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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd also like to compliment that bottom.
Although in relation to the OP. There is probably 100/1 ratio of men to women on this so they have the key to the lock so to speak. Verified people get put top of the Q. It's a circle which in guessing having only been on here a short while takes a whole lot of patience and politeness to break into. I'm probably wrong actually but that's my 2 cents  |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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It's not that hard to get meets or conversations going.
It takes time it's not dial a ride it's harder here than your local pub it used to take about 3 months to get your first meet as a single guy (it might have changed?).
Treat the site as a bar/club you wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar and flash your cock and ask for a ride. It's simple read profiles read the forums send mails about there witty or funny posts etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not that hard to get meets or conversations going.
It takes time it's not dial a ride it's harder here than your local pub it used to take about 3 months to get your first meet as a single guy (it might have changed?).
Treat the site as a bar/club you wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar and flash your cock and ask for a ride. It's simple read profiles read the forums send mails about there witty or funny posts etc.
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Dial a ride 
Sound advice laid  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well I'd say it's kinda like this verified people do get preference as they have shown they are mostly genuine. But to get there first chat in forum and the chat room have a laugh. Get yourself known and well amazingly things happen. Women here are no different to anywhere ( well maybe some are a tad dirtier minded ) but that's all the better.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I'd say it's kinda like this verified people do get preference as they have shown they are mostly genuine. But to get there first chat in forum and the chat room have a laugh. Get yourself known and well amazingly things happen. Women here are no different to anywhere ( well maybe some are a tad dirtier minded ) but that's all the better. "
100% sure isn't that why we are here |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"It's not that hard to get meets or conversations going.
It takes time it's not dial a ride it's harder here than your local pub it used to take about 3 months to get your first meet as a single guy (it might have changed?).
Treat the site as a bar/club you wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar and flash your cock and ask for a ride. It's simple read profiles read the forums send mails about there witty or funny posts etc.
Dial a ride
Sound advice laid "
It's not exactly rocket science  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not that hard to get meets or conversations going.
It takes time it's not dial a ride it's harder here than your local pub it used to take about 3 months to get your first meet as a single guy (it might have changed?).
Treat the site as a bar/club you wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar and flash your cock and ask for a ride. It's simple read profiles read the forums send mails about there witty or funny posts etc.
Id like this post a hundred times if fab let me
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not that hard to get meets or conversations going.
It takes time it's not dial a ride it's harder here than your local pub it used to take about 3 months to get your first meet as a single guy (it might have changed?).
Treat the site as a bar/club you wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar and flash your cock and ask for a ride. It's simple read profiles read the forums send mails about there witty or funny posts etc.
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I never expected dial a ride and I never flashed my dick either. It's just so hard even to start a conversation with anyone u mail them and they just delete with not even a mail ( sorry I'm not interested) it's not that hard to write |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not that hard to get meets or conversations going.
It takes time it's not dial a ride it's harder here than your local pub it used to take about 3 months to get your first meet as a single guy (it might have changed?).
Treat the site as a bar/club you wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar and flash your cock and ask for a ride. It's simple read profiles read the forums send mails about there witty or funny posts etc.
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Solid advice from a man who knows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not that hard to get meets or conversations going.
It takes time it's not dial a ride it's harder here than your local pub it used to take about 3 months to get your first meet as a single guy (it might have changed?).
Treat the site as a bar/club you wouldn't walk up to a woman in a bar and flash your cock and ask for a ride. It's simple read profiles read the forums send mails about there witty or funny posts etc.
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We gave up on single guys. Only so many sky remote photos you can stomach. If the guide lines of the aboved quote was followed by more we wouldn't have filters in place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Because they think they can send a mail saying "nice tits" or "nice arse" and it guarantees that the recipient will drop their knickers there and then 
But sorry boys it's not THAT easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because they think they can send a mail saying "nice tits" or "nice arse" and it guarantees that the recipient will drop their knickers there and then
But sorry boys it's not THAT easy "
A short personal message is the one that always gets me |
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"Because they think they can send a mail saying "nice tits" or "nice arse" and it guarantees that the recipient will drop their knickers there and then
But sorry boys it's not THAT easy "
Rookie mistake!
