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over a year ago
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Excited or anxious
Hard to tell the difference sometimes
I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox
How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?
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anxiety is a popular thread tonight.
i used to suffer quiet badly with it and now when meeting new people just keep reminding myself that the other person is probably a little anxious too and that we're here for the same reasons, either just for a social meet or a play date. it can add to the excitement too. |
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I’m a total chatterbox god knows what will come out of my mouth but I’m like that all the time just heightened when nervous 
Started a new job and was moving between a few teams, said to my supervisor I’m like the office slut  think my mind is better in the swinging world |
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I get terrible social anxiety! Oddly, a psychological trick to overcome it is to tell yourself you're actually excited. The physical sensations are exactly the same for excitement and nervousness. It's all about attitude!  |
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"I find no issue if I have chatted a fair bit on here or via kik first - you get a feel for someone and it generally makes conversation flow much easier "
Doesn’t matter how much I’ve charted before I’ve got verbal diarrhoea when I meet anyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Excited or anxious
Hard to tell the difference sometimes
I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox
How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?
Satine"
Of course! But am too much of a pervert not to claw out of my realm and into the wider world like a lecherous Cthulhu.
Remember that mating potentially contributes to the progress of the human race, so sating your sexual needs is actually noble.
Yes am in a weird mood today |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yep I get it sooo bad  and yep probably talk pure crap. On the outside it probably just seems like I am really chatty, confident but on the inside it's a total different story |
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I tremble with excitement... visibly! I used to think it was part nerves, but no matter how relaxed I am now with some friends or how many times I've met them, I still tremble with excitement to see them...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I do love feeling good that adrenaline buzz inside me. The nerves has its perks.
It's good to know I'm not alone. Kinda makes it a little easier, just to remember the other person/people might feel as nervous/excited.
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"I’m a total chatterbox god knows what will come out of my mouth but I’m like that all the time just heightened when nervous
Started a new job and was moving between a few teams, said to my supervisor I’m like the office slut think my mind is better in the swinging world "
that made me laugh out loud slips |
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It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.
They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.
I have had girls meet me for a date (non swing) and tell me I came across so nice and laid back and it was like meeting a really old friend that they had known for years. But that there was no excitement... but then I meet other girls who love that I am laid back and nothing phases me and that i feel like their best friend..
So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.
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"I’m a total chatterbox god knows what will come out of my mouth but I’m like that all the time just heightened when nervous
Started a new job and was moving between a few teams, said to my supervisor I’m like the office slut think my mind is better in the swinging world
that made me laugh out loud slips "
You know it’s true sweets |
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"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.
They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.
I have had girls meet me for a date (non swing) and tell me I came across so nice and laid back and it was like meeting a really old friend that they had known for years. But that there was no excitement... but then I meet other girls who love that I am laid back and nothing phases me and that i feel like their best friend..
So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.
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I’m ok with my nervous jabber |
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"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.
They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.
I have had girls meet me for a date (non swing) and tell me I came across so nice and laid back and it was like meeting a really old friend that they had known for years. But that there was no excitement... but then I meet other girls who love that I am laid back and nothing phases me and that i feel like their best friend..
So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.
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im very chilled & relaxed when i meet ppl im a natural chatterbox anyways |
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"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.
They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.
I have had girls meet me for a date (non swing) and tell me I came across so nice and laid back and it was like meeting a really old friend that they had known for years. But that there was no excitement... but then I meet other girls who love that I am laid back and nothing phases me and that i feel like their best friend..
So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.
im very chilled & relaxed when i meet ppl im a natural chatterbox anyways "
And we are even worse together |
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I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so  just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha |
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over a year ago
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Anyone that has met me can vouch for how much I can waffle I am a total chatterbox but that's what I am like all the time. I have the occasional pre meet butterflies but am usually ok the rest of the time, if anything I get over excited |
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"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha
That’s ok I’d fill the space
Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then
Or watch my mouth
Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too "
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"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha
That’s ok I’d fill the space
Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then
Or watch my mouth
Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too
Perv "
I think there's a bit of that in all of us here  |
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"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha
That’s ok I’d fill the space
Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then
Or watch my mouth
Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too
Perv
I think there's a bit of that in all of us here "
I’m an angel |
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"Excited or anxious
Hard to tell the difference sometimes
I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox
How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?
Satine"
Bricking it! Nervous as hell in any social situation with new people, especially if it's a teetotal scenario. I know! Yes, drink is my crutch. I just feel awkward and not able to chat about mundane stuff.
I should say, this is my perception of how I am. The reality may be different but it's how I see it. I feel everyone is judging everybody else when it's a meet for first time.
I would only meet a Fabber that I have spoken to quite a lot, or had a lot of banter with on the forums as I'm that nervous about it. |
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"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha
That’s ok I’d fill the space
Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then
Or watch my mouth
Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too
Perv
I think there's a bit of that in all of us here
I’m an angel "
no ur not .... u and angel dont go together ever |
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"I go the total opposite way I go blank only really first 20 mins or so just till the akwardness leaves the situation, and give me a few drinks il chat shit for hours haha
That’s ok I’d fill the space
Haha il just stare lustfully into your eyes the first 20 minutes then
Or watch my mouth
Oh I'd be watching for where it's going too
Perv
I think there's a bit of that in all of us here
I’m an angel
Funny you say that I was once stopped in Dublin city by a random woman who was as she said an angel healer and card reader told me I have the soul of a "fallen angel" no matter how many bad situations I get myself into I will always come out ok in the end of it haha I can't say I'm strong believer in all of that stuff religion in general too so I guess we are both Angels "
I would have queried her on that one. Wasn't the Devil originally an angel but fell from heaven?
That might have stopped her in her tracks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Excited or anxious
Hard to tell the difference sometimes
I have social anxiety at the best of times. Esp meeting new people for the first time. I become a chatterbox
How are you when meeting and greeting with new people and possible play mates?
Satine"
OMG I'm exactly the same every time |
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"I'm normally quick on the ball myself for a good wind up that's a good one I must try that at the next wedding or christining haha
Oh, no, you have to watch Mickey Flanagan about talking to the priest at a wedding. Hilarious. He even mentions teabagging I will YouTube it "
http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x17lx7b
Start at 09:40mins for about 5mins.
Or watch all and enjoy  |
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"It might comfort you to know that being laidback, comfortable, and not nervous can be off putting to people.
They can take it as a sign you're not interested, and it can suck the "spark" out of the meeting, if you're the emotional sort.
I have had girls meet me for a date (non swing) and tell me I came across so nice and laid back and it was like meeting a really old friend that they had known for years. But that there was no excitement... but then I meet other girls who love that I am laid back and nothing phases me and that i feel like their best friend..
So if you get nervous and see it as a problem, then not being nervous isn't any better, its just the other side of a coin.
im very chilled & relaxed when i meet ppl im a natural chatterbox anyways
And we are even worse together "
Now there's an idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to be very anxious socially until I stopped caring what people thought of me. I also realised that as an introvert, crowded social events do nothing for me, so I just don't bother with those any more, but meeting new people doesn't phase me, they will either like me or they won't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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100% agree with this. I get very anxious in regard to meeting and I just have to keep reminding my self about how much I want to and how excited I am to allow myself to go through with it.
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