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over a year ago
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Just wondering if having sex with my ex is a good idea or worst thing to do. basically not my intention but while am waiting for fab's and getting really bored and horny she comes around with our kids and then decides to stay over with us. Obviously am already horny and we sleeping in the same bed don't really know how to stop this. Any suggestions would be appreciated? |
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I suppose it depends on whether or not you are both on the same page, does either of you have an expectation of rekindling the relationship or is it clear that this is just sex? Or will there be an expectation of not having sex with others?
More importantly, is this potentially very confusing for your kids?
If you are sure the relationship is over, it would seem healthier to me that you draw the line,for all concerned. But it's your life.... |
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There is no certainty you will get "fabs" anyway so are you sure your finished with this relationship. Is it just sex for her ? What about the kids it must be confusing all the same.  |
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"I suppose it depends on whether or not you are both on the same page, does either of you have an expectation of rekindling the relationship or is it clear that this is just sex? Or will there be an expectation of not having sex with others?
More importantly, is this potentially very confusing for your kids?
If you are sure the relationship is over, it would seem healthier to me that you draw the line,for all concerned. But it's your life...."
Yes it's not very healthy for kids and confusing for me as well, we've drawn the line many things but for some reason I realised she checks on me always comes to the house even after we decide we can meet whoever we want and move on she comes putting on sexy cloths do abnormal things to get me on its just not clear to me what she want's tbh.  |
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"There is no certainty you will get "fabs" anyway so are you sure your finished with this relationship. Is it just sex for her ? What about the kids it must be confusing all the same. "
Yes we both are sure to be honest at a point that we are finish just be there for the kids which was alright but she showed up some night I wasn't working and said she need to sleep over and discuss certain issues bothering her never in my life I thought would end up the way it did but for me I told her clearly that am not going back to rekindle our relationship but I think she has her own plan and it's really working for her am seriously confused and don't want my kids to be in such unsuitable condition either but the sex between has been better after breaking up how do I stop it? |
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"I suppose it depends on whether or not you are both on the same page, does either of you have an expectation of rekindling the relationship or is it clear that this is just sex? Or will there be an expectation of not having sex with others?
More importantly, is this potentially very confusing for your kids?
If you are sure the relationship is over, it would seem healthier to me that you draw the line,for all concerned. But it's your life....
Yes it's not very healthy for kids and confusing for me as well, we've drawn the line many things but for some reason I realised she checks on me always comes to the house even after we decide we can meet whoever we want and move on she comes putting on sexy cloths do abnormal things to get me on its just not clear to me what she want's tbh. "
Then I suggest you decide what you want and act accordingly, rather than passively being played by someone who doesn't seem to know what they want themselves. |
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Sure just put a few more buns in her oven, while waiting to put them in the oven of the fab ladies.
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Just learn some self control, most men on here have never said no to sex in their whole life.
Give it a try its liberating. |
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"Sure just put a few more buns in her oven, while waiting to put them in the oven of the fab ladies.
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Just learn some self control, most men on here have never said no to sex in their whole life.
Give it a try its liberating."
That’s quite rude devil you have no idea about their life together or about their children |
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She wants you back no ifs or buts . She is seducing you back into her life . Showing up in sexy gear . That to me is she wants you and you jumped back into her arms so you must still luv her . I'm not confused she wants you end of story cos if you broke up you would not have sex with her . Go and take her back before you miss your chance . |
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"There is no certainty you will get "fabs" anyway so are you sure your finished with this relationship. Is it just sex for her ? What about the kids it must be confusing all the same.
Yes we both are sure to be honest at a point that we are finish just be there for the kids which was alright but she showed up some night I wasn't working and said she need to sleep over and discuss certain issues bothering her never in my life I thought would end up the way it did but for me I told her clearly that am not going back to rekindle our relationship but I think she has her own plan and it's really working for her am seriously confused and don't want my kids to be in such unsuitable condition either but the sex between has been better after breaking up how do I stop it?"
No more sleepovers, don’t be alone with her, only spend time with her with the kids. Tell her again there’s no more you have moved on. When she does try again slap yourself to remind you what decision you’ve made  I’ve had to do this and he was a horrible ex but we had such a pull to each other sexually. Took a lot for me to get over the sex !! |
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"I suppose it depends on whether or not you are both on the same page, does either of you have an expectation of rekindling the relationship or is it clear that this is just sex? Or will there be an expectation of not having sex with others?
