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I can understand how it could happen. You are doing the most intimate thing two people can do. Sometimes emotional problems can come into play. After two years you are bound to know personal details about each other. It's difficult not to be emotionally involved if they are having a bad time of it.
You would want to be a cold person otherwise.
Alternative is to lay down rules about personal lives from the beginning but everyone hates rules. |
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over a year ago
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I don't see myself as a cold person I just know what it is sex and nothing else if there's any feelings there it's not a fuck buddy it's heading for jealousy or a relationship... |
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"Has anyone ever fallen for their fuck buddy. I met mine 2 years ago now and I've very strong feeling for them "
OP you should speak with your FB and who know they might feel the same.. but good luck.. |
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"I don't see myself as a cold person I just know what it is sex and nothing else if there's any feelings there it's not a fuck buddy it's heading for jealousy or a relationship..."
Agree with you here hence I ended it |
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I didn't say that you were pretty. It is all about sex at the start but after two years. Come on. Surely there must be some sort of feelings. Especially if not in a group setting. Just one on one.
Us men mostly keep our feelings to ourselves. Sometimes it's easier to to put stuff out there to a fuck buddy than it is to someone in your everyday life.
I'm not saying there should be a relationship or jealousy. It's another side to sex in terms of friends with benefits.
I've been there and I've confided stuff in one particular fuck buddy than I ever have with anyone else. |
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"Has anyone ever fallen for their fuck buddy. I met mine 2 years ago now and I've very strong feeling for them
OP you should speak with your FB and who know they might feel the same.. but good luck.."
After 2 years you really need to have a good chat...if you're both single and have no complications you've nothing to lose. |
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I've had FB many years ago. Always made it clear that it was nothing but fucking and enjoying time when we were together. Had occasions when they actually met then girlfriends when out and all was cool, though the sex afterwards was a touch more vigorous, I recall. However they always knew there was no point in thinking it was anything more than physical.
I think if you are upfront and honest about the situation, everyone is in the same place, or can walk away without any animosity. Simples.
Two years or twenty, doesn't matter. A FB is just that, unless both of you are single and both begin to make it something more, not just one of you. |
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"I've had FB many years ago. Always made it clear that it was nothing but fucking and enjoying time when we were together. Had occasions when they actually met then girlfriends when out and all was cool, though the sex afterwards was a touch more vigorous, I recall. However they always knew there was no point in thinking it was anything more than physical.
I think if you are upfront and honest about the situation, everyone is in the same place, or can walk away without any animosity. Simples.
Two years or twenty, doesn't matter. A FB is just that, unless both of you are single and both begin to make it something more, not just one of you."
Some very valid points mate. |
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"IMO there's two ways to deal with it either tell her and see what happens or go for a cure and shag someone else.  "
Shagging someone else is not necessarily a cure. Might be good for that day but if feelings have developed with FB, then the only way to sort that out is talking about it, straight up, face to face, with the FB. |
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"Problem is we are both married "
You are living in dreamland then, because your fucking with FB is all the more sweeter as it is your secret reprieve from real life, however if it became a real relationship, it would get boring and humdrum and the sheen would come off. |
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"Problem is we are both married
You are living in dreamland then, because your fucking with FB is all the more sweeter as it is your secret reprieve from real life, however if it became a real relationship, it would get boring and humdrum and the sheen would come off. "
That dimension does change the dynamic. There is no easy way out of that one... |
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"Problem is we are both married
You are living in dreamland then, because your fucking with FB is all the more sweeter as it is your secret reprieve from real life, however if it became a real relationship, it would get boring and humdrum and the sheen would come off. "
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Yes I found we both developed feelings, him more intense than mine as he was single. Had to end it.. for practical reasons. It was very difficult as the sex was fantastic too.
I’ve yet to find a replacement for him.., over 2 yrs later. Sigh |
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"Yes I found we both developed feelings, him more intense than mine as he was single. Had to end it.. for practical reasons. It was very difficult as the sex was fantastic too.
