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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What are people's thoughts on having sex with your friend?
I've spoke to so many people that have told me at some point they slept with someone and followed that up by saying "he or she is a friend"
Am i wrong in thinking friends don't fuck? At least in my circle of friends anyway. Never in a million years would any of us end up in bed together.
Now i can see how you might end up in bed with somebody you know but not a friend. Maybe the term friend is being used too loosely and they aren't really proper friends if that makes sense?
For me, friends don't fuck each other. And if your fuckin somebody then you can't be friends. You may know them. You may be friendly toward each other etc but your not friends.
If anyone understands what iam saying please let me know lol I have a feeling ill be on my own on this one. I just personally could not fuck someone i considered a friend. I think there's a big difference between fuckin someone i know and am friendly toward etc and an actual person i consider a friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes I agree. I have real life friends that I wouldnt touch cos they are ... friends.
But sometimes you meet someone on here and you become friends and thats different... is that what you mea |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If your having sex with a friend then thats a fuck buddy.different to a friend.you might invite friends to your kids birthday party or to a family gathering...you wouldnt do that with a fuck buddy!
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I have slept with people and then become friends lol
I have people who are far too good a friend to ever sleep with as I would ruin it.
I think you are right there are different levels of friends once you go over to the good/close friend I don’t think there can be sex |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just think that as soon as you fuck someone. You cannot refer to them as a friend.
I’ve people I’m friends with now who started off as sex first but a friends developed and the sex stopped"
Why did the sex stop? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just think that as soon as you fuck someone. You cannot refer to them as a friend.
I’ve people I’m friends with now who started off as sex first but a friends developed and the sex stopped"
Yes... this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just think that as soon as you fuck someone. You cannot refer to them as a friend.
I’ve people I’m friends with now who started off as sex first but a friends developed and the sex stopped
Why did the sex stop?"
The sex just stops but you stay as friends. |
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"I just think that as soon as you fuck someone. You cannot refer to them as a friend.
I’ve people I’m friends with now who started off as sex first but a friends developed and the sex stopped
Why did the sex stop?"
We became more friends than sex friends lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha"
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying  |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying "
Lol... you're good  |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Lol... you're good "
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying "
I dated a girl that told me she keeps lads on the side incase she ever wanted to go back and bang um and she called those guys friends too and tbh every girl I was close with told me the same. I'm friends with those girls to them but to me they're not really friends, the lads I hang with are friends |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying "
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that. |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
I dated a girl that told me she keeps lads on the side incase she ever wanted to go back and bang um and she called those guys friends too and tbh every girl I was close with told me the same. I'm friends with those girls to them but to me they're not really friends, the lads I hang with are friends "
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that. "
I didnt think we were talking 'relationships' here? |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
I dated a girl that told me she keeps lads on the side incase she ever wanted to go back and bang um and she called those guys friends too and tbh every girl I was close with told me the same. I'm friends with those girls to them but to me they're not really friends, the lads I hang with are friends "
Can’t tar everyone with the same brush thou. I don’t keep people on the side to bang them. They served a purpose at that time and it moved on |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that. "
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them? |
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"You can move on from the sex and stay friends 
I totally agree
Hes making it like everyone just wants to fuck everyone else all the time!!!!"
Some of my best male friends I’ve had sex with before we became friends lol I wouldn’t dream of going near them again for sex they are now too good a friend! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?"
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can move on from the sex and stay friends
I totally agree
Hes making it like everyone just wants to fuck everyone else all the time!!!!
Some of my best male friends I’ve had sex with before we became friends lol I wouldn’t dream of going near them again for sex they are now too good a friend!"
