Guys... it happens to us ladies too. I don't think anyone is everyone's type and never assume that someone I fancy will fancy me back (fantastic when it does happen though!). So next time someone doesn't reply to your mail, stops replying, or simply disappears... just remember... it happens to us girls too*
* unless it doesn't, in which case I'm sure someone will be along to say they've never been rejected...  |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been verbally abused when I turned down an offer from a woman "
Happens to everyone I had a social meet with a lad yesterday who tured out to be a totally ass hole and ive winked,fabbed and messaged to noply but hey I'm not for everyone and that's cool to...!!! |
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over a year ago
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I got a text from a girl on a dating site before "hey how are you?" she wasn't my cup of tea but she was like a cup of tea my friend made, at least she wasn't coffee so I replied. 10min later she sent hey how are you? And I was like what? And she said oh sorry mistake. Again texting for another 20min and she texted me again "hey how are you?" and u replied listen we're not getting in great so I'm ending the conversation here and she went off calling me rude, saying I only wanted sex and asked me why did I text her etc....there's mad people of both genders |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got a text from a girl on a dating site before "hey how are you?" she wasn't my cup of tea but she was like a cup of tea my friend made, at least she wasn't coffee so I replied. 10min later she sent hey how are you? And I was like what? And she said oh sorry mistake. Again texting for another 20min and she texted me again "hey how are you?" and u replied listen we're not getting in great so I'm ending the conversation here and she went off calling me rude, saying I only wanted sex and asked me why did I text her etc....there's mad people of both genders "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection "
People who have low self-esteem generally ca react poorly, the fragile ego tends to be very self-centred and sees the rejection as confirmation of their low self-worth, as opposed to being indicative of them simply not being what the other person is looking for. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection "
Maybe because the polite rejection isn't that polite. There are different ways to phrase it and what looks polite rejection on the surface can still be received as hurtful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection
Maybe because the polite rejection isn't that polite. There are different ways to phrase it and what looks polite rejection on the surface can still be received as hurtful. "
Also possible, but then there are those who seek offence in every interaction.... |
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By *pforit74Man
over a year ago
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection
Maybe because the polite rejection isn't that polite. There are different ways to phrase it and what looks polite rejection on the surface can still be received as hurtful. "
i think casylee hit the nail on the head with the mention of ego , that’s what it boils down to , that’s what is hurt our or their ego's , no matter how polite you try to be , a rejection is a rejection , we cant all be everyons cup of tea , and we need to accept that about ourselves first and not be offended so much ,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Believe it or not even I have been rejected,
Hard to believe I know but it happens....
When it happens I just bury my head in the sand (for a few years) then emerge like a beautiful butterfly and start again.
The BASTARDS!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Believe it or not even I have been rejected,
Hard to believe I know but it happens....
When it happens I just bury my head in the sand (for a few years) then emerge like a beautiful butterfly and start again.
The BASTARDS!
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Brilliant!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Believe it or not even I have been rejected,
Hard to believe I know but it happens....
When it happens I just bury my head in the sand (for a few years) then emerge like a beautiful butterfly and start again.
The BASTARDS!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rejection is par for the course on this site,it's not the end of the world.But when people make fun of you in their rejection of you for their on gratification, that's just dam rude  "
Think of it as a lucky escape |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe because the polite rejection isn't that polite. There are different ways to phrase it and what looks polite rejection on the surface can still be received as hurtful. "
Very true. A little kindness goes along way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think alot of guys on here dont get why ladies need sum.attraction . Had a guy last wk I said sorry I don't see any attraction to begin wit he then says I'm confused why need that . It's just sex so I think that's why alot of guys get the hump . Just my two pence worth  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think alot of guys on here dont get why ladies need sum.attraction . Had a guy last wk I said sorry I don't see any attraction to begin wit he then says I'm confused why need that . It's just sex so I think that's why alot of guys get the hump . Just my two pence worth "
I think most guys need some attraction as well nothing as bad as in the middle of a meet with no attraction or chemistry without both sex will be bad |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection
Maybe because the polite rejection isn't that polite. There are different ways to phrase it and what looks polite rejection on the surface can still be received as hurtful.
i think casylee hit the nail on the head with the mention of ego , that’s what it boils down to , that’s what is hurt our or their ego's , no matter how polite you try to be , a rejection is a rejection , we cant all be everyons cup of tea , and we need to accept that about ourselves first and not be offended so much ,
oh and that pic , its so cool its hot "
No one likes to be rejected and we all chew on it when it happens but it's certainly made easier when done in a subtle way. ie I get a good amount of messages where it's obvious that they didn't read my profile or simply ignore what it says on it and sometimes I've to hold myself back not to answer with a snippy message and point it out. But what would I gain from it besides airing my annoyance for a few seconds only to be hit back with some abuse? Also I don't see a need of explaining myself, it only triggers further messaging. Instead I just reply with my usual neutral way of saying no thanks. I haven't had any abuse in the last two years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have been turned down or rejected which ever word u like to use.you wish them well and move on.it really dosent bother me.has to be mutual attraction.plenty more fish in the sea as they say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have been turned down or rejected which ever word u like to use.you wish them well and move on.it really dosent bother me.has to be mutual attraction.plenty more fish in the sea as they say."
