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I'm sitting here with my mam ringing in the new year but she has no idea in bi curious nor bi sexual. I know it's going to crush her as she is very old school with certain things... do I tell her or still stay quite...
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over a year ago
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Does she need to know??? Thats all id be asking. Especially if its gonna crush her. Only u can really answer your own question. Best of luck whatever u do |
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Depends on your relationship with your Mam. If you were in a relationship with a woman then yeh I would but if it’s not a pressing issue right now I wouldn’t if it would upset her!
I only had a chat with my teenage daughter about being bi the other day. Told her if she decide that’s her life she could tell me. Times are different now. There are things I’d never tell my Mam and I’m super close to her!
Maybe wait till there’s no drink involved lol best of luck with either decision x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m sure she’ll be very proud of you no matter if you tell her or not and she’ll love you still the same. Your the only one to answer that question but perhaps leave it till tomorrow or sound her out first jokingly to see what she’d say. |
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Why tell her Laura? What difference would it make in how she lives her life?
I don't think you should, as it's not something that will change how she views you, I hope, though if it is and you would be putting confusion or questioning into her mind, about how she raised you or otherwise, then why tell her.
She's of a generation that find these things hard to accept, regardless of what they say.
Keep schtum about it and let her go on happy as she is, thinking she has a "normal" daughter. |
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Speaking as a parent of one gay child and as the uncle of two others, You may be very pleasantly suprised. A parent's loyalty and love is to their child and it does'nt matter a fuck what their orientation is. Go for it girl! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why tell her Laura? What difference would it make in how she lives her life?
I don't think you should, as it's not something that will change how she views you, I hope, though if it is and you would be putting confusion or questioning into her mind, about how she raised you or otherwise, then why tell her.
She's of a generation that find these things hard to accept, regardless of what they say.
Keep schtum about it and let her go on happy as she is, thinking she has a "normal" daughter. "
what do you mean a 'normal daughter' she is normal..
Laura go with your heart only you know if your Man can take it, my Mam did with my brother |
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As a parent myself..if either of my children confided in me that they were bi or bisexual...I would feel very proud in that they had the confidence to tell..I wouldnt love them less or more. As long as they are safe and happy, that will do me. |
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"Why tell her Laura? What difference would it make in how she lives her life?
I don't think you should, as it's not something that will change how she views you, I hope, though if it is and you would be putting confusion or questioning into her mind, about how she raised you or otherwise, then why tell her.
She's of a generation that find these things hard to accept, regardless of what they say.
Keep schtum about it and let her go on happy as she is, thinking she has a "normal" daughter. what do you mean a 'normal daughter' she is normal..
Laura go with your heart only you know if your Man can take it, my Mam did with my brother"
I put "normal" in quotes on purpose. So that everyone would understand that I meant that in the classic, old school sense, as in only likes boys.
I was not being derogatory and I am fairly sure Laura understands how I meant it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does your sexuality need her validation or condemnation?
I think leave it a week.
New Years / Xmas is very emotionally overloaded already, I ld hold off on the big reveal for a quieter time. |
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"As a parent myself..if either of my children confided in me that they were bi or bisexual...I would feel very proud in that they had the confidence to tell..I wouldnt love them less or more. As long as they are safe and happy, that will do me."
a great parent well done
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By *oxminxCouple
over a year ago
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I didnt tell mam till i was moving in with my gf. She was very hurt knowing i had introduced gfs as just friends prior to that. Mam felt i was making a fool of her for many years.
My advice would be to tell her as early as possible.
Best of luck and enjoy Mel×
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good for you Laura, hope it went well /goes well for you. Honesty is usually the best policy. I'm a man beast ,I'm honest + I just want to be loved and respected too. Lol. Harry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi I was replying with words of encouragement then realised you went ahead. Both my sons came out when aged 18 and 17 and the older boy despite knowing I didn't care about his sexuality was still hesitant. The doubt, I think will always be there for some about family reactions. But that said I am so happy for you that you did and I bet your Mum is just a little bit more protective of you, I know I was. Hugs xx
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