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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. "
I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women
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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women "
Not judging by the countless moaning threads they couldn’t  |
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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women
Not judging by the countless moaning threads they couldn’t "
I wouldn't necessarily call them moaning. alot is stating fact. |
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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women "
I have found it very common in men so without actual evidence I don't think it's fair to say it's exclusively applies to men or women  |
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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women "
Depending it's not only black and white and so many types of relationships people can get into in this scene or any other... It's all about communication and express what you want... Again I'll be jealous/upset only if is behind my back. |
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I get jealous even if it's just casual sex and there was no exclusive agreement but I'd keep the jealousy to myself. I'd rather one regular girl too. I even find texting two girls at the same time too tiring haha. Plus even when a girl says she's cool not being exclusive she still doesn't want you to show any sign of having another girl even if she knows you do. Multiple women on the go is too stressful haha |
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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women
I have found it very common in men so without actual evidence I don't think it's fair to say it's exclusively applies to men or women "
I can only speak for myself and the usual mentality of younger(ish) men joining no strings fun sites. why limit yourself to one person |
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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women
Depending it's not only black and white and so many types of relationships people can get into in this scene or any other... It's all about communication and express what you want... Again I'll be jealous/upset only if is behind my back. "
id love to be able to do an anonymous survey. I'd say 90 % of people who sign up here do so at the beginning for no strings sex |
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"I get jealous even if it's just casual sex and there was no exclusive agreement but I'd keep the jealousy to myself. I'd rather one regular girl too. I even find texting two girls at the same time too tiring haha. Plus even when a girl says she's cool not being exclusive she still doesn't want you to show any sign of having another girl even if she knows you do. Multiple women on the go is too stressful haha"
one regular girl for sex and seen one another often is a recipe for disaster. in most cases feelings on someones part will become involved
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest "
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust."
what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person "
Some people aren't built for multiple partners. I definitely am not. I signed up for casual sex cause things are quiet in the real world but I've backed away from every opportunity of it on this so far haha |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person "
Because not everyone is here for the same reason... And it's allowed! |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person "
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them... |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Some people aren't built for multiple partners. I definitely am not. I signed up for casual sex cause things are quiet in the real world but I've backed away from every opportunity of it on this so far haha "
And that's totally your choice and should be respected. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Because not everyone is here for the same reason... And it's allowed! "
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them..."
it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more? |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?"
Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for |
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If exclusivity is one sided it's obviously not a mutual agreement. And if it's not a mutual agreement and you get jealous because your fb meets others, well maybe you're on the wrong site. Simples. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for"
it's a site where people sign up for sex. like my post said, asked the vast majority what they signed up for. I'll be honest I signed up for sex. swinging I knew nothing about only that couples partner swap, again for sex |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?"
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person."
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person."
NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for"
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications. |
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"If exclusivity is one sided it's obviously not a mutual agreement. And if it's not a mutual agreement and you get jealous because your fb meets others, well maybe you're on the wrong site. Simples. "
.... actually had a couple of msgs from a woman who's fb had been msging me .. she was trying to be flippant about it but the vibes i got where back off ..so i did ..   |
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"If exclusivity is one sided it's obviously not a mutual agreement. And if it's not a mutual agreement and you get jealous because your fb meets others, well maybe you're on the wrong site. Simples. .... actually had a couple of msgs from a woman who's fb had been msging me .. she was trying to be flippant about it but the vibes i got where back off ..so i did .. "
a woman on here messaged you to stay away from a fella? |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more. "
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. |
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"If exclusivity is one sided it's obviously not a mutual agreement. And if it's not a mutual agreement and you get jealous because your fb meets others, well maybe you're on the wrong site. Simples. .... actually had a couple of msgs from a woman who's fb had been msging me .. she was trying to be flippant about it but the vibes i got where back off ..so i did .. a woman on here messaged you to stay away from a fella? "
... quite simply yes .. started the convo about a pic yhen progressed to oh you know "blah" hes my fb ..then proceeded to slag him off to me .. in other words stay away  |
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications."
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done? |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. "
my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties. "
I've no doubt that others use the site differently as for what it is intended. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
I've no doubt that others use the site differently as for what it is intended."
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications.
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done?"
