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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So ladies. You meet a guy for a date. Your out having dinner and it's time to pay the bill. Who pays? This question recently popped up after a guy on that first dates tv show split the bill with the girl rather then pay the whole lot.
He received alot of stick particularly from women suggesting men should always pay the bill. Some men hit back saying "it's funny how women want equal rights until it comes to paying the bill" lol
Anyways. Thoughts? Should the guy always pay or is it only fair the bill is split between you both? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I have been out with a few and one date we split the bill, and other the guy paid, and I paid another time if was same guy, so it's only fair not too expect the guy too pay all the time. My opinion anyway, if Both are working, I don't see why not. |
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i like to pay my way regardless so splitting the bill wouldnt be a problem for me atal.. unless its a treat then i dont mind to much if he pays that been said if it was my treat id pay the whole bill.. eat to their own really.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d be the same with a meet or a date. I pay my half. I’ve had battles with guys on dates that they are paying! I say ok fine and then every time they go to the bathroom buy another drink 
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Mean but funny. |
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"I’d be the same with a meet or a date. I pay my half. I’ve had battles with guys on dates that they are paying! I say ok fine and then every time they go to the bathroom buy another drink
Mean but funny."
Buy him a drink not just me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Shell l would cook u dinner with only my apron on at home and u could not buy drinks ??
Any time James sure I left my Gin there "
Thats a good sign u will have to visit again |
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" Shell l would cook u dinner with only my apron on at home and u could not buy drinks ??
Any time James sure I left my Gin there
Thats a good sign u will have to visit again "
Sure told you I’m moving in |
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" Shell l would cook u dinner with only my apron on at home and u could not buy drinks ??
Any time James sure I left my Gin there
Thats a good sign u will have to visit again
Sure told you I’m moving in "
ah slips u do love hes big bed its where i always find u  |
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" Shell l would cook u dinner with only my apron on at home and u could not buy drinks ??
Any time James sure I left my Gin there
Thats a good sign u will have to visit again
Sure told you I’m moving in
ah slips u do love hes big bed its where i always find u "
between the bed the company and the fire why would I not be there  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Personally i feel obliged to pay but i think it's nice / appreciated when a woman at least offers to split the bill. Sadly that's rarely the case. Most women sit quiet and just expect your paying ha |
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"Personally i feel obliged to pay but i think it's nice / appreciated when a woman at least offers to split the bill. Sadly that's rarely the case. Most women sit quiet and just expect your paying ha "
Picking the wrong dates so |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Shell l would cook u dinner with only my apron on at home and u could not buy drinks ??
Any time James sure I left my Gin there
Thats a good sign u will have to visit again
Sure told you I’m moving in
ah slips u do love hes big bed its where i always find u
between the bed the company and the fire why would I not be there "
We'll all move in
James's harem |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Shell l would cook u dinner with only my apron on at home and u could not buy drinks ??
Any time James sure I left my Gin there
Thats a good sign u will have to visit again
Sure told you I’m moving in
ah slips u do love hes big bed its where i always find u
between the bed the company and the fire why would I not be there
We'll all move in
James's harem "
Even I want to move in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always pay half regardless of any other suggestions - no feelings of obligations and it's only fair for everyone.
I would feel uncomfortable otherwise."
This! I'd feel like I owed him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the girl should at least offer to go half.
Even though I always end up paying. But if she at leasts offers I don’t mind paying as much.
