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"Arranging a meet and not showing up or given explanation.... "
This - anything else and the other party is making their own choices to chat endlessly or whatever. Nobody here "owes" anyone anything except to turn up as arranged or give notice if having to cancel (and emergencies do sometimes happen). We all have lives outside fab, or at least one would hope so.  |
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Did have to cancel a meet before, explained why i did and ended up meeting them again.
If you are honest with people and your not wasting their time, people can be very understanding.
But if you are trying to play people as fools and cancelling a couple times, well thats a true sign of a time waster. |
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Or the ones that come on here whinging saying they cant get verified , then you put it up to them saying we will meet you and all of a sudden grannies start dying , poor aul doggies getting all kinds of sickness , then you see their profile 6 months later and still not verified |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone who wastes time,either their own,or someone elses.
That's very vague "
Vague but that's the definition of a timewaster. There's no different category, either you're waiting time or you're not simple as that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN"
Little bit rude. Your opinion and all that but have to disagree. Safe to say some peoples definition of timewaster varies widely. Odd thing is it seems the men use the word a lot more regularly then others. Wonder why that is?
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Little bit rude. Your opinion and all that but have to disagree. Safe to say some peoples definition of timewaster varies widely. Odd thing is it seems the men use the word a lot more regularly then others. Wonder why that is?
King"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Little bit rude. Your opinion and all that but have to disagree. Safe to say some peoples definition of timewaster varies widely. Odd thing is it seems the men use the word a lot more regularly then others. Wonder why that is?
King Well your a man and you seem to have an answer to everything so go on tell us.lol"
And yet again your back looking for a reaction you wont be getting. Pats heads. Good boy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion
A time waster from here would be someone who arranges to meet then intentionally doesn't.
I exclude those who just get last minute nerves and chicken out, yes I suppose those are time waster too but they didn't mean to so in my mind it doesn't count.
Chatting for any amount of time is just time spent deciding |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Little bit rude. Your opinion and all that but have to disagree. Safe to say some peoples definition of timewaster varies widely. Odd thing is it seems the men use the word a lot more regularly then others. Wonder why that is?
King Well your a man and you seem to have an answer to everything so go on tell us.lol
And yet again your back looking for a reaction you wont be getting. Pats heads. Good boy
King"
I asked you a simple question not looking for any reaction but an answer from the king would be good. Your highness. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Little bit rude. Your opinion and all that but have to disagree. Safe to say some peoples definition of timewaster varies widely. Odd thing is it seems the men use the word a lot more regularly then others. Wonder why that is?
King Well your a man and you seem to have an answer to everything so go on tell us.lol
And yet again your back looking for a reaction you wont be getting. Pats heads. Good boy
King I asked you a simple question not looking for any reaction but an answer from the king would be good. Your highness. Lol"
And i should answer it because?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Little bit rude. Your opinion and all that but have to disagree. Safe to say some peoples definition of timewaster varies widely. Odd thing is it seems the men use the word a lot more regularly then others. Wonder why that is?
King Well your a man and you seem to have an answer to everything so go on tell us.lol
And yet again your back looking for a reaction you wont be getting. Pats heads. Good boy
King I asked you a simple question not looking for any reaction but an answer from the king would be good. Your highness. Lol
And i should answer it because? "
Because the king should always be available to answer questions and help out the less fortunate.Your highness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say i never arranged a meet and didnt turn up its people like that who ruin it for the rest of us"
Your status message doesn't help our cause much...  |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN"
Who are you the fab police?
I can go from not meeting to having a few meets a week or attending parties at a drop of a hat. So what if people state they are not meeting what concern is it of yours? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Who are you the fab police?
I can go from not meeting to having a few meets a week or attending parties at a drop of a hat. So what if people state they are not meeting what concern is it of yours? "
You could actually argue, that someone who clearly states on the profile that he/she/they're not meeting is/are the least of a time waster. |
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Who are you the fab police?
I can go from not meeting to having a few meets a week or attending parties at a drop of a hat. So what if people state they are not meeting what concern is it of yours?
