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over a year ago
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No totally single, but you've put yourself out there with this post.
I'm just giving you the best advice I can you can either take it or leave it, it's no skin off my nose but you came here looking advice! |
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"No totally single, but you've put yourself out there with this post.
I'm just giving you the best advice I can you can either take it or leave it, it's no skin off my nose but you came here looking advice! "
He didn't ask for advice - he asked if any ladies had been in the same situation.
Yes OP. I suspect many of us have at one time or another. After giving birth, with young children, tiredness to name but a few reasons
And I would also guess most of us came out the other side when the situation changed |
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It's not just the ladies
It can effect us guys as well...
I find my moods change despite being with one of the hottest ladies on here...
Some days I could consume her whole and spend hours pleasuring her ( & myself)....
Other nights I just wish to come home, place my head in her busome and let sleep envelope me knowing I'm safe & loved...
I don't know your relationship, or you....but if you love her deeply
my advice would be to releave or resolve any emotional stress you guys may have...
And the fun will follow.
Don't pressure her or you'll find it conterproductive ...houll become bitter and she'll become less responsive.
We all just need to feel safe....
Hope it goes well....
Ollie
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not just the ladies
It can effect us guys as well...
I find my moods change despite being with one of the hottest ladies on here...
Some days I could consume her whole and spend hours pleasuring her ( & myself)....
Other nights I just wish to come home, place my head in her busome and let sleep envelope me knowing I'm safe & loved...
I don't know your relationship, or you....but if you love her deeply
my advice would be to releave or resolve any emotional stress you guys may have...
And the fun will follow.
Don't pressure her or you'll find it conterproductive ...houll become bitter and she'll become less responsive.
We all just need to feel safe....
Hope it goes well....
Ollie
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Awwww... Great post  |
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"It's not just the ladies
It can effect us guys as well...
I find my moods change despite being with one of the hottest ladies on here...
Some days I could consume her whole and spend hours pleasuring her ( & myself)....
Other nights I just wish to come home, place my head in her busome and let sleep envelope me knowing I'm safe & loved...
I don't know your relationship, or you....but if you love her deeply
my advice would be to releave or resolve any emotional stress you guys may have...
And the fun will follow.
Don't pressure her or you'll find it conterproductive ...houll become bitter and she'll become less responsive.
We all just need to feel safe....
Hope it goes well....
Ollie
Awwww... Great post "
Thanks...nice pics... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is entirely possible there is an underlying issue. It is possible also she is happy with little to no sex. If you being here works for you both as a couple then frankly it is none of anyone else's business. The fact you have posted as you have seems to be an indicator you would like to help resolve the issue.
Have you thought of seeing a counsellor together maybe ?
At the end of the day there is a lot you can do but there is nothing you can do that will make her change. If she is unhappy with her own sex drive she needs to make thw choice to address the issue to be able to give herself some tools with which might help resolve the issue. |
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All I was trying to say was pay her more attention and pay more attention to her needso, maybe her husband being on a swing site is making her feel worse than she already does. |
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Yes happened to me after having both my kids took at least two years after my first and my second was nearly four years before I actually really wanted sex.
I would say as a person who has dealt with depression it can totally wipe you of all want or desire and you just don't care anymore.
If you want to be with your wife, sit down and really talk about it. You may think she doesn't care you are here but really it could be eating her up inside.
If you have kids together, take her away for a night with no pressure of sex but just spending time together away from it all. Date her again!! Just cause you's are married doesn't mean she doesn't need to be swept off her feet
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"My ex went from being mad for it to being sick at the thought of it after our daughter was born.She finished our relationship 6 months ago and even though we keep in contact now for our daughter, its like we were never more than just casual friends to her.I think low confidence in herself led to withdrawing from me and from us.I dont think I will ever truly understand how things changed so much between us and how it all went to shit in such a short space of time. Never knew genuine heartbreak until 6 months ago. Never realised a relationship could turn itsself inside out so much.Spent all yesterday evening out at the garden working on it and seeing the different flowers all starting to come back up into bloom and it struck me that the only thing that hadnt come back after the winter to the garden was her.
To the original OP, be kind to your wife and be patient. If she's having doubts about herself or whatever then wrap her in cottonwool and look after her. Fight with her,not against her.It may just save things for ye. Best of luck with it all. "
Dude I just want to give you a virtual bro hug ....im sure you don't need it but it's there anyway |
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"I used to think I did, funnily enough when I left my marriage, my sex drive issues disappeared.
Just saying.....
Same here
Me too!
And me!"
Me too
Is she on any medication that might have the side affect of low libido? |
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"My ex went from being mad for it to being sick at the thought of it after our daughter was born.She finished our relationship 6 months ago and even though we keep in contact now for our daughter, its like we were never more than just casual friends to her.I think low confidence in herself led to withdrawing from me and from us.I dont think I will ever truly understand how things changed so much between us and how it all went to shit in such a short space of time. Never knew genuine heartbreak until 6 months ago. Never realised a relationship could turn itsself inside out so much.Spent all yesterday evening out at the garden working on it and seeing the different flowers all starting to come back up into bloom and it struck me that the only thing that hadnt come back after the winter to the garden was her.
To the original OP, be kind to your wife and be patient. If she's having doubts about herself or whatever then wrap her in cottonwool and look after her. Fight with her,not against her.It may just save things for ye. Best of luck with it all. "
Lovely words. I hope you're taking care of you too XX |
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"My ex went from being mad for it to being sick at the thought of it after our daughter was born.She finished our relationship 6 months ago and even though we keep in contact now for our daughter, its like we were never more than just casual friends to her.I think low confidence in herself led to withdrawing from me and from us.I dont think I will ever truly understand how things changed so much between us and how it all went to shit in such a short space of time. Never knew genuine heartbreak until 6 months ago. Never realised a relationship could turn itsself inside out so much.Spent all yesterday evening out at the garden working on it and seeing the different flowers all starting to come back up into bloom and it struck me that the only thing that hadnt come back after the winter to the garden was her.
To the original OP, be kind to your wife and be patient. If she's having doubts about herself or whatever then wrap her in cottonwool and look after her. Fight with her,not against her.It may just save things for ye. Best of luck with it all.
Dude I just want to give you a virtual bro hug ....im sure you don't need it but it's there anyway "
Ha ha cheers man. Appreciate the sentiment. |
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"My ex went from being mad for it to being sick at the thought of it after our daughter was born.She finished our relationship 6 months ago and even though we keep in contact now for our daughter, its like we were never more than just casual friends to her.I think low confidence in herself led to withdrawing from me and from us.I dont think I will ever truly understand how things changed so much between us and how it all went to shit in such a short space of time. Never knew genuine heartbreak until 6 months ago. Never realised a relationship could turn itsself inside out so much.Spent all yesterday evening out at the garden working on it and seeing the different flowers all starting to come back up into bloom and it struck me that the only thing that hadnt come back after the winter to the garden was her.
To the original OP, be kind to your wife and be patient. If she's having doubts about herself or whatever then wrap her in cottonwool and look after her. Fight with her,not against her.It may just save things for ye. Best of luck with it all.
Lovely words. I hope you're taking care of you too XX"
Thank you. Yes im doing great. Looking forward to the long weekend with my daughter now. Excited to spend time with her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps more time with your wife and less time dissing her on fab may be a good idea.
Where did he diss her?"
Point taken. Could have been phrased better. However my personal view is that OP may be better served by talking with his wife about this. After all it's their relationship and everyone's experience is different. The only way through the situation is one they work on and agree together irrespective of the opinions of others.
And no I don't know if they have already done so, but solutions that work for others may or may not for OP. |
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