Nice tits AND nice arse!  |
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"I've just realised why I could never pick up women in bars. Damn!  lol you liar
You didn't react at all when I flashed little Michael at you!
I miss nothing
Oh, maybe you didn't even notice him?  "
He needs to grow a bit more |
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it's probably because some of the females on here have guys telling them they are 10/10 and eventually start believing it so when normal joe looks to engage in conversation they have perhaps unwittingly become aloof and see ordinary joe as beneath their expectations. I could be wrong, I could be right. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because they think they can send a mail saying "nice tits" or "nice arse" and it guarantees that the recipient will drop their knickers there and then
But sorry boys it's not THAT easy "
We are not all like that it's same as ye we don't need to be painted with same brush. Some of us are really genuine |
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"Because they think they can send a mail saying "nice tits" or "nice arse" and it guarantees that the recipient will drop their knickers there and then
But sorry boys it's not THAT easy
We are not all like that it's same as ye we don't need to be painted with same brush. Some of us are really genuine "
dude you used the "G" word |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because they think they can send a mail saying "nice tits" or "nice arse" and it guarantees that the recipient will drop their knickers there and then
But sorry boys it's not THAT easy
We are not all like that it's same as ye we don't need to be painted with same brush. Some of us are really genuine "
No absolutely not everyone is like that I couldn't agree more but all it takes is maybe 2 minutes to actually read a profile and then only mail if you are what the woman is looking for, because really it's only wasting YOUR time mailing if you haven't read the profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Finding the site hard myself.I read the profiles.Send messages.Some are read or others deleted.Here a few months so patience is there.Nothing happening feel like deleting fab altogether |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding the site hard myself.I read the profiles.Send messages.Some are read or others deleted.Here a few months so patience is there.Nothing happening feel like deleting fab altogether"
Keep the head up. We'd suggest socials. Get yourself known. That's what we did. Keep an eye on the forums too. Some caring peeps on here organise lunch time coffee meetings for unverified people. Just to help them out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Managing the first few months is a filtering process in itself.
Guys want the meet so bad now and get the verrification if u do message them back they seem to go feet or cock first into the chase.. It's off putting. And some almost beg for a coffee meet which is not sexy. Also seems to be an understanding that if u get their kik ur in ... Puts me right off also
Be the gentleman ... That will make u stand out from the crowd.
What about dial a laid
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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It is hard, that's just a fact that you have to accept. You can do everything right and still get nowhere. The 5:1 ratio of women to men means well.......
Don't take it personally, its not. It can be disheartening not getting replies. Interesting photos, a good profile, be active on the forums, patience, get verified. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because they think they can send a mail saying "nice tits" or "nice arse" and it guarantees that the recipient will drop their knickers there and then
But sorry boys it's not THAT easy "
95% of messages are pure schoolboy crap.
The odd one is worth reading and replying to.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It is hard, that's just a fact that you have to accept. You can do everything right and still get nowhere. The 5:1 ratio of women to men means well.......
Don't take it personally, its not. It can be disheartening not getting replies. Interesting photos, a good profile, be active on the forums, patience, get verified. Good luck"
This OP. Think about who/what you're looking for and accept there will be some of them that don't reciprocate..However don't lowered the bar unless you wish it to stay there too. It's very hard for a guy to raise it afterwards.
Patience, be curtious and don't be afraid to took elsewhere too. I met a good friend on another site... It was only after we met she realised I was on fab as well. She admitted to being on guard on fab and more relaxed on the other site and had often taken things personally here and as a result had blanked out many guys in here.
So don't take it personal if you're not getting anywhere at first. It may not be you.
(I'm sure someone will chime it and say it might be though....but ignore that ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding the site hard myself.I read the profiles.Send messages.Some are read or others deleted.Here a few months so patience is there.Nothing happening feel like deleting fab altogether
Keep the head up. We'd suggest socials. Get yourself known. That's what we did. Keep an eye on the forums too. Some caring peeps on here organise lunch time coffee meetings for unverified people. Just to help them out. "
Thanks a mill |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Managing the first few months is a filtering process in itself.
