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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Stepping back for a moment guys.. and not meaning to rain on anyone's parade. How would you feel if your adult children we're signed up to fab, take yourself out of the equation, what advice would you give them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg I would go all mummy mode and lock her in her bedroom with no phone or laptop or any form of communication to cyber world lol
She is only a baby !!
And yes at 20yrs she is still my baby !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The same advice I've always given him - be wary of strangers and always use condoms.
I take it you have no children?
I have 3 actually  "
Interesting, you know the read here, and that's your advice to your kids, is that your cognitive perspective about 18+ or are you somewhat removed...I don't mean to seem judgemental, id like to hear your thinking... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The same advice I've always given him - be wary of strangers and always use condoms.
I take it you have no children?
I have 3 actually
Interesting, you know the read here, and that's your advice to your kids, is that your cognitive perspective about 18+ or are you somewhat removed...I don't mean to seem judgemental, id like to hear your thinking..."
Do you really think that only fabbers engage in casual sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh god no no no .... I've 2 adult children ... my babies 20 and 18 and no no no. I'd lock them up, cut them off get the priest to exorcise them !! Not my girls  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Exactly "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The same advice I've always given him - be wary of strangers and always use condoms.
I take it you have no children?
I have 3 actually
Interesting, you know the read here, and that's your advice to your kids, is that your cognitive perspective about 18+ or are you somewhat removed...I don't mean to seem judgemental, id like to hear your thinking...
Do you really think that only fabbers engage in casual sex? "
Thats not what I asked, your removing yourself from the emotion. |
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs. "
Would your children be shocked.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked.."
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The same advice I've always given him - be wary of strangers and always use condoms.
I take it you have no children?
I have 3 actually
Interesting, you know the read here, and that's your advice to your kids, is that your cognitive perspective about 18+ or are you somewhat removed...I don't mean to seem judgemental, id like to hear your thinking...
Do you really think that only fabbers engage in casual sex?
Thats not what I asked, your removing yourself from the emotion."
My adult children's sex lives are their own business. I raised them to think for themselves. Unless I myself felt there was something disgusting and abhorrent about being here, why would I apply that standard to them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked. "
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise."
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It would depend on age. I don't think I would like them on fab in teens, early 20s as they would be missing out on life and time enuf swinging a bit later like late 20s when they have lived a little and are more ready to cope with fab.
But ultimately it their life to live so would not interfere
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To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter.. |
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter.."
When your daughter is an adult, you don't really have the choice, and you don't have to be on fab to meet those kinds of people. |
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By *umpsMan
over a year ago
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"Stepping back for a moment guys.. and not meaning to rain on anyone's parade. How would you feel if your adult children we're signed up to fab, take yourself out of the equation, what advice would you give them?"
I wouldn't say anything... if they are looking for fun.. I would rather see them on here than picking up someone in the local pub or nightclub... most are very genuine here and respectful.. and know what NO means.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. "
Its moving away from how you would guide them!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter.."
You really think they don't hang out in nightclubs, bars or anywhere else? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either.
Its moving away from how you would guide them!! "
It's not. I guide them by example. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter..
You really think they don't hang out in nightclubs, bars or anywhere else?"
I understand the big bad world. Im talking about fab..'.'.'.' |
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. "
Well done Sally xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter.."
Just checked your desired age range- interesting to see that you have no problem with the idea of fucking someone else's 18 year old daughter |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either.
Well done Sally xxx "
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter.."
is she good looking?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter..
Just checked your desired age range- interesting to see that you have no problem with the idea of fucking someone else's 18 year old daughter"
Typical...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs. "
Spot on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Spot on.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter..
Just checked your desired age range- interesting to see that you have no problem with the idea of fucking someone else's 18 year old daughter"
No more than I would fuck a 99 year old, would I fuck an 18 year old No,its quite boring, but hey since you have have already explained the facts of life to lee.... |
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter..
Just checked your desired age range- interesting to see that you have no problem with the idea of fucking someone else's 18 year old daughter
Typical...
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Typical, as in what, is your family dynamic, dont be blowing bubbles through your ass, |
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter..
Just checked your desired age range- interesting to see that you have no problem with the idea of fucking someone else's 18 year old daughter
No more than I would fuck a 99 year old, would I fuck an 18 year old No,its quite boring, but hey since you have have already explained the facts of life to lee...."
No idea what you're trying to say there but I certainly hope your daughter's choice in sexual partners doesn't turn out too much of a disappointment to you. |
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"Is your daughter hot"
The reason for my post, she is too young to sniff out deviants like you!!
Its one thing talking to her about taking the next step with a boyfriend, but being on fab would be a different thing altogether and she is way to young to deal with deviants !! |
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter..
Just checked your desired age range- interesting to see that you have no problem with the idea of fucking someone else's 18 year old daughter
No more than I would fuck a 99 year old, would I fuck an 18 year old No,its quite boring, but hey since you have have already explained the facts of life to lee....
No idea what you're trying to say there but I certainly hope your daughter's choice in sexual partners doesn't turn out too much of a disappointment to you."
Of course it will, should it be any diff
Whaternt'...She's my baby, would yours be any different?
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"Is your daughter hot
The reason for my post, she is too young to sniff out deviants like you!!