I think that's their own choice to make. I got no issue with what someone else is looking for. My point is that such people are seeking what I would call exclusive FB as opposed to being part of the swinging scene, what ever that means. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
I've no doubt that others use the site differently as for what it is intended.meaning?"
As you stated above that others have signed up with the intention of using it for sex and not for swinging. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
I've no doubt that others use the site differently as for what it is intended.meaning?
As you stated above that others have signed up with the intention of using it for sex and not for swinging."
I don't mean that. I mean some want sex and then want more. they want that one person to themselves |
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications.
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done?
I think that's their own choice to make. I got no issue with what someone else is looking for. My point is that such people are seeking what I would call exclusive FB as opposed to being part of the swinging scene, what ever that means."
That's slightly different from your previous post but anyway if that's what they want from this site and find someone that's compatible with their needs then good for them or maybe they are just slow burners and are biding their time before their swinging cherry is popped 
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
I've no doubt that others use the site differently as for what it is intended.meaning?
As you stated above that others have signed up with the intention of using it for sex and not for swinging.I don't mean that. I mean some want sex and then want more. they want that one person to themselves "
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications.
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done?
I think that's their own choice to make. I got no issue with what someone else is looking for. My point is that such people are seeking what I would call exclusive FB as opposed to being part of the swinging scene, what ever that means.
That's slightly different from your previous post but anyway if that's what they want from this site and find someone that's compatible with their needs then good for them or maybe they are just slow burners and are biding their time before their swinging cherry is popped
There are lot's of elements to swinging and the scene. "
the only element to me is that no strings sex is on offer. I'll openly admit i have never gone to parties or meet and greets and prob never will but I'll also admit before signing up here I know nothing about parties and meet and greets |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
I've no doubt that others use the site differently as for what it is intended.meaning?
As you stated above that others have signed up with the intention of using it for sex and not for swinging.I don't mean that. I mean some want sex and then want more. they want that one person to themselves
But really isn't that their business and their issue to deal with."
it is but that's where my title jealousy comes in. if every one just played and fucked with who the wanted all would be rosy. not mailing others saying "don't go near him" "don't go near her" etc |
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications.
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done?
I think that's their own choice to make. I got no issue with what someone else is looking for. My point is that such people are seeking what I would call exclusive FB as opposed to being part of the swinging scene, what ever that means.
That's slightly different from your previous post but anyway if that's what they want from this site and find someone that's compatible with their needs then good for them or maybe they are just slow burners and are biding their time before their swinging cherry is popped
There are lot's of elements to swinging and the scene. "
My question was in response to what I quoted.
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This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for"
I never suggested or implied that they were a problem only that there lots of profiles of that ilk on FAB.
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications.
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done?
I think that's their own choice to make. I got no issue with what someone else is looking for. My point is that such people are seeking what I would call exclusive FB as opposed to being part of the swinging scene, what ever that means.
That's slightly different from your previous post but anyway if that's what they want from this site and find someone that's compatible with their needs then good for them or maybe they are just slow burners and are biding their time before their swinging cherry is popped
There are lot's of elements to swinging and the scene. the only element to me is that no strings sex is on offer. I'll openly admit i have never gone to parties or meet and greets and prob never will but I'll also admit before signing up here I know nothing about parties and meet and greets "
Ok I'm very confused now.. so please correct me if I'm wrong..
You signed up here for casual sex but yet you don't want to do anything about achieving it? Am I right or have I gotten lost somewhere? |
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications.
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done?
I think that's their own choice to make. I got no issue with what someone else is looking for. My point is that such people are seeking what I would call exclusive FB as opposed to being part of the swinging scene, what ever that means.
That's slightly different from your previous post but anyway if that's what they want from this site and find someone that's compatible with their needs then good for them or maybe they are just slow burners and are biding their time before their swinging cherry is popped
There are lot's of elements to swinging and the scene. the only element to me is that no strings sex is on offer. I'll openly admit i have never gone to parties or meet and greets and prob never will but I'll also admit before signing up here I know nothing about parties and meet and greets
Ok I'm very confused now.. so please correct me if I'm wrong..
You signed up here for casual sex but yet you don't want to do anything about achieving it? Am I right or have I gotten lost somewhere?"