Guys want the meet so bad now and get the verrification if u do message them back they seem to go feet or cock first into the chase.. It's off putting. And some almost beg for a coffee meet which is not sexy. Also seems to be an understanding that if u get their kik ur in ... Puts me right off also
Be the gentleman ... That will make u stand out from the crowd.
What about dial a laid
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dial a laid ?? i sit and wait for my phone to ring every day as it is and nothing happens  |
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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago
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"Managing the first few months is a filtering process in itself.
Guys want the meet so bad now and get the verrification if u do message them back they seem to go feet or cock first into the chase.. It's off putting. And some almost beg for a coffee meet which is not sexy. Also seems to be an understanding that if u get their kik ur in ... Puts me right off also
Be the gentleman ... That will make u stand out from the crowd.
What about dial a laid
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Exactly this |
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As the female half of a couple, sometimes the males can overstep the boundaries by getting a little too personal and say things like 'I don't know how your boyfriend can share you with other men'. Me and my better half are on this as a team with mutual trust and respect, it's our little sexual adventure, don't assume we're swinging because we have problems in our relationship  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I say this first part to try and give perspective to the fabbers who get frustrated with how tough it can be to start chatting.
My wife opened a singles account recently and got 50 messages within an hour. She posted no pics and had a blank profile.
45 were variations of "hi beautiful, let's meet up" or "hey sexy, I have 7/8/9 inches of hard cock for you right now"
The other 5 just said "hi"
so she deleted it again.
It's hard to read that many messages. It takes time. It's boring.
Could you reply to every one? How many times would you reply before you would know that this person/couple is not for you? 5 times maybe just to be fair and give them a shot?
How long would it take to send 250 messages on here.
How would you get to the end of your inbox? Cos the people you are messaging wouldn't stop at 5 messages. They keep trying because we are all looking to connect.
How fun does all that sound? Would you do it?
To actually get chatting to people takes effort and luck. I think Laid gave great advice and you should read what he said
best of luck to you all
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's probably because some of the females on here have guys telling them they are 10/10 and eventually start believing it so when normal joe looks to engage in conversation they have perhaps unwittingly become aloof and see ordinary joe as beneath their expectations. I could be wrong, I could be right."
Needless to say, you're absolutely right. Just take the early part of this thread as an example; a girl with an ass pic on her profile and lads crawling over each other to compliment her in the desperate hope that it may get them an inch or 2 closer to a ride. Well lads, you put women up on these pedestals, don't be surprised when you get nowhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say this first part to try and give perspective to the fabbers who get frustrated with how tough it can be to start chatting.
My wife opened a singles account recently and got 50 messages within an hour. She posted no pics and had a blank profile.
45 were variations of "hi beautiful, let's meet up" or "hey sexy, I have 7/8/9 inches of hard cock for you right now"
The other 5 just said "hi"
so she deleted it again.
It's hard to read that many messages. It takes time. It's boring.
Could you reply to every one? How many times would you reply before you would know that this person/couple is not for you? 5 times maybe just to be fair and give them a shot?
How long would it take to send 250 messages on here.
How would you get to the end of your inbox? Cos the people you are messaging wouldn't stop at 5 messages. They keep trying because we are all looking to connect.
How fun does all that sound? Would you do it?
To actually get chatting to people takes effort and luck. I think Laid gave great advice and you should read what he said
best of luck to you all
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Or she could have just used her filters... |
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"it's probably because some of the females on here have guys telling them they are 10/10 and eventually start believing it so when normal joe looks to engage in conversation they have perhaps unwittingly become aloof and see ordinary joe as beneath their expectations. I could be wrong, I could be right.
Needless to say, you're absolutely right. Just take the early part of this thread as an example; a girl with an ass pic on her profile and lads crawling over each other to compliment her in the desperate hope that it may get them an inch or 2 closer to a ride. Well lads, you put women up on these pedestals, don't be surprised when you get nowhere"
it's true,the 10s on here would most likely be 5 or 6 in the real world but if they get told that they are the best thing since sliced bread they will have unrealistic expectations and only want brad pitt lookalikes or something similar,lucky for me im frickin gorgeous so no worries there |
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