Its one thing talking to her about taking the next step with a boyfriend, but being on fab would be a different thing altogether and she is way to young to deal with deviants !! "
you deal with "deviants" in all forms of life. you have parents who take the Molly coddling approach, then u have parents who take the backseat approach |
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Reading through this post there are a lot of people who seem completely horrified at the idea of their children (grown ass adult children) being on here....or even engaging in casual sex. And while I can understand that feeling partial, I can't help but think this is the same kinda attitude that makes Ireland so far behind the rest of Europe when it comes to sex |
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"Reading through this post there are a lot of people who seem completely horrified at the idea of their children (grown ass adult children) being on here....or even engaging in casual sex. And while I can understand that feeling partial, I can't help but think this is the same kinda attitude that makes Ireland so far behind the rest of Europe when it comes to sex"
excellent post . we, the Irish in general are backward thinking when it comes to casual sex |
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Wow, most hilariously entertaining post in a while, thanks for that OP, IT always funny to be reminded of exactly how narrow-minded and hypocritical some people on fab can be...
As for our kids (Kasandra & Me), I would warn them for potential pitfalls, tell them & help them to stay safe (if they'd be in any mood to take advice!), obviously, but mostly just let them be.
Yes, they're your kids, but that doesn't give you any right to act like some senseless, overprotective raging idiot towards them, they're adults! |
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"Reading through this post there are a lot of people who seem completely horrified at the idea of their children (grown ass adult children) being on here....or even engaging in casual sex. And while I can understand that feeling partial, I can't help but think this is the same kinda attitude that makes Ireland so far behind the rest of Europe when it comes to sex"
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"Reading through this post there are a lot of people who seem completely horrified at the idea of their children (grown ass adult children) being on here....or even engaging in casual sex. And while I can understand that feeling partial, I can't help but think this is the same kinda attitude that makes Ireland so far behind the rest of Europe when it comes to sex"
not to mention their own obvious ambivalence towards being here |
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"Reading through this post there are a lot of people who seem completely horrified at the idea of their children (grown ass adult children) being on here....or even engaging in casual sex. And while I can understand that feeling partial, I can't help but think this is the same kinda attitude that makes Ireland so far behind the rest of Europe when it comes to sex"
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"Wow, most hilariously entertaining post in a while, thanks for that OP, IT always funny to be reminded of exactly how narrow-minded and hypocritical some people on fab can be...
As for our kids (Kasandra & Me), I would warn them for potential pitfalls, tell them & help them to stay safe (if they'd be in any mood to take advice!), obviously, but mostly just let them be.
Yes, they're your kids, but that doesn't give you any right to act like some senseless, overprotective raging idiot towards them, they're adults!"
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"Wow, most hilariously entertaining post in a while, thanks for that OP, IT always funny to be reminded of exactly how narrow-minded and hypocritical some people on fab can be...
As for our kids (Kasandra & Me), I would warn them for potential pitfalls, tell them & help them to stay safe (if they'd be in any mood to take advice!), obviously, but mostly just let them be.
Yes, they're your kids, but that doesn't give you any right to act like some senseless, overprotective raging idiot towards them, they're adults!"
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I always wondered if anyone on here came across their own kids because there's a fuck tonne of mid lifers and a fuck tonne of 18-25 year olds haha. Well what could they say really? If they did anything other than give advice then they're hypocrits. |
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"I always wondered if anyone on here came across their own kids because there's a fuck tonne of mid lifers and a fuck tonne of 18-25 year olds haha. Well what could they say really? If they did anything other than give advice then they're hypocrits. "
We've filtered out anyone under 35 just in case  |
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"I always wondered if anyone on here came across their own kids because there's a fuck tonne of mid lifers and a fuck tonne of 18-25 year olds haha. Well what could they say really? If they did anything other than give advice then they're hypocrits.
We've filtered out anyone under 35 just in case "
Well from messaging anyway but I can see your profile and I'm 26 haha |
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"I always wondered if anyone on here came across their own kids because there's a fuck tonne of mid lifers and a fuck tonne of 18-25 year olds haha. Well what could they say really? If they did anything other than give advice then they're hypocrits.
We've filtered out anyone under 35 just in case
Well from messaging anyway but I can see your profile and I'm 26 haha"
I don't generally walk around the house in my underwear so hopefully they wouldn't recognise me |
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"I always wondered if anyone on here came across their own kids because there's a fuck tonne of mid lifers and a fuck tonne of 18-25 year olds haha. Well what could they say really? If they did anything other than give advice then they're hypocrits.
We've filtered out anyone under 35 just in case
Well from messaging anyway but I can see your profile and I'm 26 haha
I don't generally walk around the house in my underwear so hopefully they wouldn't recognise me "
They might recognise the little black dress haha ah no, it's unlikely haha |
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"I always wondered if anyone on here came across their own kids because there's a fuck tonne of mid lifers and a fuck tonne of 18-25 year olds haha. Well what could they say really? If they did anything other than give advice then they're hypocrits.
We've filtered out anyone under 35 just in case
Well from messaging anyway but I can see your profile and I'm 26 haha
I don't generally walk around the house in my underwear so hopefully they wouldn't recognise me
They might recognise the little black dress haha ah no, it's unlikely haha "
It's see-through!! |
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"I always wondered if anyone on here came across their own kids because there's a fuck tonne of mid lifers and a fuck tonne of 18-25 year olds haha. Well what could they say really? If they did anything other than give advice then they're hypocrits.
