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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So friend of mine has accused me of trying to steal his girlfriend because we talk a lot in his words which is mostly his fault because every time he messes up he asks me to talk to her to see how she's feeling. No do I stop talking to his girlfriend now this would be easy to do if she wasn't telling me how she loves talking to me because I make her laugh etc so seems bit harsh to stop talking what fabbers think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So friend of mine has accused me of trying to steal his girlfriend because we talk a lot in his words which is mostly his fault because every time he messes up he asks me to talk to her to see how she's feeling. No do I stop talking to his girlfriend now this would be easy to do if she wasn't telling me how she loves talking to me because I make her laugh etc so seems bit harsh to stop talking what fabbers think "
I think it's all only make believe. |
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Not sure what your intent is, but if your friend has asked you to stop talking to his GF, surely your plan of action is to stop talking to her? Or are you asking is it okay to actually try steal his missus, which is what id see it as if you continue to talk to her behind his back. Suppose the real question is how much do you respect your friend and his wishes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think shit is coming down the line and you should get out of its path.
You can hook up with her after they break up."
And you'll have a new girlfrind and an ex-best friend.. this will end badly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure what your intent is, but if your friend has asked you to stop talking to his GF, surely your plan of action is to stop talking to her? Or are you asking is it okay to actually try steal his missus, which is what id see it as if you continue to talk to her behind his back. Suppose the real question is how much do you respect your friend and his wishes?"
he actually never asked me to stop talking to her tho
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend"
he never asked me stop talking to his girlfriend it's opposite actually when she ignoring him he asks me talk to her so in way if did hook up with her be his own fault for cheating on her then trying get me smooth things over with her |
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"Not sure what your intent is, but if your friend has asked you to stop talking to his GF, surely your plan of action is to stop talking to her? Or are you asking is it okay to actually try steal his missus, which is what id see it as if you continue to talk to her behind his back. Suppose the real question is how much do you respect your friend and his wishes? he actually never asked me to stop talking to her tho"
I would assume throwing the initial accusation out there is the same as asking you to stop. Either way, seems like your mind is made up, since you havent been friends long. Just remind me never to be your 'friend'  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure what your intent is, but if your friend has asked you to stop talking to his GF, surely your plan of action is to stop talking to her? Or are you asking is it okay to actually try steal his missus, which is what id see it as if you continue to talk to her behind his back. Suppose the real question is how much do you respect your friend and his wishes? he actually never asked me to stop talking to her tho
I would assume throwing the initial accusation out there is the same as asking you to stop. Either way, seems like your mind is made up, since you havent been friends long. Just remind me never to be your 'friend' "
well have friends that Been friends with for over 20 years would never do anything to them |
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"So your telling me none you hooked up with friends ex find that hard to believe tbh"
Never even been temped. Once a mate has been with someone, its like they instantly become unattractive. My friends mean more to me than a ride. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go for her hornybollocks, speed things up as it will happen anyway. Will you join us as a couple once the butterflies have settle a bit?
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you would like her she's hot Brazilian lady lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So your telling me none you hooked up with friends ex find that hard to believe tbh
Never even been temped. Once a mate has been with someone, its like they instantly become unattractive. My friends mean more to me than a ride. "
must be just my friendship group then lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd never move in on a friends girl in fact I basically half my personality when I'm around them so they don't even get ideas. I'm. Basically polite and never text or call them or have any one on one contact. I was with a girl that fancied my friend a few year back but he didn't like her thank god and would always say "why does she always text me?" so was always honest. I dumped her before she could mess around. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd never move in on a friends girl in fact I basically half my personality when I'm around them so they don't even get ideas. I'm. Basically polite and never text or call them or have any one on one contact. I was with a girl that fancied my friend a few year back but he didn't like her thank god and would always say "why does she always text me?" so was always honest. I dumped her before she could mess around. "
wouldn't say I've been moving in unless having banter with her counts suppose that can come off as flirting
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Go for her hornybollocks, speed things up as it will happen anyway. Will you join us as a couple once the butterflies have settle a bit?