I never said I don't want to do anything about achieving it. I said the vast majority of others signed up day one for sex also. |
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Your mixing up two separate arguments, swinging and casual sex . This is a swinging site, that's what you sign up for
So what should be done about all the profiles where they specifically state they are looking for one, maybe two playmates and they go on to say they don't want to hear from people with loads of verifications.
It's their profile so it's their choice to whom they meet..What do you think should be done?
I think that's their own choice to make. I got no issue with what someone else is looking for. My point is that such people are seeking what I would call exclusive FB as opposed to being part of the swinging scene, what ever that means.
That's slightly different from your previous post but anyway if that's what they want from this site and find someone that's compatible with their needs then good for them or maybe they are just slow burners and are biding their time before their swinging cherry is popped
There are lot's of elements to swinging and the scene. the only element to me is that no strings sex is on offer. I'll openly admit i have never gone to parties or meet and greets and prob never will but I'll also admit before signing up here I know nothing about parties and meet and greets
Ok I'm very confused now.. so please correct me if I'm wrong..
You signed up here for casual sex but yet you don't want to do anything about achieving it? Am I right or have I gotten lost somewhere? I never said I don't want to do anything about achieving it. I said the vast majority of others signed up day one for sex also. "
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"I don't really get where your thread should lead to.  
Should they lead somewhere or to a conclusion/consensus opinion? Should we have a poll?"
Anonymous poll, please |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest "
If people here suffer from jealousy then the lifestyle isn't for them |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest "
Honestly, I think if I was limiting myself to that one person / couple then deep down a little bit. If Im limiting myself it means either I have attachment to them or else I am just getting so much from them I dont want anything else...
Either way every person is different and communication of any such attachment is key.
I doubt the situation will arise though given how hypocritical it would be of me in my current position haha |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If people here suffer from jealousy then the lifestyle isn't for them "
I would disagree from many people we have spoken to over the years cols singles etc there is sometimes a controlled level of jealousy. I know I had a little bit of jealousy when I first shared jack with someone else and had I not I would have questioned why. |
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I think jealousy for the most part is perfectly normal as long as you don't start getting controlling or passive aggressive etc... Like one poster said she had controlled jealousy when she first shared her partner but they're still together. I don't see a problem with jealousy as long as it isn't causing a problem for either party. Anyway if you're with someone fucking hot and you have to share them you're gunna get jealous unless you're a super cool freak haha |
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"I think jealousy for the most part is perfectly normal as long as you don't start getting controlling or passive aggressive etc... Like one poster said she had controlled jealousy when she first shared her partner but they're still together. I don't see a problem with jealousy as long as it isn't causing a problem for either party. Anyway if you're with someone fucking hot and you have to share them you're gunna get jealous unless you're a super cool freak haha"
that's where a normal relationship comes in. I'd love to see an anonymous poll done on couples views on swinging. what the % would be like. do you think more people like swinging or frown upon it?
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"I think jealousy for the most part is perfectly normal as long as you don't start getting controlling or passive aggressive etc... Like one poster said she had controlled jealousy when she first shared her partner but they're still together. I don't see a problem with jealousy as long as it isn't causing a problem for either party. Anyway if you're with someone fucking hot and you have to share them you're gunna get jealous unless you're a super cool freak hahathat's where a normal relationship comes in. I'd love to see an anonymous poll done on couples views on swinging. what the % would be like. do you think more people like swinging or frown upon it?"
In secret I'd say one or both parties in a relationship might fantasies about swinging but never say anything I'd say it could be upto 50-50 like to dislike but out in the open I'd say most would frown upon it. I'm basing that on absolutely nothing but my own personal opinion though haha |
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"I think if you explained swinging from an experience view to vanilla cpls yes id say many would love the idea but may not admit it to each other "
I’m amazed the amount of people here that are quite experianced and still suffer from jealousy . I honestly think it’s very common ??.