Exactly! That's it though!! They know too much  |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them "
I think thats insecurity though! |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them "
Says more about your insecurities. I have gone out with plenty of guys who are friends with ex-girlfriends/lovers and not thought twice about them hooking up, because I trusted them. If you can’t trust then don’t be in relationships |
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To be fair yer all mostly in yer 30s so it's probably different. I see friends as someone I'd say anything to, holidayed with, meet regularly without ever flirting, make the most horrific jokes to where I'd normally get hung for saying outside the group etc.. Not someone I banged and send the odd how are you text to. To me my core group of friends are the real friends and then I'm friendly with everyone else. I don't like the idea of dating a girl that hangs out regularly with an ex (different with kids or in big groups). I don't think it's childish. I know most women only keep lads in the picture as fall back guys so if you're arguing with a girl and her best friend is a former fuck buddy she's crying on his shoulder. I knew my opinion wouldn't be popular but I stand by it haha |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them
I think thats insecurity though! "
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"To be fair yer all mostly in yer 30s so it's probably different. I see friends as someone I'd say anything to, holidayed with, meet regularly without ever flirting, make the most horrific jokes to where I'd normally get hung for saying outside the group etc.. Not someone I banged and send the odd how are you text to. To me my core group of friends are the real friends and then I'm friendly with everyone else. I don't like the idea of dating a girl that hangs out regularly with an ex (different with kids or in big groups). I don't think it's childish. I know most women only keep lads in the picture as fall back guys so if you're arguing with a girl and her best friend is a former fuck buddy she's crying on his shoulder. I knew my opinion wouldn't be popular but I stand by it haha"
Must be an over 30s thing then lol I’m far more relaxed the older I’ve gotten but I can see what you are saying |
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"To be fair yer all mostly in yer 30s so it's probably different. I see friends as someone I'd say anything to, holidayed with, meet regularly without ever flirting, make the most horrific jokes to where I'd normally get hung for saying outside the group etc.. Not someone I banged and send the odd how are you text to. To me my core group of friends are the real friends and then I'm friendly with everyone else. I don't like the idea of dating a girl that hangs out regularly with an ex (different with kids or in big groups). I don't think it's childish. I know most women only keep lads in the picture as fall back guys so if you're arguing with a girl and her best friend is a former fuck buddy she's crying on his shoulder. I knew my opinion wouldn't be popular but I stand by it haha"
Lol at the childishness of bringing age into it!!! |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them
I think thats insecurity though! "
To an extent it probably is but it involves morals to. I just honestly think it's disrespectful to someone. Same goes for myself. I think it would be disrespectful for me to commit to somebody and expect them to believe iam serious about them whilst hanging out with some girl i used to fuck and just expecting her to accept it. That's not how you treat a new partner or build a solid foundation in my opinion Obviously if we are talking strictly sexual relations then it's a little different |
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A cousin of mine commented on a fb post before and the girl I was dating texted me the very second she commented asking who she was and how do I know her etc.. Haha ye might be very secure or lying to yerselves but most people don't like it. I don't, ye say ye don't mind. We all have our own personalities and opinions |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them
I think thats insecurity though!
To an extent it probably is but it involves morals to. I just honestly think it's disrespectful to someone. Same goes for myself. I think it would be disrespectful for me to commit to somebody and expect them to believe iam serious about them whilst hanging out with some girl i used to fuck and just expecting her to accept it. That's not how you treat a new partner or build a solid foundation in my opinion Obviously if we are talking strictly sexual relations then it's a little different "
I'm just not going to get what you are saying!! Basically you are saying you're not trusting them too!! |
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"I don't do friendships with men, other than Lee. I have lots of sex with him.
I get on better with men then women "
Oh I get on great with men, I just don't personally believe that straight men are interested in "just friendship" with women. At least that has been my experience, so I don't form close friendships with men, although we may get on very well.
Then again,my definition of friend is probably more string than most people's. |
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"A cousin of mine commented on a fb post before and the girl I was dating texted me the very second she commented asking who she was and how do I know her etc.. Haha ye might be very secure or lying to yerselves but most people don't like it. I don't, ye say ye don't mind. We all have our own personalities and opinions "
Some people will never trust, some are jealous types and always will be. If you can’t be with someone because they have slept with someone else and stayed friends after then don’t. But it’s different to what you are saying, being friends and keeping someone on stand-by are totally different. I’d an ex who had slept with probably every girl he ever knew and I accepted ever girl he said hi to from his past he slept with lol but he was with me now and I kept him happy he didn’t need to look elsewhere  |
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"I don't do friendships with men, other than Lee. I have lots of sex with him.
I get on better with men then women
Oh I get on great with men, I just don't personally believe that straight men are interested in "just friendship" with women. At least that has been my experience, so I don't form close friendships with men, although we may get on very well.
Then again,my definition of friend is probably more string than most people's."
I believe straight men can be friends, I certainly don't think every man wants to fuck me lol |
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I'll never understand how women say they get on with men more than women too. Males very rarely say that. So is that women saying there's something they don't like about women in general? Just strange and it's a comment nearly always made by women ha. |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them
I think thats insecurity though!
