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Just wondering this for a while. Would seeing certain status updates, verifications from specific people or threads put people off contacting the profile/profiles in questions or replying to them if they contact you?
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Yea definitely to a status update or post in thread. No different to have if I was chatting to someone in person and they said something I didn't like it would then put me off. |
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Status updates and forum posts I suppose are things that are an extension of your personality and could/should be used as such. They're no different really to a message or your fuller profile so I could see why people could view them as deciding factors.
There will be some who won't meet due to verifications unfortunately but perhaps not always for contemptuous reasons. If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest.
With regards to who people meet for the most part though, it's their business. I'll always take a person at face value and how they present themselves to me. Nobody can give you a bad reputation but you. |
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"Status updates and forum posts I suppose are things that are an extension of your personality and could/should be used as such. They're no different really to a message or your fuller profile so I could see why people could view them as deciding factors.
There will be some who won't meet due to verifications unfortunately but perhaps not always for contemptuous reasons. If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest.
With regards to who people meet for the most part though, it's their business. I'll always take a person at face value and how they present themselves to me. Nobody can give you a bad reputation but you."
Pete you have a wise head on your young shoulders. So very eloquently put.  |
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"Status updates and forum posts I suppose are things that are an extension of your personality and could/should be used as such. They're no different really to a message or your fuller profile so I could see why people could view them as deciding factors.
There will be some who won't meet due to verifications unfortunately but perhaps not always for contemptuous reasons. If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest.
With regards to who people meet for the most part though, it's their business. I'll always take a person at face value and how they present themselves to me. Nobody can give you a bad reputation but you."
Well said my friend. I only judge on what I see, and that means attitude on forum, statuses etc. I am attracted to a positive attitude, and the reason we became Fab friends |
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"Yea definitely to a status update or post in thread. No different to have if I was chatting to someone in person and they said something I didn't like it would then put me off. "
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" If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest."
I really admire your contribution, its thoughtful, considered and eloquently said.
However, I have a straight profile and some verifications from males. In my instance it's guys I met at socials who had a positive experience in my company and nothing more.
I may have escorted them or a female into a social as it was their first foray into the social realm, I have done this because I was once that person, its a pleasure to chaperone a newbie into a social and to provide support and when they are ready they can spread their wings thereafter. Just as someone here did for me many years ago.
It's not fair to say its a reason to distrust. Just saying.
I'm not finding a hole in your story, I'm just clarifying that a verification can be just a nod to others that this one person is ok. That said, don't take this as a criticism of your welcome great contribution, I'm just pointing out for the avoidance of doubt to others that you need to make an informed decision on verifications
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We only meet straight men."
Or those who maintain a pretence of outwardly straight, more accurately.
Many men on fab at bi on the sly..
You've probably gotten jiggy with a few DL bi guys without realising.
Someone who types in text speak or has a huge verification list. Or someone who leaves verifications calling people they've met names like "slut" or something equivalent. Not a prude but manners and a reasonable amount of intelligence and literacy is something i need as a basic.
Also members with pics of them barebacking , safe always, non negotiable. |
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" If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest.
I really admire your contribution, its thoughtful, considered and eloquently said.
However, I have a straight profile and some verifications from males. In my instance it's guys I met at socials who had a positive experience in my company and nothing more.
I may have escorted them or a female into a social as it was their first foray into the social realm, I have done this because I was once that person, its a pleasure to chaperone a newbie into a social and to provide support and when they are ready they can spread their wings thereafter. Just as someone here did for me many years ago.
It's not fair to say its a reason to distrust. Just saying.
I'm not finding a hole in your story, I'm just clarifying that a verification can be just a nod to others that this one person is ok. That said, don't take this as a criticism of your welcome great contribution, I'm just pointing out for the avoidance of doubt to others that you need to make an informed decision on verifications
Always take a moment to read between the lines."
Not at all 
I have offered to meet fellow single guys to help verify them and don't believe in a stigma attached to one from another guy.
I felt by saying "explicit" that that would help me imply that there was a direct sexual involvement between the two parties; not so much "met this guy at a social.." but... other stuff 
Sorry if I didn't express that well enough, didn't mean to generalise. |
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I regularly get messages from random males who advertise meets on their status. I interpret their message to me as being a generic 'hi' therefore I believe they are just looking for anyone, not me specifically ....this puts me off meeting them  |
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Have to say wasn't expecting this amount of replies and a lot of fairly good opinions. Personally have to say the amount of status updates and even forum threads looking for a certain illegal substance is increasing more and more. Its extremely off putting especially when you go looking at their verifications etc. Thank god for private notes
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just wondering this for a while. Would seeing certain status updates, verifications from specific people or threads put people off contacting the profile/profiles in questions or replying to them if they contact you?
King"
It wouldnt bother to me personally.. i give everyone a chance but from personal experience this is currently happening to me since last year. Certain individuals will contact my meets and tell them not to show a veri from me as i had met a guy who had bad rep. Now i feel that is totally outta order. But each to their own |
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"Status updates and forum posts I suppose are things that are an extension of your personality and could/should be used as such. They're no different really to a message or your fuller profile so I could see why people could view them as deciding factors.
There will be some who won't meet due to verifications unfortunately but perhaps not always for contemptuous reasons. If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest.
With regards to who people meet for the most part though, it's their business. I'll always take a person at face value and how they present themselves to me. Nobody can give you a bad reputation but you."
Hear...hear..... Very impressed!!!! |
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"Status updates and forum posts I suppose are things that are an extension of your personality and could/should be used as such. They're no different really to a message or your fuller profile so I could see why people could view them as deciding factors.
There will be some who won't meet due to verifications unfortunately but perhaps not always for contemptuous reasons. If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest.
With regards to who people meet for the most part though, it's their business. I'll always take a person at face value and how they present themselves to me. Nobody can give you a bad reputation but you.
Hear...hear..... Very impressed!!!!"
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I see these sort of status's and think 'shut the feck up and tell the ones you're on about'. Same as the status's that say'You know who you are'. Either tell them in private - or tell us. Or shut up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see these sort of status's and think 'shut the feck up and tell the ones you're on about'. Same as the status's that say'You know who you are'. Either tell them in private - or tell us. Or shut up!"
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I was judged to a previous meet and people who have been told stuff have actually said no feck them i can think for myself. No one should be guilty by association. Im very open minded and like to make up my own mind when it comes to people. Unless ive had bad experiences with them oersonally i dont other peoples words cause then are we just all falling in line!?! Probably get a few turned up noses now but its freedom of speech. Plus im a typical aries.. but im a sweety deep down. |
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"I see these sort of status's and think 'shut the feck up and tell the ones you're on about'. Same as the status's that say'You know who you are'. Either tell them in private - or tell us. Or shut up!"
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"Status updates and forum posts I suppose are things that are an extension of your personality and could/should be used as such. They're no different really to a message or your fuller profile so I could see why people could view them as deciding factors.
There will be some who won't meet due to verifications unfortunately but perhaps not always for contemptuous reasons. If a guy for example has 'straight' on his profile but has explicit veris from another guy then it wouldn't be unfair to have trust issues there; not because of who they met but not being honest.
With regards to who people meet for the most part though, it's their business. I'll always take a person at face value and how they present themselves to me. Nobody can give you a bad reputation but you.
Pete you have a wise head on your young shoulders. So very eloquently put. "
Hasn't he just Miss D ,and what a pretty head it is too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes absolutely.all that.if comment or threads put up are bitchy or rude.also who they may have been verified /met by .we do try not to judge so really the only way is to meet people in person .but we wouldn't go out of our way to meet on a one on one so unless it was at a party/event only. |
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