Personally I have to work very hard not to be jealous , I think being aware of it helps , it’s a very natural emotion . A very negative one I agree .?? |
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Jealousy is a two way street. I was in a fb relationship we agreed to be exclusive. Then things changed. He said he didn’t mind who I met. I thought great and started to meet others. Of course, I would have said look I’m meeting this person or that, but he started asking a lot of questions and I thought why flipping bother. Then I found out he was meeting other women on the QT. That got my back up, he was being deceitful and denying he was meeting women. I can’t tolerate lies so we’re no longer together. I wasn’t jealous, more hurt by his actions. If you can’t be truthful why bother in my book. |
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"If we agreed to be exclusive, yes of course. I think exclusive applies much more to women on here. alot of women want that one partner for regular sex where as men could have sex with many different women
Depending it's not only black and white and so many types of relationships people can get into in this scene or any other... It's all about communication and express what you want... Again I'll be jealous/upset only if is behind my back. id love to be able to do an anonymous survey. I'd say 90 % of people who sign up here do so at the beginning for no strings sex "
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"I think if you explained swinging from an experience view to vanilla cpls yes id say many would love the idea but may not admit it to each other
I’m amazed the amount of people here that are quite experianced and still suffer from jealousy . I honestly think it’s very common ??.
Personally I have to work very hard not to be jealous , I think being aware of it helps , it’s a very natural emotion . A very negative one I agree .??"
I don't think jealousy is negative if it's controlled and not agreessive and causing issues as a poster said earlier. I totally understand that jealousy can come into this but don't allow it to overcome you as a person or get in the way of fun, only then you have an issue |
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"I think if you explained swinging from an experience view to vanilla cpls yes id say many would love the idea but may not admit it to each other
I’m amazed the amount of people here that are quite experianced and still suffer from jealousy . I honestly think it’s very common ??.
Personally I have to work very hard not to be jealous , I think being aware of it helps , it’s a very natural emotion . A very negative one I agree .??
I don't think jealousy is negative if it's controlled and not agreessive and causing issues as a poster said earlier. I totally understand that jealousy can come into this but don't allow it to overcome you as a person or get in the way of fun, only then you have an issue "
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"I think if you explained swinging from an experience view to vanilla cpls yes id say many would love the idea but may not admit it to each other
I’m amazed the amount of people here that are quite experianced and still suffer from jealousy . I honestly think it’s very common ??.
Personally I have to work very hard not to be jealous , I think being aware of it helps , it’s a very natural emotion . A very negative one I agree .??
I don't think jealousy is negative if it's controlled and not agreessive and causing issues as a poster said earlier. I totally understand that jealousy can come into this but don't allow it to overcome you as a person or get in the way of fun, only then you have an issue "
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties. "
See to me this is where the Swinging lifestyle gets a bad name .... yes I agree that there are people on here that use it simply to get their leg over for simple sex!!!! To me this is not what a Swinging Site should be about ... Hence why I get quite frustrated when I receive messages from guys who are complete strangers asking for a quick shag on their way past where I live ... I'm sure if they look hard enough they could find a "call girl"/"hooker"/"prostitute" or whatever you want to call them closer to home  |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
See to me this is where the Swinging lifestyle gets a bad name .... yes I agree that there are people on here that use it simply to get their leg over for simple sex!!!! To me this is not what a Swinging Site should be about ... Hence why I get quite frustrated when I receive messages from guys who are complete strangers asking for a quick shag on their way past where I live ... I'm sure if they look hard enough they could find a "call girl"/"hooker"/"prostitute" or whatever you want to call them closer to home "
the difference is you pay for them. this is a site where the final outcome hopefully is sex. problem is in most cases you (as a guy) have to work your backside off to even get a message never mind a meet. I'm here generally now for the forums and if something comes it comes. I'm not overly pushed. I have enough daily chores, I have time to work my arse off on here to. this is a come down a pastime not a hindrance. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
See to me this is where the Swinging lifestyle gets a bad name .... yes I agree that there are people on here that use it simply to get their leg over for simple sex!!!! To me this is not what a Swinging Site should be about ... Hence why I get quite frustrated when I receive messages from guys who are complete strangers asking for a quick shag on their way past where I live ... I'm sure if they look hard enough they could find a "call girl"/"hooker"/"prostitute" or whatever you want to call them closer to home the difference is you pay for them. this is a site where the final outcome hopefully is sex. problem is in most cases you (as a guy) have to work your backside off to even get a message never mind a meet. I'm here generally now for the forums and if something comes it comes. I'm not overly pushed. I have enough daily chores, I have time to work my arse off on here to. this is a come down a pastime not a hindrance. "
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
See to me this is where the Swinging lifestyle gets a bad name .... yes I agree that there are people on here that use it simply to get their leg over for simple sex!!!! To me this is not what a Swinging Site should be about ... Hence why I get quite frustrated when I receive messages from guys who are complete strangers asking for a quick shag on their way past where I live ... I'm sure if they look hard enough they could find a "call girl"/"hooker"/"prostitute" or whatever you want to call them closer to home the difference is you pay for them. this is a site where the final outcome hopefully is sex. problem is in most cases you (as a guy) have to work your backside off to even get a message never mind a meet. I'm here generally now for the forums and if something comes it comes. I'm not overly pushed. I have enough daily chores, I have time to work my arse off on here to. this is a come down a pastime not a hindrance. "
I know you think I'm a pain but I try with this one to keep it low.
