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Has Swinging Improved Your Self-Image?
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"I don't think swinging has improved my self image. I know I'm overweight and my legs aren't as long as some people's. Age has improved my self image, because I now accept myself as I am and trust that others do too. I'm not for everyone, but then again I never was. " That sums up pretty much how I feel as well. I am what I am. I'm happy enough with that. | |||
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"I don't think swinging has improved my self image. I know I'm overweight and my legs aren't as long as some people's. Age has improved my self image, because I now accept myself as I am and trust that others do too. I'm not for everyone, but then again I never was. " I agree with this entirely  | |||
"I don't think swinging has improved my self image. I know I'm overweight and my legs aren't as long as some people's. Age has improved my self image, because I now accept myself as I am and trust that others do too. I'm not for everyone, but then again I never was. " Perfectly put and exactly how I feel | |||
 maybe it will come with age though | |||
"I don't think swinging has improved my self image. I know I'm overweight and my legs aren't as long as some people's. Age has improved my self image, because I now accept myself as I am and trust that others do too. I'm not for everyone, but then again I never was. " so this | |||
"I don't think swinging has improved my self image. I know I'm overweight and my legs aren't as long as some people's. Age has improved my self image, because I now accept myself as I am and trust that others do too. I'm not for everyone, but then again I never was. " Well said and perfectly put... I feel exactly the same  | |||
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"But surely ladies with your self-image closely linked to how much others like you, and what they think of your personality etc, does that in itself not boost your overall self image.I'm sure you are complimented, and affirmed no end, does that not resonate.?" Compliments on here are taken with a pinch of salt.....men you dont know saying how beautiful and sexy you are have alternative motive.
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"But surely ladies with your self-image closely linked to how much others like you, and what they think of your personality etc, does that in itself not boost your overall self image.I'm sure you are complimented, and affirmed no end, does that not resonate.? Compliments on here are taken with a pinch of salt.....men you dont know saying how beautiful and sexy you are have alternative motive.
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"But surely ladies with your self-image closely linked to how much others like you, and what they think of your personality etc, does that in itself not boost your overall self image.I'm sure you are complimented, and affirmed no end, does that not resonate.?" My self image is linked to how I feel about myself, not how others do. Compliments can be almost worthless on here because most of them come from people who don't know me and have never seen me, apart from a few pics that I have chosen because they are better than the 50 others that I took and deleted. | |||
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"I don't think swinging has improved my self image. I know I'm overweight and my legs aren't as long as some people's. Age has improved my self image, because I now accept myself as I am and trust that others do too. I'm not for everyone, but then again I never was. " Yep this | |||
"But surely ladies with your self-image closely linked to how much others like you, and what they think of your personality etc, does that in itself not boost your overall self image.I'm sure you are complimented, and affirmed no end, does that not resonate.? My self image is linked to how I feel about myself, not how others do. Compliments can be almost worthless on here because most of them come from people who don't know me and have never seen me, apart from a few pics that I have chosen because they are better than the 50 others that I took and deleted. " Tell me about it, tis not easy getting a descent cock shot, im not being nieve, I understand their are plenty of ladies here who can quite clearly see through the bullshit, having said that im sure their are others who thrive off the attention they receive from the same folks you describe above, I appreciate your only speaking on your own behalf | |||
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"Self image for me was losing weight taking my ass to the gym and training hard to get where i am now , Anything said on here good or bad is taken with a pinch of salt "May I ask if that was a process you went through here on fab to be where your at in yourself today. When you initially joined, did you experience the fears outlined above? | |||
"But surely ladies with your self-image closely linked to how much others like you, and what they think of your personality etc, does that in itself not boost your overall self image.I'm sure you are complimented, and affirmed no end, does that not resonate.? My self image is linked to how I feel about myself, not how others do. Compliments can be almost worthless on here because most of them come from people who don't know me and have never seen me, apart from a few pics that I have chosen because they are better than the 50 others that I took and deleted. Tell me about it, tis not easy getting a descent cock shot, im not being nieve, I understand their are plenty of ladies here who can quite clearly see through the bullshit, having said that im sure their are others who thrive off the attention they receive from the same folks you describe above, I appreciate your only speaking on your own behalf "You seem to have mastered the decent cock shot, keep up the good work | |||
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However it's undeniable that you get a boost when you're heading out for a meet, you throw yourself into some sexy clothes, smear a bit of make up on and collect some looks on the way to it and when you enter the bar/hotel where you meet, tease and flirt for a while and let the sparks fly until you explode behind closed doors for passionate steamy sex. I'm not getting any younger and it's nice to feel that you're not on the rusty iron heap.....yet.  | |||
"I've never feared rejection, it's part of the game. I'm not for everyone and not everyone's for me. I don't think it has changed my self image.
