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OK what the hells going on??
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I see a lot of regular Fab ladies getting very annoyed in the last 24hrs. Some regular forumites and regular pic posters, all of whom I would think of as good site members.
They appear to be getting a lot of abuse/disrespectful behaviour for some reason and are thinking of leaving site.
Yes, I know that they can block people or hide their profile but, they should not have to go to these extremes. This is meant to be a fun, enjoyable site for like minded people. They should not be subjected to what seems to be unjustified insults.
Ladies, please block the offenders or hide your profile from them. I'm probably not meant to say name and shame them but do let other regular Fabbers know who they should avoid.
Guys, please do have respect for the other members of the site and consider what you write. Is it something you would say to someone's face at a bar or over dinner, or in the bedroom? If not, then think twice before you write it here.
Rant over.
PS - Before some wiseass thinks they're being smart, No, I am not writing this for brownie points or to get into a Fabbers knickers. I have the art of conversation for that! |
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over a year ago
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"I see a lot of regular Fab ladies getting very annoyed in the last 24hrs. Some regular forumites and regular pic posters, all of whom I would think of as good site members.
They appear to be getting a lot of abuse/disrespectful behaviour for some reason and are thinking of leaving site.
Yes, I know that they can block people or hide their profile but, they should not have to go to these extremes. This is meant to be a fun, enjoyable site for like minded people. They should not be subjected to what seems to be unjustified insults.
Ladies, please block the offenders or hide your profile from them. I'm probably not meant to say name and shame them but do let other regular Fabbers know who they should avoid.
Guys, please do have respect for the other members of the site and consider what you write. Is it something you would say to someone's face at a bar or over dinner, or in the bedroom? If not, then think twice before you write it here.
Rant over.
PS - Before some wiseass thinks they're being smart, No, I am not writing this for brownie points or to get into a Fabbers knickers. I have the art of conversation for that!"
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"I see a lot of regular Fab ladies getting very annoyed in the last 24hrs. Some regular forumites and regular pic posters, all of whom I would think of as good site members.
They appear to be getting a lot of abuse/disrespectful behaviour for some reason and are thinking of leaving site.
Yes, I know that they can block people or hide their profile but, they should not have to go to these extremes. This is meant to be a fun, enjoyable site for like minded people. They should not be subjected to what seems to be unjustified insults.
Ladies, please block the offenders or hide your profile from them. I'm probably not meant to say name and shame them but do let other regular Fabbers know who they should avoid.
Guys, please do have respect for the other members of the site and consider what you write. Is it something you would say to someone's face at a bar or over dinner, or in the bedroom? If not, then think twice before you write it here.
Rant over.
PS - Before some wiseass thinks they're being smart, No, I am not writing this for brownie points or to get into a Fabbers knickers. I have the art of conversation for that!"
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"Marvin Gaye
Thats 'Lets Get It On'"
Or could be Heard it Through the Grapevine.
Regardless, let's stay on point.
What's happening that these Fabbers are getting so much abuse they are considering leaving? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The guys can't take a no without hurling abuse in response.
Despicable behaviour!
Automatic block to them, after you say No, should help you miss out on their bullshit responses."
I think I block at least 10 people a day  |
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It kinda goes with the territory. The automatic attitude here with a few is, its thought of as free pussy. When ye say no thanks, the ego of the mailer is wounded. Instead of being nice and saying thanks anyway, ye get called a cee you next tuesday, a slut, tramp etc.
Its just as well ive thick skin. If they had the balls to say it to my face, theyd be seeing stars for a week!   |
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"It kinda goes with the territory. The automatic attitude here with a few is, its thought of as free pussy. When ye say no thanks, the ego of the mailer is wounded. Instead of being nice and saying thanks anyway, ye get called a cee you next tuesday, a slut, tramp etc.
Its just as well ive thick skin. If they had the balls to say it to my face, theyd be seeing stars for a week! "
Good woman. Deck the gobshites!
I don't understand the lack of respect on here. You treat a woman/anyone with respect, the end. Otherwise Fuck Off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP you are right in what you are saying but doubt that they will change. That who they are
There are both men and ladies leaving this site for their own reasons.
