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Why does honesty matter so much?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably more to do with playing safe then wanting to know every detail of your life. Nobody’s that interesting  "
Going by most posts on this issues I'd say it's less about playing safe but seems to be much more about moral issues and filtering issues like age, married but single etc etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people are honest and tell the truth, you have an idea what that person is like and if you decide to meet them, at least you have an idea about the person and how your meet is going to go. You don’t need to know the ins and outs of their life, but just in general that they are telling you the truth. Nothing worse than being fed bullshit by a bullshitter. |
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"I guess so everyone knows where they stand. Playing devil's advocate here, but why is it necessary to be dishonest if it's only recreational sex?"
Agreed on this one. Yes...its recreational sex ...but I would not have recreational sex with a nut job, and honesty kinda limits the chances that you're a nut job. Also like to know if there are any things I need to be aware of up front. Getting battered by a jealous spouse when you know about them before hand is completely different to getting battered when you thought all was kosher.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably more to do with playing safe then wanting to know every detail of your life. Nobody’s that interesting
Going by most posts on this issues I'd say it's less about playing safe but seems to be much more about moral issues and filtering issues like age, married but single etc etc."
Guess your right to an extent but I find here most people use the site filters for one thing then they use their own personal filter system on people to decide on if it’s a good idea to meet someone. I’d doubt if 20 per cent of profiles here are fully truthful. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I think it's advisable to take everything with a pinch of salt on here or in other words that you're being lied at in one way or another says it age, location, body height etc. In my humble opinion most of those lies are forgivable as we're making connections with complete strangers over the internet and it's only advisable to protect yourself and your identity because you don't know at the beginning who you're dealing with. From my experience as more tolerable you are in dealing with such particular lies as more likely you eventually will hear the truth or the other way around the more self righteous you behave the more you're being lied at.
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By (user no longer on site)
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My profile is exaggerated honesty; I'm bi, but not seeking bi men, but I have had experience in the past with bi play. Similar with tv, I wore my girlfriends knickers,on occasion and was caught, ok then, two other girlfriends caught me also, having said that though, it is merely a personal kink for me in the bedroom and in private, some people may consider that I'm being dishonest with how I'm projecting my profile here, but I'm very honest with the people I'm talking to here, I have no desire to be deceitful with anyone here. |
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"Probably more to do with playing safe then wanting to know every detail of your life. Nobody’s that interesting
Going by most posts on this issues I'd say it's less about playing safe but seems to be much more about moral issues and filtering issues like age, married but single etc etc."
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I use to meet this one a cracker but I was always afraid cos she had a Russian bf whom at times she would ring me and tel me he is following her go home I will meet you again . It was worth it a gorgeous young lady . |
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What lies are allowed?
For me location can be lied about. As long as its no more than say a county away.
Age? For me no.. I dont see why people lie about age. Who gives a fuck if theres chemistry.
Married/single? Again for me no. I prefer to be in full knowledge of the facts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a adult site and we are all adults or supposed to be.we are all meeting for the same thing.while maybe a few little white lies may be used to protect ur own safety I think honesty is the best from the start for a safe meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Integrity, anonymity and respect is why honesty is important. To not be open and honest (so far as it matters or applies) is deceitful and when the trust is gone, well, so is the pure unadulterated fun we can have as kinksters.
What people get up to behimd closed doors is their business and we all have little things we would rather keep to ourselves but deliberately lying about the basics like bisexual or straight is not ok. Having various profiles for that purpose is a further breach and violation of trust, so why open yourself up to that for pure unadulterated sex? It takes away from all that fun.
Again, just our opinion.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's advisable to take everything with a pinch of salt on here or in other words that you're being lied at in one way or another says it age, location, body height etc. In my humble opinion most of those lies are forgivable as we're making connections with complete strangers over the internet and it's only advisable to protect yourself and your identity because you don't know at the beginning who you're dealing with. From my experience as more tolerable you are in dealing with such particular lies as more likely you eventually will hear the truth or the other way around the more self righteous you behave the more you're being lied at.
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Agree completely here.
What is lying? Hiding the truth. We all hide things by deliberately avoid saying or telling them. We all have different reasons, I think what many get annoyed about it more to do with these 'lies' don't fit in with my parameters of what's acceptable. That's when it becomes offensive.
