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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In the last few months I tried to network with lads on fab for several reasons, mostly because from time to time my MF friends ask me to recommend a man to them, or to bring additional M or few Ms to night of fun.
My friends don't want just a stunt cock, but a nice reliable man that for specific fantasy meets specific requirements!!
Few guys I already met socially enjoyed some fun thanks to connection to me and also I have been blessed with benefits of gaining access to their network.
However, my network is not big enough to be able to always find the right man for the right job and I am finding it extremely frustrating that lads have other lads blocked or are paranoid about talking to another man..., as it limits my chance to network with them and it limits opportunity for them to be involved in something amazing.
You may ask, why couples wouldn't get in touch with these men directly?
Often because it's a surprise for the lady and using their couple account for communication put at risk that she will see reply from the lad before it gets picked by the husband and deleted. Also, they not always have enough time to do all the networking, validation by themselves by the time they plan their fun.
So my appeal to men on here is the following: If you are from Dublin, or happy to travel to Dublin for some group fun, please get in touch. Let's grab pint together next year and chat.
If you are the type of a guy that doesn't struggle to pull attractive women in vanilla life, or that attractive women find you good looking, you are the type of a guy I am happy to network with.
Also, those that connected with me that have not expressed the desire and mode any effort to grab a social drink with me, will be dropped from my contacts over the next while. I am exhausted extending invitations for a chat and facing this paranoia from lads to talk to another man face to face. How can you expect to be introduced to a beautiful lady, who's somebody's wife, when you display this sort of behaviour?
So, let's make January a month of networking lads! 
Just wondering what drives your distrust in other men here and not wanting to network or chat with other well verified male profiles? Same goes for receiving verifications from M profiles after MFM fun? What are you so afraid about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Peer support network, interesting initiative, I would be more than happy to put my particular skill set into the mix, for review purposes, over a drink. I've admired your principled approach to swinging, should make for an interesting conversation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This sounds like a great idea and if it wasn't for distance I'd be up for it.
It also sounds a lot classier than the guy who mailed me asking to swap slut details recently  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My distrust comes from males pretending to be couples with fake pics,google search is amazing.
Also straight males asking to be a part of a gangbang with a woman,when in truth the male is bi and is wanting some male on male fun.no thanks Im straight and nothing will change that.
And then theres couples who talk the talk but wont walk the walk when it comes to actually meeting up socially,all the excuses come out suddenly.And thats when they are the ones who state about a social meet.
So yeah OP,go for it,great idea
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's great to see there is positive response from the male part of the lifestyle.
First meet is almost finalised for the first small group. Amazing.
I will be brutally honest to say that I am inviting only those gentlemen that I think my friends will like.
But, it seems there is a need and desire for more networking from within the male part of the community. Lads, organise own meets over pints and network, network, network. Hopefully, this will result in more happy ladies and more group fun they will get from the male part of FAB.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's great to see there is positive response from the male part of the lifestyle.
First meet is almost finalised for the first small group. Amazing.
I will be brutally honest to say that I am inviting only those gentlemen that I think my friends will like.
But, it seems there is a need and desire for more networking from within the male part of the community. Lads, organise own meets over pints and network, network, network. Hopefully, this will result in more happy ladies and more group fun they will get from the male part of FAB.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fair play to you OP
As a couple, looking to try organise a mmmf or something similar type groups proves a tough task and the only option being to ask single profiles if they know of or can recommend someone else.
Proves too time consuming and messy.
Your approach is a breath of fresh air
Well done
Keep us tuned on progress
DnA
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So lovely to see that what I wrote in the original post meets needs of F and MF (also thank you for private messages about it).
Hopefully this will start a change of attitude towards single lads on forum... Or am I hoping for too much and earlier hell freezes than single lads get good treatment on FAB forums? |
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Well done OP for the initiative.
I'll count myself out as I certainly don't count in the instantly attractive to ladies or wielder of the Jedi sword either.
Hope it goes well but do make sure it doesn't become a"clique" or the forums slagging will be mental |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fair play OP!
Think this is a great idea.
I'd be happy to have a pint and a chat with you.
I second that but I am Donegal "
;;Note to self plan a trip to donegal at some point soon. Can then say ‘I’m in ur area lol’ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Totally agree OP in fact back in my fresh faced naive days of Fab I even tried organising a guy's only social.....let's just say I ran into alot of the same problems you seem to be having  "
Really? I though that night was a success? I wasn't following the forum that closely though. |
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"Totally agree OP in fact back in my fresh faced naive days of Fab I even tried organising a guy's only social.....let's just say I ran into alot of the same problems you seem to be having
Really? I though that night was a success? I wasn't following the forum that closely though."
Unfortunately not, almost everyone bailed last minute or straight up ghosted me with no excuse. It wasn't all bad I had a few fab friends that showed up to save the night but I learned then that guys on fab aren't the most reliable always
But I really do think we should try and network more so good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think this is a very constructive way to go about things - can be busy at work regularly but more than welcome to hear more and meet for a coffee to discuss more |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Totally agree OP in fact back in my fresh faced naive days of Fab I even tried organising a guy's only social.....let's just say I ran into alot of the same problems you seem to be having
Really? I though that night was a success? I wasn't following the forum that closely though.