More importantly, is this potentially very confusing for your kids?
If you are sure the relationship is over, it would seem healthier to me that you draw the line,for all concerned. But it's your life....
Yes it's not very healthy for kids and confusing for me as well, we've drawn the line many things but for some reason I realised she checks on me always comes to the house even after we decide we can meet whoever we want and move on she comes putting on sexy cloths do abnormal things to get me on its just not clear to me what she want's tbh.
Then I suggest you decide what you want and act accordingly, rather than passively being played by someone who doesn't seem to know what they want themselves."
I've decided since we broke up but littially can't stop her from coming over dropping the kids but that the antics she uses bringing the kids on the days am working so she can mind them while at work it's just what I find myself atm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I suppose it depends on whether or not you are both on the same page, does either of you have an expectation of rekindling the relationship or is it clear that this is just sex? Or will there be an expectation of not having sex with others?
More importantly, is this potentially very confusing for your kids?
If you are sure the relationship is over, it would seem healthier to me that you draw the line,for all concerned. But it's your life....
Yes it's not very healthy for kids and confusing for me as well, we've drawn the line many things but for some reason I realised she checks on me always comes to the house even after we decide we can meet whoever we want and move on she comes putting on sexy cloths do abnormal things to get me on its just not clear to me what she want's tbh.
Then I suggest you decide what you want and act accordingly, rather than passively being played by someone who doesn't seem to know what they want themselves.
I've decided since we broke up but littially can't stop her from coming over dropping the kids but that the antics she uses bringing the kids on the days am working so she can mind them while at work it's just what I find myself atm. "
Change the locks, she no longer lives at your place. Tell her she cannot stay over when the kids do. And she certainly can't force you to have sex with her. |
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"She wants you back no ifs or buts . She is seducing you back into her life . Showing up in sexy gear . That to me is she wants you and you jumped back into her arms so you must still luv her . I'm not confused she wants you end of story cos if you broke up you would not have sex with her . Go and take her back before you miss your chance . "
No am okay being single for now don't want to be in a relationship for now just wants to be there for my kids that's all. |
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"Make a definite routine for the kids and stop the random visits."
Sure I think thats the best I could do for now but she brings them nights am working so.. it's just hard sometimes I love my kids and would do anything for them but not confuse them at the same time. She just needs to stop bringing them I think someone else has to. Will decuss with her and see what she'll say anyway. |
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"There is no certainty you will get "fabs" anyway so are you sure your finished with this relationship. Is it just sex for her ? What about the kids it must be confusing all the same.
Yes we both are sure to be honest at a point that we are finish just be there for the kids which was alright but she showed up some night I wasn't working and said she need to sleep over and discuss certain issues bothering her never in my life I thought would end up the way it did but for me I told her clearly that am not going back to rekindle our relationship but I think she has her own plan and it's really working for her am seriously confused and don't want my kids to be in such unsuitable condition either but the sex between has been better after breaking up how do I stop it?
No more sleepovers, don’t be alone with her, only spend time with her with the kids. Tell her again there’s no more you have moved on. When she does try again slap yourself to remind you what decision you’ve made I’ve had to do this and he was a horrible ex but we had such a pull to each other sexually. Took a lot for me to get over the sex !!"
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"There is no certainty you will get "fabs" anyway so are you sure your finished with this relationship. Is it just sex for her ? What about the kids it must be confusing all the same.
Yes we both are sure to be honest at a point that we are finish just be there for the kids which was alright but she showed up some night I wasn't working and said she need to sleep over and discuss certain issues bothering her never in my life I thought would end up the way it did but for me I told her clearly that am not going back to rekindle our relationship but I think she has her own plan and it's really working for her am seriously confused and don't want my kids to be in such unsuitable condition either but the sex between has been better after breaking up how do I stop it?
No more sleepovers, don’t be alone with her, only spend time with her with the kids. Tell her again there’s no more you have moved on. When she does try again slap yourself to remind you what decision you’ve made I’ve had to do this and he was a horrible ex but we had such a pull to each other sexually. Took a lot for me to get over the sex !!
Thanks will certainly take that advice "
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