When they feel like they’re entitled to a free meal coz we like then that shit really grinds my gears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to pay, reminds me there’s still a gent lurking in the naughtiness. I have friends here that I meet regularly for lunch and a catch up and we tend to take turns. Going to a club I always pay. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally i feel obliged to pay but i think it's nice / appreciated when a woman at least offers to split the bill. Sadly that's rarely the case. Most women sit quiet and just expect your paying ha
Picking the wrong dates so "
I always pay half (hotel, drinks) in my meets, rarely the man pays all
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
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I am probably old fashioned, but on a first meet or date, I will take the bill, no question asked. I am aware that this may conflicts contemporary discussion of gender equality, but I consider it as an old school gentleman’s deed to treat the person I meet, and this actually regardless whether there is sex involved or just a casual meet to make acquaintance . On any repeated occasion of a meet of course I will respect her wish to take whatever share, as I have no intend to violate her dignity and/or feeling of independence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am probably old fashioned, but on a first meet or date, I will take the bill, no question asked. I am aware that this may conflicts contemporary discussion of gender equality, but I consider it as an old school gentleman’s deed to treat the person I meet, and this actually regardless whether there is sex involved or just a casual meet to make acquaintance . On any repeated occasion of a meet of course I will respect her wish to take whatever share, as I have no intend to violate her dignity and/or feeling of independence. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If i was to go on a first date in the real world id always pay,its the gentleman thing to do and most men will agree.
I personaly will treat a "fab" date in the same way as i dont see why it should be any different? |
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"So ladies. You meet a guy for a date. Your out having dinner and it's time to pay the bill. Who pays? This question recently popped up after a guy on that first dates tv show split the bill with the girl rather then pay the whole lot.
He received alot of stick particularly from women suggesting men should always pay the bill. Some men hit back saying "it's funny how women want equal rights until it comes to paying the bill" lol
Anyways. Thoughts? Should the guy always pay or is it only fair the bill is split between you both?"
See the show in question and it was a joke  he offered twice to pay the bill and she insisted to pay half .
The when he said yes to splitting the bill she gets the hump lol |
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I go out the odd time with this lady and it was agreed righ from the start that we share . I paid the first time and the next time she paid . There is a lot of women that will help like that but then you get women that like to be treated . I don't have a problem either way . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally i feel obliged to pay but i think it's nice / appreciated when a woman at least offers to split the bill. Sadly that's rarely the case. Most women sit quiet and just expect your paying ha
Picking the wrong dates so
I always pay half (hotel, drinks) in my meets, rarely the man pays all
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I do like a bottle of Armand de Brignac. Goes down a treat. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When it comes to fab though. Would the ladies feel they "owe" the guy if he pays the bill?
As i said. I'd generally be happy to pay but it's appreciated if the woman at least offers to pay the bill. I think its also an indication that she's enjoying ur company if she's happy to pay her way.
Iam willing to bet also that there's a lot of women that would cancel a date if they found out they would have to split the bill / buy their own drinks etc
Too many women are only interested in taken advantage and being spoiled and feel that all they gotta do to earn that privilege is suck his cock. Sadly they are often right lol |
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"So ladies. You meet a guy for a date. Your out having dinner and it's time to pay the bill. Who pays? This question recently popped up after a guy on that first dates tv show split the bill with the girl rather then pay the whole lot.
He received alot of stick particularly from women suggesting men should always pay the bill. Some men hit back saying "it's funny how women want equal rights until it comes to paying the bill" lol
Anyways. Thoughts? Should the guy always pay or is it only fair the bill is split between you both?"
Haven't watched it but from what I gather he was going to pay then she apparently said about going dutch then went full on bitch when he agreed to it,I am open to correction on this.If this is in fact so then she should go flush her head,blokes get castigated for paying by frickin feminists and they get castigated for paying half. Equality my bollix. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So ladies. You meet a guy for a date. Your out having dinner and it's time to pay the bill. Who pays? This question recently popped up after a guy on that first dates tv show split the bill with the girl rather then pay the whole lot.
He received alot of stick particularly from women suggesting men should always pay the bill. Some men hit back saying "it's funny how women want equal rights until it comes to paying the bill" lol
Anyways. Thoughts? Should the guy always pay or is it only fair the bill is split between you both?"
Split it down the middle is what I say but I'd also agree that if they (the men) are doing the traveling as in at least an hour or two then the woman should foot the bill. Anyway don't agree to a date out unless you have the money to do so its just rude otherwise |
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Seriously, does it really matter..?
Most of the time it’s a coffee or drink meet, so it’s not as if it’s going to break the bank. And frankly insisting on going halfs on something that’s under say €30 is just daft.
Why would you feel the need to make sure you pay half of that...? Symbolism? Independence? Control? Really..??!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously, does it really matter..?