Just as a food for thought because this is a swinging site peeps who are into swinging will look out for same minded and will sense when someone is on here with the prospect of nsa sex only, and therefore it might be more difficult to pull a meet. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest "
No! freedom is a basic human right, just like when you are working as an employee, and look at other job listings. Jealousy is a disease, it's a bitter emotion, it doesn't show how much you like someone, it shows how insecure you are,  |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
No! freedom is a basic human right, just like when you are working as an employee, and look at other job listings. Jealousy is a disease, it's a bitter emotion, it doesn't show how much you like someone, it shows how insecure you are, "
Jealousy is often seen as a negative emotion even though it is normal in certain situations and may even be a positive thing. However, it can become unhealthy if it turns into an obsession, takes over your life and causes irrational behaviour
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By *oghunter33Woman
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
No! freedom is a basic human right, just like when you are working as an employee, and look at other job listings. Jealousy is a disease, it's a bitter emotion, it doesn't show how much you like someone, it shows how insecure you are, "
you mean cut out the temptation of the forbidden fruit.
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
No! freedom is a basic human right, just like when you are working as an employee, and look at other job listings. Jealousy is a disease, it's a bitter emotion, it doesn't show how much you like someone, it shows how insecure you are,
you mean cut out the temptation of the forbidden fruit.
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Forbidden fruit = exciting = the sweetest taste...
I worry about what I have, I never worry about what I don't have.
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By *oghunter33Woman
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
No! freedom is a basic human right, just like when you are working as an employee, and look at other job listings. Jealousy is a disease, it's a bitter emotion, it doesn't show how much you like someone, it shows how insecure you are,
you mean cut out the temptation of the forbidden fruit.
Forbidden fruit = exciting = the sweetest taste...
I worry about what I have, I never worry about what I don't have.
The grass is always greener where you water it. "
Jealousy is only a disease when it becomes unhealthy. If you look at it from a positive angle it can be a stimulating tease, claim back and feel the heat. you could argue if there's no jealousy there's no forbidden fruit. |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
See to me this is where the Swinging lifestyle gets a bad name .... yes I agree that there are people on here that use it simply to get their leg over for simple sex!!!! To me this is not what a Swinging Site should be about ... Hence why I get quite frustrated when I receive messages from guys who are complete strangers asking for a quick shag on their way past where I live ... I'm sure if they look hard enough they could find a "call girl"/"hooker"/"prostitute" or whatever you want to call them closer to home the difference is you pay for them. this is a site where the final outcome hopefully is sex. problem is in most cases you (as a guy) have to work your backside off to even get a message never mind a meet. I'm here generally now for the forums and if something comes it comes. I'm not overly pushed. I have enough daily chores, I have time to work my arse off on here to. this is a come down a pastime not a hindrance. "
Alot of what you seem to be saying revolves around a confusion over why sex on here is not more plentiful, why it isn't easier to arrange and yet you show no appreciation for the subtleties of swinging as a lifestyle, no desire to go to parties or meet and greets. Having a hard time getting my head around what it is you're trying to pin down. Is it simply a confusion over why sex is not more available to you on here? |
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I don't do jealousy, in a relationship, if I love someone I trust them, so jealousy doesn't factor into it...if it did I would end the relationship. With an fwb I would never expect nor ask for exclusivity, infact I openly encourage mine to seek other playmates. I prefer it when we play with someone else together, as I like to see him fucking other girls, just the thought has been known to get me off... but I am more than fine if he meets without me, as he is with me |
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"if you were meeting a person and only them but they were meeting many others besides you. would you get jealous? be honest
If you choose to meet that one person only and not meet others then that's your decision and don't have a right to be jealous (jealously btw is a very strong emotion and possibly it's the wrong site if you're prone to it). On the other hand if you've both decided to be exclusive and one side decides to meet others then possibly it's time to move on to find someone who doesn't break the trust.what I don't get on a site for no strings is why some just limit themselves to one person
Everyone on here is here for their own reasons and it's not necessarily NSA site it's a Swinging site. NSA is a personal choice. And if 2 people meet and both decided that they are fulfilled with what they are looking for with each other then good for them...it's like i said a few posts back pity you can't do an anonymous survey on it because I'd bet money the vast majority signed up here day one looking for sex. you can say it's not NSA it's a swingers site but when people join up looking for casual sex I don't know what else you can call it. are there some on here who say they want no strings but in reality want alot more?
