
Oh ok then Peroni if you are buying |
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I've definitely been guilty of judging a book by its cover and almost missed out on a fantastic fwb because of it. Its amazing when we're out, seeing people react negatively to his physical appearance (its quite intimidating), when I know he's one of the sweetest, most big-hearted people I've ever met. Its certainly made me question my own perceptions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been guilty of judging a book by its cover a few times too and almost missed out on over 3 years of amazing sex and friendship with a fwb.
On the other hand I have had a not so good experience with a well verified fabber who I thought was my type.
So I always go by gut feelings. If something doesnt feel right whether he is an Adonis lookalike or not, I don't do it!
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"Agreed. We are all born with that inner sense and 90% of the time it is right. First impressions count.Ignore them at your peril!  "
Was gonna say the same thing
Our gut instinct or heuristic is the right call 90% of the time according to behavioural psychology |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agreed. We are all born with that inner sense and 90% of the time it is right. First impressions count.Ignore them at your peril!
Was gonna say the same thing
Our gut instinct or heuristic is the right call 90% of the time according to behavioural psychology "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My very first impression of my partner when we met was she is really pretty but very prim and proper. I couldn t have been more wrong lol. She is the most down to earth person and a right little minx |
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"My very first impression of my partner when we met was she is really pretty but very prim and proper. I couldn t have been more wrong lol. She is the most down to earth person and a right little minx "
The first impression my ex got from me was I was a prick. 12 years later she realised she was right |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My very first impression of my partner when we met was she is really pretty but very prim and proper. I couldn t have been more wrong lol. She is the most down to earth person and a right little minx
The first impression my ex got from me was I was a prick. 12 years later she realised she was right "
PMSL good one |
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"I have been guilty of judging a book by its cover a few times too and almost missed out on over 3 years of amazing sex and friendship with a fwb.
On the other hand I have had a not so good experience with a well verified fabber who I thought was my type.
So I always go by gut feelings. If something doesnt feel right whether he is an Adonis lookalike or not, I don't do it!
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Always trust your gut instinct, it's rarely wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbe ladies say they don't go for looks then ya go through there verifys and it's all guys with six packs etc lol
As I am the only one who made that comment I gather it's aimed at me. You can't see my verifications so your comments are not valid. I have verifications from a fabulous mix of people regardless of how they look.
I could respond with Tbe a guy with no veri is saying this! We can all sling mud but at the end of the day some will inevitably end up on yourself so what's the point and more importantly and not the first time I have thought this... what's your point? I wasn't talking about you I didn't even read your comments tbh was a joke tho not very good one seems
Who doesn’t love a 6pk thou horny I’ll have Carlsberg please yes wouldn't mind 6 pack of Budweiser then can work on my summer bod lol
Ah that’s full of gas okay carlsberg it is I'd drink any beer to be fair
Oh ok then Peroni if you are buying "
it's a date |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy |
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"Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy"
Thank god for that I’d never get a ride |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy
Thank god for that I’d never get a ride "
Ahaa now surely thats not true |
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"Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy
Thank god for that I’d never get a ride "
You and me both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy
Thank god for that I’d never get a ride "
Course ya would. We've seen your pics. |
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"Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy
Thank god for that I’d never get a ride
Course ya would. We've seen your pics. "
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By *ohnsmithMan
over a year ago
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"Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy
Thank god for that I’d never get a ride "
Second motions.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally looks arnt that inmportant.you can be hot as hell but when meeting up just not click at all, i believe a persons personality banter and confidence can make them look very sexy"
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
C'est moi Boudoir |
"You can’t fuck a personality
Fucking someone without one is a dry event
So is fucking someone you aren’t attracted to at all "
I don't fuck people I am not attracted to, it's a package deal for me. Looks alone is not what interests me if there is nada else going on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can’t fuck a personality
Fucking someone without one is a dry event
So is fucking someone you aren’t attracted to at all
I don't fuck people I am not attracted to, it's a package deal for me. Looks alone is not what interests me if there is nada else going on. "
Idk I’d give a go if he looked like Brad Pitt |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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"You can’t fuck a personality
Fucking someone without one is a dry event
So is fucking someone you aren’t attracted to at all
I don't fuck people I am not attracted to, it's a package deal for me. Looks alone is not what interests me if there is nada else going on.
Idk I’d give a go if he looked like Brad Pitt "
Me too if he could hold a decent conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd chat to anybody regardless of looks or size. I find if you can have the Craic/laugh with someone then the fun is usually good. My gut feeling is never far wrong. |
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It's human nature to admire beauty and savour someone who's pleasing to the eye
However, the best meets are often determined by how much chemistry exists between two wanton bods. A man that you consider "mediocre looking" but knows your kinks & fulfilling your wildest fantasies is a more alluring option than an "attractive man" whose personality could be bottled and sold as a cure for insomnia 
So, sexiness to me is a state of mind with a little dollop of physical attraction thrown in for good measure |
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Has to be chemistry and be able to laugh and banter...We say looks don't matter but deep down it does to most.Personally if I get on with someone and can have a good laugh and connect with someone then that's important...You can be with a right stunner but they can be as dull as a storm cloud..Need good conversation and banter and stimulate the mind as well as the body. |
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