Most of the time it’s a coffee or drink meet, so it’s not as if it’s going to break the bank. And frankly insisting on going halfs on something that’s under say €30 is just daft.
Why would you feel the need to make sure you pay half of that...? Symbolism? Independence? Control? Really..??! "
If it's coffees I don't mind buying. There's a presumption the men should pay, that we need to be looked after. I don't want to be looked after. Fab meets should be on equal ground, vanilla is different |
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"Seriously, does it really matter..?
Most of the time it’s a coffee or drink meet, so it’s not as if it’s going to break the bank. And frankly insisting on going halfs on something that’s under say €30 is just daft.
Why would you feel the need to make sure you pay half of that...? Symbolism? Independence? Control? Really..??!
If it's coffees I don't mind buying. There's a presumption the men should pay, that we need to be looked after. I don't want to be looked after. Fab meets should be on equal ground, vanilla is different "
Looked after...?? Ah come on, that went out the window with the fairies...!! Lol
If I’m meeting someone outside Fab and I called the meet, I pay. If they want to pay half I tell them to catch themselves on if it’s a small amount.. if it’s dinner and they order Fillet Mignon that’s a different matter... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seriously, does it really matter..?
Most of the time it’s a coffee or drink meet, so it’s not as if it’s going to break the bank. And frankly insisting on going halfs on something that’s under say €30 is just daft.
Why would you feel the need to make sure you pay half of that...? Symbolism? Independence? Control? Really..??!
If it's coffees I don't mind buying. There's a presumption the men should pay, that we need to be looked after. I don't want to be looked after. Fab meets should be on equal ground, vanilla is different
Looked after...?? Ah come on, that went out the window with the fairies...!! Lol
If I’m meeting someone outside Fab and I called the meet, I pay. If they want to pay half I tell them to catch themselves on if it’s a small amount.. if it’s dinner and they order Fillet Mignon that’s a different matter... "
Ahhh now that's double standards. .. I'll have the fillet and that €50 bottle of red  |
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If it's coffees I don't mind buying. There's a presumption the men should pay, that we need to be looked after. I don't want to be looked after. Fab meets should be on equal ground, vanilla is different
Looked after...?? Ah come on, that went out the window with the fairies...!! Lol
If I’m meeting someone outside Fab and I called the meet, I pay. If they want to pay half I tell them to catch themselves on if it’s a small amount.. if it’s dinner and they order Fillet Mignon that’s a different matter...
Ahhh now that's double standards. .. I'll have the fillet and that €50 bottle of red "
Aye well f**k the halfers then: you’re paying..!! |
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I do appreciate a the gentlemanly gesture of paying on the first date, but it 100% not expected and I always offer half, it's only fair. If we're just having drinks then time about, I wouldn't feel right him buying all my drinks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If it's coffees I don't mind buying. There's a presumption the men should pay, that we need to be looked after. I don't want to be looked after. Fab meets should be on equal ground, vanilla is different
Looked after...?? Ah come on, that went out the window with the fairies...!! Lol
If I’m meeting someone outside Fab and I called the meet, I pay. If they want to pay half I tell them to catch themselves on if it’s a small amount.. if it’s dinner and they order Fillet Mignon that’s a different matter...
Ahhh now that's double standards. .. I'll have the fillet and that €50 bottle of red
Aye well f**k the halfers then: you’re paying..!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I think the man should without saying go and pay the bill. Eg. Say he's nipping to the toilet and pay the bill on his way. Then there no arguments, its done and dusted.
Personally its not to make your date feel like they owe you but because its the nice thing to do.
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By (user no longer on site)
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What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen"
Well then the guy is a total dick, irrespective of how good he is in the sack... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen"
Seriously ! Has that happened to you or are you putting that out there ?
I was going to say no fella would be such a wanker. But then i remembered what site I'm on |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Seriously ! Has that happened to you or are you putting that out there ?
I was going to say no fella would be such a wanker. But then i remembered what site I'm on "
Oh it happens alright  |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Seriously ! Has that happened to you or are you putting that out there ?