However it's undeniable that you get a boost when you're heading out for a meet, you throw yourself into some sexy clothes, smear a bit of make up on and collect some looks on the way to it and when you enter the bar/hotel where you meet, tease and flirt for a while and let the sparks fly until you explode behind closed doors for passionate steamy sex. I'm not getting any younger and it's nice to feel that you're not on the rusty iron heap.....yet. "Would it be fair to say then, that there is a certain insecurity or lets call it anxiety around not getting any younger, you get yourself ready for the meet, glam up more so than you would during the week, you look well, feeling good, meet the 20 something avocado guy, wham bam, he treats you like the princess. Does that not regulate the anxiety levels, even if only for a short time. Its almost like a right of passage here to acknowledge how well we deal with rejection, fair enough we experience it, why does it seem like some are reluctant to acknowledge that we feel it.. | |||
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"I've never feared rejection, it's part of the game. I'm not for everyone and not everyone's for me. I don't think it has changed my self image.
However it's undeniable that you get a boost when you're heading out for a meet, you throw yourself into some sexy clothes, smear a bit of make up on and collect some looks on the way to it and when you enter the bar/hotel where you meet, tease and flirt for a while and let the sparks fly until you explode behind closed doors for passionate steamy sex. I'm not getting any younger and it's nice to feel that you're not on the rusty iron heap.....yet.
Would it be fair to say then, that there is a certain insecurity or lets call it anxiety around not getting any younger, you get yourself ready for the meet, glam up more so than you would during the week, you look well, feeling good, meet the 20 something avocado guy, wham bam, he treats you like the princess. Does that not regulate the anxiety levels, even if only for a short time. Its almost like a right of passage here to acknowledge how well we deal with rejection, fair enough we experience it, why does it seem like some are reluctant to acknowledge that we feel it.."We all have our insecurities and quirks, but there's no point in over analysing things or even roll it out as an anxiety. Even though the forum is a mad house, it's not that everyone on here needs counselling. I think sometimes you're looking too hard for it. I'm not suffering from Gerascophobia, and I'm pretty much enjoying myself we're I am at this stage of my life. All I tried to say that a meet can give you a temporary boost. And I'm sure the younger ones get a boost too. Btw 20something guys and princess are terms that don't really go with me. I like avocado though, throw in some continental cheese and a good bottle of mature red and we're onto something. As for your rejection babbel, no one likes the feeling of being rejected, but again there's no point in making a big deal of it on here, is there? | |||
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"Haha one gets used to rejection but there's always hope" Ah but Donald still loves you!  | |||
"Haha one gets used to rejection but there's always hope Ah but Donald still loves you! "How funny | |||
"Haha one gets used to rejection but there's always hope Ah but Donald still loves you!
How funny "I thought it would cheer you up alright. | |||
"Haha one gets used to rejection but there's always hope Ah but Donald still loves you!
How funny
I thought it would cheer you up alright. "not taking the bait | |||
"Haha one gets used to rejection but there's always hope Ah but Donald still loves you!
How funny
I thought it would cheer you up alright.
not taking the bait "You've become too cynical. There was no bait. | |||
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"I've never feared rejection, it's part of the game. I'm not for everyone and not everyone's for me. I don't think it has changed my self image.
However it's undeniable that you get a boost when you're heading out for a meet, you throw yourself into some sexy clothes, smear a bit of make up on and collect some looks on the way to it and when you enter the bar/hotel where you meet, tease and flirt for a while and let the sparks fly until you explode behind closed doors for passionate steamy sex. I'm not getting any younger and it's nice to feel that you're not on the rusty iron heap.....yet.
Would it be fair to say then, that there is a certain insecurity or lets call it anxiety around not getting any younger, you get yourself ready for the meet, glam up more so than you would during the week, you look well, feeling good, meet the 20 something avocado guy, wham bam, he treats you like the princess. Does that not regulate the anxiety levels, even if only for a short time. Its almost like a right of passage here to acknowledge how well we deal with rejection, fair enough we experience it, why does it seem like some are reluctant to acknowledge that we feel it..
We all have our insecurities and quirks, but there's no point in over analysing things or even roll it out as an anxiety. Even though the forum is a mad house, it's not that everyone on here needs counselling. I think sometimes you're looking too hard for it. I'm not suffering from Gerascophobia, and I'm pretty much enjoying myself we're I am at this stage of my life.
All I tried to say that a meet can give you a temporary boost. And I'm sure the younger ones get a boost too.
Btw 20something guys and princess are terms that don't really go with me.
I like avocado though, throw in some continental cheese and a good bottle of mature red and we're onto something.
As for your rejection babbel, no one likes the feeling of being rejected, but again there's no point in making a big deal of it on here, is there? "haha babble, the cheek I wasn't suggesting you were suffering from gerascaphobia, that was a bit extreme, maybe chromophobia | |||
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