"Jesus it's all very quiet in here .. not a soul chatting 
Il chat to you Sally 
Lol no one wants to chat to the OP ... poor guy 
Oh o.k did I chat to you before Sally
I think we may have rowdy ... lots of talk about Christmas trees I believe
That's right I must take a visit and bring it back to you
You should. .. I'll make you tea "
Deal.. il be up for tea with my tree |
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"Jesus it's all very quiet in here .. not a soul chatting
Il chat to you Sally
Lol no one wants to chat to the OP ... poor guy
Oh o.k did I chat to you before Sally
I think we may have rowdy ... lots of talk about Christmas trees I believe
That's right I must take a visit and bring it back to you
You should. .. I'll make you tea
Deal.. il be up for tea with my tree "
Ehhh it's my tree  |
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"Jesus it's all very quiet in here .. not a soul chatting
Il chat to you Sally
Lol no one wants to chat to the OP ... poor guy
Oh o.k did I chat to you before Sally
I think we may have rowdy ... lots of talk about Christmas trees I believe
That's right I must take a visit and bring it back to you
You should. .. I'll make you tea
Deal.. il be up for tea with my tree
Ehhh it's my tree
My deal will sort that out "
Lol ... we will have to see about that |
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"Trying out these chat rooms for first time what’s this like"
If you mean the Live Chat, personally I find it shite!
Stick to the forums. Much better craic and often informative in many ways.
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What would any of you couples do if you found out your partner was also swinging with someone else? You had an agreement to only swing together with others x  |
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"What would any of you couples do if you found out your partner was also swinging with someone else? You had an agreement to only swing together with others x "
I'm not a couple but I'd expect that it would be a no go and could end a relationship. Even in the swinging world trust is everything |
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"I only just found out x feel sick as I love him "
Oh shit love I'm sorry ... listen only you know what you want to do. Just be true to yourself, don't let anyone including him influence you. Decide your worth and stick to it. Sending you a hug x |
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"I only just found out x feel sick as I love him
Oh shit love I'm sorry ... listen only you know what you want to do. Just be true to yourself, don't let anyone including him influence you. Decide your worth and stick to it. Sending you a hug x"
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"I only just found out x feel sick as I love him
Oh shit love I'm sorry ... listen only you know what you want to do. Just be true to yourself, don't let anyone including him influence you. Decide your worth and stick to it. Sending you a hug x
Thanks xxx need to do some thinking xx "
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Curiosity is my downfall, sorry.
Was it someone who you both played with before? Is he meeting them in a swinging scenario or 1 on 1?
Does he think that you are swinging without him also, as in he thought that's how both of you would be?
Sorry to hear but it might be a confused understanding/communication issue.
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"Curiosity is my downfall, sorry.
Was it someone who you both played with before? Is he meeting them in a swinging scenario or 1 on 1?
Does he think that you are swinging without him also, as in he thought that's how both of you would be?
Sorry to hear but it might be a confused understanding/communication issue.
Apologies if my response seems trite in any way, it's not meant to be."
Not at all xx
No I’ve never met her, he knows that I’m not swinging without him, the whole point of this is that we are together in a relationship and we do swinging together unless arranged otherwise. Their profile has been up 5 months but says that they were there before and that they are a professional discrete couple. They have met 4/5 different men and couples in that time and he never said a word to me.
Turns out that he knows her 5 years on and off so I’m wondering if there is more to this than just shagging. He’s the type that clams up and sticks his head in the sand so I’m not going to get a real explanation on this, but I’m hurt, I won’t do anything rash, I do know that he loves me so I’ll see how I feel x |
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"Curiosity is my downfall, sorry.
Was it someone who you both played with before? Is he meeting them in a swinging scenario or 1 on 1?
Does he think that you are swinging without him also, as in he thought that's how both of you would be?
Sorry to hear but it might be a confused understanding/communication issue.
Apologies if my response seems trite in any way, it's not meant to be.