I really don't see why anyone would get annoyed about another fabbers abusive comments. Why would they even matter? Why give the offender attention? We can't control others behaviour so we should find ways to ignore it or deal with it and I personally don't think status updates or forum posts airing the spat is the best way to deal with these situations. The site already has the mechanisms to deal with it, you can block, report to admin etc. And there are always filters which works for me.
Lets air the fun side of fab and ignore the not so nice fabbers. I for one have come across more respectful fabbers than disrespectful ones. Let it go, don't give those offenders space in your head, and enjoy the good folks of fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see a lot of regular Fab ladies getting very annoyed in the last 24hrs. Some regular forumites and regular pic posters, all of whom I would think of as good site members.
They appear to be getting a lot of abuse/disrespectful behaviour for some reason and are thinking of leaving site.
Yes, I know that they can block people or hide their profile but, they should not have to go to these extremes. This is meant to be a fun, enjoyable site for like minded people. They should not be subjected to what seems to be unjustified insults.
Ladies, please block the offenders or hide your profile from them. I'm probably not meant to say name and shame them but do let other regular Fabbers know who they should avoid.
Guys, please do have respect for the other members of the site and consider what you write. Is it something you would say to someone's face at a bar or over dinner, or in the bedroom? If not, then think twice before you write it here.
Rant over.
PS - Before some wiseass thinks they're being smart, No, I am not writing this for brownie points or to get into a Fabbers knickers. I have the art of conversation for that!"
....was there threads removed? Which ones are you talking about? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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Op tbh I don't really know what you're talking about and what do you think you achieve with this thread. Fab is a rough place and you've got have a bit of a thick skin. There always be some ignorants and you find them on both sides - male and female ones. It all depends how you conduct yourself on here. And finally there will always be some people leaving and others joining or rejoining again, that's the nature of the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Marvin Gaye
Thats 'Lets Get It On'
Or could be Heard it Through the Grapevine.
Regardless, let's stay on point.
What's happening that these Fabbers are getting so much abuse they are considering leaving?"
Which fabbers? Who is considering leaving?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Marvin Gaye
Thats 'Lets Get It On'
Or could be Heard it Through the Grapevine.
Regardless, let's stay on point.
What's happening that these Fabbers are getting so much abuse they are considering leaving?
Which fabbers? Who is considering leaving?
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Yes?? Who's leaving this time OP?
Plus I think it's best to be more selective as to who can mail you..
Girls get cray mails but so do guys...
It's across the board unfortunately |
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"OP you are right in what you are saying but doubt that they will change. That who they are
There are both men and ladies leaving this site for their own reasons.
I really don't see why anyone would get annoyed about another fabbers abusive comments. Why would they even matter? Why give the offender attention? We can't control others behaviour so we should find ways to ignore it or deal with it and I personally don't think status updates or forum posts airing the spat is the best way to deal with these situations. The site already has the mechanisms to deal with it, you can block, report to admin etc. And there are always filters which works for me.
Lets air the fun side of fab and ignore the not so nice fabbers. I for one have come across more respectful fabbers than disrespectful ones. Let it go, don't give those offenders space in your head, and enjoy the good folks of fab "
Couldn't agree with you more |
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By *orguyMan
over a year ago
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There's a lot of hypocrites on this site.....considering that a couple who received a permanent forum ban and recently returned with a new profile have commented on this thread.
I don't post much but notice this couple have settled right back with their nasty comments.
People complain about being mistreated etc and yet allow these people return and continue to converse here with them.
It's all part of the problem. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"There's a lot of hypocrites on this site.....considering that a couple who received a permanent forum ban and recently returned with a new profile have commented on this thread.
I don't post much but notice this couple have settled right back with their nasty comments.
People complain about being mistreated etc and yet allow these people return and continue to converse here with them.
It's all part of the problem. "
Report them and mention their old profile name and administration will remove them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Three choices when you get a nasty mail.
Respond nasty and stoop to their level.
Ignore and block.
Respond in a positive way.
I find the latter puts it to bed a lot quicker than the other two options.
Yes, if you fire back the abuse it gives you a two second vent but escalates the situation.
Blocking and ignoring just encourages their determination to find alternative ways to contact you.
A polite response puts it to bed... Mostly, not a fool proof solution sadly.
