We meet mostly separately as it suits our busy lives socially, workwise and most importantly family wise. We reserve our meets together for extra special rare occasions. We love respect and trust each other implicity. At the end Of The day what works for one couple may not for others every relationship is unique. It enhances our sex life and overall relationship and while we respect some can't comprehend this our bond is solid. Good luck in ur decision making. |
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We meet separately and have single profiles, we rarely meet as a couple, various reasons in play, attraction with both parts of the couple, we enjoy more one on one meets, logistics (childminder for kids) it works for us, we are in an open marriage so I guess things are different in our case |
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"One slight negative would be Mrs gets inundated by guys for a meet while most women don't seem to be interested in meeting married guys even with full knowledge."
Yup. You would have to agree to one person each. Take turns, unless you are okay with her having 90% of the fun lol
Best to ask these questions now.. Not sure how id deal with it |
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"One slight negative would be Mrs gets inundated by guys for a meet while most women don't seem to be interested in meeting married guys even with full knowledge.
Yup. You would have to agree to one person each. Take turns, unless you are okay with her having 90% of the fun lol
Best to ask these questions now.. Not sure how id deal with it"
No you misunderstood ..we discussed the ur turn then my turn at the very beginning..but that's not fair or pragmatic. Sometimes Mr might have repeat meets 3 or 4 times in a row, sometimes Mrs might have 3 or 4 new meets in a row. It works best with less rules for us as a married couple. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"One slight negative would be Mrs gets inundated by guys for a meet while most women don't seem to be interested in meeting married guys even with full knowledge."
We have single guys blocked...so when I feel I'd like to meet someone I do the looking.. Its worked so far...but I agree most ladies don't want to meet married guys don't know why because it would be far safer...plus no attachment issues.. You would imagine it would be a win win |
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"One slight negative would be Mrs gets inundated by guys for a meet while most women don't seem to be interested in meeting married guys even with full knowledge.
We have single guys blocked...so when I feel I'd like to meet someone I do the looking.. Its worked so far...but I agree most ladies don't want to meet married guys don't know why because it would be far safer...plus no attachment issues.. You would imagine it would be a win win"
Yep same here a unique selling point so to say. But not the case in reality. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"One slight negative would be Mrs gets inundated by guys for a meet while most women don't seem to be interested in meeting married guys even with full knowledge.
We have single guys blocked...so when I feel I'd like to meet someone I do the looking.. Its worked so far...but I agree most ladies don't want to meet married guys don't know why because it would be far safer...plus no attachment issues.. You would imagine it would be a win win
Yep same here a unique selling point so to say. But not the case in reality."
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
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We as a couple (Shelicious) play separate almost all the time, each of us has a single profile. Couple meeting seem to be to complicated for us as it requires a 4 way match. Whilst we appreciate that to the level of some banter and laughter this is achievable it gets more complex when it comes to sexual levels.
Finding a play mate for her is within reason manageable , usually she hunts her prey at socials as we do not have enough time for coffee vetting.
For me it's almost impossible, even if a first eye sight attraction is there. I cannot be with any woman at the pure level of primal shallowness, though I believe to be a very free spirit. Hence it is rare that I but if then I am all in....that again rather scares off people, alas
As mentioned before by others , it requires a significant trust level between the spouses / partners and is not everyone's cuppa tea.
But if the couple manage to overcome initial anxiety and fear of loss, it can increase the intimate bond between the spouses hugely
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By *p4itduoCouple
over a year ago
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Trying two a couple that ticks all the boxes is nearly impossible take it from us we have been there not that we havent met some super super couples , not withstanding getting a nice chemistry is all important hard enough to do in any situation so if a couple deside to play apart its understandable and probaly
and definatly a show of great trust |
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Self and the wife meet separately. We both find it hot. We do insist doing the group thing together.
Wife has gotten to know my FB's and is quite happy.
It's really hard to meet couples we both like.
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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As for married guys meeting there's lots of fun to be had it may be more repeats than new people but that in itself has advantages in that u get a better feel for the person ur meeting and sex can be more explosive that a first meet.
Yes the excitment of a first meet enhances the experience but the same can be had planning and edging a second meet
I tip my hat to those cpls that meet separately the extra trust and excitment of that plus the reclaim after weather ye tell each other how exciting it was or just to have her back in ur arm can add to the bond between ye |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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Very interesting topic and one which weve discussed lately as its become near impossible to meet a cpl where there is a 4 way click. Mrs has her eye on 1 or 2 guys she would like to meet on her own but i feel it would be like looking for a needle in a haystack trying to find a female . But we will see what happens
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By *m158Couple
over a year ago
Cork |
Great post, we as a couple have had a few separate meets which has worked great for us. Started meeting couples but found it hard for us all to click and feel comfy.
A lot of people on here seem to think we're weird wanting separate meets.
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"Very interesting topic and one which weve discussed lately as its become near impossible to meet a cpl where there is a 4 way click. Mrs has her eye on 1 or 2 guys she would like to meet on her own but i feel it would be like looking for a needle in a haystack trying to find a female . But we will see what happens
Mr crazy "
I'll play at being a needle
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Very interesting topic and one which weve discussed lately as its become near impossible to meet a cpl where there is a 4 way click. Mrs has her eye on 1 or 2 guys she would like to meet on her own but i feel it would be like looking for a needle in a haystack trying to find a female . But we will see what happens
Mr crazy
I'll play at being a needle
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Sweet jayus there's a needle I'd like to thread  |
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"Very interesting topic and one which weve discussed lately as its become near impossible to meet a cpl where there is a 4 way click. Mrs has her eye on 1 or 2 guys she would like to meet on her own but i feel it would be like looking for a needle in a haystack trying to find a female . But we will see what happens
Mr crazy
I'll play at being a needle
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And yet your profile says 'married men need not apply unless bringing their wives'... |
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"Very interesting topic and one which weve discussed lately as its become near impossible to meet a cpl where there is a 4 way click. Mrs has her eye on 1 or 2 guys she would like to meet on her own but i feel it would be like looking for a needle in a haystack trying to find a female . But we will see what happens
Mr crazy
I'll play at being a needle
And yet your profile says 'married men need not apply unless bringing their wives'..."
First off the crazies are not a married couple. Secondly, well spotted. I changed it to "married men need not apply." |
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"Maybe all married couples who meet separately should arrange a meet lol 
Separately or together? "
The thread is about married couples on here who play separately. Not part of married couples who are on here without their partners/spouses knowledge. |
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