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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey everyone.I am on this site only a short time and have chatted to some lovely people here.The one thing I noticed is the amount of demands some people have,for example some write essays(Which is fine)but go on and on as if they are Gods gift! Other people write Dont message me if your this or dont message me if your that.
Some profiles with no photos requesting that people send a face photo or they wont get a reply.
I noticed one status saying they are here but are not chatting...
Lets be honest here its a swingers website, Dont all jump down my throat but come on lighten up.For me as still a Newbie with no verify its pretty hard.The woman can pick and choose who they want but I think some are going way too far with all the demands.. |
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hi , it can be difficult for new people here, the thing to remember is that for a lot of people , they are here to fulfill some fantasies and therefore tend to be quite specific about what they want and are looking for here, joining a site such as this entitles a user to nothing , no sympathy shags , no hand holding to make you feel better about anything. Just because the people here are swingers doesnt mean their usual situational criteria wont apply to you or anyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"hi , it can be difficult for new people here, the thing to remember is that for a lot of people , they are here to fulfill some fantasies and therefore tend to be quite specific about what they want and are looking for here, joining a site such as this entitles a user to nothing , no sympathy shags , no hand holding to make you feel better about anything. Just because the people here are swingers doesnt mean their usual situational criteria wont apply to you or anyone else."
Yes I suppose each to their own. I wouldnt expect any entitlements at all for sure and Im not bashing these people either just an observation over time |
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For me I've changed and adapted my profile as a direct result of what I've come across/guys I've met/messages I've received, since I originally joined 7 years ago. It's not me being up myself, it's because of how I want to be treated and what I want, which is the most important aspect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me I've changed and adapted my profile as a direct result of what I've come across/guys I've met/messages I've received, since I originally joined 7 years ago. It's not me being up myself, it's because of how I want to be treated and what I want, which is the most important aspect. "
Thats a very good and fair explaination |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey everyone.I am on this site only a short time and have chatted to some lovely people here.The one thing I noticed is the amount of demands some people have,for example some write essays(Which is fine)but go on and on as if they are Gods gift! Other people write Dont message me if your this or dont message me if your that.
Some profiles with no photos requesting that people send a face photo or they wont get a reply.
I noticed one status saying they are here but are not chatting...
Lets be honest here its a swingers website, Dont all jump down my throat but come on lighten up.For me as still a Newbie with no verify its pretty hard.The woman can pick and choose who they want but I think some are going way too far with all the demands.."
welcome to the mad pool of fab inconsistencies and choices.
My advice is this... if it doesn't feel right it probably isn't. See their choices as filters for you to. You probably wouldn't be suited. Id say too, if someone has filtered you out for whatever reason and it bothers you...block them, not as a personal thing against then which many see it as but to help you stay positive and view those who are available so as not to waste your energy on those not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have no Christian grey types on my profile cause I can't stand that lol seems since the movies and books a lot of guys think this is what women want and I genuinely cannot stand it lol"
Must be hundreds of Christian Greys here lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey everyone.I am on this site only a short time and have chatted to some lovely people here.The one thing I noticed is the amount of demands some people have,for example some write essays(Which is fine)but go on and on as if they are Gods gift! Other people write Dont message me if your this or dont message me if your that.
Some profiles with no photos requesting that people send a face photo or they wont get a reply.
I noticed one status saying they are here but are not chatting...
Lets be honest here its a swingers website, Dont all jump down my throat but come on lighten up.For me as still a Newbie with no verify its pretty hard.The woman can pick and choose who they want but I think some are going way too far with all the demands.."
What I've learnt to do is firstly I look to see if they are accepting 'single males' then check their 'age range' if I'm out of age range or their not accepting single males I move on without reading their profile (except perv at their pics lol) If the above is fine then I proceed to read the profile until something in it is not for me or visa versa and so on. It saves me time and it doesn't bother me what they put as each to there own. Everyone is here for their own reasons and some profiles might seem excessive in demands but it is a way that they can filter out the people they are not interested in. You'll soon develop the fab thick skin  |
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"I have no Christian grey types on my profile cause I can't stand that lol seems since the movies and books a lot of guys think this is what women want and I genuinely cannot stand it lol
Must be hundreds of Christian Greys here lol"
Ridiculous amount of wannabes  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have no Christian grey types on my profile cause I can't stand that lol seems since the movies and books a lot of guys think this is what women want and I genuinely cannot stand it lol
Must be hundreds of Christian Greys here lol
Ridiculous amount of wannabes "
Must be some amount of playrooms across the country |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey everyone.I am on this site only a short time and have chatted to some lovely people here.The one thing I noticed is the amount of demands some people have,for example some write essays(Which is fine)but go on and on as if they are Gods gift! Other people write Dont message me if your this or dont message me if your that.