We've filtered out anyone under 35 just in case
Well from messaging anyway but I can see your profile and I'm 26 haha
I don't generally walk around the house in my underwear so hopefully they wouldn't recognise me
They might recognise the little black dress haha ah no, it's unlikely haha
It's see-through!!"
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"The same advice I've always given him - be wary of strangers and always use condoms.
I take it you have no children?
I have 3 actually
Interesting, you know the read here, and that's your advice to your kids, is that your cognitive perspective about 18+ or are you somewhat removed...I don't mean to seem judgemental, id like to hear your thinking...
Do you really think that only fabbers engage in casual sex?
Thats not what I asked, your removing yourself from the emotion.
My adult children's sex lives are their own business. I raised them to think for themselves. Unless I myself felt there was something disgusting and abhorrent about being here, why would I apply that standard to them?"
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How strange that you posed a question and got slightly pissy, maybe even a little judgemental at very reasonable answers. As much as I would like to see Fab as the domain of sexual liberals and the enlightened, it would appear that sex as dirty..sex as secretive and shameful is still heavily in the mix. Growing up I didn't particularly want to consider my parents as sexual beings ...I still don't particularly want to their sex lives are their one business. It doesn't involve me(thankfully)
Similarly you may not want to consider your adult children as sexual beings but of course they will be and their sexual persuits (considering they're legal) will by and large be none of your business. You don't particularly need to know or even have an opinion on it. But the fact that them being on here would be troublesome for you, reveals more about your discomfort of your own sexual persuits |
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"How strange that you posed a question and got slightly pissy, maybe even a little judgemental at very reasonable answers. As much as I would like to see Fab as the domain of sexual liberals and the enlightened, it would appear that sex as dirty..sex as secretive and shameful is still heavily in the mix. Growing up I didn't particularly want to consider my parents as sexual beings ...I still don't particularly want to their sex lives are their one business. It doesn't involve me(thankfully)
Similarly you may not want to consider your adult children as sexual beings but of course they will be and their sexual persuits (considering they're legal) will by and large be none of your business. You don't particularly need to know or even have an opinion on it. But the fact that them being on here would be troublesome for you, reveals more about your discomfort of your own sexual persuits "
Sorry..typo central there. It's too late |
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"How strange that you posed a question and got slightly pissy, maybe even a little judgemental at very reasonable answers. As much as I would like to see Fab as the domain of sexual liberals and the enlightened, it would appear that sex as dirty..sex as secretive and shameful is still heavily in the mix. Growing up I didn't particularly want to consider my parents as sexual beings ...I still don't particularly want to their sex lives are their one business. It doesn't involve me(thankfully)
Similarly you may not want to consider your adult children as sexual beings but of course they will be and their sexual persuits (considering they're legal) will by and large be none of your business. You don't particularly need to know or even have an opinion on it. But the fact that them being on here would be troublesome for you, reveals more about your discomfort of your own sexual persuits "
Are you having children anytime soon? |
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. "
well I'd say well done Sally you took the power from your stalker and the pressure off yourself plus educated your kids further in this big bad world you have too be admired |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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Im sure most 20 somethings "children" would laugh at either/ both of their parents being on fab.
Would I care? Of course, but if they have found fab and are active on here the likelihood is they are beyond my guidance.
On a side note we did have a mother and daughter on here (probably still are) and were quite active forumites. They often joked about comparing notes |
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"Im sure most 20 somethings "children" would laugh at either/ both of their parents being on fab.
Would I care? Of course, but if they have found fab and are active on here the likelihood is they are beyond my guidance.
On a side note we did have a mother and daughter on here (probably still are) and were quite active forumites. They often joked about comparing notes "
Really ... OK fair play to them  |
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By *kmanMan
over a year ago
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"To be honest, part of the rationale for this post, was a pushback from the fucked up threads that appear regularly here, No, I wont accept the illiterate, the fantasist and the fucked up looking to meet my daughter..
Just checked your desired age range- interesting to see that you have no problem with the idea of fucking someone else's 18 year old daughter
Typical...
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"We are all someone's children"
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit. |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit."
Text book style... |
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As a mum to a 19 year old daughter who knows about my swinger lifestyle if she choose to join fab I'd advise her on safety and people to avoid I'd advise her on placing an age limit so she doesn't meet anyone too old and no married playing alone . Other then that she is an adult who sexual adventures are hers to direct not mine I know at that age i would of laughed at my mum if she tried to direct my sex life .we can only advise our young adults in life not live it for them |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style..."
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach. |
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"As a mum to a 19 year old daughter who knows about my swinger lifestyle if she choose to join fab I'd advise her on safety and people to avoid I'd advise her on placing an age limit so she doesn't meet anyone too old and no married playing alone . Other then that she is an adult who sexual adventures are hers to direct not mine I know at that age i would of laughed at my mum if she tried to direct my sex life .we can only advise our young adults in life not live it for them "
Substance over style, I like it |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style..."