To an extent it probably is but it involves morals to. I just honestly think it's disrespectful to someone. Same goes for myself. I think it would be disrespectful for me to commit to somebody and expect them to believe iam serious about them whilst hanging out with some girl i used to fuck and just expecting her to accept it. That's not how you treat a new partner or build a solid foundation in my opinion Obviously if we are talking strictly sexual relations then it's a little different
I'm just not going to get what you are saying!! Basically you are saying you're not trusting them too!!"
Answer this. If a guy cheated on you with a girl. Would you continue with him if he continued to be friends with that girl? I know your going to suggest he's broken the trust because he cheated but let's assume you wanted to give it a go and not walk away. Would you tolerate him continuing to hang out with her? |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them
I think thats insecurity though!
To an extent it probably is but it involves morals to. I just honestly think it's disrespectful to someone. Same goes for myself. I think it would be disrespectful for me to commit to somebody and expect them to believe iam serious about them whilst hanging out with some girl i used to fuck and just expecting her to accept it. That's not how you treat a new partner or build a solid foundation in my opinion Obviously if we are talking strictly sexual relations then it's a little different
I'm just not going to get what you are saying!! Basically you are saying you're not trusting them too!!
Answer this. If a guy cheated on you with a girl. Would you continue with him if he continued to be friends with that girl? I know your going to suggest he's broken the trust because he cheated but let's assume you wanted to give it a go and not walk away. Would you tolerate him continuing to hang out with her? "
But this is a whole different scenario!!! The original one was just previous guys she had sex with. Now she's cheated which us totally different and she doesnt deserve the trust so in that case I'd agree |
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"Na I'm with the Op here and in the outside world if I was dating a girl and she told me she used to bang one of her friends and still hangs with him I'd stop dating her. I'll get slaughtered for saying that but unless you completely turned someone off you after you have sex with them then sex again is always possible. I think I could have sex with all the girls I've had sex with before again if I was the person to go back to that but I'm not ha
I have plenty of people I’ve slept with I wouldn’t go back to sleeping with again and not turned off them I just see them different. They may be your way inclined but I wouldn’t think twice about having sex with them again.
And as for dumping someone for being friends with someone they’ve stayed friends with after having sex is quite childish sorry just saying
Why is that childish? If your partner is remaining friends with a guy she used to fuck regularly and that makes you feel less secure about the relationship then your within your rights to walk away and dump her. Nothing childish about that.
Says more about you than her! Childish to automatically dump someone who can be friends even after sex! Friendship and sex are too very different things. When you get older the possibilities of being friends with people you had sex with grows! Esp if you have had kids. Should parents who split up not stay friends just because they had sex and the next person won’t like the fact you’ve been intimate with them?
But it's not childish just because you perceive it to be. If ANYONE feels less secure or just uncomfortable with a person for the reason that was being discussed. Then they owe it to themselves to walk away. I personally wouldn't tolerate a partner staying friends with a person she regularly fucked. I totally understand how people perceive that as immature etc but for me that's not acceptable. For others it is. Best of luck to them
I think thats insecurity though!
To an extent it probably is but it involves morals to. I just honestly think it's disrespectful to someone. Same goes for myself. I think it would be disrespectful for me to commit to somebody and expect them to believe iam serious about them whilst hanging out with some girl i used to fuck and just expecting her to accept it. That's not how you treat a new partner or build a solid foundation in my opinion Obviously if we are talking strictly sexual relations then it's a little different
I'm just not going to get what you are saying!! Basically you are saying you're not trusting them too!!
Answer this. If a guy cheated on you with a girl. Would you continue with him if he continued to be friends with that girl? I know your going to suggest he's broken the trust because he cheated but let's assume you wanted to give it a go and not walk away. Would you tolerate him continuing to hang out with her? "
OP thats a completely different situation
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"I don't do friendships with men, other than Lee. I have lots of sex with him.
I get on better with men then women
Oh I get on great with men, I just don't personally believe that straight men are interested in "just friendship" with women. At least that has been my experience, so I don't form close friendships with men, although we may get on very well.
Then again,my definition of friend is probably more string than most people's.
I believe straight men can be friends, I certainly don't think every man wants to fuck me lol "
Nor do I, only the ones who want to be friends!!! |
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Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol |
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"I'll never understand how women say they get on with men more than women too. Males very rarely say that. So is that women saying there's something they don't like about women in general? Just strange and it's a comment nearly always made by women ha.