Some profiles with no photos requesting that people send a face photo or they wont get a reply.
I noticed one status saying they are here but are not chatting...
Lets be honest here its a swingers website, Dont all jump down my throat but come on lighten up.For me as still a Newbie with no verify its pretty hard.The woman can pick and choose who they want but I think some are going way too far with all the demands.."
As a newbie I understand why you might get a little put off reading stiff like that but the longer you're on the sight the more you will understand it....
If people do read your profile it's like a filter, they know what you're looking for and of they don't fit that description they don't waste their time or yours... You're right it IS a swingers site but we swingers do have the right to still have a preference as to who we allow to be intimate with us...
If you're reading a profile and don't like it then dont message that person/couple but don't slate people for having a type and saving people time by voicing what they want because you might not be that... that's the thing with new guys, they join FAB and think they'll get sex at the click of a finger, that's not how swinging works and if you think it is then you might not do as well here as you hope to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why op?
Are we as females just expected to take whatever comes along? If people are polite and respectful in their wants then I see no issue. "
Thats fine I accept that but alot of it seems to be but in a way that makes them look like theybare up their own arses |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People can demand what they like, OP, it's entire your choice whether or not to comply."
Yes i Agree and accept that but they come across stuck up with all the lists of demands and the dos and donts.As I said its an observation not trying to cause an arguement |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why op?
Are we as females just expected to take whatever comes along? If people are polite and respectful in their wants then I see no issue.
Thats fine I accept that but alot of it seems to be but in a way that makes them look like theybare up their own arses"
Then think of it as a useful filter as you're hardly likely to get along!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why op?
Are we as females just expected to take whatever comes along? If people are polite and respectful in their wants then I see no issue.
Thats fine I accept that but alot of it seems to be but in a way that makes them look like theybare up their own arses
Then think of it as a useful filter as you're hardly likely to get along!!"
Yes good advice thank you.I dont know if any one else notices it but seems to be only me here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why op?
Are we as females just expected to take whatever comes along? If people are polite and respectful in their wants then I see no issue.
Thats fine I accept that but alot of it seems to be but in a way that makes them look like theybare up their own arses
Then think of it as a useful filter as you're hardly likely to get along!!
Yes good advice thank you.I dont know if any one else notices it but seems to be only me here "
You're not alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why op?
Are we as females just expected to take whatever comes along? If people are polite and respectful in their wants then I see no issue.
Thats fine I accept that but alot of it seems to be but in a way that makes them look like theybare up their own arses
Then think of it as a useful filter as you're hardly likely to get along!!
Yes good advice thank you.I dont know if any one else notices it but seems to be only me here You're not alone. "
Good to see |
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To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here."
Yes but if theyare average and all these demands it makes them look like they are all that and it makes them look stuck up. |
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
Yes but if theyare average and all these demands it makes them look like they are all that and it makes them look stuck up."
why would they care though.they are here to achieve the best possible fun so more power to them.if anything I admire that.do you think it's more of the case you feel you are being left out as on here there aren't as many easier targets as you thought . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
Yes but if theyare average and all these demands it makes them look like they are all that and it makes them look stuck up."
But who are you to say if someone is average  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here."
What's an average woman?  |
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
Yes but if theyare average and all these demands it makes them look like they are all that and it makes them look stuck up.
But who are you to say if someone is average "
why can't he think someone is average .it's totally subjective but ushally the general consensus is the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
Yes but if theyare average and all these demands it makes them look like they are all that and it makes them look stuck up.why would they care though.they are here to achieve the best possible fun so more power to them.if anything I admire that.do you think it's more of the case you feel you are being left out as on here there aren't as many easier targets as you thought ."
I wasnt expecting an easy target at all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
Yes but if theyare average and all these demands it makes them look like they are all that and it makes them look stuck up.