And text book style saying ill do this or that to anyone who comes near my daughter is a sure way to make sure if she does it anyway you sure as hell won't find out about it. its not 1950 anymore. And before you ask we do have children, not that it matters a button |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
And text book style saying ill do this or that to anyone who comes near my daughter is a sure way to make sure if she does it anyway you sure as hell won't find out about it. its not 1950 anymore. And before you ask we do have children, not that it matters a button "
I take it your in denial.... |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
And text book style saying ill do this or that to anyone who comes near my daughter is a sure way to make sure if she does it anyway you sure as hell won't find out about it. its not 1950 anymore. And before you ask we do have children, not that it matters a button
I take it your in denial...."
Do you think you know about your adult offsprings sexual history. What they get up to ??. Because if you do my friend it is you who is in denial. What exactly might we be in denial about ? |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
And text book style saying ill do this or that to anyone who comes near my daughter is a sure way to make sure if she does it anyway you sure as hell won't find out about it. its not 1950 anymore. And before you ask we do have children, not that it matters a button
I take it your in denial....
Do you think you know about your adult offsprings sexual history. What they get up to ??. Because if you do my friend it is you who is in denial. What exactly might we be in denial about ?"
Sometimes I like to switch off, the amount of too many weirdos here...but I suppose we can can all be construde as such in some peoples eyes...some people have those conversations...some dont know what a conversation is.. |
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By *oserMan
over a year ago
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
And text book style saying ill do this or that to anyone who comes near my daughter is a sure way to make sure if she does it anyway you sure as hell won't find out about it. its not 1950 anymore. And before you ask we do have children, not that it matters a button
I take it your in denial....
Do you think you know about your adult offsprings sexual history. What they get up to ??. Because if you do my friend it is you who is in denial. What exactly might we be in denial about ?
Sometimes I like to switch off, the amount of too many weirdos here...but I suppose we can can all be construde as such in some peoples eyes...some people have those conversations...some dont know what a conversation is.."
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Well ones who wanna control them adult kids about they sex life and/or sex lifestyle... Think from other side would your kids be happy find out about yours?!
So I agree with one who said its not them(parents) business of their kids sex life same as not them kids business about parent one.
And before someone start adding oh you cant have opinion as you don't have kids.. yes I dont have but I first time tried fab when I was 20! |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach."
Maslow is the way to go.... |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go...."
Whatever book you read that have you the idea that you could or should control your adult children, I suggest you use it to top up the fire tonight. |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go....
Whatever book you read that have you the idea that you could or should control your adult children, I suggest you use it to top up the fire tonight."
Surely I'm entitled to my views, regardless of whats fashionable to read.... |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go...."
You didn't answer my question as to why i am in denial but anyway. You mention Marlow whos theories date from the 40's to the 70's. Most of which are solely based on parenting from a female point if view. The vast majority of his practices while valid at the time are now considered somewhat out dated.
As stated by Casey, you might be better served but using a more common sense approach that checking a pyramid chart. Parenting in any matter should be forward thinking not explosive thinking. I believe it was me who said that in the canteen, feel free to quote me anytime |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go....
Whatever book you read that have you the idea that you could or should control your adult children, I suggest you use it to top up the fire tonight.
Surely I'm entitled to my views, regardless of whats fashionable to read...."
As is everyone else, yet you have no problem dismissing them. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Are u saying there's no way ud let a guy dump his load of spunk into ur daughter,or that ud stop her turning looking over her shoulder at her lover and say to him/her don't mind me screaming make me take it
Cause if u are u may wrap her up in Cotton wool right now and place her in that big bubble u just came out of. While Yes u are entitled to ur opinion I am a little shocked that a man of ur experience would even think it's ok to control ur daughters life experiences. |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go....
You didn't answer my question as to why i am in denial but anyway. You mention Marlow whos theories date from the 40's to the 70's. Most of which are solely based on parenting from a female point if view. The vast majority of his practices while valid at the time are now considered somewhat out dated.
As stated by Casey, you might be better served but using a more common sense approach that checking a pyramid chart. Parenting in any matter should be forward thinking not explosive thinking. I believe it was me who said that in the canteen, feel free to quote me anytime "
Has something changed since the 40s ? I was thinking around the lines of basic needs..but anyways lets not go over spocks theories... |
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OP I really don't know why you bothered asked the question as you seem to have already made up your mind up as to what the correct answer should be! I suspect you are just looking for approval/confirmation of what you have already determined is the correct course of action. Now you are getting upset and judgemental at those who are offering a different opinion simply because in doesn't fall in line with yours.
An adult is free to conduct their life as they see fit regardless of whether you are their parent or not, all you can do as is try and guide them as best you can. The healthy approach to the scenario you outlined is to advise her as best you can and just hope it turns out to be a positive experience for her. You of course can deal with it however you see fit just don't go getting sulky when others don't agree. |
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"OP I really don't know why you bothered asked the question as you seem to have already made up your mind up as to what the correct answer should be! I suspect you are just looking for approval/confirmation of what you have already determined is the correct course of action. Now you are getting upset and judgemental at those who are offering a different opinion simply because in doesn't fall in line with yours.
An adult is free to conduct their life as they see fit regardless of whether you are their parent or not, all you can do as is try and guide them as best you can. The healthy approach to the scenario you outlined is to advise her as best you can and just hope it turns out to be a positive experience for her. You of course can deal with it however you see fit just don't go getting sulky when others don't agree."
Granted, I am a bit bi-ased |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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The more you interfere in your adult children's sex life, the more likely they will close the shop and cut you of any information altogether. All you can do is to give them advise how to stay safe. |
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A lot of parents will do anything for their children except let them be themselves.