Having a tolerance to understanding others are different and see things differently and that is ok allows us to be more forgiving and open to be told the truth too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because....its recreational sex as you call it . In my opinion honesty is VITAL.. 
 What she said!
^^^^ 100% agree ladies "
So you three have never lied on here when chatting or messaging to others or about others on fab? I can't believe that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because....its recreational sex as you call it . In my opinion honesty is VITAL..
What she said!
^^^^ 100% agree ladies
So you three have never lied on here when chatting or messaging to others or about others on fab? I can't believe that."
Haha and pigs might fly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because....its recreational sex as you call it . In my opinion honesty is VITAL..
What she said!
^^^^ 100% agree ladies
So you three have never lied on here when chatting or messaging to others or about others on fab? I can't believe that. Haha and pigs might fly."
Mine was a genuine question... i shake my head at time when I hear things like that. As far as recreational sex goes too... Most hookups involve knowing little if anything about the other person... more often one doesn't want to know either..... so in reality what difference if they say they're 25 when they're 35 or they're single when married or a manager when unemployed or has a lada when says an M3? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great sex takes good communication between those involved.
Good communication does not happen unless it's honest, so why bother lying about anything, if you are genuinely interested in great sex!"
I fully agree.
But one can choose to believe a lie and as a result have great sex.... or believe the lie and end up having poor sex.
What is the difference? Not the lie obviously because it's still a lie, but how one chooses to believe or respond. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Great sex takes good communication between those involved.
Good communication does not happen unless it's honest, so why bother lying about anything, if you are genuinely interested in great sex!"
I had fantastic sex with some that are a bit fibbing about ie their age. They eventually told me how old they are, guess what it didn't change a thing for me and most of them I met again and again, some of them I don't even know their proper first name. All that counts is that they behave like gentlemen behind closed doors and don't give me any trouble and this is one thing I find out with good conversation that rarely involves any personal information. Trust your gut feeling and not some high moral grounds that can mislead you more than using your brain. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Great sex takes good communication between those involved.
Good communication does not happen unless it's honest, so why bother lying about anything, if you are genuinely interested in great sex!
I fully agree.
But one can choose to believe a lie and as a result have great sex.... or believe the lie and end up having poor sex.
What is the difference? Not the lie obviously because it's still a lie, but how one chooses to believe or respond. "
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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago
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"Great sex takes good communication between those involved.
Good communication does not happen unless it's honest, so why bother lying about anything, if you are genuinely interested in great sex!
I had fantastic sex with some that are a bit fibbing about ie their age. They eventually told me how old they are, guess what it didn't change a thing for me and most of them I met again and again, some of them I don't even know their proper first name. All that counts is that they behave like gentlemen behind closed doors and don't give me any trouble and this is one thing I find out with good conversation that rarely involves any personal information. Trust your gut feeling and not some high moral grounds that can mislead you more than using your brain. "
Couldn't agree more....trust your gut or if you're a guy your cock....it will tell you who to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Great sex takes good communication between those involved.
Good communication does not happen unless it's honest, so why bother lying about anything, if you are genuinely interested in great sex!
I had fantastic sex with some that are a bit fibbing about ie their age. They eventually told me how old they are, guess what it didn't change a thing for me and most of them I met again and again, some of them I don't even know their proper first name. All that counts is that they behave like gentlemen behind closed doors and don't give me any trouble and this is one thing I find out with good conversation that rarely involves any personal information. Trust your gut feeling and not some high moral grounds that can mislead you more than using your brain. "
Bloody hell DG we got to stop agreeing ffs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ives always come back to bite you rite in the box an all here to have a good time maybe for just one meet so why try to impress someone that you and they only want for sex realy this is a sex site not exicutive match here for a good time not a long time  |
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It only matters to those people who are cheating. It helps ease the conscience. If any person on this site can really say they would not tell a lie to get what they really want on this site they are only lying to themselves. |
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Depends what it is. Little white lies like location and a year or 2 out with your age is acceptable. If its a one off then no it doesnt matter but with regulars i think honesty is the best policy as you build trust up the more you meet. Once that regular lies then the trust goes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty is a noble trait in a person, its also an insurance policy against not getting caught out lying. As my granny God bless her always said there's no lies in the truth. |
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By *addubMan
over a year ago
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Being honest is the best policy married single or otherwise I don't see what the problem is with being honest with people especially on fab if people are attracted to someone what is the problem we are all consenting adults looking for that little something extra in our lives |
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