you would like her she's hot Brazilian lady lol "
I'm not really into women but I believe you she's hot.  |
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Either way he isn't a very good friend for accusing u of trying to rob his gf n ur not a very good friend for even thinking it. Friendship is based around trust. Either way if u''s are very good friends she is out of bounds if the break up or not. Don't be that guy. |
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I was once and felt terrible to the point I had to come clean to him. He took it as well as could be expected and we are still friends
Clearly you have been trying to steal his girlfriend for a long time and started this thread to justify your actions to yourself...
I pity anyone that considers you a friend OP and am just waiting to see how badly this backfires |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Either way he isn't a very good friend for accusing u of trying to rob his gf n ur not a very good friend for even thinking it. Friendship is based around trust. Either way if u''s are very good friends she is out of bounds if the break up or not. Don't be that guy. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was once and felt terrible to the point I had to come clean to him. He took it as well as could be expected and we are still friends
Clearly you have been trying to steal his girlfriend for a long time and started this thread to justify your actions to yourself...
I pity anyone that considers you a friend OP and am just waiting to see how badly this backfires"
And this.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was once and felt terrible to the point I had to come clean to him. He took it as well as could be expected and we are still friends
Clearly you have been trying to steal his girlfriend for a long time and started this thread to justify your actions to yourself...
I pity anyone that considers you a friend OP and am just waiting to see how badly this backfires"
well I'll be treating her lot better then he would but that wouldn't be hard to be fair lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was once and felt terrible to the point I had to come clean to him. He took it as well as could be expected and we are still friends
Clearly you have been trying to steal his girlfriend for a long time and started this thread to justify your actions to yourself...
I pity anyone that considers you a friend OP and am just waiting to see how badly this backfires well I'll be treating her lot better then he would but that wouldn't be hard to be fair lol "
I pity this lad, with 'friends' lke you.. |
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"I was once and felt terrible to the point I had to come clean to him. He took it as well as could be expected and we are still friends
Clearly you have been trying to steal his girlfriend for a long time and started this thread to justify your actions to yourself...
I pity anyone that considers you a friend OP and am just waiting to see how badly this backfires well I'll be treating her lot better then he would but that wouldn't be hard to be fair lol "
It doesn't matter if u's are good friends she is out of bounds. A Proper friend don't go off with his friends gf or ex gf. |
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend"
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. "
yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol |
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol"
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place"
You changed your tune fair fast. At the end of the day friends should respect friends. If he asks you to help smooth things over and you do and then he asks you to back off you should. Friends help friends. He's not sounding like he wouldn't go off with the woman so the guy accusing him is right to trust his gut instinct. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place
You changed your tune fair fast. At the end of the day friends should respect friends. If he asks you to help smooth things over and you do and then he asks you to back off you should. Friends help friends. He's not sounding like he wouldn't go off with the woman so the guy accusing him is right to trust his gut instinct."