I get youre trying to protect your daughter and im sure most of the posters above would agree that we all do the same. But! Isnt that the journey of life? To allow them grow as a person? To make their own judgements in life and make their own mistakes? Whether your daughter decides to swing or not really isnt the issue. Its how you handle it yourself is the issue. Would you turn your back on her if she chose this lifestyle?Would you ignore her or fall out with her? If you do that, then youre not being the person she thought you were, her Dad. |
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"A lot of parents will do anything for their children except let them be themselves.
I get youre trying to protect your daughter and im sure most of the posters above would agree that we all do the same. But! Isnt that the journey of life? To allow them grow as a person? To make their own judgements in life and make their own mistakes? Whether your daughter decides to swing or not really isnt the issue. Its how you handle it yourself is the issue. Would you turn your back on her if she chose this lifestyle?Would you ignore her or fall out with her? If you do that, then youre not being the person she thought you were, her Dad. "
You have a very endearing way of capturing the sentiment |
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Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go....
You didn't answer my question as to why i am in denial but anyway. You mention Marlow whos theories date from the 40's to the 70's. Most of which are solely based on parenting from a female point if view. The vast majority of his practices while valid at the time are now considered somewhat out dated.
As stated by Casey, you might be better served but using a more common sense approach that checking a pyramid chart. Parenting in any matter should be forward thinking not explosive thinking. I believe it was me who said that in the canteen, feel free to quote me anytime
Has something changed since the 40s ? I was thinking around the lines of basic needs..but anyways lets not go over spocks theories..."
Hmmm. Dismissive in almost every reply to those who don't agree. Has anything changed since the 40's, i cant take that as a serious question to be honest. Your child's basic needs do include support in her well-being concerning safe sexual practices. Would you feel supported if your parent had tge same views as you do.
What would you tell her if she said she had slept with a couple from fabswingers ?? What you would like to do and what you can do are worlds apart. She will be much better served ehen you realise that. Keep in mind im not having a go at you OP, i just don't feel you are making much sense here |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go....
You didn't answer my question as to why i am in denial but anyway. You mention Marlow whos theories date from the 40's to the 70's. Most of which are solely based on parenting from a female point if view. The vast majority of his practices while valid at the time are now considered somewhat out dated.
As stated by Casey, you might be better served but using a more common sense approach that checking a pyramid chart. Parenting in any matter should be forward thinking not explosive thinking. I believe it was me who said that in the canteen, feel free to quote me anytime
Has something changed since the 40s ? I was thinking around the lines of basic needs..but anyways lets not go over spocks theories...
Hmmm. Dismissive in almost every reply to those who don't agree. Has anything changed since the 40's, i cant take that as a serious question to be honest. Your child's basic needs do include support in her well-being concerning safe sexual practices. Would you feel supported if your parent had tge same views as you do.
What would you tell her if she said she had slept with a couple from fabswingers ?? What you would like to do and what you can do are worlds apart. She will be much better served ehen you realise that. Keep in mind im not having a go at you OP, i just don't feel you are making much sense here"
Indeed, you are of course right, it was a question from the heart, and not much consideration given at that... |
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All I would want my kids to know is that they loved and always will be regardless of what my personal views may be of what they do.
I’d be more upset if they were disrepectful to people, didn’t have manners.
What they do is their call and to me the fact they would tell me they are on here, well that open communication is gold and I know I’d be successful as a parent if we had that level of trust and openess |
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"All I would want my kids to know is that they loved and always will be regardless of what my personal views may be of what they do.
I’d be more upset if they were disrepectful to people, didn’t have manners.
What they do is their call and to me the fact they would tell me they are on here, well that open communication is gold and I know I’d be successful as a parent if we had that level of trust and openess "
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Met a couple in their 20s from UK once who visited their local swingers club for the first time only to find her parents in the jacuzzi all naked and cozy with another couple. |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go....
You didn't answer my question as to why i am in denial but anyway. You mention Marlow whos theories date from the 40's to the 70's. Most of which are solely based on parenting from a female point if view. The vast majority of his practices while valid at the time are now considered somewhat out dated.
As stated by Casey, you might be better served but using a more common sense approach that checking a pyramid chart. Parenting in any matter should be forward thinking not explosive thinking. I believe it was me who said that in the canteen, feel free to quote me anytime
Has something changed since the 40s ? I was thinking around the lines of basic needs..but anyways lets not go over spocks theories...
Hmmm. Dismissive in almost every reply to those who don't agree. Has anything changed since the 40's, i cant take that as a serious question to be honest. Your child's basic needs do include support in her well-being concerning safe sexual practices. Would you feel supported if your parent had tge same views as you do.
What would you tell her if she said she had slept with a couple from fabswingers ?? What you would like to do and what you can do are worlds apart. She will be much better served ehen you realise that. Keep in mind im not having a go at you OP, i just don't feel you are making much sense here
Indeed, you are of course right, it was a question from the heart, and not much consideration given at that..."