I’ve yet to find a replacement for him.., over 2 yrs later. Sigh "
Ahem... hello there |
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If ur going to do the fuck buddy thing on fab or elsewhere single or attached.you need to keep a good perspective on the situation.its nsa fun not a relationship.use ur head not ur heart. |
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I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things... |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things... "
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases"
ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall |
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"I don't see myself as a cold person I just know what it is sex and nothing else if there's any feelings there it's not a fuck buddy it's heading for jealousy or a relationship...
Agree with you here hence I ended it "
You meeting again |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall "
There shouldn't be a problem In texting after a meet if two people get on .That can be nice .once the two people fully aware of the situation and honest. |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall "
Very true people. Texting wont be happening as much in future. Yet to find the next fb. And yes i def think it should run its course naturally. Just let me down gently wont u miss fab  |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall
Very true people. Texting wont be happening as much in future. Yet to find the next fb. And yes i def think it should run its course naturally. Just let me down gently wont u miss fab "
If it even starts lol  |
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I don't think too much about feelings, either to encourage them or to prevent them. I'm the same person with anyone I meet, here or anywhere, I'm open and chatty and usually find that the people I meet are the same with me. Sometimes feelings do develop, it doesn't mean I want to run away with anyone or they with me. Feelings don't have to become obsessive or possessive. I can care deeply about someone and still be happy to see him or her enjoy other people. |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese
things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall
There shouldn't be a problem In texting after a meet if two people get on .That can be nice .once the two people fully aware of the situation and honest."
Maybe i am not a hardened swinger but i would be dissapointed if my meets did not consider me a friend afterwards and kept in touch on fab i have meet some very interesting and lovely people male and female that in my vanilla life i would never have meet who i consider now my friends |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall
Very true people. Texting wont be happening as much in future. Yet to find the next fb. And yes i def think it should run its course naturally. Just let me down gently wont u miss fab
If it even starts lol "
Well yeah thats what i was hinting at haha... heres hoping  |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall
There shouldn't be a problem In texting after a meet if two people get on .That can be nice .once the two people fully aware of the situation and honest."
will you be my fuck buddy.  |
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"I have had 2 different fb-s developing feelings in the past. Was tough to end it as it was great sex but had to be done. Pity really. I was able to seperate things but i do like to chat and have a laugh so maybe that confused things...
Nothing wrong with chatting and laughing.thats essential.theese things do happen .once it's fixed and not dragged on till more hurt is involved.sometimes regular fuck buddy's are only meant for a certain length of time and not on a long term constant bases ye definitely agree I there's obviously going to be an attraction or you wouldn't meet in the first place but if you're constantly txtn after meets and the likes of that I feel your setting yourself up for a fall
Very true people. Texting wont be happening as much in future. Yet to find the next fb. And yes i def think it should run its course naturally. Just let me down gently wont u miss fab
If it even starts lol "
I get what your saying but the more your txtn and ringing each other the stronger the bond.. Easy to go from FB to having feelings for the person.. It's a thin line |
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"I don't think too much about feelings, either to encourage them or to prevent them. I'm the same person with anyone I meet, here or anywhere, I'm open and chatty and usually find that the people I meet are the same with me. Sometimes feelings do develop, it doesn't mean I want to run away with anyone or they with
me. Feelings don't have to become obsessive or possessive. I can care deeply about someone and still be happy to see him or her enjoy other people. "
I love this and totally agree - I ld love or to think if I click with someone and have physical and amiable fun with them, that we would still feel a warmth towards each other and consider each other an arms reach friend when the physical stuff runs it’s course.
One thing I don’t like about the Fab approach: it appears liberal, but many people have lots of “contact rules”, which kinda makes it conformist. Out with the nonsensical rules, in with the mutual respect. |
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"I don't think too much about feelings, either to encourage them or to prevent them. I'm the same person with anyone I meet, here or anywhere, I'm open and chatty and usually find that the people I meet are the same with me. Sometimes feelings do develop, it doesn't mean I want to run away with anyone or they with
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me. Feelings don't have to become obsessive or possessive. I can care deeply about someone and still be happy to see him or her enjoy other people.