Not at all xx
No I’ve never met her, he knows that I’m not swinging without him, the whole point of this is that we are together in a relationship and we do swinging together unless arranged otherwise. Their profile has been up 5 months but says that they were there before and that they are a professional discrete couple. They have met 4/5 different men and couples in that time and he never said a word to me.
Turns out that he knows her 5 years on and off so I’m wondering if there is more to this than just shagging. He’s the type that clams up and sticks his head in the sand so I’m not going to get a real explanation on this, but I’m hurt, I won’t do anything rash, I do know that he loves me so I’ll see how I feel x "
Jayz, that's a huge betrayal of trust.. |
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"Curiosity is my downfall, sorry.
Was it someone who you both played with before? Is he meeting them in a swinging scenario or 1 on 1?
Does he think that you are swinging without him also, as in he thought that's how both of you would be?
Sorry to hear but it might be a confused understanding/communication issue.
Apologies if my response seems trite in any way, it's not meant to be.
Not at all xx
No I’ve never met her, he knows that I’m not swinging without him, the whole point of this is that we are together in a relationship and we do swinging together unless arranged otherwise. Their profile has been up 5 months but says that they were there before and that they are a professional discrete couple. They have met 4/5 different men and couples in that time and he never said a word to me.
Turns out that he knows her 5 years on and off so I’m wondering if there is more to this than just shagging. He’s the type that clams up and sticks his head in the sand so I’m not going to get a real explanation on this, but I’m hurt, I won’t do anything rash, I do know that he loves me so I’ll see how I feel x "
Looks like you are going to have to do the talking, if he's doing the ostrich.
If she's part of a couple, I'm wondering if her other half is aware or possibly part of him playing with her.
Regardless, he's done something that you didn't sign up for.
You have to ask him straight out if there's anything more than sex involved. It may well be just sex.
I'd want to know what he gets there that he can't get at home because, unless it's a specific act, which you aren't into but she is, then I would suspect more than just sex.
Having said that, we have recently had a thread regarding emotions and swinging here. Whilst everyone agrees attraction is a key ingredient, not everyone required an emotional involvement.
So, the only thing to do is open and honest communication with your partner.
As you say he does love you, I expect it will be a positive outcome  |
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Anytime trust is broken it's very hurtful and hard to regain.
I may be cynical but i think it seems to be fairly normal here that one side of a couple often ends up playing without the other.
A good few single women have told me most men in couples they've met always chance their arm after a good meet to try meet alone with them....
i guess it's always a risk when swinging as a couple....
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"Curiosity is my downfall, sorry.
Was it someone who you both played with before? Is he meeting them in a swinging scenario or 1 on 1?
Does he think that you are swinging without him also, as in he thought that's how both of you would be?
Sorry to hear but it might be a confused understanding/communication issue.
Apologies if my response seems trite in any way, it's not meant to be.
Not at all xx
No I’ve never met her, he knows that I’m not swinging without him, the whole point of this is that we are together in a relationship and we do swinging together unless arranged otherwise. Their profile has been up 5 months but says that they were there before and that they are a professional discrete couple. They have met 4/5 different men and couples in that time and he never said a word to me.
Turns out that he knows her 5 years on and off so I’m wondering if there is more to this than just shagging. He’s the type that clams up and sticks his head in the sand so I’m not going to get a real explanation on this, but I’m hurt, I won’t do anything rash, I do know that he loves me so I’ll see how I feel x
Looks like you are going to have to do the talking, if he's doing the ostrich.
If she's part of a couple, I'm wondering if her other half is aware or possibly part of him playing with her.
Regardless, he's done something that you didn't sign up for.
You have to ask him straight out if there's anything more than sex involved. It may well be just sex.
I'd want to know what he gets there that he can't get at home because, unless it's a specific act, which you aren't into but she is, then I would suspect more than just sex.
Having said that, we have recently had a thread regarding emotions and swinging here. Whilst everyone agrees attraction is a key ingredient, not everyone required an emotional involvement.
So, the only thing to do is open and honest communication with your partner.
As you say he does love you, I expect it will be a positive outcome "
Positive! as in kicking his balls to the kerb. |
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