You could actually argue, that someone who clearly states on the profile that he/she/they're not meeting is/are the least of a time waster. "
I agree ! You are straight letting them know you won't be making plans to meet! I took some time out had very busy personal life for awhile. I put up taking time out from meeting and the amount of guys who still messaged wanting last minute meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say i never arranged a meet and didnt turn up its people like that who ruin it for the rest of us
Your status message doesn't help our cause much... "
Now that dozens of people will have looked at it I doubt you'll have to worry about him for much longer lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not talking about people who have not meeting as their status. I'm talking about the ones who say it after you spend twenty minutes messaging each other. I just think the right thing to do is say it immediately and offer to chat. Up to the person then. The objective is to meet someone for coffee or be it sex. I personally would not message anyone to chat. I can go to the pub for a chat. I hope I cleared that up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Who are you the fab police?
I can go from not meeting to having a few meets a week or attending parties at a drop of a hat. So what if people state they are not meeting what concern is it of yours?
You could actually argue, that someone who clearly states on the profile that he/she/they're not meeting is/are the least of a time waster. "
Now this i like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say i never arranged a meet and didnt turn up its people like that who ruin it for the rest of us
Your status message doesn't help our cause much...
Now that dozens of people will have looked at it I doubt you'll have to worry about him for much longer lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not talking about people who have not meeting as their status. I'm talking about the ones who say it after you spend twenty minutes messaging each other. I just think the right thing to do is say it immediately and offer to chat. Up to the person then. The objective is to meet someone for coffee or be it sex. I personally would not message anyone to chat. I can go to the pub for a chat. I hope I cleared that up"
Just use the tried and trusted "fancy a fuck" opening mail |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not talking about people who have not meeting as their status. I'm talking about the ones who say it after you spend twenty minutes messaging each other. I just think the right thing to do is say it immediately and offer to chat. Up to the person then. The objective is to meet someone for coffee or be it sex. I personally would not message anyone to chat. I can go to the pub for a chat. I hope I cleared that up"
Do you consider Online fun ? Possible without any meeting. Some people don't want to meet ? That's their own business, and if you feel like it's waiting time to talk to someone you'll probably never meet, maybe you should be the one off the site. No one has obligations to meet.
People do the fuck they want, don't they ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not talking about people who have not meeting as their status. I'm talking about the ones who say it after you spend twenty minutes messaging each other. I just think the right thing to do is say it immediately and offer to chat. Up to the person then. The objective is to meet someone for coffee or be it sex. I personally would not message anyone to chat. I can go to the pub for a chat. I hope I cleared that up"
Is 20 minutes out of your life really enough to be giving put about??? What about if they were really sussing you out and copped after 20 minutes that your not for them??? |
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"I'm not talking about people who have not meeting as their status. I'm talking about the ones who say it after you spend twenty minutes messaging each other. I just think the right thing to do is say it immediately and offer to chat. Up to the person then. The objective is to meet someone for coffee or be it sex. I personally would not message anyone to chat. I can go to the pub for a chat. I hope I cleared that up
Is 20 minutes out of your life really enough to be giving put about??? What about if they were really sussing you out and copped after 20 minutes that your not for them??? "
I've said that before previously without having it on my status... it's called being polite OP... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly ya. Just say it straight away. If the person doesn't like it well tough luck. I'd rather be told there was no interest straight away rather than keep chatting to try and get the meeting. Only to be told no interest. |
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To me, a timewaster can be anything that doesn't lead to a goal, you can chat for ages and find yourself incompatible and this has not been a waste of time however someone outside predefined limits like age or status that messeges is the definition of a time waster, you have already decided against meeting this type of person for whatever reason and stated so on your profile but they decide to messege anyway because "you never know" or "no harm in asking" etc. THIS is a time waster.
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"To me, a timewaster can be anything that doesn't lead to a goal, you can chat for ages and find yourself incompatible and this has not been a waste of time however someone outside predefined limits like age or status that messeges is the definition of a time waster, you have already decided against meeting this type of person for whatever reason and stated so on your profile but they decide to messege anyway because "you never know" or "no harm in asking" etc. THIS is a time waster.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN"
Surely that would make them the opposite of a time waster? They've clearly and concisely outlined where they stand, if you still decided to message them then you're wasting your own time. Same goes for ignoring profile preferences, it's no different.
Everyone uses the site in whatever way suits them; there's no right or wrong way. There's no mandatory way to use it; you're not entitled to a meet just because you sign up nor do you have to meet.
All Fab is is a platform and if some people want to use it to keep in touch with friends, express themselves or just talk to like minded people then so be it.