A lot of women feel in constant competition with other women perhaps? Or maybe because the men friends secretly want to fuck them they tend to be more agreeable and less challenging as friends "
Its the secretly want to fuck them but I wanted to hear it from those girls haha |
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"I'll never understand how women say they get on with men more than women too. Males very rarely say that. So is that women saying there's something they don't like about women in general? Just strange and it's a comment nearly always made by women ha. "
I find I have better conversations with men bar a few women |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol"
this |
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"I'll never understand how women say they get on with men more than women too. Males very rarely say that. So is that women saying there's something they don't like about women in general? Just strange and it's a comment nearly always made by women ha.
A lot of women feel in constant competition with other women perhaps? Or maybe because the men friends secretly want to fuck them they tend to be more agreeable and less challenging as friends
Its the secretly want to fuck them but I wanted to hear it from those girls haha"
Apparently they're in denial about that possibility!! |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol
this "
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol |
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Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol "
Yes true |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol
this
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol"
What's a man's mentality? |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol
this
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol"
Haha I like you |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol "
So a woman cannot be sexual and be a lady |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol
So a woman cannot be sexual and be a lady "
Don't start now you lol I meant it metaphorically not literally. |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol
So a woman cannot be sexual and be a lady
Don't start now you lol I meant it metaphorically not literally."
Right, because that Madonna/whore thing seems particularly out of place here .... |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol
this
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol
What's a man's mentality? "
I don’t know haha You tell me you’re a guy ha |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol
this
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol
Haha I like you "
Likewise |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol
So a woman cannot be sexual and be a lady
Don't start now you lol I meant it metaphorically not literally.
Right, because that Madonna/whore thing seems particularly out of place here ...."
I don't understand what your trying to say? |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol "
What do you call a lady ? |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol
What do you call a lady ? "
I couldn't possibly define a lady. Maybe you could tell me? Ha |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol
this
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol"
Me too
That's why we get on so well |
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Long story short because I have a date soon, it's up to how could class friends personally, trust and a few other factors. Yes for some and no for some. No for me. |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol
What do you call a lady ?
I couldn't possibly define a lady. Maybe you could tell me? Ha "
Manners, respectful to others, kind, |
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"Women that get on better with men usually think like men lol The filthiest women i know all claim to get on better with men and ironically they all have a man's mentality lol
this
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol
Me too
That's why we get on so well "
So is missus |
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"Well i guess you have to have a man's mentality to get on better with men lol All i know is your some filthy fuckers lol
Any lady i know that gets on better with men.... Is no lady lol
So a woman cannot be sexual and be a lady
Don't start now you lol I meant it metaphorically not literally.
Right, because that Madonna/whore thing seems particularly out of place here ....
I don't understand what your trying to say? "
The dichotomy in some men's minds between women who have class and those who enjoy casual sex |
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this
I have been told I have a mans mentality lol
Me too
That's why we get on so well
So is missus "
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I have a female friend whom I have had sex with on plenty of occasions.
We have known each other a long time and would hang out often.
Sometimes we would be content to just drink or chill together, go out clubbing, or watch TV, while not touching or other times we would cuddle and nothing more and then sometimes we would both be in the mood for sex. We both enjoyed the sex and cuddles but neither of us ever wanted to take things further and we were both cool with just being proper friends (with benefits) but never anything more. I think we both knew that as much as we loved each other as friends that we would never have been compatible as proper partners. She is now in a relationship with someone and I am now in a relationship too, and we're both happy, but I still love her as a friend just as much now as I have always done and I'm sure she is the same. |
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"I just think that as soon as you fuck someone. You cannot refer to them as a friend.
I agree. There's a line you shouldn't cross. EVER"
100% agree ... and it’s easier to find new sexual partners than good genuine friends. |
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"I just think that as soon as you fuck someone. You cannot refer to them as a friend.
I agree. There's a line you shouldn't cross. EVER
100% agree ... and it’s easier to find new sexual partners than good genuine friends. "
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"I just think that as soon as you fuck someone. You cannot refer to them as a friend.
I agree. There's a line you shouldn't cross. EVER
100% agree ... and it’s easier to find new sexual partners than good genuine friends. "
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Don't see any issue in been friends with someone ..I'd rather know who I was getting into bed with and from personal experience I've ended up friends with a few of them a few years on.. Fab works for people in different ways.. |
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