I have my fishing rod out miss fab with a juicy worm on the end |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens us all, and it's not really personal. Once we accept we are entitled to our own preferences, we need to accept that others are also entitled to theirs. As someone else already said, a little bit of kindness and diplomacy when saying no thanks usually goes a long way. And if it doesn't, there's always the block button. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection
Maybe because the polite rejection isn't that polite. There are different ways to phrase it and what looks polite rejection on the surface can still be received as hurtful.
i think casylee hit the nail on the head with the mention of ego , that’s what it boils down to , that’s what is hurt our or their ego's , no matter how polite you try to be , a rejection is a rejection , we cant all be everyons cup of tea , and we need to accept that about ourselves first and not be offended so much ,
oh and that pic , its so cool its hot
No one likes to be rejected and we all chew on it when it happens but it's certainly made easier when done in a subtle way. ie I get a good amount of messages where it's obvious that they didn't read my profile or simply ignore what it says on it and sometimes I've to hold myself back not to answer with a snippy message and point it out. But what would I gain from it besides airing my annoyance for a few seconds only to be hit back with some abuse? Also I don't see a need of explaining myself, it only triggers further messaging. Instead I just reply with my usual neutral way of saying no thanks. I haven't had any abuse in the last two years. "
We don't get abuse either, at least not to our faces |
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"Guys... it happens to us ladies too. I don't think anyone is everyone's type and never assume that someone I fancy will fancy me back (fantastic when it does happen though!). So next time someone doesn't reply to your mail, stops replying, or simply disappears... just remember... it happens to us girls too*
* unless it doesn't, in which case I'm sure someone will be along to say they've never been rejected... "
very seldom. Sure many a man on here would hop up on a Susan Boyle lookalike and give her socks.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually put my fingers in my ears and say stuff like "la la la la la la I'm not listening " while expertly speed dialling the Samaritans with my mickey ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection "
I don't get upset with being rejected but when someone delete your message dosent look at your pics or profile why be on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection I don't get upset with being rejected but when someone delete your message dosent look at your pics or profile why be on here"
You cannot tell whether or not they have looked at your profile. It's possible to click on the username to view the profile without opening the message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection I don't get upset with being rejected but when someone delete your message dosent look at your pics or profile why be on here
You cannot tell whether or not they have looked at your profile. It's possible to click on the username to view the profile without opening the message."
as a site supporter you can |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing that gets me why cant be polite and sensitive to people when the time to reject comes,I've been rejected load's and I've thanked every one of them for taking the time to chat with me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection I don't get upset with being rejected but when someone delete your message dosent look at your pics or profile why be on here
You cannot tell whether or not they have looked at your profile. It's possible to click on the username to view the profile without opening the message.as a site supporter you can"
Not if the person has chosen to view in hidden mode. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection I don't get upset with being rejected but when someone delete your message dosent look at your pics or profile why be on here
You cannot tell whether or not they have looked at your profile. It's possible to click on the username to view the profile without opening the message.as a site supporter you can
Not if the person has chosen to view in hidden mode. "
I don't think non site supporter can do that maybe I'm working |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well said OP
It would be boring if everybody was everyone's type!
Don't understand when Men or Women get upset with a polite rejection I don't get upset with being rejected but when someone delete your message dosent look at your pics or profile why be on here
You cannot tell whether or not they have looked at your profile. It's possible to click on the username to view the profile without opening the message.as a site supporter you can
Not if the person has chosen to view in hidden mode. I don't think non site supporter can do that maybe I'm wrong "
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By *kmanMan
over a year ago
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"What I had hate is someone chatting then all of a sudden nothing and no explanation and still on fab. A thanks but no thanks would be sufficient or your not for me. "
Did you not get my message sorry lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I try to be honest from the start and be polite. Most of time i get thanked and no harm done. But every once a while it gets nasty but agsin i say thanks and happy fabbing and block.
As for been rejected well used to it in real life so very rarely message or wink here. The couple times i have got no reply. So i move on.
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A simple Thanks but No Thanks, or Not for Me. Why get pissy about it? I don't see the point in trying to pursue the other party when they've read your profile/chatted with you/seen you in forums and their personal opinion is that you wouldn't click. It's their, singular, individual opinion. It's not like they've told you that the rest of the world also dislikes you!
Grow a pair, act like the 18+ years of age you're supposed to be here and move on.
Personally I just say Thanks for replying at least and mosie on. |
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