There's no issue with the question it's the snippy attitude to the replies. And there is the slight conflict between your liberal attitudes towards yourself and highly conservative attitude towards your kids. You replied as if me not having kids disqualifies me from the discussion. In our justice system does a judge turn around to a victim of a crime and say 'what would you like me to do to this man'?? Maybe not the best analogy but similarly your judgement is clouded. Your over protectiveness means your answer to this question isn't going to the most rational. I would stand by the fact that the sex lives of my adult children would be none of my business. I'd also be interested to know if you'd be more worried about a daughter than a son as that's a whole other conversation altogher |
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers.."
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one. |
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers..
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one. "
They completely threw me as well. I put it down to lack of sleep last night |
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers..
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one.
They completely threw me as well. I put it down to lack of sleep last night "
Thank you. I just can't work out the meaning and I'd really like to know. Neither statement seems to have anything to do with the topic. |
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers..
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one.
They completely threw me as well. I put it down to lack of sleep last night
Thank you. I just can't work out the meaning and I'd really like to know. Neither statement seems to have anything to do with the topic. "
I don't think there's any mystery to unravel |
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"We are all someone's children
Yes, and not their possession, the purpose of parenting is to prepare your children for life without you, then to let them live it as they see fit.
Text book style...
Nope sorry, never read a book on parenting. Common sense is my preferred approach.
Maslow is the way to go....
You didn't answer my question as to why i am in denial but anyway. You mention Marlow whos theories date from the 40's to the 70's. Most of which are solely based on parenting from a female point if view. The vast majority of his practices while valid at the time are now considered somewhat out dated.
As stated by Casey, you might be better served but using a more common sense approach that checking a pyramid chart. Parenting in any matter should be forward thinking not explosive thinking. I believe it was me who said that in the canteen, feel free to quote me anytime
Has something changed since the 40s ? I was thinking around the lines of basic needs..but anyways lets not go over spocks theories...
Hmmm. Dismissive in almost every reply to those who don't agree. Has anything changed since the 40's, i cant take that as a serious question to be honest. Your child's basic needs do include support in her well-being concerning safe sexual practices. Would you feel supported if your parent had tge same views as you do.
What would you tell her if she said she had slept with a couple from fabswingers ?? What you would like to do and what you can do are worlds apart. She will be much better served ehen you realise that. Keep in mind im not having a go at you OP, i just don't feel you are making much sense here
Indeed, you are of course right, it was a question from the heart, and not much consideration given at that...
There's no issue with the question it's the snippy attitude to the replies. And there is the slight conflict between your liberal attitudes towards yourself and highly conservative attitude towards your kids. You replied as if me not having kids disqualifies me from the discussion. In our justice system does a judge turn around to a victim of a crime and say 'what would you like me to do to this man'?? Maybe not the best analogy but similarly your judgement is clouded. Your over protectiveness means your answer to this question isn't going to the most rational. I would stand by the fact that the sex lives of my adult children would be none of my business. I'd also be interested to know if you'd be more worried about a daughter than a son as that's a whole other conversation altogher "
Now that is a very good question
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers..
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one.
They completely threw me as well. I put it down to lack of sleep last night
Thank you. I just can't work out the meaning and I'd really like to know. Neither statement seems to have anything to do with the topic. "
The rally comment I think was in reference to a parental fear that the op was relaying in his post's.
As a mother/parent we can only arm our children for life not live it for them.
Positive action is standing back and letting them live safe in the knowledge that you trust their life choices and are there for them if needed.
We all have those panicked what if moments but whose comfort and happiness are we ensuring if we stand in the way of our children doing things that we think may put them at a higher risk.
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers..
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one.
They completely threw me as well. I put it down to lack of sleep last night
Thank you. I just can't work out the meaning and I'd really like to know. Neither statement seems to have anything to do with the topic.
The rally comment I think was in reference to a parental fear that the op was relaying in his post's.
As a mother/parent we can only arm our children for life not live it for them.
Positive action is standing back and letting them live safe in the knowledge that you trust their life choices and are there for them if needed.
We all have those panicked what if moments but whose comfort and happiness are we ensuring if we stand in the way of our children doing things that we think may put them at a higher risk.
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Thank you
I was always an over protective parent, always trying to fix everything and catch my kids before they fell. I felt it was my responsibility to do that for as long as they lived with me. When my first child moved out, I made a conscious decision to stop doing that, knowing that it was beyond my control. I'm lucky that my kids have always been able to come to me for help, and I personally have no issue with any of them being on here, because I know that the doors of communication are always open both ways. |
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers..
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one.
They completely threw me as well. I put it down to lack of sleep last night
Thank you. I just can't work out the meaning and I'd really like to know. Neither statement seems to have anything to do with the topic.
The rally comment I think was in reference to a parental fear that the op was relaying in his post's.
As a mother/parent we can only arm our children for life not live it for them.
Positive action is standing back and letting them live safe in the knowledge that you trust their life choices and are there for them if needed.
We all have those panicked what if moments but whose comfort and happiness are we ensuring if we stand in the way of our children doing things that we think may put them at a higher risk.
Thank you
I was always an over protective parent, always trying to fix everything and catch my kids before they fell. I felt it was my responsibility to do that for as long as they lived with me. When my first child moved out, I made a conscious decision to stop doing that, knowing that it was beyond my control. I'm lucky that my kids have always been able to come to me for help, and I personally have no issue with any of them being on here, because I know that the doors of communication are always open both ways. "
Me too Sally, Exactly this well said. I have recently had an open discussion with one of my children about site's and another competes in a dangerous sport so can relate to both point's but I did misbehave recently after my daughter announced that she was thinking of heading to Korea, she changed her mind after a week of my Korean updates but it was her decision |
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"Kids being Raleigh drivers..