We all get those mail's, we all get disgruntled, we all get frustrated and would love to let rip at time's, we all feel braver with the anonymity of here at times...Find a lot of it is a flash in the pan moment but sadly there are some extremes.
Also you put 20 in a room and there will be some few that don't feel that they are getting treated fairly, be it through lack of ownership or stronger personalities...Human nature. Not everyone is going to play nicely, C'est la vie.
Ongoing part of fab and life sadly.
Don't think that there was any harm in what John is saying here, regular topic on here.
Madame B |
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"Three choices when you get a nasty mail.
Respond nasty and stoop to their level.
Ignore and block.
Respond in a positive way.
I find the latter puts it to bed a lot quicker than the other two options.
Yes, if you fire back the abuse it gives you a two second vent but escalates the situation.
Blocking and ignoring just encourages their determination to find alternative ways to contact you.
A polite response puts it to bed... Mostly, not a fool proof solution sadly.
We all get those mail's, we all get disgruntled, we all get frustrated and would love to let rip at time's, we all feel braver with the anonymity of here at times...Find a lot of it is a flash in the pan moment but sadly there are some extremes.
Also you put 20 in a room and there will be some few that don't feel that they are getting treated fairly, be it through lack of ownership or stronger personalities...Human nature. Not everyone is going to play nicely, C'est la vie.
Ongoing part of fab and life sadly.
Don't think that there was any harm in what John is saying here, regular topic on here.
Madame B"
It's not always possible to respond in a positive way, Madame B. A lot of the nastier comments come from profiles created to be abusive and then deleted once the message is sent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Three choices when you get a nasty mail.
Respond nasty and stoop to their level.
Ignore and block.
Respond in a positive way.
I find the latter puts it to bed a lot quicker than the other two options.
Yes, if you fire back the abuse it gives you a two second vent but escalates the situation.
Blocking and ignoring just encourages their determination to find alternative ways to contact you.
A polite response puts it to bed... Mostly, not a fool proof solution sadly.
We all get those mail's, we all get disgruntled, we all get frustrated and would love to let rip at time's, we all feel braver with the anonymity of here at times...Find a lot of it is a flash in the pan moment but sadly there are some extremes.
Also you put 20 in a room and there will be some few that don't feel that they are getting treated fairly, be it through lack of ownership or stronger personalities...Human nature. Not everyone is going to play nicely, C'est la vie.
Ongoing part of fab and life sadly.
Don't think that there was any harm in what John is saying here, regular topic on here.
Madame B
It's not always possible to respond in a positive way, Madame B. A lot of the nastier comments come from profiles created to be abusive and then deleted once the message is sent. "
Sadly true Sally but those are obviously fake in every sense of the word so don't warrant any of our energy or head space.
Shoulders back, head up and boobs out Dahling
Madame B |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Three choices when you get a nasty mail.
Respond nasty and stoop to their level.
Ignore and block.
Respond in a positive way.
I find the latter puts it to bed a lot quicker than the other two options.
Yes, if you fire back the abuse it gives you a two second vent but escalates the situation.
Blocking and ignoring just encourages their determination to find alternative ways to contact you.
A polite response puts it to bed... Mostly, not a fool proof solution sadly.
We all get those mail's, we all get disgruntled, we all get frustrated and would love to let rip at time's, we all feel braver with the anonymity of here at times...Find a lot of it is a flash in the pan moment but sadly there are some extremes.
Also you put 20 in a room and there will be some few that don't feel that they are getting treated fairly, be it through lack of ownership or stronger personalities...Human nature. Not everyone is going to play nicely, C'est la vie.
Ongoing part of fab and life sadly.
Don't think that there was any harm in what John is saying here, regular topic on here.
Madame B
It's not always possible to respond in a positive way, Madame B. A lot of the nastier comments come from profiles created to be abusive and then deleted once the message is sent.
Sadly true Sally but those are obviously fake in every sense of the word so don't warrant any of our energy or head space.
Shoulders back, head up and boobs out Dahling
Madame B"
Done, done and done |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Three choices when you get a nasty mail.
Respond nasty and stoop to their level.
Ignore and block.
Respond in a positive way.
I find the latter puts it to bed a lot quicker than the other two options.