I love this and totally agree - I ld love or to think if I click with someone and have physical and amiable fun with them, that we would still feel a warmth towards each other and consider each other an arms reach friend when the physical stuff runs it’s course.
One thing I don’t like about the Fab approach: it appears liberal, but many people have lots of “contact rules”, which kinda makes it conformist. Out with the nonsensical rules, in with the mutual respect. "
Wise words from one so beautiful |
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"I don't think too much about feelings, either to encourage them or to prevent them. I'm the same person with anyone I meet, here or anywhere, I'm open and chatty and usually find that the people I meet are the same with me. Sometimes feelings do develop, it doesn't mean I want to run away with anyone or they with
me. Feelings don't have to become obsessive or possessive. I can care deeply about someone and still be happy to see him or her enjoy other people.
I love this and totally agree - I ld love or to think if I click with someone and have physical and amiable fun with them, that we would still feel a warmth towards each other and consider each other an arms reach friend when the physical stuff runs it’s course.
One thing I don’t like about the Fab approach: it appears liberal, but many people have lots of “contact rules”, which kinda makes it conformist. Out with the nonsensical rules, in with the mutual respect. "
that's a great point.. Fab can be a crazy place |
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Being attached, having a fuck buddy and on a swingers site. There's a lot going on there OP. Maybe step back a little. But feelings can develop its human nature. If it's what two people want then go for it , if not walk away. Communication is the key. Some people have formed relationships through fab and continue as a couple. Nobody knows what will happen when they meet someone.  |
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I love this and totally agree - I ld love or to think if I click with someone and have physical and amiable fun with them, that we would still feel a warmth towards each other and consider each other an arms reach friend when the physical stuff runs it’s course.
One thing I don’t like about the Fab approach: it appears liberal, but many people have lots of “contact rules”, which kinda makes it conformist. Out with the nonsensical rules, in with the mutual respect. "
Totally agree |
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"Being attached, having a fuck buddy and on a swingers site. There's a lot going on there OP. Maybe step back a little. But feelings can develop its human nature. If it's what two people want then go for it , if not walk away. Communication is the key. Some people have formed relationships through fab and continue as a couple. Nobody knows what will happen when they meet someone. "
1,000,000 percent... if you fall in love with someone and they back with you, and for whatever reason there is difficulty, one or both married.... distance etc... be true to your heart because life is too short to regret not taking the chance. |
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"Problem is we are both married "
Now you do have a problem,Ouch I fear youre popularity ratings here will now take a beating . You need to have a serious chat with youre self never mind anyone else in the first instance .Youre marraige could be over and you just dont know it . In any event lad,take stock be kind to youre family and protect youre self .Best of luck all the same . I was gonna say Happy Xmas ,but I feel youre mind might be otherwise occupied this Christmas , but have a good one anyways . Harry |
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"Problem is we are both married
Now you do have a problem,Ouch I fear youre popularity ratings here will now take a beating . You need to have a serious chat with youre self never mind anyone else in the first instance .Youre marraige could be over and you just dont know it . In any event lad,take stock be kind to youre family and protect youre self .Best of luck all the same . I was gonna say Happy Xmas ,but I feel youre mind might be otherwise occupied this Christmas , but have a good one anyways . Harry"
Ah I see your the cunt of Christmas past. |
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"Problem is we are both married
Now you do have a problem,Ouch I fear youre popularity ratings here will now take a beating . You need to have a serious chat with youre self never mind anyone else in the first instance .Youre marraige could be over and you just dont know it . In any event lad,take stock be kind to youre family and protect youre self .Best of luck all the same . I was gonna say Happy Xmas ,but I feel youre mind might be otherwise occupied this Christmas , but have a good one anyways . Harry
Ah I see your the cunt of Christmas past."
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I love this and totally agree - I ld love or to think if I click with someone and have physical and amiable fun with them, that we would still feel a warmth towards each other and consider each other an arms reach friend when the physical stuff runs it’s course.
One thing I don’t like about the Fab approach: it appears liberal, but many people have lots of “contact rules”, which kinda makes it conformist. Out with the nonsensical rules, in with the mutual respect.
Totally agree "
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