Unfortunately not, almost everyone bailed last minute or straight up ghosted me with no excuse. It wasn't all bad I had a few fab friends that showed up to save the night but I learned then that guys on fab aren't the most reliable always
But I really do think we should try and network more so good luck "
Their loss. You are sound guy. Met you at socia in October. You are reliable.
But you are right. Many lads are too shy. I think they want but get scared at the end. We all been there but some of us decided to show up and now we are enjoying the lifestyle |
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Yes remember meeting you back then and I look forward to the chance to chat in person again.
If this networking movement takes off maybe I'll try the guys social thing again but this time I'll keep it to just a short list of reliable fabbers... hell maybe I'll just make it co-ed and that'll sort all the problems |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"In the last few months I tried to network with lads on fab for several reasons, mostly because from time to time my MF friends ask me to recommend a man to them, or to bring additional M or few Ms to night of fun.
My friends don't want just a stunt cock, but a nice reliable man that for specific fantasy meets specific requirements!!
Few guys I already met socially enjoyed some fun thanks to connection to me and also I have been blessed with benefits of gaining access to their network.
However, my network is not big enough to be able to always find the right man for the right job and I am finding it extremely frustrating that lads have other lads blocked or are paranoid about talking to another man..., as it limits my chance to network with them and it limits opportunity for them to be involved in something amazing.
You may ask, why couples wouldn't get in touch with these men directly?
Often because it's a surprise for the lady and using their couple account for communication put at risk that she will see reply from the lad before it gets picked by the husband and deleted. Also, they not always have enough time to do all the networking, validation by themselves by the time they plan their fun.
So my appeal to men on here is the following: If you are from Dublin, or happy to travel to Dublin for some group fun, please get in touch. Let's grab pint together next year and chat.
If you are the type of a guy that doesn't struggle to pull attractive women in vanilla life, or that attractive women find you good looking, you are the type of a guy I am happy to network with.
Also, those that connected with me that have not expressed the desire and mode any effort to grab a social drink with me, will be dropped from my contacts over the next while. I am exhausted extending invitations for a chat and facing this paranoia from lads to talk to another man face to face. How can you expect to be introduced to a beautiful lady, who's somebody's wife, when you display this sort of behaviour?
So, let's make January a month of networking lads!
Just wondering what drives your distrust in other men here and not wanting to network or chat with other well verified male profiles? Same goes for receiving verifications from M profiles after MFM fun? What are you so afraid about?"
Brilliant idea I wish they would do this over here too x |
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Wouldn’t it be great to have a trustworthy guy who could recommend decent respectful mates to join in some fun. When I planned mmf’s etc I spent so much time searching, chatting & shopping about that it took away some of the kink, it felt like I was interviewing for a job lol.
Good luck op & can I throw my 2cents in... if u were to offer to assist f & mf in finding their perfect playmates & it didn’t necessary have to include u would u think about expanding ur age preferences. I know I came across ur profile b4 & tried messaging but I’m outside ur preference which I respect but if u were to be networking & wanting contacts & fabfriends would u not want to include a wider audience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wouldn’t it be great to have a trustworthy guy who could recommend decent respectful mates to join in some fun. When I planned mmf’s etc I spent so much time searching, chatting & shopping about that it took away some of the kink, it felt like I was interviewing for a job lol.
Good luck op & can I throw my 2cents in... if u were to offer to assist f & mf in finding their perfect playmates & it didn’t necessary have to include u would u think about expanding ur age preferences. I know I came across ur profile b4 & tried messaging but I’m outside ur preference which I respect but if u were to be networking & wanting contacts & fabfriends would u not want to include a wider audience. "
I hope more guys will start networking between each other, so once you find one guy that you are happy with, he can recommend another man that he is comfortable to play with. MMF or MMMF, in my humble opinion, are much better when gents know one another and are not competing but working as a team in such set up (I don't like playing with those 100% super straight lads, as they can display high discomfort in group play when being close to another man, which can kill the mood).
As I mentioned before, I network for the benefit of my friends and my own (so only limited to men that I think my friends would like and I would want to play alongside, etc.). I don't have ambitions to be the central point of reference for people I don't know etc. This would have taken too much time from my already busy life.
If you see my verification from a social or play scenario on a single guy's account, that means I am recommending him (wording of my verification will make it clear).
You say how much time it took to plan your mmf, what I get sometimes annoyed with is, when I spend hours on looking for guys for gangbang and later the MF that asked for my help, goes radio silent and doesn't cancel the thing, just stops communication. I had that happening 3 times to me already and that is why I am limiting my help to close friends and I will not longer handle communication. Only will advise whom I suggest and why and it will be up to them to organise, confirm etc. So I don't look like a time waster to the lads that spoke with me etc.
Lads, if you get a message from me asking for a pint and chat, would be great if you found time and met me for a short convo. Don't be afraid... haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Lads, you are missing the point. The shout out is not for lads to apply for networking with me, I will choose and contact guys I am interested in chatting with and hopefully they will not have single lads blocked from contacting them... if they do, I will fab the pic and hopefully they understand it’s for that purpose (some already understood that, which is great).
The shout out if for guys to start networking with others as it simply helps and is needed.
The idea is that we don’t treat each other as competition but start cooperating. But not just with me... :P Do it with other lads too! |
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