Can anybody explain to me what they think is meant by the above statement, as the OP is apparently reluctant to clarify it.
I'd appreciate an interpretation of the other quote I asked about as well, if anyone is able to give one.
They completely threw me as well. I put it down to lack of sleep last night
Thank you. I just can't work out the meaning and I'd really like to know. Neither statement seems to have anything to do with the topic.
The rally comment I think was in reference to a parental fear that the op was relaying in his post's.
As a mother/parent we can only arm our children for life not live it for them.
Positive action is standing back and letting them live safe in the knowledge that you trust their life choices and are there for them if needed.
We all have those panicked what if moments but whose comfort and happiness are we ensuring if we stand in the way of our children doing things that we think may put them at a higher risk.
Thank you
I was always an over protective parent, always trying to fix everything and catch my kids before they fell. I felt it was my responsibility to do that for as long as they lived with me. When my first child moved out, I made a conscious decision to stop doing that, knowing that it was beyond my control. I'm lucky that my kids have always been able to come to me for help, and I personally have no issue with any of them being on here, because I know that the doors of communication are always open both ways.
Me too Sally, Exactly this well said. I have recently had an open discussion with one of my children about site's and another competes in a dangerous sport so can relate to both point's but I did misbehave recently after my daughter announced that she was thinking of heading to Korea, she changed her mind after a week of my Korean updates but it was her decision"
So you armed her with the knowledge she needed to make her own mind up, that's a job well done |
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"Don't think it's anyone's business what I do. And certainly it's none of mine what they get up 2.
Just I wouldn't like 2 end up at the same party. "
That's where communication comes in again, and you agree to not attend the same events. |
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"My adult children are smart enough and careful enough that I wouldn't feel the need to advise, other than to say they can always come to me if they have a problem. Their sex lives are no more my business than mine is theirs.
Would your children be shocked..
My children already know. To be honest, I don't think they were shocked.
Maybe concerned might be the more appropriate word, after all we are all aware of the trolls on here, not taking away from the genuine peeps here.... but a lot of us here learn the hard way.... would you support your kids, doing likewise.
I had to tell them because someone was stalking me and harassing me and threatening to 'out' me. So they are already aware of the kind of bad things that can happen, but they have been shown by example that the only way to deal with stuff like that is to face up to it and take away the power that a stalker would try to exert. I've also shown by example that I'm not ashamed of my sexuality and that they don't need to be either. "
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"Oh god no no no .... I've 2 adult children ... my babies 20 and 18 and no no no. I'd lock them up, cut them off get the priest to exorcise them !! Not my girls "
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"Oh god no no no .... I've 2 adult children ... my babies 20 and 18 and no no no. I'd lock them up, cut them off get the priest to exorcise them !! Not my girls
The apple will never fall too far from the tree )"
Omg will ypu ever go away and insult a few more women on this .. your doing a great job here  . Would you like a list so can really go for broke |
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"Oh god no no no .... I've 2 adult children ... my babies 20 and 18 and no no no. I'd lock them up, cut them off get the priest to exorcise them !! Not my girls
The apple will never fall too far from the tree )
Omg will ypu ever go away and insult a few more women on this .. your doing a great job here . Would you like a list so can really go for broke "
I am smitten Sally.... |
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"If my nearly 21 year old was on site what could I do...."
Exactly, they’re an adult.
We can only hope that we’ve raised them well enough to cope with whatever’s thrown their way, and be there for them if/when needed. |
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"Oh god no no no .... I've 2 adult children ... my babies 20 and 18 and no no no. I'd lock them up, cut them off get the priest to exorcise them !! Not my girls
The apple will never fall too far from the tree )
Omg will ypu ever go away and insult a few more women on this .. your doing a great job here . Would you like a list so can really go for broke "
I think this was meant as a compliment of sorts, not an insult. Like mother, like daughter kind of thing. |
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"Oh god no no no .... I've 2 adult children ... my babies 20 and 18 and no no no. I'd lock them up, cut them off get the priest to exorcise them !! Not my girls
The apple will never fall too far from the tree )
Omg will ypu ever go away and insult a few more women on this .. your doing a great job here . Would you like a list so can really go for broke
I think this was meant as a compliment of sorts, not an insult. Like mother, like daughter kind of thing. "
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"If my nearly 21 year old was on site what could I do....
Send her my Way
Creep she will think hes too old much older than me and he's the wrong sex for my daughter too so will never happen. "
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"OP I really don't know why you bothered asked the question as you seem to have already made up your mind up as to what the correct answer should be! I suspect you are just looking for approval/confirmation of what you have already determined is the correct course of action. Now you are getting upset and judgemental at those who are offering a different opinion simply because in doesn't fall in line with yours.
An adult is free to conduct their life as they see fit regardless of whether you are their parent or not, all you can do as is try and guide them as best you can. The healthy approach to the scenario you outlined is to advise her as best you can and just hope it turns out to be a positive experience for her. You of course can deal with it however you see fit just don't go getting sulky when others don't agree."