Swinging isn't just about casual sex there are lot's more elements to it. If someone signs up for casual sex and is successful then good for them their needs are met.
Unfortunately I can't answer your question on no strings as i feel it doesn't apply to me but i would also be interested in knowing what your definition of NSA is and im sure it could but interrupted differently depending on the person.NSA needs no explaining, it's in the name but I would also say there is some on here who say they want no strings when in reality actually want more.
I was just curious as to your interpretation of it as it may differ from others, just like your interpretation of a swinging site differs from others. my interpretation of here doesn't differ. what i said is if you ask the vast majority what they signed up here for day one the word sex will be in the answer. NSA is exactly that. sex with no strings no drama no ties.
See to me this is where the Swinging lifestyle gets a bad name .... yes I agree that there are people on here that use it simply to get their leg over for simple sex!!!! To me this is not what a Swinging Site should be about ... Hence why I get quite frustrated when I receive messages from guys who are complete strangers asking for a quick shag on their way past where I live ... I'm sure if they look hard enough they could find a "call girl"/"hooker"/"prostitute" or whatever you want to call them closer to home the difference is you pay for them. this is a site where the final outcome hopefully is sex. problem is in most cases you (as a guy) have to work your backside off to even get a message never mind a meet. I'm here generally now for the forums and if something comes it comes. I'm not overly pushed. I have enough daily chores, I have time to work my arse off on here to. this is a come down a pastime not a hindrance.
Alot of what you seem to be saying revolves around a confusion over why sex on here is not more plentiful, why it isn't easier to arrange and yet you show no appreciation for the subtleties of swinging as a lifestyle, no desire to go to parties or meet and greets. Having a hard time getting my head around what it is you're trying to pin down. Is it simply a confusion over why sex is not more available to you on here? "
I'll keep it plain and simple. this site day one was highlighted to me by a female i know. she said "great site for some fun". her exact words. I signed up for that fun she was talking about. swinging didn't enter the mind. I hadn't a clue what swinging was. if u ask the majority of younger men why they signed up here I guarentee most will say sex. just because you want sex and nothing else like meets parties etc shouldn't stop people meeting you imo |
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I think men on here want exclusive more than women on here do.
I wouldn't have a problem only sleeping with one girl that was sleeping with other guys.
However I'd expect her to let me read their messages and pick them, and tell her not to meet certain guys.
