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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold "
They aren't cold you got to appeal to them, be what they want and make an effort.
Imagine if you got a 100 messages a day (or more) what would stand out to you |
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over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold "
When messaging a women. Think of her point of view. What wil make you stand out from the other 50-100 messages she will get on a daily basis. Had a look at your profile. For me it's very generic
Looks like a copy paste of most other guys. Try to individualise it . Spice it up.
Make it not that you are trying to convince her to say yes. Make your message so good she can't say.no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold "
Because when we say no thanks you come back with ah gowan gowan gowan why wouldn't ya...
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over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold
They aren't cold you got to appeal to them, be what they want and make an effort.
Imagine if you got a 100 messages a day (or more) what would stand out to you" In other words you have to be a doormat and let them walk all over you. |
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over a year ago
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service "
Listen mate, life is all about selling yourself, what you offer compared to the bloke next to you and if you aren't there selling yourself in the best possible light, be it for company, work, opportunities then I guarantee someone will.
I have seen it so often where a woman may not at first find me the hottest bloke but since I make an effort to talk to them, get to know them, be special to them, then things happen.
The sooner you realise that putting your best foot forward will work for you, and given us men are in the majority, we have to make the effort to stand out |
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Sum blokes cant take no for an answer and think it gives them a right to give ladies a load of abuse so what if they dont reply get over it and move on ive seen messages a friend of mine got and was shocked what i was reading really sickened to see it |
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By *ireboy16 OP Man
over a year ago
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Im not disputing that and I totally agree iv a couple of femal friends on here and I have seen some of the horrific abuse and I'm all up for deleting blocking and abusing those people but what about the middle guy who never abused any one and tried to be polite and respectful to everyone but he gets tarred with the same brush |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not disputing that and I totally agree iv a couple of femal friends on here and I have seen some of the horrific abuse and I'm all up for deleting blocking and abusing those people but what about the middle guy who never abused any one and tried to be polite and respectful to everyone but he gets tarred with the same brush "
He didn't read the 'no answer means no' guideline. |
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Thats just the way it goes im afraid we cant do much about it . Always send a nice message and i always say a social meet first thats how i roll but also dont exspect ladies to drop everyting to suit you there has to be give and take and things happen in life they might have to cancel at last minute it does happen most have kids so got to consider that factor as well it takes time to arrange a meet . I rather be chatting for a while before both parties decide to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our mailbox right now we have over 240 mails an thats just in 3 days. You could double that for a single lady stand out read her profile over an over an over again before messaging stand out a little. We try our best too say no thanks if there not for us but it can be hard at times. But the golden rule is not too pester people with mails well thats our golden rule i cant speak for others.. thats our two cents in best of luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what do you make of all the negativity "
Well I have received my fair share of nasty and rude msgs particularly if I don't jump to attention and reply straight away. I just move on. If I get a cheeky msg as in funny cheeky that catches my eye I reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yea it's scary how many ignorant people their are out there and how quick people are to give abuse .the no reply rule makes sense to me now "
Would 'ignorant' fit someone who has been told 'no answer means no' but doesn't like it? |
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By *ireboy16 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yea it's scary how many ignorant people their are out there and how quick people are to give abuse .the no reply rule makes sense to me now
Would 'ignorant' fit someone who has been told 'no answer means no' but doesn't like it?" I've never actually been told no just ignored by ignorance but it's all good desperation keeps trying whilst I sail on bye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!"
To be fair, if she has 685 unread messages she is highly unlikely to ever read the good ones. It'll be a mass delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yea it's scary how many ignorant people their are out there and how quick people are to give abuse .the no reply rule makes sense to me now
Would 'ignorant' fit someone who has been told 'no answer means no' but doesn't like it? I've never actually been told no just ignored by ignorance but it's all good desperation keeps trying whilst I sail on bye "
I ignore because when I politely decline I get abuse nine times out of ten.
You might be the one that won't abuse but how am I meant to know that?
And yes you do need to be original when it comes to messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
To be fair, if she has 685 unread messages she is highly unlikely to ever read the good ones. It'll be a mass delete"
Oh yes mass delete is the only way to manage that but if there was a small bit of trawling done it would only be the really good ones that would be kept and I wouldn't blame her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
To be fair, if she has 685 unread messages she is highly unlikely to ever read the good ones. It'll be a mass delete"
Lazy fooker is all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
To be fair, if she has 685 unread messages she is highly unlikely to ever read the good ones. It'll be a mass delete
Lazy fooker is all "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
To be fair, if she has 685 unread messages she is highly unlikely to ever read the good ones. It'll be a mass delete
Lazy fooker is all "
Play nicely lol |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!"