Yes, if you fire back the abuse it gives you a two second vent but escalates the situation.
Blocking and ignoring just encourages their determination to find alternative ways to contact you.
A polite response puts it to bed... Mostly, not a fool proof solution sadly.
We all get those mail's, we all get disgruntled, we all get frustrated and would love to let rip at time's, we all feel braver with the anonymity of here at times...Find a lot of it is a flash in the pan moment but sadly there are some extremes.
Also you put 20 in a room and there will be some few that don't feel that they are getting treated fairly, be it through lack of ownership or stronger personalities...Human nature. Not everyone is going to play nicely, C'est la vie.
Ongoing part of fab and life sadly.
Don't think that there was any harm in what John is saying here, regular topic on here. I did this to one guy v nasty . I replied v nice and said why thank u my friend his next relly was ur not my friend and he blocked me . Job well done !!
Madame B"
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Three choices when you get a nasty mail.
Respond nasty and stoop to their level.
Ignore and block.
Respond in a positive way.
I find the latter puts it to bed a lot quicker than the other two options.
Yes, if you fire back the abuse it gives you a two second vent but escalates the situation.
Blocking and ignoring just encourages their determination to find alternative ways to contact you.
A polite response puts it to bed... Mostly, not a fool proof solution sadly.
We all get those mail's, we all get disgruntled, we all get frustrated and would love to let rip at time's, we all feel braver with the anonymity of here at times...Find a lot of it is a flash in the pan moment but sadly there are some extremes.
Also you put 20 in a room and there will be some few that don't feel that they are getting treated fairly, be it through lack of ownership or stronger personalities...Human nature. Not everyone is going to play nicely, C'est la vie.
Ongoing part of fab and life sadly.
Don't think that there was any harm in what John is saying here, regular topic on here.
Madame B"
I fully agree with you Madame B, the said (third) approach works perfectly for me and I apply it even to 'wanna fuck' style messages. As a result I get very very little to almost no abuse. |
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By *orguyMan
over a year ago
Tuam |
"There's a lot of hypocrites on this site.....considering that a couple who received a permanent forum ban and recently returned with a new profile have commented on this thread.
I don't post much but notice this couple have settled right back with their nasty comments.
People complain about being mistreated etc and yet allow these people return and continue to converse here with them.
It's all part of the problem.
Report them and mention their old profile name and administration will remove them"
I know that Laid.
But the point I'm trying to make is why are people allowing this type of behaviour and yet complain about others behaviour..... |
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"Three choices when you get a nasty mail.
Respond nasty and stoop to their level.
Ignore and block.
Respond in a positive way.
I find the latter puts it to bed a lot quicker than the other two options.
Yes, if you fire back the abuse it gives you a two second vent but escalates the situation.
Blocking and ignoring just encourages their determination to find alternative ways to contact you.
A polite response puts it to bed... Mostly, not a fool proof solution sadly.
We all get those mail's, we all get disgruntled, we all get frustrated and would love to let rip at time's, we all feel braver with the anonymity of here at times...Find a lot of it is a flash in the pan moment but sadly there are some extremes.
Also you put 20 in a room and there will be some few that don't feel that they are getting treated fairly, be it through lack of ownership or stronger personalities...Human nature. Not everyone is going to play nicely, C'est la vie.
Ongoing part of fab and life sadly.
Don't think that there was any harm in what John is saying here, regular topic on here.
Madame B"
Amen now this is what i would do 99% of time follow , will admit I did slip recently by responding to a fabber's status which was a dig at me but to be fair responses were of the witty type but had my one lapse back to the Third Choice for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The best way to deal with fake profiles setting up profiles to abuse others is use your filters...
I've mine blocked to verified site members with picks only...
It's the only way imo |
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Is it to do with ney years new members just not understanding respect/the scene that we have here? I always try and be the utmost gent even if I get ghosted! I thought that was standard operating procedure? |
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over a year ago
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We are shocked about the many reports of abuse some peeps receive , but neither on our couple account nor on the hotwife solo presence did we suffered this kind of grief ....yet, and we ain't newbies anymore. Even there is a lot of inquiries we turn down, we got away fine. That makes us wonder what we do different that so far no abusive mail was dropped on us. Are we scary peeps and the potential perpetrator fears repercussions?