I was going to say no fella would be such a wanker. But then i remembered what site I'm on
Oh it happens alright "
It sure does |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Seriously ! Has that happened to you or are you putting that out there ?
I was going to say no fella would be such a wanker. But then i remembered what site I'm on
Oh it happens alright
It sure does "
A lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"50/50 split always, I don't wanna feel like I owe something whether its a date or a meet. It is nice when a man offers, but then Id feel like I have to at least touch him up lol "
sure what's wrong with that lol
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen"
Has happened to me more than once |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Seriously ! Has that happened to you or are you putting that out there ?
I was going to say no fella would be such a wanker. But then i remembered what site I'm on
Oh it happens alright
It sure does
A lot "
Amazed at that tbh.
I once had a girl fall out with me because after meeting her, I went and met another girl in a nicer hotel !!!
She actually went a bit psycho.
So its not just yous ladies who get it in the neck |
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Oh it happens alright
It sure does
A lot
Amazed at that tbh.
I once had a girl fall out with me because after meeting her, I went and met another girl in a nicer hotel !!!
She actually went a bit psycho.
So its not just yous ladies who get it in the neck "
Think that’s a whole other problem for a whole other thread... |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Has happened to me more than once "
Slips we need to meet each other instead
I still say you can be turned  |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Has happened to me more than once "
And me ??....never again !! |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Has happened to me more than once
And me ??....never again !!"
They don't get a repeat meet |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Has happened to me more than once
Slips we need to meet each other instead
I still say you can be turned "
You and sweets may do it some day |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Has happened to me more than once
Slips we need to meet each other instead
I still say you can be turned
You and sweets may do it some day "
let the cherry popping commence |
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"What about when the woman is left to foot the bill...just expected, with no discussion
And I'm not talking about a coffee but a hotel for a pre arranged meet. It does happen
Has happened to me more than once
Slips we need to meet each other instead
I still say you can be turned
You and sweets may do it some day
let the cherry popping commence "
Think you two would kill me thou I’ve seen you’s in action |
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"Personally I think the man should without saying go and pay the bill. Eg. Say he's nipping to the toilet and pay the bill on his way. Then there no arguments, its done and dusted.
Personally its not to make your date feel like they owe you but because its the nice thing to do.
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No. That's a date scenario, not a Fab one. If it's a Fab hotel meet and your work aren't already stumping the bill, then 50/50.
Coffee/drinks meet, no problems paying but arranged hotel n dinner is equally shared, or somebody is going to feel they owe a performance, regardless of which party it is. I wouldn't want that pressure myself. |
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"Personally I think the man should without saying go and pay the bill. Eg. Say he's nipping to the toilet and pay the bill on his way. Then there no arguments, its done and dusted.
Personally its not to make your date feel like they owe you but because its the nice thing to do.
No. That's a date scenario, not a Fab one. If it's a Fab hotel meet and your work aren't already stumping the bill, then 50/50.
Coffee/drinks meet, no problems paying but arranged hotel n dinner is equally shared, or somebody is going to feel they owe a performance, regardless of which party it is. I wouldn't want that pressure myself."
I totally agree. A fab meet is for both parties pleasure. Why should one half of party foot the bill. I always pay my share as I would feel a bit like a prostitute otherwise.
For hotel or apartmemt meets my motto get a few more to join then the cost is less ..just joking |
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"Personally I think the man should without saying go and pay the bill. Eg. Say he's nipping to the toilet and pay the bill on his way. Then there no arguments, its done and dusted.
Personally its not to make your date feel like they owe you but because its the nice thing to do.
No. That's a date scenario, not a Fab one. If it's a Fab hotel meet and your work aren't already stumping the bill, then 50/50.
Coffee/drinks meet, no problems paying but arranged hotel n dinner is equally shared, or somebody is going to feel they owe a performance, regardless of which party it is. I wouldn't want that pressure myself.
I totally agree. A fab meet is for both parties pleasure. Why should one half of party foot the bill. I always pay my share as I would feel a bit like a prostitute otherwise.
For hotel or apartmemt meets my motto get a few more to join then the cost is less ..just joking "
Yeah, you're joking Red. We believe you too |
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