If she has 685 unread messages she's doing something wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
If she has 685 unread messages she's doing something wrong. "
Her filters can't be working lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold
Because when we say no thanks you come back with ah gowan gowan gowan why wouldn't ya...
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But Geordie, ah gowan... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
If she has 685 unread messages she's doing something wrong.
Her filters can't be working lol"
But if she uses filters properly then she can't brag about how many messages she gets. It's a catch 22 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold
Because when we say no thanks you come back with ah gowan gowan gowan why wouldn't ya...
But Geordie, ah gowan... "
Just for you though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold
Because when we say no thanks you come back with ah gowan gowan gowan why wouldn't ya...
But Geordie, ah gowan...
Just for you though "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
If she has 685 unread messages she's doing something wrong.
Her filters can't be working lol
But if she uses filters properly then she can't brag about how many messages she gets. It's a catch 22 "
She's gna catch something if she answers all of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
If she has 685 unread messages she's doing something wrong.
Her filters can't be working lol
But if she uses filters properly then she can't brag about how many messages she gets. It's a catch 22
She's gna catch something if she answers all of them "
Makes no sense to me but.... OK |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
If she has 685 unread messages she's doing something wrong.
Her filters can't be working lol
But if she uses filters properly then she can't brag about how many messages she gets. It's a catch 22
She's gna catch something if she answers all of them
Makes no sense to me but.... OK "
Same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Buddy I understand where your coming from but I was at a recent event and a lady was showing me her profile on her phone and she had 685 unread messages!!!
Now I like to chat and to meet but there's no way I would trawl threw that many messages on here to read the typical 'want to fuck' or meet now mails
As the fella said earlier you need to sell yourself and spice it up to grab their attention!!
If she has 685 unread messages she's doing something wrong.
Her filters can't be working lol
But if she uses filters properly then she can't brag about how many messages she gets. It's a catch 22
She's gna catch something if she answers all of them "
Yeah. RSI |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ha ha sound mate very inspirational " your going clean the wrong way about it.It really is simple just three little words. "I LOVE SHOPPING " you'll have more women than you could shake a stick at |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold
Because when we say no thanks you come back with ah gowan gowan gowan why wouldn't ya...
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Ah gowan gowan gowan no we wouldn't I promise lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold
Because when we say no thanks you come back with ah gowan gowan gowan why wouldn't ya...
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Hang on, the Mrs Doyle tactic isn't working anymore? Damn haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service "
It is a service you are offering. You are on a swing site with the purpose to hook up. Women as it has beem said numerous times get hundreds of messages. Vast majority are ... "hey how are you" or "wanna fuck" or some close resemblance of either of those with a dick pic attached.
After a while all the boring messages morph into one and women couldnt be arsed replying as if they say "not interested" the guy will the majority of the time still message back either with abuse or some other shitty message that will make her think why did she bother.
I've been swinging since 2008 on a couple of different sites and I know what gives the best chance of success.
As I said.. work on your profile. The majority of guys have poor articulation when it comes to their profile . The better your profile is and the more personalised, genuine, witty your initial message is with no cock pic attached,(women have seen cocks before. Some on here have seen more helmets than Hitler) the better chance you give yourself.
There is no thing in specific that guarantees you a response and that's the beauty of the chase.
No skin off my nose if you don't want to tale the advice.but I have been around the swing scene to know what it takes to spark up conversation.
Hope things work out for you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some of the ladies on here are that cold that even a 3 month heatwave would not warm them up.lol
Frosty knicks
That's me ive seen you on the dance floor defo hot stuff "
That was only the warm up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service
Listen mate, life is all about selling yourself, what you offer compared to the bloke next to you and if you aren't there selling yourself in the best possible light, be it for company, work, opportunities then I guarantee someone will.
I have seen it so often where a woman may not at first find me the hottest bloke but since I make an effort to talk to them, get to know them, be special to them, then things happen.