 (got a gun, a shovel and an alibi)
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"Op tbh I don't really know what you're talking about and what do you think you achieve with this thread. Fab is a rough place and you've got have a bit of a thick skin. There always be some ignorants and you find them on both sides - male and female ones. It all depends how you conduct yourself on here. And finally there will always be some people leaving and others joining or rejoining again, that's the nature of the site. "
Oh i think we all know what hes trying to achieve. The ol white knight tactic...never fails to land a guy in the friendzone |
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"Op tbh I don't really know what you're talking about and what do you think you achieve with this thread. Fab is a rough place and you've got have a bit of a thick skin. There always be some ignorants and you find them on both sides - male and female ones. It all depends how you conduct yourself on here. And finally there will always be some people leaving and others joining or rejoining again, that's the nature of the site.
Oh i think we all know what hes trying to achieve. The ol white knight tactic...never fails to land a guy in the friendzone"
The friend zone doesn't exist chuckles. |
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By *orguyMan
over a year ago
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"Op tbh I don't really know what you're talking about and what do you think you achieve with this thread. Fab is a rough place and you've got have a bit of a thick skin. There always be some ignorants and you find them on both sides - male and female ones. It all depends how you conduct yourself on here. And finally there will always be some people leaving and others joining or rejoining again, that's the nature of the site.
Oh i think we all know what hes trying to achieve. The ol white knight tactic...never fails to land a guy in the friendzone
The friend zone doesn't exist chuckles. "
What about imaginary friends??? |
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"Op tbh I don't really know what you're talking about and what do you think you achieve with this thread. Fab is a rough place and you've got have a bit of a thick skin. There always be some ignorants and you find them on both sides - male and female ones. It all depends how you conduct yourself on here. And finally there will always be some people leaving and others joining or rejoining again, that's the nature of the site. "
I have to agree with you . There's rude horrible people on both sides OP. I wouldn't worry about the ladies on here being abused and upset because I know for a fact the ladies on are more than able to look after themselves . Don't need a knight in shinning armour to fight their battles . Keep strong ladies and don't let the assholes get you down .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wonder did the WK sympathy fuck get offered yet shouldn't be too much longer "
Not a hope...as i said, the poor guy is only gonna end up in the friend zone |
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"The guys can't take a no without hurling abuse in response.
Despicable behaviour!
Automatic block to them, after you say No, should help you miss out on their bullshit responses. I think I block at least 10 people a day "
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the responses, regardless of stance. At least we know where ye stand on this.
For those who think I wanna be a white knight, seriously!
Done."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well maybe if guys showed more respect and even read the profiles then maybe it wouldnt be that way and that said if women are doing the same then they need to stop too. Its about respect for everyone and one should never have to take abuse of any kind from anyone. If you are not able to take a simple no then maybe you might have so issues that you may need to look into. No one likes to get messages that are rude or ignorant so why send them. Learn to accept no and leave it at that |
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I would consider myself generally respectful when dealing with respectful people, I can be fiesty too...can't we all. I received a message about being forced that wouldn't look amiss on a serial offenders rap sheet!
It really threw me and unnerved me, it was out of the blue and completely unwarranted... The reason I am telling this story here...it was the op, John that talked me through that melt down so while the negative comments here may look funny to you all by calling him a white horse...he isn't. He is a decent human being that I am glad to call my friend.
If not being an ass makes you a horse...I know who I would rather
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"I would consider myself generally respectful when dealing with respectful people, I can be fiesty too...can't we all. I received a message about being forced that wouldn't look amiss on a serial offenders rap sheet!
It really threw me and unnerved me, it was out of the blue and completely unwarranted... The reason I am telling this story here...it was the op, John that talked me through that melt down so while the negative comments here may look funny to you all by calling him a white horse...he isn't. He is a decent human being that I am glad to call my friend.
If not being an ass makes you a horse...I know who I would rather
Madame B"
A white horse? must be one of those priveleged ones |
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"White knight not horse"
could be the horseman of death as I looked, and there before me was a pale horse! Its rider was named Death, and Hades was following close behind him. They were given power over a fourth of the earth to kill by sword, famine and plague, and by the wild beasts of the earth. |
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