But who are you to say if someone is average "
timetoexplore said about average not me just incase you thought it was me |
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
What's an average woman? "
em average looks, size etc.not too hot but not too fugly.I don't want to sound rude but surly it's not a hard concept to grasp lol.granted it's subjective though but I think the general consensus would be the same on what would be deemed "average". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have demands on my profile, I know what I like and what I'm here for and I make no apologies for it. Too many men say the same thing...oh c'mon...'it's a swingers site'....yes it is but that doesn't equate to an easy ride. For me personally I'm here to fulfill some fantasies not to shag anyone who offers it so I'll continue to be as demanding as I like |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP, as with many things in life, it's about supply and demand. The huge numbers of men looking for casual sex will continue to ensure that women and couples are never short of offers, regardless of what they put on their profile - not least because so many men clearly never read a profile before messaging |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, as with many things in life, it's about supply and demand. The huge numbers of men looking for casual sex will continue to ensure that women and couples are never short of offers, regardless of what they put on their profile - not least because so many men clearly never read a profile before messaging "
So regarless what they write its a waiste of time for the non readers who dive in with a message lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, as with many things in life, it's about supply and demand. The huge numbers of men looking for casual sex will continue to ensure that women and couples are never short of offers, regardless of what they put on their profile - not least because so many men clearly never read a profile before messaging So regarless what they write its a waiste of time for the non readers who dive in with a message lol"
Yup, and particularly so when they aren't anything remotely resembling what the message recipient is looking for! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no Christian grey types on my profile cause I can't stand that lol seems since the movies and books a lot of guys think this is what women want and I genuinely cannot stand it lol
Must be hundreds of Christian Greys here lol
Ridiculous amount of wannabes "
OMG....worst sex ever....Basic instict was soooooo much better...!!! |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
What's an average woman? em average looks, size etc.not too hot but not too fugly.I don't want to sound rude but surly it's not a hard concept to grasp lol.granted it's subjective though but I think the general consensus would be the same on what would be deemed "average"."
You must regard yourself above average, I guess. |
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"I have demands on my profile, I know what I like and what I'm here for and I make no apologies for it. Too many men say the same thing...oh c'mon...'it's a swingers site'....yes it is but that doesn't equate to an easy ride. For me personally I'm here to fulfill some fantasies not to shag anyone who offers it so I'll continue to be as demanding as I like "
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By *tranTV/TS
over a year ago
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It's a swing site, but surely you should have standards.
Surely this is the one place where you can throw up random things you like and not budge on them, cause you're looking for sexual excitment, not a boyfriend you will compromise for.
In my opinion, too many people have no standards at all, and its like a race to the bottom of the barrel for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have some demands on my profile and for sure am not up my own arse,far to many people think because were on a swing site that were open to getting on on any tom/dick/harry! If i wont touch the person in a vanilla setting im not going to do it here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have some demands on my profile and for sure am not up my own arse,far to many people think because were on a swing site that were open to getting on on any tom/dick/harry! If i wont touch the person in a vanilla setting im not going to do it here..."
What if someone demanded you meet them on their profile? You should respect other users demands if you expect them to respect yours  |
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"I have some demands on my profile and for sure am not up my own arse,far to many people think because were on a swing site that were open to getting on on any tom/dick/harry! If i wont touch the person in a vanilla setting im not going to do it here...
What if someone demanded you meet them on their profile? You should respect other users demands if you expect them to respect yours "
Lol...very smooth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have some demands on my profile and for sure am not up my own arse,far to many people think because were on a swing site that were open to getting on on any tom/dick/harry! If i wont touch the person in a vanilla setting im not going to do it here...
What if someone demanded you meet them on their profile? You should respect other users demands if you expect them to respect yours
Lol...very smooth "
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"To be honast I don't blame the woman on here for being demanding in what they want.this is the land where generally average woman are scoring with guys who wouldint give them a second look on a night out. ( harsh but true). if it was flipped the other way round im sure you would be fine with it.obviously this isint the case with everyone as there are plenty of very attractive couples, guys and girls too but I'm talking obout the majority of people on here.
What's an average woman? em average looks, size etc.not too hot but not too fugly.I don't want to sound rude but surly it's not a hard concept to grasp lol.granted it's subjective though but I think the general consensus would be the same on what would be deemed "average".
You must regard yourself above average, I guess. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Treat their choices like car buyers guide
Engine size (cock) : large
CO2 (smoking) : NO
Condition (body type) : athletic
Fully valeted (hygiene) : clean
NCT (std) : No heeby Jeebies
No finance (status) : single
When they search they'll find exactly what they want to test drive |
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