I wouldn't be exclusive to a girl that was meeting men in secret, told me it was none of my business, and had sex with men I said I didn't think were good. I still wouldn't get jealous, but that sort of carry on wouldn't exactly be what I want from being exclusive, might as well just fuck her no strings. |
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"just because you want sex and nothing else like meets parties etc shouldn't stop people meeting you imo "
IF they want the same as you. If they are here to swing, and go to socials and m&g and you're not, why should they meet you or anyone else who is not into those things? It's about likeminded people meeting up and having fun, and you by your own admission are not likeminded. |
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"just because you want sex and nothing else like meets parties etc shouldn't stop people meeting you imo
IF they want the same as you. If they are here to swing, and go to socials and m&g and you're not, why should they meet you or anyone else who is not into those things? It's about likeminded people meeting up and having fun, and you by your own admission are not likeminded. "
for a simple reason. they can still go to meet and greets. that's completely separate to sex. |
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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"just because you want sex and nothing else like meets parties etc shouldn't stop people meeting you imo
IF they want the same as you. If they are here to swing, and go to socials and m&g and you're not, why should they meet you or anyone else who is not into those things? It's about likeminded people meeting up and having fun, and you by your own admission are not likeminded. for a simple reason. they can still go to meet and greets. that's completely separate to sex. "
According to you, the person nobody wants to meet (thanks to your constant ramblings about location, attraction, sex site and NSA) 
While you’re on here griping about stuff everyone else is meeting and gauging an interest in one another and yes having SEX |
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"just because you want sex and nothing else like meets parties etc shouldn't stop people meeting you imo
IF they want the same as you. If they are here to swing, and go to socials and m&g and you're not, why should they meet you or anyone else who is not into those things? It's about likeminded people meeting up and having fun, and you by your own admission are not likeminded. for a simple reason. they can still go to meet and greets. that's completely separate to sex.
According to you, the person nobody wants to meet (thanks to your constant ramblings about location, attraction, sex site and NSA)
While you’re on here griping about stuff everyone else is meeting and gauging an interest in one another and yes having SEX "
if u want to talk about that, yes it is nsa and yes location and attraction are important, most will tell you that. |
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"just because you want sex and nothing else like meets parties etc shouldn't stop people meeting you imo
IF they want the same as you. If they are here to swing, and go to socials and m&g and you're not, why should they meet you or anyone else who is not into those things? It's about likeminded people meeting up and having fun, and you by your own admission are not likeminded. for a simple reason. they can still go to meet and greets. that's completely separate to sex.
According to you, the person nobody wants to meet (thanks to your constant ramblings about location, attraction, sex site and NSA)
While you’re on here griping about stuff everyone else is meeting and gauging an interest in one another and yes having SEX if u want to talk about that, yes it is nsa and yes location and attraction are important, most will tell you that. "
Yes that’s true.
But it’s you (as a person) who has control over that, you have the power to make it happen. Griping on here all the time won’t |
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"just because you want sex and nothing else like meets parties etc shouldn't stop people meeting you imo
IF they want the same as you. If they are here to swing, and go to socials and m&g and you're not, why should they meet you or anyone else who is not into those things? It's about likeminded people meeting up and having fun, and you by your own admission are not likeminded. for a simple reason. they can still go to meet and greets. that's completely separate to sex.
According to you, the person nobody wants to meet (thanks to your constant ramblings about location, attraction, sex site and NSA)
While you’re on here griping about stuff everyone else is meeting and gauging an interest in one another and yes having SEX if u want to talk about that, yes it is nsa and yes location and attraction are important, most will tell you that.
Yes that’s true.
But it’s you (as a person) who has control over that, you have the power to make it happen. Griping on here all the time won’t "
lol make what happen? the last few comments have been about people not wanting to meet people who are just here for sex. I made the point people can still meet for sex even if one party doesn't want the added extras of parties etc |
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"Just as a food for thought because this is a swinging site peeps who are into swinging will look out for same minded and will sense when someone is on here with the prospect of nsa sex only, and therefore it might be more difficult to pull a meet"
that's what DH said. my point is just because somebody is not a "true swinger" it shouldn't stop them getting no strings sex. |
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"If exclusivity is one sided it's obviously not a mutual agreement. And if it's not a mutual agreement and you get jealous because your fb meets others, well maybe you're on the wrong site. Simples. "
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"I don't really get where your thread should lead to.
To ban jealousy in this site ... Only in a perfect world!
This too... "
there should be no jealousy. you're having no attachment sex. if you can't do this you shouldn't be here |
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Got a kik text near 3am this morn my good pal said he cannot remain friends with me.. he saw a new verification on my profile.. i didnt reply back, im gutted here,  |
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"Got a kik text near 3am this morn my good pal said he cannot remain friends with me.. he saw a new verification on my profile.. i didnt reply back, im gutted here, "
Maybe it was your husband |
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"Got a kik text near 3am this morn my good pal said he cannot remain friends with me.. he saw a new verification on my profile.. i didnt reply back, im gutted here,
Maybe it was your husband"
No it wasnt |
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