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How old is too old to be a Dad?
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Curious as to your thoughts on this.
What age do you think is the oldest, reasonable age that a man could knowingly and willingly become a father?
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over a year ago
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It's about the quality of life.
Having a kid in late 50's means you are 70+ when kid turns adult. Lots of stuff will be missed out on because of age gap. 30's into 40's best time.
6o's & 70's is just wrong. |
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over a year ago
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I'm 58 and I look after 2 of my grandkids 4 or 5 days a week while the parents work.
I am wrecked by time they go home. God knows how I'd feel if I had them 24 hours a day.
I'd say 40 ish in reply to the OP's question. |
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I wouldn't worry about what others think.. people have kids in their 20s and society says it's too young.. people have kids in their late 30s and apparently its to old.. when its your time then just go with it |
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No congratulations in order.
Though I'll take good feelings from anywhere, so thanks for them 
No, pub conversation a week or two back with a guy whose wife wants one more. They have boy and girl, both between 5-10yrs old. He's 50 and she's 40+ and wants one more. General consensus was, your on the cusp of Past It and she's in risky territory. No definite answers but a case of weighing up the pros and cons and deciding.
I know we may not be fans of George Hook for certain comments but one of his beliefs I repeated on the night. If you can't see them through to the end of their college days, then don't.
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"Look at Mick jagger how old is he . "
His financial circumstances are slightly, just slightly, different.
Same point was made on Hook. George's response was, He mightn't be there, but he has certainly provided for them through to adulthood. |
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Well im gona be a dad again in few weeks
Im 58 .bird 27
Wasnt planed by no means but got deal with it .never thought id become a dad again but its happend
I split with her last week .we had few issuses .but trying to sort then out .but if we dont ill still be tber for the baby |
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"No congratulations in order.
Though I'll take good feelings from anywhere, so thanks for them
No, pub conversation a week or two back with a guy whose wife wants one more. They have boy and girl, both between 5-10yrs old. He's 50 and she's 40+ and wants one more. General consensus was, your on the cusp of Past It and she's in risky territory. No definite answers but a case of weighing up the pros and cons and deciding.
I know we may not be fans of George Hook for certain comments but one of his beliefs I repeated on the night. If you can't see them through to the end of their college days, then don't.
Thoughts?"
Even a 20 year old dad isn't guaranteed to see his kids through college |
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"Well im gona be a dad again in few weeks
Im 58 .bird 27
Wasnt planed by no means but got deal with it .never thought id become a dad again but its happend
I split with her last week .we had few issuses .but trying to sort then out .but if we dont ill still be tber for the baby "
How old are your other kids? What do they think about a new sibling? |
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"No congratulations in order.
Though I'll take good feelings from anywhere, so thanks for them
No, pub conversation a week or two back with a guy whose wife wants one more. They have boy and girl, both between 5-10yrs old. He's 50 and she's 40+ and wants one more. General consensus was, your on the cusp of Past It and she's in risky territory. No definite answers but a case of weighing up the pros and cons and deciding.
I know we may not be fans of George Hook for certain comments but one of his beliefs I repeated on the night. If you can't see them through to the end of their college days, then don't.
Thoughts?
Even a 20 year old dad isn't guaranteed to see his kids through college"
True that. Life doesn't come with any guarantees. We were just discussing the averages in pub and said he'd probably get to the 21st but anything after that was a blessing. |
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"Well im gona be a dad again in few weeks
Im 58 .bird 27
Wasnt planed by no means but got deal with it .never thought id become a dad again but its happend
I split with her last week .we had few issuses .but trying to sort then out .but if we dont ill still be tber for the baby
How old are your other kids? What do they think about a new sibling?"
My 30yr old daughter i v not seen her in yrs so she dont no .and my 19yr old son .he ok with it .he lives with me anyway |
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"Well im gona be a dad again in few weeks
Im 58 .bird 27
Wasnt planed by no means but got deal with it .never thought id become a dad again but its happend
I split with her last week .we had few issuses .but trying to sort then out .but if we dont ill still be tber f the baby "
Congratulations and hope ye patch everything up.
My mate has been asked by wife though, so it'll be a conscious, mutual decision, so there's choice involved. |
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"Well im gona be a dad again in few weeks
Im 58 .bird 27
Wasnt planed by no means but got deal with it .never thought id become a dad again but its happend
I split with her last week .we had few issuses .but trying to sort then out .but if we dont ill still be tber f the baby
Congratulations and hope ye patch everything up.
My mate has been asked by wife though, so it'll be a conscious, mutual decision, so there's choice involved."
We didnt plan it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well im gona be a dad again in few weeks
Im 58 .bird 27
Wasnt planed by no means but got deal with it .never thought id become a dad again but its happend
I split with her last week .we had few issuses .but trying to sort then out .but if we dont ill still be tber for the baby
How old are your other kids? What do they think about a new sibling?
My 30yr old daughter i v not seen her in yrs so she dont no .and my 19yr old son .he ok with it .he lives with me anyway"
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"Well im gona be a dad again in few weeks
Im 58 .bird 27
Wasnt planed by no means but got deal with it .never thought id become a dad again but its happend
I split with her last week .we had few issuses .but trying to sort then out .but if we dont ill still be tber f the baby
Congratulations and hope ye patch everything up.
My mate has been asked by wife though, so it'll be a conscious, mutual decision, so there's choice involved.
We didnt plan it ."
I got that. Hence my comment about choice, so different scenarios.
The question is whether it's right at whatever age, when you have a choice.
If it happens by accident, you don't have a choice. |
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We actually red about this in a paper, where the lady in question couldnt have children well she could but she was going true ivf treatment. Now the couple where married for like 50 years or something she finally got pregant at 50 odd and the husband was aged 60 odd. But he actually dirvorced her because he was afraid the baby might keep him awake at night time or during his nap hours. An said himself she got what she wanted an that was that he up an left her.
So id say no older than 45 i think at that age its the last thing anyone want too bring into this world it just would be cruel in my eyes. i can only speak for ourselfs though we personally wouldnt. Not with our life spam record in our familys. |
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Yeah, I'm thinking it's not a runner really. Wondering if she wants a child to"save the marriage" or something else specific that he hasn't mentioned. He says she's dead set on it, passionately.
Another mate was in same boat but he was 46 and she was 36 so, very different. |
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By *un4tooCouple
over a year ago
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"my dad is 62 and had a 10yr old.. the age dont effect him atal he fitter and younger looking because of it.. all u need to be is a good dad and have quality time ur age shouldnt matter really "
Agree.
Never too old. As long as you give the child everything it needs then i don't see the difference in you being a 30 year old or a 60 year old. |
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