Unless someone has agreed to meet and then not, without good reason, then they don't owe anyone anything or wasted their time. Let alone have to leave the site. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Who are you the fab police?
I can go from not meeting to having a few meets a week or attending parties at a drop of a hat. So what if people state they are not meeting what concern is it of yours? "
Alot of people on here think they're the fan police. What we do or not do on here is our business and nobody else's |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Surely that would make them the opposite of a time waster? They've clearly and concisely outlined where they stand, if you still decided to message them then you're wasting your own time. Same goes for ignoring profile preferences, it's no different.
Everyone uses the site in whatever way suits them; there's no right or wrong way. There's no mandatory way to use it; you're not entitled to a meet just because you sign up nor do you have to meet.
All Fab is is a platform and if some people want to use it to keep in touch with friends, express themselves or just talk to like minded people then so be it.
Unless someone has agreed to meet and then not, without good reason, then they don't owe anyone anything or wasted their time. Let alone have to leave the site."
And yet you wouldn't believe how many still message despite clearly pointing out that you're not meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Surely that would make them the opposite of a time waster? They've clearly and concisely outlined where they stand, if you still decided to message them then you're wasting your own time. Same goes for ignoring profile preferences, it's no different.
Everyone uses the site in whatever way suits them; there's no right or wrong way. There's no mandatory way to use it; you're not entitled to a meet just because you sign up nor do you have to meet.
All Fab is is a platform and if some people want to use it to keep in touch with friends, express themselves or just talk to like minded people then so be it.
Unless someone has agreed to meet and then not, without good reason, then they don't owe anyone anything or wasted their time. Let alone have to leave the site.
And yet you wouldn't believe how many still message despite clearly pointing out that you're not meeting. "
Technically you said you're remeeting... what if you already met someone and you forgot, would that be like a new meet to you? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Surely that would make them the opposite of a time waster? They've clearly and concisely outlined where they stand, if you still decided to message them then you're wasting your own time. Same goes for ignoring profile preferences, it's no different.
Everyone uses the site in whatever way suits them; there's no right or wrong way. There's no mandatory way to use it; you're not entitled to a meet just because you sign up nor do you have to meet.
All Fab is is a platform and if some people want to use it to keep in touch with friends, express themselves or just talk to like minded people then so be it.
Unless someone has agreed to meet and then not, without good reason, then they don't owe anyone anything or wasted their time. Let alone have to leave the site.
And yet you wouldn't believe how many still message despite clearly pointing out that you're not meeting.
Technically you said you're remeeting... what if you already met someone and you forgot, would that be like a new meet to you?"
Lol, mustn't have been a very memorable meet then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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And yet you wouldn't believe how many still message despite clearly pointing out that you're not meeting. "
You only say you're not meeting.
You say nothing about messages.
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
Surely that would make them the opposite of a time waster? They've clearly and concisely outlined where they stand, if you still decided to message them then you're wasting your own time. Same goes for ignoring profile preferences, it's no different.
Everyone uses the site in whatever way suits them; there's no right or wrong way. There's no mandatory way to use it; you're not entitled to a meet just because you sign up nor do you have to meet.
All Fab is is a platform and if some people want to use it to keep in touch with friends, express themselves or just talk to like minded people then so be it.
Unless someone has agreed to meet and then not, without good reason, then they don't owe anyone anything or wasted their time. Let alone have to leave the site."
This. So much sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN"
This is my status. The reason is because I have enough regulars at the moment. I still log onto the site to chat to friends, see updates, and the forums. Don't be so closed minded.  |
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I'd say someone who creates and deletes about 20 new profiles, constantly posts fake meets and blocks someone who asks them why, is a timewaster.
Oh and someone who then posts comments on their profile and creates a forum post, to deflect any negative attention and try and gain sympathy....rather than just reply to the message. |
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""Not meeting at the minute". STAY OFF THE SITE THEN
This is my status. The reason is because I have enough regulars at the moment. I still log onto the site to chat to friends, see updates, and the forums. Don't be so closed minded. "
Very fair and reasonable
Certainly not time wasting |
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I went on a meet once seemed like a nice guy couple of messages and then off to his place for a coffee , nice chat great kisser , things moved on to the bed room . I'd told him several times no condom no play before we met , and I text before I went to meet him and asked was there a particular type of condom he liked and I would pick them up . Sure enough when things got down to it "he didn't like condoms " "couldn't use them " "was clean" "last girl he met didn't mind " the excuses just kept coming , I declined and left . Wasted my whole day when I could have been meeting someone else . Total waste of my time . |
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"I went on a meet once seemed like a nice guy couple of messages and then off to his place for a coffee , nice chat great kisser , things moved on to the bed room . I'd told him several times no condom no play before we met , and I text before I went to meet him and asked was there a particular type of condom he liked and I would pick them up . Sure enough when things got down to it "he didn't like condoms " "couldn't use them " "was clean" "last girl he met didn't mind " the excuses just kept coming , I declined and left . Wasted my whole day when I could have been meeting someone else . Total waste of my time . "
Unbelievable!!