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"OP I really don't know why you bothered asked the question as you seem to have already made up your mind up as to what the correct answer should be! I suspect you are just looking for approval/confirmation of what you have already determined is the correct course of action. Now you are getting upset and judgemental at those who are offering a different opinion simply because in doesn't fall in line with yours.
An adult is free to conduct their life as they see fit regardless of whether you are their parent or not, all you can do as is try and guide them as best you can. The healthy approach to the scenario you outlined is to advise her as best you can and just hope it turns out to be a positive experience for her. You of course can deal with it however you see fit just don't go getting sulky when others don't agree."
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I might get my head bitten off but i see a 18yr old here on fab has slept with 30 guys oldest in his late 40s am i wrong to think this is not right.. not to bad if she was meeting guys her own age..she is old enough to be their daughter |
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"I might get my head bitten off but i see a 18yr old here on fab has slept with 30 guys oldest in his late 40s am i wrong to think this is not right.. not to bad if she was meeting guys her own age..she is old enough to be their daughter"
It's not ideal, but she's an adult and presumably it's her choice to meet people of that age. I wouldn't be happy if it was my 18yr old, but I'd recognise that it wasn't my business and leave it at that.
As a side note, I don't have children that age, mine are all older. |
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"I might get my head bitten off but i see a 18yr old here on fab has slept with 30 guys oldest in his late 40s am i wrong to think this is not right.. not to bad if she was meeting guys her own age..she is old enough to be their daughter"
Agree with you |
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"I might get my head bitten off but i see a 18yr old here on fab has slept with 30 guys oldest in his late 40s am i wrong to think this is not right.. not to bad if she was meeting guys her own age..she is old enough to be their daughter
It's not ideal, but she's an adult and presumably it's her choice to meet people of that age. I wouldn't be happy if it was my 18yr old, but I'd recognise that it wasn't my business and leave it at that.
As a side note, I don't have children that age, mine are all older. "
I know Sally i dont have a daughter but i have son a little older than her i wouldnt like him or any of my lads on a sex site sleeping with so many at a young age and sleeping with much older.. yes she is an adult at 18.. but it just got to me |
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"I might get my head bitten off but i see a 18yr old here on fab has slept with 30 guys oldest in his late 40s am i wrong to think this is not right.. not to bad if she was meeting guys her own age..she is old enough to be their daughter
It's not ideal, but she's an adult and presumably it's her choice to meet people of that age. I wouldn't be happy if it was my 18yr old, but I'd recognise that it wasn't my business and leave it at that.
As a side note, I don't have children that age, mine are all older.
I know Sally i dont have a daughter but i have son a little older than her i wouldnt like him or any of my lads on a sex site sleeping with so many at a young age and sleeping with much older.. yes she is an adult at 18.. but it just got to me"
I understand that. There is a difference between liking or agreeing with something and accepting it. I had to accept that when my kids moved out I had no control over how they live their lives. I tell them if I'm not happy, but we all know that it's out of my hands. Besides, if you rail too much against what they're doing it can make them more determined to do it. They know I'm here if they need me, no matter what, and that is really all any of us can do. |
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"Omg I would go all mummy mode and lock her in her bedroom with no phone or laptop or any form of communication to cyber world lol
She is only a baby !!
And yes at 20yrs she is still my baby !! "
And what of your adult children knowing you were on a site like this and engaging in what not, I know if it was my mom, I’d chop the balls off any guy that went near her! |
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"I might get my head bitten off but i see a 18yr old here on fab has slept with 30 guys oldest in his late 40s am i wrong to think this is not right.. not to bad if she was meeting guys her own age..she is old enough to be their daughter
It's not ideal, but she's an adult and presumably it's her choice to meet people of that age. I wouldn't be happy if it was my 18yr old, but I'd recognise that it wasn't my business and leave it at that.
As a side note, I don't have children that age, mine are all older.
I know Sally i dont have a daughter but i have son a little older than her i wouldnt like him or any of my lads on a sex site sleeping with so many at a young age and sleeping with much older.. yes she is an adult at 18.. but it just got to me
I understand that. There is a difference between liking or agreeing with something and accepting it. I had to accept that when my kids moved out I had no control over how they live their lives. I tell them if I'm not happy, but we all know that it's out of my hands. Besides, if you rail too much against what they're doing it can make them more determined to do it. They know I'm here if they need me, no matter what, and that is really all any of us can do. "
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"I might get my head bitten off but i see a 18yr old here on fab has slept with 30 guys oldest in his late 40s am i wrong to think this is not right.. not to bad if she was meeting guys her own age..she is old enough to be their daughter
It's not ideal, but she's an adult and presumably it's her choice to meet people of that age. I wouldn't be happy if it was my 18yr old, but I'd recognise that it wasn't my business and leave it at that.
As a side note, I don't have children that age, mine are all older.
I know Sally i dont have a daughter but i have son a little older than her i wouldnt like him or any of my lads on a sex site sleeping with so many at a young age and sleeping with much older.. yes she is an adult at 18.. but it just got to me
I understand that. There is a difference between liking or agreeing with something and accepting it. I had to accept that when my kids moved out I had no control over how they live their lives. I tell them if I'm not happy, but we all know that it's out of my hands. Besides, if you rail too much against what they're doing it can make them more determined to do it. They know I'm here if they need me, no matter what, and that is really all any of us can do. Well said...exactly...ditto"
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