he should also respect fact I didn't want get involved in first place there relationship should've between them really think I'm defo not getting involved in it anymore but not gonna blank her either after she opened up to me a lot today about it and was relieved to talk to someone about it as she told me she been bottle it up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place
You changed your tune fair fast. At the end of the day friends should respect friends. If he asks you to help smooth things over and you do and then he asks you to back off you should. Friends help friends. He's not sounding like he wouldn't go off with the woman so the guy accusing him is right to trust his gut instinct. he should also respect fact I didn't want get involved in first place there relationship should've between them really think I'm defo not getting involved in it anymore but not gonna blank her either after she opened up to me a lot today about it and was relieved to talk to someone about it as she told me she been bottle it up "
How about talking to the two of them together at the same time? Call a meeting with them or just set up a group chat and end everyone's fears or fantasies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place
You changed your tune fair fast. At the end of the day friends should respect friends. If he asks you to help smooth things over and you do and then he asks you to back off you should. Friends help friends. He's not sounding like he wouldn't go off with the woman so the guy accusing him is right to trust his gut instinct. he should also respect fact I didn't want get involved in first place there relationship should've between them really think I'm defo not getting involved in it anymore but not gonna blank her either after she opened up to me a lot today about it and was relieved to talk to someone about it as she told me she been bottle it up
How about talking to the two of them together at the same time? Call a meeting with them or just set up a group chat and end everyone's fears or fantasies. "
Like don't chat with him behind her back and her behind his back. Say what you want to say to the two of them when the two of them are around. No tip toeing about or sneaky texts etc.. |
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place
You changed your tune fair fast. At the end of the day friends should respect friends. If he asks you to help smooth things over and you do and then he asks you to back off you should. Friends help friends. He's not sounding like he wouldn't go off with the woman so the guy accusing him is right to trust his gut instinct. he should also respect fact I didn't want get involved in first place there relationship should've between them really think I'm defo not getting involved in it anymore but not gonna blank her either after she opened up to me a lot today about it and was relieved to talk to someone about it as she told me she been bottle it up
How about talking to the two of them together at the same time? Call a meeting with them or just set up a group chat and end everyone's fears or fantasies. "
Or get them all together and have a threesome. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place
You changed your tune fair fast. At the end of the day friends should respect friends. If he asks you to help smooth things over and you do and then he asks you to back off you should. Friends help friends. He's not sounding like he wouldn't go off with the woman so the guy accusing him is right to trust his gut instinct. he should also respect fact I didn't want get involved in first place there relationship should've between them really think I'm defo not getting involved in it anymore but not gonna blank her either after she opened up to me a lot today about it and was relieved to talk to someone about it as she told me she been bottle it up
How about talking to the two of them together at the same time? Call a meeting with them or just set up a group chat and end everyone's fears or fantasies. "
thing is he will never admit to things he done he only admitted to cheating on her the one time because he had let it slip to me can't stand cheaters either stay single if your gonna do that shit lol |
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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago
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"So friend of mine has accused me of trying to steal his girlfriend because we talk a lot in his words which is mostly his fault because every time he messes up he asks me to talk to her to see how she's feeling. No do I stop talking to his girlfriend now this would be easy to do if she wasn't telling me how she loves talking to me because I make her laugh etc so seems bit harsh to stop talking what fabbers think I think it's all only make believe."
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Ok so if he is your friend then the question is.... are you his?
There are some lines that should never be crossed.
If him and her weren't in a relationship then that would be a different ball game. |
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"Not much of a friend if you not going to respect his wishes.
Its his relationship so unless you have alterior motives why would you continue to chat with his girlfriend
If a friend told me to stop talking to his girlfriend it tells me that he doesn't trust me or his girlfriend. So I would say that he isn't much of a friend. If there's no trust in a relationship/friendship it's probably best both end.
A friend of mine gave me a ticket for a concert he knew I wanted to go to that he didn't. I went with his girlfriend and her friend. Had a great night, nothing sexual at all. Just a great nights craic. They wholeheartedly trust each other so this wasn't an issue at all. yeah defo no trust in there relationship she doesn't trust him and he doesn't trust her . Wouldn't mind when I tried not talking to her if they had agrument he would ask me to talk to her for him then when I tell him I don't want get involved he says I'm not been good friend now he's asking me if I'm trying steal his girlfriend lol
Ye I know wer ur coming from. Ye should tell him if he is gonna accuse u of it u might as well try. That will put him in his place
You changed your tune fair fast. At the end of the day friends should respect friends. If he asks you to help smooth things over and you do and then he asks you to back off you should. Friends help friends. He's not sounding like he wouldn't go off with the woman so the guy accusing him is right to trust his gut instinct."
I didn't change my tune. I'd say it as a threat. In other words don't accuse me of something I didn't do. |
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