What an idiot  |
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"I went on a meet once seemed like a nice guy couple of messages and then off to his place for a coffee , nice chat great kisser , things moved on to the bed room . I'd told him several times no condom no play before we met , and I text before I went to meet him and asked was there a particular type of condom he liked and I would pick them up . Sure enough when things got down to it "he didn't like condoms " "couldn't use them " "was clean" "last girl he met didn't mind " the excuses just kept coming , I declined and left . Wasted my whole day when I could have been meeting someone else . Total waste of my time . "
That is one total asshole. |
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"I'd say someone who creates and deletes about 20 new profiles, constantly posts fake meets and blocks someone who asks them why, is a timewaster.
Oh and someone who then posts comments on their profile and creates a forum post, to deflect any negative attention and try and gain sympathy....rather than just reply to the message. "
You put that so much better than I was thinking of wording it |
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"I'd say someone who creates and deletes about 20 new profiles, constantly posts fake meets and blocks someone who asks them why, is a timewaster.
Oh and someone who then posts comments on their profile and creates a forum post, to deflect any negative attention and try and gain sympathy....rather than just reply to the message.
You put that so much better than I was thinking of wording it"
Why thank you M'Lady lol |
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"I'd say someone who creates and deletes about 20 new profiles, constantly posts fake meets and blocks someone who asks them why, is a timewaster.
Oh and someone who then posts comments on their profile and creates a forum post, to deflect any negative attention and try and gain sympathy....rather than just reply to the message.
You put that so much better than I was thinking of wording it
Why thank you M'Lady lol"
You're welcome |
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"I'd say someone who creates and deletes about 20 new profiles, constantly posts fake meets and blocks someone who asks them why, is a timewaster.
Oh and someone who then posts comments on their profile and creates a forum post, to deflect any negative attention and try and gain sympathy....rather than just reply to the message.
You put that so much better than I was thinking of wording it
Why thank you M'Lady lol
You're welcome "
As are you lol |
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"I went on a meet once seemed like a nice guy couple of messages and then off to his place for a coffee , nice chat great kisser , things moved on to the bed room . I'd told him several times no condom no play before we met , and I text before I went to meet him and asked was there a particular type of condom he liked and I would pick them up . Sure enough when things got down to it "he didn't like condoms " "couldn't use them " "was clean" "last girl he met didn't mind " the excuses just kept coming , I declined and left . Wasted my whole day when I could have been meeting someone else . Total waste of my time . "
I've had to deal with a similiar scenario recently. It's extremely frustrating on two levels.... The time wasted organising the meet AND sexual frustration! |
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"I'd say someone who creates and deletes about 20 new profiles, constantly posts fake meets and blocks someone who asks them why, is a timewaster.
Oh and someone who then posts comments on their profile and creates a forum post, to deflect any negative attention and try and gain sympathy....rather than just reply to the message. "
Well said woody !!! Really couldn't of put that better myself and couldn't agree more !! ... |
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"I'd say someone who creates and deletes about 20 new profiles, constantly posts fake meets and blocks someone who asks them why, is a timewaster.
Oh and someone who then posts comments on their profile and creates a forum post, to deflect any negative attention and try and gain sympathy....rather than just reply to the message.
Well said woody !!! Really couldn't of put that better myself and couldn't agree more !! ... "
He really did put it nicely |
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"What's your definition of a timewaster?.
Being called that and want to see which we are."
A time waster is someone that strings you along and then let's you down.
Their plentiful around these parts. |
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"Exactly ya. Just say it straight away. If the person doesn't like it well tough luck. I'd rather be told there was no interest straight away rather than keep chatting to try and get the meeting. Only to be told no interest. "
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