The sooner you realise that putting your best foot forward will work for you, and given us men are in the majority, we have to make the effort to stand out "
Oh you charmer.....lol |
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By *ozyjayMan
over a year ago
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"Some of the ladies on here are that cold that even a 3 month heatwave would not warm them up.lol
Frosty knicks
That's me ive seen you on the dance floor defo hot stuff
That was only the warm up"
Ah Geordie, I've seen you melt and it was so hot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some of the ladies on here are that cold that even a 3 month heatwave would not warm them up.lol
Frosty knicks
That's me ive seen you on the dance floor defo hot stuff
That was only the warm up
Ah Geordie, I've seen you melt and it was so hot "
Shhh you I've a reputation to uphold! |
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"Why is it when you try to have a normal chat you just get ignored and deleted simple no not interested would be nice no need to be so cold
They aren't cold you got to appeal to them, be what they want and make an effort.
Imagine if you got a 100 messages a day (or more) what would stand out to you" in fairness I'd a woman signed in here to 100 messages I doubt v much she would scroll through them individually deciding which to reply to |
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service "
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If she wanted company she'd have rang a friend or bought a pet, she didn't. She came to Fab...
So, here it is...
Women need to be excited. seduced and satisfied so in fact, you are providing a service...
Long hours, no pay and sometimes a very dirty job but someone's gotta do it... |
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service
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If she wanted company she'd have rang a friend or bought a pet, she didn't. She came to Fab...
So, here it is...
Women need to be excited. seduced and satisfied so in fact, you are providing a service...
Long hours, no pay and sometimes a very dirty job but someone's gotta do it... " that's what I meant by my post the other day, so much effort so little reward. |
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service
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If she wanted company she'd have rang a friend or bought a pet, she didn't. She came to Fab...
So, here it is...
Women need to be excited. seduced and satisfied so in fact, you are providing a service...
Long hours, no pay and sometimes a very dirty job but someone's gotta do it...
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that's what I meant by my post the other day, so much effort so little reward. "
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The reward is climbing over her back fence as her husband arrives home knowing you put a smile on her face even if only for 5 minutes that day
...and if this happens for one woman only, I'll have considered my time on Fab worthwhile ... |
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service
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If she wanted company she'd have rang a friend or bought a pet, she didn't. She came to Fab...
So, here it is...
Women need to be excited. seduced and satisfied so in fact, you are providing a service...
Long hours, no pay and sometimes a very dirty job but someone's gotta do it...
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that's what I meant by my post the other day, so much effort so little reward.
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The reward is climbing over her back fence as her husband arrives home knowing you put a smile on her face even if only for 5 minutes that day
...and if this happens for one woman only, I'll have considered my time on Fab worthwhile ..." hope your wait is not to long! |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service
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If she wanted company she'd have rang a friend or bought a pet, she didn't. She came to Fab...
So, here it is...
Women need to be excited. seduced and satisfied so in fact, you are providing a service...
Long hours, no pay and sometimes a very dirty job but someone's gotta do it...
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that's what I meant by my post the other day, so much effort so little reward.
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The reward is climbing over her back fence as her husband arrives home knowing you put a smile on her face even if only for 5 minutes that day
...and if this happens for one woman only, I'll have considered my time on Fab worthwhile ..."
5 minutes and smiling? jeez some are happy with very little |
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"Shouldn't have to sell yourself its company I'm offering not a service
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If she wanted company she'd have rang a friend or bought a pet, she didn't. She came to Fab...
So, here it is...
Women need to be excited. seduced and satisfied so in fact, you are providing a service...
Long hours, no pay and sometimes a very dirty job but someone's gotta do it...
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that's what I meant by my post the other day, so much effort so little reward.
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The reward is climbing over her back fence as her husband arrives home knowing you put a smile on her face even if only for 5 minutes that day
...and if this happens for one woman only, I'll have considered my time on Fab worthwhile ...
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5 minutes and smiling? jeez some are happy with very little "
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Some out there less well off than you... But by the grace of Fab there go you lady... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand that but not every guy is a begger I don't see the need to beg I guess I was just brought up with replying to someone as good manners "
Like most males on here you are under the assumption that women on here will sleep with anyone and that you are entitled to sex so if I were you I'd change my expectations |
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Guys .... Just have to step up your game ... Put more effort in to it... Ladies like to be treated like ladies. Good manners , politeness and be a true gentleman ...... Just because it's Fab doesn't mean you can take the ladies for granted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Top tip for single guys ..
Don't bother wasting your time mailing anybody.. Let them come to you..
Join the movement
No mails
No facepics
No profile pics
No fabs
No friend requests
We the single guys, who are constantly criticised are the majority. We pay our silver and gold and without us this site wouldn't exist. |
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